oh shit mate


i actually had a good college experience last night


with more liberal minded people


and me being more conservative but still more in the m

we had this whole sexual assault thing


and we went back to our clusters


first we watched this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZwvrxVavnQ

then they wanted to discuss with us what we thought (these were upper classmen btw)


they asked what we thought about the statistics


i mentioned that i would have liked that they at least show the sources on a slide or something at the end of what they did


and they agreed, as well as other people in the cluster


then we started talking about some of the stuff they did


like acting out at a party

both people are drunk, and they end up having sex at one of their houses


in the scenario to stop it, the friends at the party would try to intervene


and i said that was a poor example, a better example would be if she was wasted and he was sober or a little buzzed


since they were also both excited and ready to fucc


they agreed that there could have been a better example

then at the end i spoke up about the no consent while drunk

but also not everyone likes to be verbal


nothing wrong with a few "do you like this"


and you don't have to ask per se, but be forward, like i want you to take off your pants or something


or can i take off your pants


etc.


or even saying i wanna fuck you


which they used as an example


as that's okay to say


cause they can still say no thanks


>but we can do this instead


kek


but also


back on the consent while drunk


is when our opinions clashed, but in a good way


it was a completely open platform


i was saying that if they're adult and mature enough to get drunk, then they should be able to deal with the consequences

like as long as she wasn't blacked out or was saying no to sex while drunk


then all she has is regret

the people that did the thing did an example that the woman was out at a party, her friends left, she stayed cause she was having so much fun, got wasted, woke up the next morning with a guy in her bed


and she was freaking out on the verge of tears


and the cluster people mentioned that


and i said that she made the conscious decision to get drunk


and the other guy was drunk too


she just regretted it afterward


and a few people started to back me up, with one saying it's not a blanket

the cluster leaders were iffy on that, saying that they still think it's not consent when they're drunk


but then i say they made the decision to get drunk and should be able to handle the potential consequences


and we're not saying there aren't any victims or not


especially if both parties are drunk


but they're saying that you don't make good decisions when you're drunk

then i say it's a bad decision to get drunk so if they do that they should expect to make bad decisions


then a girl chimed in saying that not trying to blame the victim, but there's things people can do to not put themselves in those situations

and then we agreed with each other on some parts about this scenario and whatnot


but we eventially agreed to disagree and that it was a gray area (my words)


they agreed and thought it was a good time to move on since we already covered everything


and another guy after said he was glad i spoke out (he backed me up on some things)


at the very beginning i almost didn't, but i couldn't help myself


it really was a good experience tbh


was surprised how much of an open platform there was, and even though we disagreed on some things, we agreed on many others


and they also agreed that the statistics might be wrong, maybe not exactly as much as they're saying, but we agreed that it's not the number, but the fact it happens is wrong


and that's when we did some group games

but yeah really positive experience


really open platform


no shutting down


calm


etc.


people being open minded


10/10 experience


and not everything in that sexual assault thing was bad, i actually like some things, and really enjoyed that they included that men can be raped and sexually assaulted


and in one of their examples a man was raped by a woman


he was drunk passed out


then next thing he knows this girl he kept turning down earlier at the party was riding on his dick

glad it wasn't just a thing about women


tbh made me more willing to listen to what they had to say


since it wasn't all one sided

but yeah i feel that i am now more open to express my own opinions and beliefs

dude you have no idea how good it feels


yeah i try to avoid them too


but if it comes up ever i feel i can put in my thoughts and opinions without being labeled something


or shunned


etc.


and have rational open discussion


and then eventually agree to disagree

i am loving the college life


also the food here is delicious