My (30F) husband (30M) said I’m not very ladylike and offered to hire someone to teach me.

Married for 6 years. Dated for 2.

Back when things were normal my husband was away from home often. Usually, when he would be home, I would dress up a lot and put in a lot of effort for him. This year, he has been home for the longest stretch of time in our marriage. At first, I was putting in a lot of effort but then staying home constantly made me feel depressed and I started going back to normal and wearing more comfortable clothing and no makeup.

I didn’t realise my husband had such an issue but yesterday he randomly said I wasn’t very ladylike at all and after I got upset, he graciously offered to hire someone to teach me how to be.

Today he tried to say he didn’t mean it as an insult and it didn’t mean he didn’t think I was beautiful but it damn sure felt like one. I don’t know if this is even relevant but my husband always looks “put together” and he’s maintained that even in the pandemic.

I did make a dramatic change to my wardrobe when we got married, for him, so I think that’s why I feel extra offended/sensitive right now.

I told my friend what he said, and she told me to accept the offer and then force him to buy me all new clothes, but I really don’t want to.

Does anyone have any better suggestions?

TL;DR – Husband said I wasn’t very ladylike at all and offered to hire someone to teach me how to be after I got upset.