If you’re unwilling to respond to this, then let me reiterate:  I do not owe you anything.  You are only entitled to as much respect from me as the amount of respect you give to me.  Time and time again, I have felt that you simply have disregarded my views and feelings through the justification of “you’re the child, I’m the parent” mentality.  When your views and authority are challenged in the slightest in any conversation that I have ever had with you, your response is for the most part the same; you walk off and say “I’m not willing to engage with you on this”, or “I can’t do this”, or “I’m done with this conversation.”  Let me tell you how outrageously hypocritical this is.  Every time I have ever attempted to remove myself from a conversation, you have said that it is unacceptable; that my ‘abandonment’ of the conversation is below the standard of behaviour you are willing to accept.  I have to ask; why is this fair?  Why is it acceptable for you to leave, but not me?  If I had to guess, I would say that it is because you believe that as the parent, you are entitled to, simply put, do whatever the hell you want.  To expand on this, I believe that our conversation tonight is a perfect example of this belief of superiority, but also digs at further issues on a whole.  I began with a perfectly innocuous request; to see whether I could stay home on Sunday to do my work.  Instantly, I felt as if the blame was put on me, with you simultaneously shaming me for plans to go to an event on Saturday and guilting me by saying that plans with Avery and Frances would be cancelled.  I attempted to continue the conversation, but you were unwilling, even resorting to guilting me further and saying that “Avery would be disappointed”.  Do you really think that this is mature behaviour?  Rather than trying to work with me to find a solution to a problem, it feels as if you are manipulating me to feel bad about my own decisions without actually presenting a solution.  Now, I can predict what your response will be; that you are perfectly happy to work together so long as it is through the medium of a verbal conversation.  In other words, you are unwilling to engage textually.  I do not think this is fair.  I don’t think I owe you the leisure of the conversational medium you’re most comfortable in.  I could go further into this, but to summarize it, I believe that you prefer a verbal interaction because you know that you can trap someone into a corner and ultimately get what you want through this medium.  As I’ve stated before, this is not something I’m content with.  I do not care that you are the parent.  My singular concern is to be treated with the same respect that you demand I treat you with, and just like I said, I’m not willing to engage you in a medium if you are unwilling to engage me in a medium.  I do not care about your view of the family hierarchy.  If I am not treated with the basic respect that I feel I deserve then there is no reason for me to entertain the prospect of having a conversation with you, much less a relationship at all.  I’ve already told Dad to expect a text from you because I have no doubt that you’ll show him what a ‘rebellious’ and ‘unruly’ child I am.  If that’s going to be your method to handle this, you should not expect to receive anything from me, because all that shows is that you don’t actually care; that all you want to do is ‘keep me in line’.  I cannot afford to have a relationship with someone who doesn’t truly care about the way I feel.