so a few weeks ago we were in call and we were talking about something (i don't remember what, but it was just a discussion. i was muted in call and typing in chat as usual)
nets decides to give her two cents, so she starts typing
instantly, star says 'i see nets typing and- hm.'
bonnie adds, "is it just me, or does she only show up when there's drama."
vera takes it a step further and types in the chat AS SOON AS nets types something: "you only show up during debates"
star and bonnie goot a liittle angry at him, assumedly because they didnt want her to know theyd said what they said
so naturally i tell nets all of this happened immediately
so nets starts talking to vera about what he said, not making it clear she knows yet
vera tries to find out WHY nets never talks. nets tells him, in dms, " i have trust issues"
so what does vera do?
tells EVERYONE in vc what she just said
i wonder why she has trust issues :thinking:
so i naturally tell nets instantly 'yeah  he basically just read you guys' dms to the chat'
nets tells him that i told her that
vera dms me
one sentence
"don't stir the pot"
vaguely threatening
so after that, nets tells vera to tell vc that he said that without her permission, and that she wants an apology from everyone who said anything abt her
bonnie immediately took offense
claiming she "hated being forced to apologize"
let me just say that in this situation if you feel youre being forced to apologize its because you dont feel bad
they*
fuck
this was part of the problem as well
which ill explain in a sec
this is where it really went downhill
i said 'bonnie you kind of need to apologize'
i typed that, keep in mind, anyone could see that
Star Didn't Like That
she immediately got very apprehensive, telling me to not type things that we were currently talking about
i said i didnt think it was a big deal, she insisted it was
amidst the chaos, phantom said something to bonnie that SERIOUSLY pissed me off
"its okay bonnie, you don't have to apologize. you didn't do anything wrong."
BITCH YES THEY DID
bonnie was freaking out, like they were borderline panicking
and i said "YES SHE DOES"
keep in mind, i didnt say they
i said she
i fucked up
i still have trouble with gendering nonbinary people
it wasn't intentonal, and it never would be
but that didn't stop bonnie from bursting into tears
i felt like shit but at this moment thtats besides the point
vera took that
and ran with it
he started talking all kinds of shit starting there
him and star started deleting my messages as soon as i sent them, they were both yelling at me and i couldnt get a word in
vera more than star but still
they insisted that i drop it and that that would 'solve everything'
so i said 'ok, ill drop it :)'
'let all this anger and hatred fester and get worse;
vera calls me a 'passive aggressive asshole'
then nets gets involved and it suddenyl just ends
i get an apology from bonnie (WHO DIDN'T NEED TO GIVE ME ONE I FELT AWFUL FOR THEM)
star gave me a halfassed 'sorry to anyone i made upset'
and vera didn't apologize.
at least not at first
the next day i personally called him out in vent
and said that the fact that i didnt get an apology from him disgusted me
so star makes a new thing in rules and announcements
basically yelling at me indirectly
he still didnt properly apologize
until about a day later
when nets fucking exploded on him
and THEN he apologized
told him i accept, but i really dont
and it just ended there
and it was expected of me to be okay with all of that