Couple Comfort M4F

[Script Offer][A4A][M4F][F4M][Couple][Positive Affirmations][Working through partnership concerns][Please tell me][Cute][Understanding][Comfort for fear of loss]

***********Interpretation************
Please feel free to add your personal touch to this script and to modify it however you like. This version is a M4F Version but I think you could easily gender flip it if you like. Also the pronouns can be changed to whatever gender and sexual preference, to make it suitable for everyone. I am not a native english speaker so if there is wording, that feels weird or unnatural to you, feel free to change it.


***********Context************
This script is about two partners. One of them has a fear of abandonment which makes it hard for the person to talk about difficulties in the relationship. The other Partner is intuitively sensing the concern and trying to provide a safe comforting space for the other to express the problem. You are that understanding partner that speaks calmly, taking the concerns seriously while showing in a joking manner that it's not that big of a deal and nothing is taken personal or as an accusation. So stability and calmness in your voice, as well as taking your time with the pauses, are conveying the keynote of a listening and understanding partner.


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Hey Babe, I'm Hoooome!
Hello?
Helloo where are you?
Ah there you are, are you taking a bath? Hmm I see, did you finally try this weird glittery bathbomb?
It smells delicious though.
Can I chill here and talk to you for a bit or do you prefer some you-time?
[flirty] Okay yeah it's also quite a nice view on you, I have to admit.
All the foam and glitter on your skin make it shine even more than ususual
[serious] I also wanted to ask you something babe...
During the last weeks I gained the impression that you are not really that happy right now, is that true?
OK what's going on then?

[Pause]

Okay so work is stressing you out I get that,
[sceptical] is it just that though?
In the meantime I know you quite a bit and I feel like you are isolating yourself again.
I know how hard it is for you to critisize me but baby please,
you can tell me anything and I won't walk away or shut you out.
We worked through so much together already, trust me....please! [with emphasis]

[Pause]

You feel like it's dumb and you know it is not true
so that's why you don't want to talk about it?
But it is still bothering you am I right?
So why not talk about it with me?
I have stuff that is just coming from my crazy mind as well,
and you help me to get over it, it every time.
Like two weeks ago when I was pissed that you didn't want to come to that work thing with me.
I wasn't even as conscious as you so I was pissed at you for real real.
I was 100 percent positive that it is all your fault,
that you just didn't want to take the time to support me.
And you didn't take it personal at all,
instead you took the time to explain to me why you were not in the space for that.
Even though I was blaming you and trying to argue with you,
not one second you got mad at me.
You helped me see it clear and let go of my anger and fear.
In the end you even joined me for the event.

[gentle] Tell me one good reason why it shouldn't be a pleasure for me to listen to you then?
Why shouldn't you be allowed to be mad sometimes?
You have such high expectations on yourself.
And you don't have to be perfect.
I understand that you feel like it's not safe to express yourself.
especially with everything you went through.
But you are worth every second of my time and effort, just as you are sweety.
[with emphasis] I want to know! I want to know how you feel and what is going on,
because I love you.
[small Pause]
And I need to know,
because otherwise you don't even give me a chance to shape and grow this connection we share.
I won't leave and I won't get angry or judge you, I promise.
And to be open with you, I anyways feel that something is going on
so you can better just tell me,
[encouraging tone] what do you think?

[Pause]

[laughter] OK come out of the tub then, I'll dry you off
We get you nice and cozy in that bathrobe [clothes noises?]
[amused tone] Come here and give me a kiss before you tell me all those terrible confessions of yours [laugther and kissing noise]

Come sit here, I prepared your favorite Tea.
so.... what's up babe?

[Pause]

You were overhearing a conversation I had..
with whom?... With my buddy.
Alright, what was bothering you about it?
I sounded like I thought you were boring.
OK what else?

[Pause]

I see...just to be sure I really get you,
you are afraid we could grow apart because our lifes are focused on different things?
Like what things? [little pause]
[explaining patiently] OK so first of all the call with my buddy.
I know what you mean, probably you thought I found you boring because I said that
you might not want to go to that concert with us right?
OK listen, you make my life anything but boring.
I wanted to go to that concert just with the boys.
But you know how it is between guys sometimes,
we don't discuss a lot how much we enjoy eachothers company.
That's why I was too insecure to tell him that I just wanted to go with them,
without the girlfriends this time.
You also enjoy sometimes to go out with only your girlfriends right?
Exactly but I am asking myself, if maybe you think of yourself as boring?

[Pause]

Well baby, I know that you are working on loving yourself every day,
I can not influence how you think of yourself,
but what I can tell you is this.
Since you are in my life it feels like discovering something new all the time.
Not because we are going out and do sports together and stuff,
though I really enjoy that part.
[with excitement] No I am learning something about myself every day.
With you, I am exploring what love means, in so many ways.
To me that is the most exciting thing.
You know how I have big visions and all that,
but with you I am living that love I am yearning to see in the world.
What could be more exciting and far from boring?

[determined but with amusement]Mh mhh mhh No no no, I'm not done yet let me speak.
Cause that leads me to your second concern.
[gently] Baby I can't promise, that we will be together forever.
Who can, in this world?
But I think what makes our connection so meaningful,
is the fact that we both are always trying to grow,
to become stronger and wiser as we are right now.
Even when we are occupied with different things in our daily lifes,
we are always listening and trying to understand eachother right?
And we offer eachother a new perspective on things,
really because we are doing different stuff and because we think differently.
So look, how wonderful is that? [laughter]
[teasing lovingly] Though I have to admit that your way of thinking is pretty weird. [laughter]
[gentle tone] So what I can promise is that:
I'll do everything I can to understand you and worship you,
in all our differences my love. [Kissing sounds]

OK so is there something else making your heart heavy?
No, already done, really?
[snicker] wasn't that bad after all huh?
Baby you make such a big deal of those things.
[pleading tone] Just talk to me please, I won't think something bad about you.
We all have crazy minds and sometimes it just helps to talk about it and let it go.
[meaningful] I love you, deeply.

[Pause]

You don't have to thank me baby, of course that's what we do.
That's what you are doing for me all the time.
[relieved] It feels really good to be close to you again.
It's hard for me when you shut me out like that.
Don't worry I know that you do it,
because you don't want to be a burden for me.
But you have never ever been and you won't ever feel like a burden to me.

So... Now that that's out of the way [kissing noises]
[passionately] How about I show you how exciting you really are to me?