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Girlfriend (26F) is mad because I (27M) was on Tinder. But she's got it all wrong

Aug 31st, 2021
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  1. Sooo basically my girlfriend caught me on Tinder. And I know that sounds bad, but it's all a big misunderstanding. Let me explain.
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  3. I'm a UI developer. The company I work for designs mobile apps for other companies, and we were put on this project the other day. It's a big deal, and as such I wanted to make sure that the end product was executed flawlessly.
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  5. I decided to do some research in my off time, and made a point to download and examine the UI of every app that I could. I wanted to see what worked and what didn't. Social network apps, news apps, banking apps--you name it. I studied them all. And, stupidly, dating apps.
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  7. My girlfriend was using my phone the other day when she noticed that I had downloaded Tinder. She immediately started freaking out. When I finally got a chance to explain that it was for work, she calmed down a bit, but then she opened the app and immediately started crying because I, stupidly, had made a profile.
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  9. I explained to her that having an account was a key component of the app we were contracted to develop so of course I had to make a profile in order to fully evaluate the user mechanics, and it was no different than the accounts I had made for Youtube and Bank of America.
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  11. She trusts me and knows that I'm serious about my work, so she accepted this explanation, until she saw that I, stupidly, had actually matched with some women. I admitted to her it looked bad, but that I was truly trying to evaluate its functionality and my interest in it was strictly professional because if this project goes right the bonus I could get could change our lives. I wanted to get every perspective I could.
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  13. At this point I realized we were barreling toward the cliff and tried to avert disaster by explaining to her that before she opens my inbox, she should know that a chat component is a huge part of the upcoming project, and that she can also check my messages to Facebook friends and DoorDash delivery drivers because I was just a friendly to them.
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  15. She wasn't having it at this point, and stormed out of my apartment. I get it looks bad. I realize now that I should have left out the dating apps from my research, but sometimes I take work to seriously for my own good. Is this salvageable? Do you think if I showed her this post she would understand? Or is her trust broken forever?
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  17. edit: I guess it would be relevant to mention she has trust issues from a previous relationship
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  19. tl;dr downloaded tinder for professional purposes but girlfriend doesn't trust me
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