My[32m] girlfriend [28f] doesn’t have social media and isn’t on her phone very much and it’s starting to wear on my patience.

Together for 3 years, the last year has been long distance. My girlfriend is absolutely terrible at texting. Like bad. I may get last than 5 texts a day sometimes.

She is introvert but is very active basically always doing something. I rarely if ever see her just sit down and watch tv.

She is teaching herself guitar, always reading or listening to audiobooks, exercises daily, runs a meet up group to help people get out the house do other things outside of happy hour, long story short, she does a lot.

I find myself getting really annoyed with how bad she is at texting/communication.

For example, she drove back 9 hours from visiting me and only talked to me on the phone for an hour during the drive before wanting to get back to her book “or the silence of the drive.” When I have long drives, I would talk to her the whole time if I could.

Don’t get me wrong, she will usually tell me what she is going to be up to that day so she is good with communicating before hand but she never or rarely talks to me during the activity.

I just want to be apart of her life and I feel excluded when I don’t receive any updates until after everything is over. I feel like I’m on the back burner or in the back seat of her life and I always here about it after the fact and never during. How hard is it to send a picture of what you’re doing? It takes two seconds.

To be fair, my girlfriend is a bit odd. She doesn’t have any social media. She doesn’t care about it. She is actually pretty anti phone outside of google maps.

Usually when she does something or travel somewhere, she will rarely take pictures and likes to focus on being “present”.

She’s basically analog and will journal a lot. If she wants to capture something and time isn’t an issue, she will take out a little note book and sketch out what she is seeing instead of just quickly snatching a picture and moving on.

I’ve actually seen her go entire days without really touching her phone. She says she doesn’t like to be on it, and thinks texting is more for logistics and not actual conversations.

She is great at calling and will readily call or FaceTime and prefers talking on the phone but I have a roommate and she doesn’t. sometimes I can’t talk on the phone and texting is easier. Or when I’m at work or visiting family I haven’t seen in awhile and I have the ability to text throughout the day vs calling and she still won’t.

She will give excuses like: “I wanted you to be able to focus on your workday” or “I didn’t want to interrupt time with your family.” It’s important for me to feel communicated with throughout her day. I just want to feel included. I’ve told her this multiple times and she still fails at it.

am I really asking for too much by wanting more communication through out the day and not just the beginning or the end of it? How do I tell her I need more than what she is giving?

Tl;dr: girlfriend isn’t on her phone much at all which makes communicating through text difficult when you’re in a long distance relationship