Being a leader or a good team member involves taking responsibility for the outcome of your conversations.|
\"The cautious seldom err.\"
- Confucius|
One challenge for anyone trying to develop their ability to communicate effectively is to accept that they may not be willing to explore options that are against their intuition.

Your development only comes from from thoughtful and deliberate exploration|\"Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want\" - Randy Pausch|
A temptation for anyone who is upset with the outcome of their group is to blame other members. Effective team members don't do this, they recognize that since their only can control themselves they ask the simplest of questions:

\"What can I do to improve the outcome?\"|
\"If I had eight hours to cut down a tree, I would spend six of them sharpening my axe\"

- Abe Lincoln
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You can't cheat at leadership and team skills. You can only learn to the point that you see the situation for what it is, and then have a better appreciation of what you can do in certain kinds of situations

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If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right.
- Henry Ford |
Resilience is the ability to rebound from failure and apply knowledge and experience to find success.|
Developing leadership skills is about process. It's not about being taught what to think, it's about being taught how to think.|
The more things you consider, the better chance you have of making the best decisions|
Empowering people sounds great in theory but in practice it takes timing, courage and the willingness to accept that you got it wrong.|
Experience is a tough teacher. You get the  lesson after the test.|
Organizations don't care what you know about leadership and team skills. They only care about what you can do about it.|
The more time you spend leading effectively, the less time you'll spend managing.|
The cost of poor leadership is generally unseen because opportunities missed are rarely evaluated. A leader has to say 'what if' and then take the team to that place.|
A good team member knows when to listen, when to direct, when to align, when to support, when to stay silent.

They know when to gain or use influence, when to raise or lower tension, when to be creative or focus on getting things done.|
When other's behavior does not meet your expectations, consider how your behavior may influence them.|
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
- Albert Einstein