The phone call we just had is a prime example of what I'm talking about. Recently, everything seems to always come back to being about you. Your family, how the cousins feel, how your friends feel. None of it is about how <wife> or I feel, how you continually pressured us though the wedding, how we should make exceptions, how we should be flexible.

I did everything possible to make it work for the Nebraska family. When it didn't work, I wiped my hands clean. You then pushed and pushed for me to allow the kids. I didn't relent. I told them I would pay for their childcare, they didn't accept. I wiped my hands clean again. You pushed again and again, all the while saying you understood my reasoning but we should be flexible because they're family. That's guilting via manipulating my emotions. I will not put up with it.

You brought up <person> and <person> while we were talking. They're two of the few people that I'm sorry couldn't come. Again, I did everything I possibly could to accommodate them, and even when I did, they turned down our offer because they didn't trust a sitter at the house on-site for some absurd reason. You then asked me to invite them to rehearsal dinner, saying they could get a sitter up north. If they can't trust a sitter less than a quarter mile away, how could they trust one 60 miles away?! What's the deal there?! If it's about the email where I laid out the ground rules for the kids, then I have even less sympathy - we have been VERY clear about our ONE rule about NO kids. You all pushed and pushed, and we finally made an exception, so I wanted to make it VERY clear what our expectations were. I'm guessing that was too much for you/<person>/<person>/<person>.

You say that you didn't make the wedding all about you, but every other conversation was about inviting this person or that person, most of which I have never met or even heard about. The others I didn't care, or straight up didn't want to invite.

<person> is a prime example. He was on our B list and we were not planning on inviting him. You pushed for us to invite him, saying he could do the music. We only accepted because of that. Then, you push for him to stay at the houses, for FREE, because he couldn't afford to stay down there the night of. Here's an idea, maybe he could have been a responsible drinker and drove home like the majority of the rest of the guests. Maybe you and <person> could have gotten him a hotel room, or paid for his portion of the house. Bringing up a guests hotel/money situation, who we hadn't even planned on inviting, was inappropriate and bothered us greatly. You justified it by saying "but he's doing your music". He was only doing our music because YOU pushed for ANY excuse for <person> to come. Again, you manipulated us to get what you wanted, because it's what YOU wanted.

Furthermore, two of those people I didn't want be invited creeped on and harassed female members of the wedding party, making them uncomfortable. Because of your pushing and need to show me off, two of the people closest to me felt uncomfortable due to your guests and weren't focused on enjoying the evening.

We had an "unplugged' ceremony for a reason. We wanted everyone to be focused on the event, not pulling out their phones for low-quality pictures that would make it to Facebook quicker than Trump tweets about fake news. We wanted to make sure that every single picture of the ceremony that would be shared was a good photo, good angles, and good quality. We made an exception for <person>/<person> for obvious reasons. Less than a week later, you're wanting to put our ceremony photos into a Facebook collage app that will take those high quality photos and downgrade them to terrible quality levels, and then mix them with horrible camera photos and put it to generic music and compressed into a 1 minute video.

That is not what we want people to see when they see our ceremony. Even if we did, it is NOT your place to do that! You want to post it to Facebook and share it with all your friends so you can show me off, again, making it about you and how great of a son you raised. Do you see how often we post to Facebook? Do you see how often that we share personal information with anyone, including you and <person>? Why would you think it's appropriate to take it upon yourself and share those intimate photos with such a public forum? If ANYONE is going to share those photos, it will be us and us alone.