AITA for working a shift during my daughter's birthday?

I (42M) am a registered nurse. My wife ( 41F) and I have a daughter who turned 8 today and we decided to throw a party for her.

Despite me working full time at a hospital and part time at an aesthetics clinic, our finances are such that we are always late on the mortgage because of our other expenses.

Mainly because my wife has a career as an equestrian and her expenses for that career set up back around $38,000 a year. Add that to our house in a gated community close to the stables where they keep my wife's horse and our student loans, shopping, golf, etc we are always behind on our mortgage.

So I was shocked to find out that the day after we were denied for a very small loan, as well as a credit card that caters to people with bad credits that my wife paid an extra $550 for a better party photographer. We could not get the deposit for the other one back.

In the days leading up to the party, I was losing sleep over our finances. Pulling doubles has become my norm but I'm usually off Saturdays. However, I have a reputation as being the one who will pick up any shift on short notice, so much so that my coworkers resent me because management asks why they cannot be like me. So a coworker got sick last minute and I was told Friday night that they needed somebody for all of Saturday. Offering a 12 hour shift.

I knew my daughter's party was today but I knew I would have spent the whole party sweating about the fact that we cannot pay our mortgage.

So I decided to pick up that shift. When my wife found out I was going to work at 7AM and not going to be home until evening, she was furious and accused me of being a bad father. She has not talked to me since. AITA for trying to pay bills?