update to 'please help'

So after my last edit to my original post I did break up with my girlfriend. My brother and his friends helped me move my stuff out during the day as it was her place originally. Once he knew everything he insisted on being there when I broke up with her even if in a different room and I'm glad he was there. She reacted like I expected and started threatening to hurt herself, when I told her I'd call 911 but that we were still over she smacked me and got nasty. Called me a bunch of names said she knew I wasn't a real man the minute she saw me kiss my friend and tried to stand in front of the door to keep me from leaving. My brother told her if she didn't move he would call the police and report the assault and threats of self harm and snapped a pic of my face red from the hit to nail home the point. She cried and begged me not to go but did move so we could leave, I ended up blocking her that night cause she kept messaging going from sweet and begging to going off on me.

My brother has been amazing through it all, supportive and understanding didn't bat an eye when I told him I think i'm gay. He took me on a hike to his favorite spot to get out and clear my head the day after the break up got me mediating with nature(yes he's a sensitive hippie type). Also he pointed out that it sounds like my attraction happens in a demisexual way which for those that don't know means while i'm gay my sexual attraction develops when I know/have an emotional connection. Which honestly sounds about right as the times i've thought about or imagined having sex have been with friends who are guys.

Anyway I also have talked to my best friend, actually did last night. He wasn't surprised about me realizing i'm gay as my ex had already messaged him to go off. However he was very surprised about me having feelings for him. Some of you had said he might have only said yes to the threesome to get to be with me because he had feelings for me and you were right. That said he knows i'm not in the headspace to dive into something even if we both want it, so we agreed to take it extra slow. Perhaps go on a date in a week or two but till then I have his support and friendship through this. He like my brother suggested therapy so i'm gonna look into it. I was able to get some cuddles and he stayed over so I got to wake up to him for a second time. It was just as amazing the second time even without having done anything more, though I did sneak in a kiss when we woke up that made him smile/giggle.

Today I got the fun of damage control as my ex had apparently put me on blast outing me to most of my friends. None of who were happy about her pulling this(a few told her off) and agreed with me when I said it was a massive violation of privacy for her to do this when i'm still making sense of it all. I even got a few messages from her friends apologizing about it too and offering support.

Not gonna lie i'm spinning and scared but also catching a breath realizing just how free I am now that she's out of my life.

Thank you all again.