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Isolation
When you’re alone with someone it changes the whole dynamic. You can absolutely be
sexual when around other people, but it causes problems down the road. Isolation is a
necessary ingredient. The feelings of sex are naturally isolated as well. We naturally
feel sex 1-on-1. Of course we can enjoy sex in so many ways, public, group and
multiple partners, but it is easiest and most common to be 1-on-1. Because of this why
not make it easy on yourself and get good at isolating.
Social to Sexual
When first meeting someone it is always good to learn how to isolate and/or move them
within 2-5 mins. I would say the sooner the better just to know you can do it. It is not
always necessary in the social dynamic but it is a good tool to learn. The simplest way
to do this is to say -
“Hey, I’m not so sure about you. I want to ask you something really quick...”
Then pull her away and move into a rapport cycle.
As you get more comfortable as soon as you know you like someone you will notice
yourself isolating naturally. Imagine you meet someone and within a few exchanges
(maybe 1 min) you realize you really like each other. She is with friends and you
instinctively know to say, “Hey, lets go over here for a minute.”
You can easily isolate with buying her a drink (I know all the PUAs say don’t pay for her
time, but it is always best to respect someone until they don’t deserve it rather than opt
to have every one respect you first for no reason).
You can simply say you can’t hear them well wherever you are.
You can just move them physically as well.
It doesn’t take much.
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Isolate to Sex -
We might be on a date or noticing a woman in the venue we met her at completely
turned on. In fact a girl just needs to like us and feel comfortable around us for us to
make the opportunity to escalate happen. Isolation makes us have a sexual situation.
Because we know if both of us like each other and we are alone seduction can happen.
When I am on a date with a girl and I want to isolate to a place where we can isolate I
might say -
“Hey I like you and I think you like me, if we were to have our first kiss where would that
be?”
“You’re really hot, I am over this place let’s go to my place and hangout” (She will most
likely give you some resistance here, no girl wants to be seen as a woman who just
goes home with guys. Then I would say at the first hint of resistance , “I am attracted to
you but we don’t need to do anything. I just want to hangout with you alone.”)
Take a look at some of the Guerrilla Sex Tactics to see how this might apply to isolation
and rapid escalation.
Escalation -
Although this document is all about escalation what you must realize is escalation is
always happening. It cycles and builds, sometimes very slowly but it can also happen
very fast. Escalation is discussed heavily in this entire document it is best to leave you
with this...
If you are at a point where you are going nowhere, your interaction has become flat why
not escalate. Sometimes that is all you need. You might cause a problem as well, and
destroy your interaction. The main thing is we need to know that escalation needs to be
worked by at least one party in the interaction or it will die out. This goes for all
relationships. There needs to be movement in the right direction.
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Logistics -
The art of accessing and mapping out our social and sexual outcomes.
Seduction and socializing can happen with or without our help, but if we are going to be
a guy that has an optimal social and sexual life we need to know how to work logistics.
Let’s also be clear if we only see logistics as a tool for getting laid we are missing out on
a ton. It is also important to remember that logistics needs to be mixed with who you
are and what you really want. Otherwise it will become too impersonal and your social
and sexual encounters will become unhealthy.
Logistics means - attempting to design and predict how we want to interact with
someone new. When we meet someone new, what if we could almost instantly come
up with plan based on what we liked about them moving towards a our goals with them.
For instance if I meet someone I want to know as soon as possible the type of
relationship I want with them. Am I going to be friends, lovers, or am I going to just try
and have sex with them that night? Whatever the plan I can tell you this...
- It will surely not be perfect
- It will be simple
Logistics can never be too complex, it needs to be simple so that adaptation is easy.
We need to always be able to see our direct goal. It is important to see logistics work in
every social and sexual dynamic. This goes for building friendships, business
relationships, social circles and sales. In this document we focus on escalation
sexually, but escalation in general is dependent on you managing logistics.
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Logistics as a Principle
The 4 Steps of Logistics
Here we are going to follow logistics in general, as a principle. We will look at the steps
laid out and follow them in multiple scenarios, not just seduction. One thing we want to
learn is when it comes to logistics we can look at organic social, human situations in a
very non-human way. This is not good. What we want to look at when working a
logistical angle is make things more efficient and get to the point.
If I want better friends in my life I need to start hanging out with better people. Doing
better things myself and having more to offer as well. I can’t just will things to be better
in my life without focusing on myself.
I need to follow these 4 steps of logistics
• What do I want
• How can we connect
• How can we be alone
• How do I close
In an social or sexual situation these 4 steps will help me carve out a clear path.
There are a few things that I will say make your life a lot easier - do what you like, hang
out with who you want and make sure all those people like you. So how do we
logistically make this happen?
What do I want?
I need to look at what I want, and the types of interactions I like. We often times are
afraid to assert what that is. We need to look at what we really want to do and then put
ourselves in those environments. This could mean you want to be a guy in a club scene
that is cool...well you gotta be in a club to do that. If you like lounging around in bars
then be a guy that does that. Your life with social circles and women will be a lot more
fun and fulfilling if you’re in those environments. If you want to be the biggest sales you
need to be talking to the biggest clients.
How do I connect?
Rapport is necessary to exchange, share, influence and be influenced. We need to
connect. You’re only going to get out what you put out. Connecting with people is
simple, do something nice for them first. Sadly in the PUA industry this is frowned upon.
It is ‘low value’. What is interesting is because the PUA industry was created by guys
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afraid to be used or taken advantage of they came up with a system that was
dependent on them getting respect first by faking who they were or flat out lying. I like
that...demand respect for no reason in particular...makes a ton of sense. The reality of
life is you need to do good for other people and once you do that people will return the
favor. In order to be respected you need to be and act respectable. Not everyone will
return the favor and not everyone will respect you, this is where you need to stand up
for yourself.
The best thing one can do for themselves is give to others and assert what they want
and they will build a good life with good people, in the environments they want.
If our social circle is a meetup group then I want to do something nice for the group and
state the direction I am going in. Something like - “Let’s have a meet up at my place
this week. I want to be more of a leader with this group if I can be.”
If my favorite place is a bar or cafe I will tip the employees well. This does not mean I
over tip them, it means I will tip them above average. you can over tip all you want, but
it is always best to learn the social dynamic here which has to do with how you present
yourself. The tip is just the tool. If $1 is standard give $3 but tell them you appreciate
them. For instance -
“Hey could I get a large coffee, and here’s for you. I see you all the time and you’re my
favorite barista.”
The goal of this isn’t to get free stuff or have people give you any favors, the goal is to
make a new connection with someone in a place you like. The goal is for you to be a
good customer. Any venue of service is there to serve its customers. When you’re a
good customer and a friend to the staff you will get freebees and special treatment, but
not always. However you will feel like a king in the venues you like almost always.
Another teacher in social dynamics teaches in the same city as myself as well as
internationally. He is very well known for his influence in venues. I was surprised to see
him grow in Austin gaining more popularity in places but my relationships seemed much
richer. He seemed to show off to people in the restaurants, clubs and strip clubs. He
always bragged about himself and got to know the management. These are all things
that work and things I never did. I would get to know 1 or 2 employees and make
friends. Through them I would meet the whole venue. What I noticed is I got everything
for free, my bootcamps would get all free drinks the entire night, we wouldn’t pay cover
and we got invited to personal parties from the staff. My buddy who also taught looked
good, and had a lot of stimuli, but nobody was really friends with him.
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Through just going to the places I liked I was able to build a massive social network of
people. Anyway I went in multiple cities, Las Vegas, Budapest, Vienna, Paris, London,
Rio de Janeiro it was the same thing. I wasn’t famous, people didn’t like me because I
lied about being a musician or making a few shitty youtube movies and call myself a film
maker, a few people liked me on a personal level all over the world.
I can tell you in every single one of those cities who I knew first and how I gave, shared
and exchanged well with them. I can also tell you there were many people I gave to
that simply took from me. They were people I never gave to again, and if I could help it
I cut out.
How can we be alone -
This is one of the most important traits of all escalation. We need to isolate in order to
move things in the right direction. How we can isolate a person we want to sleep with or
a bartender we want to get closer with is key. There is the obvious physical isolation
however we need to look at it as personal isolation too. What can communicate to
someone intimately through their emotions and purpose. We learn this through the
Identity PDF. When we can communicate with ourself intimately then we can do so
with others. If we are in a crowd and we can isolate a conversation with deeper topic.
Either way we need to realize isolation and personal conversation is important to make
anything close. Personal decisions must be made personally. If you’re seducing, you
need to be alone. It’s a personal exchange. If you’re a salesmen then best thing you
can do is end up alone with your client because they are making a personal decision.
How do I close -
Logistics is truly tested by its ability to close. Your road will change throughout the
process but you need to get what you are going for to know how to refine your road. If
this is sales, it is getting the sale. It might not be the sale you wanted but until you get a
sale you won’t know how and where to improve. If it is sex then you need to get some
lays under your belt to clean up your system. Also you can count on things being a lot
more simple than you might have thought in the beginning.
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With sex you might think you need to do all this stuff to attract the women or make them
like you more. The answer is you need to do just enough and manage the logistic,
meaning keeping them on the path and fixing problems along the way.
Logistics and Seduction
If we are looking to get better at seduction we need to get a handle on logistics.
• What do I want
• How do I connect
• How do I isolate
• How do I close
If we miss any of these and have great technique we can keep ourselves from the result
of getting laid, having a relationship or meeting the woman of our dreams.
Example - We meet someone at a bar and we can tell we really like them. We are
going back and forth with each other. We move them around the bar and get physical
and emotionally deep with them. At some point we set up a date and exchange
numbers, but then when it comes time to leave we might think ‘this girl is going to come
home with me’, but she has to work early and she drove her friends.
Yes, she wanted us and let’s say even in the moment she wanted to sleep with us that
night, her situation wouldn’t allow it.
Examples for the Sexual Dynamic -
SNLs - Same Night Lays
I learned seduction via SNLs. The first lays I had in the seduction community were all
SNLs. I had them but I wasn’t consistent at them. To me I couldn’t put it together. It
was like they just happened and I was factoring in a lot of unnecessary stuff. Although I
don’t prefer SNLs now, I will say they will allow you to know the sexual dynamic better
than any other form or seduction.
I was in Scottsdale, Az teaching a workshop with a few of my old school PUA buddies.
It was right when I was starting to really get the whole SNL thing down in 2007. I
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remember a few months back I was out with Sinn and CJ and those guys we unreal, it
was like they got laid every night we went out. For instance we had gone out 8 nights in
a row and I got laid 4 times. Pretty good, I thought. CJ got laid 7 of the nights and Sinn
5, and had set up day 2s for every night. Back then nobody in the PUA industry got
SNLs. Who knows why. People would follow our blogs religiously to find out all the
crazy stuff we were doing. I was starting definitely getting results but to be honest I
didn’t think I was that good, mainly because I had no idea how good the other PUA
instructors around the world were. The truth was they were terrible. I was good but I
wasn’t as tight as CJ. That guy was flawless in how quickly his lays took place. I mean
he would talk to a girl for 15mins and leave with her. He always said it all came down to
logistics. This meant less ‘game’ or less ‘technique’. Nobody who had good technique
really liked this idea. Regardless I saw him, get laid over and over again with women he
wold point out earlier on in the night and take them home. To this date I have seen all
sorts of naturals who might have more effective techniques o get laid more, but I have
never seen someone like CJ so quickly and efficiently get laid. For me in order to learn
something I need to have the experience happen to me a few times for me to get it.
This is what started to happen in Arizona that weekend.
We were teaching a workshop and I had met a girl at a club. It was late, right before
closing time maybe 1:30am. She was older, maybe 30. She was middle eastern and
very assertive. She acted very sexual but I couldn’t really tell if it was an act or not.
The thing I didn’t realize at the time is that really doesn’t matter much. As long as a
woman puts herself in a sexual situation is what matters more. I said I go eat with her
as long as I could get a ride back. I checked in with Sinn and CJ and the students then
I met up with the girl before leaving the club. I remember thinking I really haven’t done
anything with the girl. No kissing, no touching other than some shitty dancing. Nothing
freaky. According to CJ this didn’t matter. I went outside with her and I remember she
actually parked in valet so we waited for her car. I wasn’t so used to ‘club life’ then, I
was impressed at her use of valet. This girl had some class. Her car pulled up and it
was a BMW roadster. We zipped on and went to Denny’s, as later I learned this was
kind of a pointless step. I remember talking to her about all this deep emotional stuff not
realizing it didn’t matter. We finished up, I paid and then I said for the first time the
ultimate CJ line, “Shit I lost my key to the hotel room, let me call my friends.”
This is basically an unnecessary step, you just need to say, “I don’t want the night to
end, let’s go to your place”, but I didn’t really know what to say so I basically said I was
stranded. Believe me it works when you don’t have the balls to say, ‘let’s go to my place
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(or your place)’. Fortunately for me she simply said, “Sure you can stay at my place,
and I will give you a ride back in the morning.”
We went to her place, I uncomfortably sat on the couch. I was already good at
escalating but I was not familiar with such a dominant woman. She said, “Are you just
going to sit there, you can come with me.” At this point I realized, ‘maybe I should kiss
her’.
Basically my lay was so easy. Basically I was thinking, ‘that was too easy, the girl just
wanted to get laid, it doesn’t count’. Believe me only being a PUA can make you think
such an idiotic thing. I told CJ about it and he was like, “So what, you approached her
because you wanted to talk to her just so happens she wanted to get laid. I didn’t see
anyone else doing it. Why don’t you look at what worked and then repeat it, then you’ll
see there was technique.”
What worked -
• I approached late in the night (good for a club)
• She came alone or drove herself
• She was willing to put herself in sexual situations at the club and leave with me
• We left together
• We went to her house
Things that could have been cut out -
• All the dancing at the club
• All the deep comfort
• Eating
Things I’m glad I didn’t do -
• Make out or escalate in the club
• Set up a date
• Open her earlier
• Meet her outside of the club
• Drive in separate cars
I can’t tell you how many times I repeated this model. It was so easy to do. I would
simply have to do this...
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• Pick a venue where single women come (more places than you would think)
• Interact with a girl after 12:30am if the place closes at 2am. The reason why is all the
time in the club actually will make her too close to you that she won’t be able to sleep
with you that night, but she might date you. If that’s your goal that’s fine.
• See if a girl would get sexual - verbally or physically
• Allow her to see that I was a good dude (basically show I’m a real person)
• Find out if she drove alone, needs a ride or if she drove her friends I need to leave
with them all.
• Stay with her
• Somehow get her to come to my place or me go to her’s
• Figure out a way to kiss her
It is easier than you think and the only way you’re going to learn is to do it a few times. I
understand if you’re a guy that isn’t getting laid and wants SNLs you might be studying
this and memorizing every little description. Let me tell you I didn’t do that. I went out
and tried it. I ask CJ for help and then I did it over and over again. When I meet a girl I
don’t think of the above list much...it is more like,
“Oh, she has to work in the morning...well let me see if I can emotionally relate to her
and maybe then I can decide to date her.”
There are many times I have gone out and not gone home with someone, but let me tell
you when it happens it is quick and no time is wasted with stuff that don’t want to do.
After that time in Scottsdale I went back to Dallas and it was like a gold rush. I would go
to a bar, meet a girl at some bar. I would notice in her eyes that she was sexually
available, maybe it was something I would say or me pulling her into me, but once I
knew I knew. I then told her a story about my life that made her feel comfortable about
me. I told her casually that I was into her, “Hey you’re too hot for me to handle, but we’ll
see where the night goes I need my beauty sleep.” Then I would let her go and find her
about 15-20mins before closing time and end up in her car or her mine. It was like that
was one of the most important steps, how do we leave together? If I could do that then
there were only 2 more steps that needed to happen. 1) Get in a room with here alone
and 2)Start kissing. I will say, once you’re in the same car you’re pretty much getting
laid so long as you can pull off everything else with some competence. There is no
talking her into coming to your place or talking yourself into her place. You more or less
make that the assumption and then relax their fears towards that. Believe me, she
knows that there is a possibility of you guys sleeping together. What is going to make
that happen is you not fucking it up. She wants it to go easily and smoothly. Every
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woman is dying for for a man that knows how to seduce. Every horny woman begs for
a man that knows how to seduce.
Dating to Seduction -
To me this process is much easier. Going for SNLs is great but I have had more than
enough. I will take them if I can get them, but to be honest I like sex and the sex is
usually better when you date a girl a few times. I will say that if you’re dating a woman it
is usually a pretty quick process as well. That process is dependent upon the same
things.
• How do I know what I want
• How do I connect
• How do I end up alone
• How do I close
Usually I only meet people where I like. This is in a club while teaching, at a cafe,
restaurant or some hangout. The meeting will be easy.
• Am I attracted to them
• Are they emotionally engaged in me
• Are they sexually comfortable with themselves
• Get number or email
• Set up date
• Go on date
• End up at my place, their place or somewhere I can close
The key here is end up where I can close. That is the pivotal point. If I can get that I
know I am going to get laid. Also I know if I am going to date a girl I want to have sex
with her as quick as possible. It makes things easier, there is less drama and
confusion. In the best relationships I have had we met, stayed in contact and always
had sex fast on the first meet up.
Diner
In Austin I was hanging out in a restaurant showing off to some friends about what I did
for a living. I was doing one of the first Mastermind Groups and the restaurant had wifi.
I was doing a call talking about seduction. A girl in one of the booths over heard and
was with her friends. She was young, but very interested. She asked me a few
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questions about seduction and my perspectives. This girl was 18 years old and I was
32 at the time. I couldn’t tell much from the interaction but I could tell she was
interested. Before she left I got her number and texted her right away. Years ago in
Nashville my buddy Aaron had said, “I always text within 20mins, I don’t do all the PUA
stuff.” He was right.
She didn’t text me back. I thought nothing of it.
2 Days later I was teaching and she messaged me a question about sex. Apparently
she had sex with the guy she was with that night after talking to me and felt horrible
about it. She said she was very sexual but hadn’t had good sex in her life. I asked her
to hang out and she agreed. I was with a buddy, he was driving. We picked her up at a
gas station and I started making out with her in the parking lot. We went into the truck,
my buddy drove to a strip club, he went inside and we stayed in the truck and had sex.
Now that wasn’t much of a date, but there wasn’t any reason to wait.
One of the reasons why I bring this up is because if you’re an older man and a younger
woman wants to go on a date with you, don’t waste any time. They have their friends to
have fun and go on dates. They want a man to do man stuff with. One of those things
is to get laid by someone what knows what they’re doing. The problem lays where older
men try and act like kids and play with younger women. If you’re over 30, logistics is
your best friend. You don’t need to be ‘cool’ you need to be sexual and lead. The older
I get the more happy I am about this. The older I am, all I have to worry about it not
being creepy and I’m good. To some that might seem impossible, but it is really easy. If
someone can understand you they can’t judge you.
Nature
When I was 35 I had a similar experience. I had met a 19 year old waitress at her job.
normally if I meet a waitress I might show a client how to talk to them and escalate and
so on. I really don’t know why people spend all this time talking to women in clubs if
someone wants to meet hot young women with questionable substance just talk to your
local ‘hot chick restaurant’ waitress. Girls in clubs aren’t as hot and they’re generally
equal in the substance category.
I was teaching and I met a girl that was your typical attractive waitress. I was demoing
a rapport cycle for a client and she started to open up. I was actually attracted to her
personality. I don’t hide my age at all. There is no need, it can only help me. She was
19 and I was 35.
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I got her number. By the way a little hint, many times a girl who is at work isn’t
supposed to hand out her number. Just tell them to write it down on your ticket and give
it to you with the bill. They also might say no. But you need to try it to realize how it
works.
I texted her right away. It took her a few hours, because she was at work but she
started texting me back. It was kind of playful, I mean she was 19. I played back a bit
and made my move to meet up with her that is all that mattered. She was somewhat
resistant to meeting up so I left her alone. This is where most older men think they
need to start wearing younger men’s clothes and acting like kids. This is also where
they get creepy. For all I know people might think I’m creepy when they meet me, but I
can guarantee you once they know me they definitely don’t think that.
I invited the girl out to a cafe and go hiking. Remember, I actually liked this girl, at this
point the whole racking up lays and so on was not my motive. That’s not to say i’d turn
it down, but I wanted to see what she is all about. One of the quickest ways to see if I
liked a girl was to have sex with her. We met up at the cafe, then hopped in her car to
go on the hike. I asked to stop at my place to pick up the right shoes. I had her come in
my place. She was a bit nervous so I decided to play it safe and not do anything. No
matter how good you get with women this point where you decide not to escalate is
always hard to make. But I’m glad I didn’t do anything.
We went on a small hike in Austin. I said my age old line when I don’t see any direct
openings for a kiss, “Hey I like you and I think you like me, where would be the best
place to have a first kiss?” After that it is like women are on a mission of romance. Man
they take that seriously. It is almost like their time searching for a place or walking to
there gets them hornier and hornier. She found a place under some rock ledge where
we would have to sit. I was like, “There is no way we are having sex here.” We went
underneath, I held her and we made out. When making out with a girl I get her invested
in my dick right away especially if I know we aren’t going to have sex there. She needs
to remember that sexual moment. We got hot and heavy, oral sex and so on, but if you
know you’re not going to be able to complete sex it is best if you stop it rather than her.
And then let it go, act normal until you can get to a place where you can close.
Remember logistics, stick to the game plan. If I’m an idiot and I have already gotten
sexual with a girl in any environment and I keep being sexual then that gives her more
time to get uncomfortable with it. If I am in a club and have sexually framed her or
gotten her eyes to glaze over and get closer to me then I don’t need to do anything else.
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I need to leave with her. In this case I needed to stop and casually talk with her and
make her feel comfortable, then get to my house.
And that is what happened. We cleaned up, laughed in awkwardness about what had
happened. Exchanged a few crazy looks, went to the store to get some food to eat, and
then went to my house to eat it. Once the door shut I rushed towards her, kissed her,
pulled my dick out and put her hand on it. If someone did the math and told her, her
friends or coworkers that I could spend a total of 2.5 hours with her before she would be
begging to have me cum on her and wipe it all over her body then her eat it up, all while
saying she worshiped my dick they probably would think I was full of shit. All I can say
is, we wasted a lot of time. Just think if I had opened her up a little bit more before the
hike.
Date - Strip Club
A story of a more traditional dating experience with a girl in her late 20s was a little bit
different, however the logistical map was the same. I had met this girl online, which is
easy but I’d rather meet people in person. We decided to go workout together. Like so
many women dating online she said she was doing it because she wanted to write a
book about it. I’m not sure if that book was ever written, but she has managed to grace
these pages, some people dream big. We didn’t do anything that day, it was simple.
However I told her what I did for a living, and so on. I wanted her to know I was a
sexual person. This is probably the most important part, she knows I am a sexual
person. I am not a bad person, a manipulative person, I am a sexual person. When a
girl knows you’re sexual she needs to know you’re trustworthy, safe and normal, and not
really much of those things either.
Our next date was going to end up at my place, or her place hands down. Basically I
took a page out of my buddy Mitch’s playbook. He would go to dinner with a girl and
then a strip club. This was on their first date too. Mitch was a pretty solid guy as well,
total professional. He was pretty goofy yet charismatic. He was also over 40. I took
this girl to the strip club. After sitting there a while I told her to find the hottest place in
the club. She went to the VIP area, we found a corner, made out. Got her invested in
my dick and then got a ride back to my place. I remember thinking as soon as my dick
went in her, “on the first line of this girls profile it said she isn’t looking for quick sex”, she
could of fooled me. From my experience I am sure there are many women online not
looking for ‘hook ups’ or ‘quick sex’ but there sure a plenty of them that write that and
they’re the fastest ones to go straight to the bedroom.
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And on a separate side note - Any girl that is leaving with you somewhere and says, “I
am not going to sleep with you” just know she probably will sleep with you. Can’t tell
you how many times a girl and I are leaving some place and I’m not even considering
sleeping with her and then she drops that line...at that point a switch goes off, logistics.
Dallas
One last story on logistics and dating. I got a call late at night from a buddy of mine.
He was with a girl at 2am and she had a friend. My buddy is very good with women and
I knew he was looking to get laid. Only problem was it was 2am or past that and he was
telling me, “These girls are down to fuck us both.” This translates into ‘I need you to
hang out with this chick’s friend while I fuck her.‘ It was a good friend of mine but I had
to turn it down. I needed to sleep, and surely he could find someone else to be his
bitch.
Low and behold I get a call from him about a half an hour later and I am still awake.
He’s on the phone, “Look I pulled them to the Mag (an all night diner in Austin), you
need to help me out. Besides this other girl is down to fuck you, I showed her your
pictures.” This is complete bullshit. No girl will just fuck you for no reason, I suppose if
you’re a celebrity but I ain’t no celebrity and neither is my friend. Then he puts the girl
on the phone. She is laughing and having a good time, she says she is bored and all
her friend and my friend are doing it making out. I hang up, but I am still not into coming
down to ‘wing’ him. Then he sends me a picture of her, and she is hot, just my type.
But guess what my car is broken, so what do I do, borrow my roommates car and drive
down. Besides my buddy is a good guy.
I get to the restaurant and my buddy is sitting next to the girl he’s obviously picked up
that night. Her friend is sitting there, sober, and bored out of her mind at 3:30am. I
make some joke, she shoots me down right away. “Fuck, I’m definitely not getting laid,
time to babysit.” We start talking about culture and travel and the girl who I am
‘occupying’ has a lot to say. I am immediately intrigued. I then tell her after a few mins,
“Hey, I actually like you, I want to talk to you more. Plus I think our friends need some
time alone. Let’s go somewhere else.” She agrees. My buddy and her buddy make
their way off. Typical of any situation when one girl leave another the two need to talk
for a few mins. Know this to be a true fact. If you’re leaving with a girl at a night club,
cafe or group setting she will need to spend 1-3 mins away from you to tell her friends
she is leaving with you. They will look them in the eye and say, “Are you sure?”, “Are
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you alright?”, “Are you safe?” and so on. Then they will let them go off to have fun with
you.
I left with my girl and and my buddy left with his. I am going to tell you right now this girl
was one of the best women that I had met in a while, she was a girl I would date very
seriously. I wanted to know more, but I also knew I needed to sleep with her as quick
as possible. We stayed up and talked bouncing from late night diner to late night diner.
Eventually once the sun came up I dropped her off at her hotel. And like always, when
one gets too emotionally deep you put up big barriers to seduction. Now believe me
getting emotionally deep is great, but you just need to have it serve intent and an
exchange or else it can get in the way. We parted ways and vowed to stay in contact
with each other. This is usually not a problem, plus when I do hook with a girl
emotionally that sticks. It is a problem this time, because I am leaving for Europe to
work for 2 weeks. I don’t have time to make my impression.
She lives in Dallas, I live in Austin I go to Europe. I write her, I message her and I go
about my travels. Leaving Barcelona and heading to France I catch her on instant
messenger on a wifi connection. We get deep. There are a few types of text game, one
is where we facilitate rolls. Kind of like “I am having a bad day, send me something that
will make me happy.” Then they send you something like that. This is basically what
we are doing. It gets pretty racy. I make it to France, meet up with my crazy buddy.
When I’m in France I see my ex and have a short rendezvous with her on the balcony
and make my way back on a crazy journey to the USA. And believe me, that little
balcony action cost me big time, I missed my ferry to the UK and had to book the speed
train and so on. If my flight from the UK to the USA wasn’t delayed I would have
missed it.
As soon as I get back I tell her, “I need to meet you, I’ll come up to Dallas and you can
meet me if you want I don’t care either way. I’ll just be there.”
I take the bus to Dallas, do a call for one of my online programs. My buddy Chris picks
me up and hangs out with me. He’s my plan B, if I don’t get laid I’m crashing at his
place. After being in Dallas for a few hours she texts me back and says, “What are you
doing tonight?” I tell her I can meet her, we make plans to meet at a place near her
house.
I basically tell my buddy Chris, “Give me a ride up there and once she gets there just
ditch me. Don’t tell her I can crash at your place or anything like that.” This is basically
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a logistical and consistent plan as you can see. When I limit my options it gets easier to
make the close happen. Basically I want to be a guy that makes it in her house. If I
have any chance of that I need to take it. Because I haven’t talked to her much yet I
don’t know where I stand. Like I said, it’s always easier once you’ve slept with them
and I hadn’t done that yet. Chris and I get to the location and we are early. I always
think these situations are interesting because even if you have travelled the world and
spent many nights with women having great adventures you still get nervous when you
like a girl. This girl I definitely liked. I was nervous, and all those ‘cool’ experiences
didn’t mean shit. They might give me more faith in a process or allow me to know how
to get to the bedroom quicker, but as they did in this experience just allowed me to have
a skill set to meet a girl I really liked, but they don’t make that girl like me. That takes
me and who I am. That’s the shitty part, rejection still hurts, in fact it hurts worse,
because its 100% you. However when it does work it feels that much better as well.
So there I was, waiting, talking to Chris and acting cool calm and collected...at least as
much as I could. She shows up late, I greet her. She meets Chris. Inevitably she asks
what my plans are and Chris has yet to ditch me. I tell her I have no plans but to see
her. She asks where I am staying and I say I’m not sure yet. Just at that moment Chris
says, “Well I told you, you can stay at my place” I am thinking to myself, ‘you
motherfucker!!!! What did I say, ditch me IT’S LOGISTICS MAN’. At that point she
says, “You can stay at my place, its just down the street.”
I shit you not, I was really excited for this girl, but as soon as she said that a switch went
off in my head, ‘It’s all good, you’re getting laid tonight’. We spent no more than a few
more minutes there and I I said, “Let’s go back to your place and watch movies.” That is
all she needed to hear and we left.
We got to her place, walked her dog and set up shop on her couch. We turned on the
TV started a movie and I couldn’t tell you how we started kissing but we did. A lot of
guys want a routine for this, I’d say just focus on getting close. the more you can get in
the position where you can kiss the more nature takes its course. You can always do
the whole ‘are you ticklish’ thing or ‘where should our first kiss be’ but just get to where
you can kiss. I remember before her there were good kissers and bad kissers, after her
she redefined kissing. I never thought I would say that, but man it was an unreal
experience. We went to her bedroom and man I have been around a lot of women. I
can tell you I have met models, strippers and all sorts of entertainers and never have I
seen such an amazing naked body. I laid it down to that girl. I couldn’t believe it, she
had so little sexual experience. She was near my age as well. How could a girl be that
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hot and only have sex with guys that were horrible in bed? I remember her telling me
she had never cum like that, and repeatedly. I barely did anything, I was almost insulted
because I was like, “I can do way more than that...get ready.”
Usually when I have the opportunity for sex with a woman that is all I need. After that
she is pretty much whipped. And of course if you’re not humble you’ll be humiliated.
With this girl in particular I pulled out every stop in the book. If there was ever a girl to
be owned by my sexuality it would be her. I remember picking her up with my head in
between her legs and pinning her against the wall on my shoulders while I ate her pussy
(its a lot easier than you think, try it). I remember fucking her off the bed. I remember
her begging for my cum in every way she had never had it before. I remember her
laying with me telling me that her pussy was made for my dick and her body was made
to hold my cum. The only problem was that didn’t last. For whatever reason she
needed more time. It all worked out for the best. I ended up meeting someone else
who swept me off my feet in a whole new way. However at the time it was frustrating as
fuck. I was the first for this girl in so many ways. I really liked her, but the reason why I
tell this story is because even though my skill was solid and I handled everything right
that means nothing if its not you they like. That is the risk you always take. If you want
10s in your life, you have to be a 10 yourself, then you can be their 10. Logistically
speaking I played it right...but there’s so much more than logistics when it comes to sex
and seduction.
In sales you might think you need to show off all the bells and whistles. the fact is you
need to show your product works and how it will work for the individual. After that the
process of the sale should be made as easy as possible.
Your delivery system for sales, product and sex need to be smooth and refined. The
higher the quality customer or partner means the higher the quality of what you have to
offer. You or the product.
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Seduction is an Action -
Sex is one of the most beautiful things in the world. It is an amazing form of
communication, pleasure, exploration and pleasure. However sex was not always that
way for me. I had to learn to take action and have sex, but also be wiling to explore
myself and take action in the right ways. In this PDF and the next one there are many
tools for escalating and giving women amazing experiences. After every attempt and
success at escalation you need to ask yourself, “What about m did I learn from this?
What do I notice different about myself and what I am attracted to?”
Sex was once my vehicle for shame, guilt, failure and anger articulated from the story
that begins this workbook. Being Sexual and Being Social is never shame, guilt, failure
and anger. Sex is connection. If there is a problem it is your resistance to connection.
Ultimately, my exploration of those dark sides were necessary for me to act upon. I
could have acted better, in self-exploration first; however my actions of sex may have
caused many problems but they also led me to a path where the true freedoms of a
sexual life manifested. For me I had to know those first in order for it to be such a
freeing experience. In the end knowing those darker sides allowed me to find a greater
pleasure and an endless freedom with sex.
I am writing this so that you can start where I truly started, at a point of freedom. When
my shame ended and I put down my baggage, and started to live a Sexual Life. I’m
writing this so that you can know that your sex life can be pure beauty and pleasure.
There never needs to be confusion, pain, guilt or shame. The only requirement is to be
yourself. That’s the gamble, that’s the risk. This is where everything TSL teaches
separates itself from other social dynamics. When you can be yourself and seduce you
will find it is the only path of seduction that gives you the absolute reward of everything
you could possibly imagine in sex. Hopefully in reading, studying and applying this way
of life you can come to know a fulfilling sexual life.
The best way to use the material you are studying in this course is to make sex and
your sex life an action. You need to live it to understand it. Sex must not be a fantasy.
If you think you like something go for it. Live the 5 Suggestions for Sexual Health and
don’t harm anyone and you’ll find a great liberation in your Sexual Life.
Remember the nature of sex is not to make you feel bad. It is to make you feel great,
experience pleasure, pro-create and unify with humanity on a completely different level.
The moment it started to feel something other than that it is a clear indicator that you
need to take actions in the right direction. Our journey as human beings living the
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Sexual Life should mean that we make every effort in our lives to enjoy the moments we
are having. When we find ourselves not living in that moment we need to realize that no
matter how hard it is, or how difficult it might seem our duty as a living being is to get
ourselves back on that track.
For myself personally I have found myself lost many times. There is not glory or shame
in that. It simple means that I like many of you have made many mistakes and at some
point I had to say I was willing to move forward in a direction that made me happy. This
is where TSL and TSL Online makes itself unique. The answer is not with what is
written here alone. It needs you. It needs your application and your application of real
self. The meaning of escalation alone is to move in a clear direction. If this is your
direction you need to make your move. We will be with you every step of the way.
Thanks for reading,
And remember however you came across this material, use it! It is meant to be read in
its series as a whole and part of the program TSL Online -
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