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hey what's up everybody it's david here
with core confidence and today i'm
excited and pleased to bring a guy just
loved working with michael will and
successful business owner living up in
northern california just a great guy you
know successful business owner cool but
awesome guy awesome human being and want
to talk or gonna talk to michael today
about what he achieved in his program
well his obstacles what he went through
all these things the process of working
through stuff with shyness with
conference traction with women all that
stuff so excited to do that today so
welcome Michael hey David I doing do
great Manny here
yeah man great to have you and and glad
we set this up and was really pleased to
receive that email if you're like hey I
wanna give you an update and you know
things are things are going well and
this is what's happening and so I
thought what a great time to to set up
something like this so so yeah so you
know the first thing I always love to
ask here is when you first reached out
to me to book your your breakthrough
call you know what was going on for you
where were you at in terms of your you
know confidence attraction dating social
life all this stuff with women what was
where were you at and what were you
struggling with where was I I actually
felt like I was in the dumps you know I
my confidence was shattered I had a
really hard time just going up and
saying hi to a woman and there was how
do I explain being mean I felt lost in
myself and you know after coming from an
18 year of marriage and being feeling
like no woman ever wants me again and I
was shattered that's that's how I felt
was pretty pretty shattered when I talk
to you yeah and I remember
our first conversations we were speaking
before knows we're setting up all the
technical stuff for this right and
getting it working and I remember that
now that word shattered came up actually
yeah we got got to what was really going
on for you and and that's that's a
common place for guys to be a shattered
lonely you know can be desperation going
on can be you know all kinds of things
going on especially post divorce right
now and and I also remember that your
you've been in a situation where you you
did have plenty of women around you more
or less but there was there was not a
way for you to reach out right with the
confidence say hi or even know sort of
what to do in order to get things to
move forward romantically or dating-wise
it alone you know a lot of a lot of the
reason guys reach out to me is not the
shyness confidence thing but how do we
get them chasing me so it's easier for
me and I'm not chasing them down hunting
them down and facing all that fear
rejection or you know coming across as
desperate or needy that kind of thing
yeah yeah definitely where I was at you
know we're like okay yeah you know you
talked it to a woman you look at or knew
just like oh well how do i okay we get a
conversation going we talk and
everything's great how do I move it
forward I just didn't know the steps or
if then within myself how to move things
forward with a woman I was just
and again that's from being with one
woman for so long and not understanding
women all over again yeah or
understanding yeah and I would say I
feel like you know about quarter of the
guys that you know reach out like you
aside from shyness and confidence what
sort of like what do i do like I've been
on the dating game for 18 years 20 years
27 years 30 years and I don't know how
things work now and not only that it's
like the element of
you know the magnetic element of having
it be to where you know being this kind
of guy that it's just there's this ease
with it not having to like play the
numbers game but let alone just like
well what do I do in general because
there are different ways right there's
things like pick up out there and all
that stuff and I don't think you came
across that stuff but you know this is
this is very different than that as well
and it's meant to integrate in your life
so you can just be who you are and break
through those fears and cope and say hi
and how that interaction going have that
vibe to where you know an understanding
like you said just the understanding of
how things working you know what I love
about you is that you were always very
of course open and coachable like that's
that's a requirement and very open to
things and including some of the deeper
stuff that we had to do to clean up
mindset yeah there was that's definitely
had some cleanup to do within myself
there was to understand how to move
forward and how to become um magnetic
towards women and it's it's it's a
process and it's it's an ongoing process
daily of accepting myself and it's
really cool and and learning about how
women see men forgetting that and even
though I have all these sisters and
everything else you just don't
understand until til it's taught to you
or ingrained into me that that hey women
do want you yeah you know it's pretty
cool yeah yeah and women women do want
men and they also want a particular the
you know they want the guy to show up in
a particular way I mean that's true to
him but one of the ways they don't let's
just say about what they don't want they
don't want a guy to show up as overly
aggressive over the pursuing over an ad
trying to convince them you know they
don't want a guy who's putting them on
this pedestal they want to be a guy
who's on the level and truthfully not
only guys unleveled but maybe a guy
who's above him above her not that we're
saying that we want that are there to be
this big gap because too big a gap
either way isn't good but right that can
happen right that can happen with the
crush or whatever
and you know we sort of don't want to
even really do that with her at least at
first I mean we always sort of want to
be on the level right that's the thing
because then it then how does it become
a real you know if we can evolve into a
relationship you got to be on the level
right otherwise it's like thing and all
that and women will say oh you know I'd
love to be worshipped and appreciated
that's what they think they want they'll
take the attention but that doesn't mean
they're gonna be with that guy by any
means oh thank you for the compliment oh
thank you for the dinner oh thank you
for the drink right without without the
attraction being established for sure
I'm not saying you can't complimentary
that stuff but without being that best
version of you and the one who's like I
have something to offer I have something
of value women do want me changes
everything rather than what do I gotta
do to get her and like I do play right
how do I convince her and how do i you
know how do I bring myself up to level
it's like dude be on the low right and
that's what I talk about my traction on
command webinar is about remove the
pedestal because you're putting the
pedestal there we're putting the
pedestal there when we do that right so
you know I'm curious too you said you
grew up with a lot of sisters did they
ever try to help you with advice did you
talk to them about women and stuff or
was it just kind of not spoke it up yeah
they did but you know what they're funny
because they want me to put them on a
pedestal my sisters too so I always kind
of like I grew up in a large Catholic
family that you know you have to be the
gentleman you have to be nice you can't
talk sexual with women you have to be
good you know and I and one thing you
caught you caught me with was the
neediness being needy to a woman and and
I always thought though they like that
you're needed them you need them
and I what I really learned is no I
don't need them I need just to be the
best version of myself like you said and
and that's kind of where the direction I
have gone and saying well shit I'm okay
just the way I am you know and I don't
woman I need my happiness and my
enjoyment shit when that happens the
women come that's what I've noticed
that's awesome hell of it you know let's
talk about what happened you know during
during your program and kind of some
things you saw some things
share share a bit about the progress and
the things you saw along the way you
know then we'll talk about what's going
on currently for you which is exciting
excited to talk about that too but the
journey that that happened for you
during during the program especially
like when you first came in and what it
was you know well actually let me ask
you this let me back it up anything
you're afraid of when you you know sign
on took the big leap in there you know
and said I'm going to do this I'm going
all in cuz that's you know what it takes
and and and that's what everybody pretty
much does any fears or doubts about you
know is this gonna work for me is this
all a bunch of BS is this can I do this
am I even capable this any of that kind
of stuff going on all that going on oh
man I was scared spitless be honest you
know I was like oh shit you know one
thing opening myself up I was just
scared of like I don't know about this
I'm gonna really want to do this it's
just a bunch of shit you know so I'm
just gonna come in and I'm just gonna
he's gonna tell me he's gonna laugh at
me and say oh you're so fucked up you
you know go away you know but so yeah
there was a lot of fear a lot of fear
and and in making that call and talking
to you and after talking to you that
fear went away of and my realization
came that this is this is a good thing
I'm doing this is gonna be cool and
that's kind of what my mindset changed
after a phone call thanks for being so
honest about that I think it's really
important for for guys to hear because
it's common I can't imagine doesn't
happen with anybody to some degree or
whatever degree or two
degree you know there's that sort of
leap of faith that has to happen but
also that this is possible for me that
has to happen because it is real but
again you know and what I noticed is is
that you just you made the decision
right you were decisive coming from that
standpoint is the only way this really
works you know there are there are guys
I'll talk to and I you know I only
invite in half other guys I talked to if
that depending on the week and what I
notice is if a guy is wavering on his
commitment you know then it's going to
be very debatable if he's gonna get
results or progress you know so the
commitment has to be all in which you
were what you know once you decided
you're all-in and that that goes with
being you know usually comes with coach
ability which is huge very sensitive to
listening for that who's coachable and
committed especially and decisive
because executing quickly on the stuff
that we you know the practice and action
plans we come up with anise is really
critical to breaking through things and
that can be as you know a process right
I also love what you said there you said
you know is this guy gonna laugh at me
and this and that which was indicative
of how your mindset was had nothing to
do with me
right cuz he just cuz they effed up and
this and that and no I'm not gonna tell
you you're after you you you know most
guys I think they're effed up and left
we're trying to help get away from that
part of the problem not that there
aren't things to resolve and pass things
and all that to work on but yeah that's
very curious for me to hear that cuz I
you know I don't really know what was
going on your head you know when your
yeah whatever all the time so it's very
cool very cool that you shared that
thank you so so now let's you know once
you you know you don't man you started
you know get on the calls you know doing
them doing the work and all that you
know running through the online training
and us you know where the coach and
heavily what did you start to find
what's happening what was the process
like wow for me was a spiritual journey
is how I would put it
putting myself I was putting myself out
there trusting you the process got me to
understand myself so much better and
especially if some liked me a little
later in life learning all this stuff
about myself
is hard because there's a lot of baggage
back there from so many years and I was
able to go through this whole process
and learn my baggage and learn what I I
needed to do to change myself to be able
to meet these women that I want to meet
a hot woman as that was what I wanted to
do and shit I have and that's what
that's what this process did is it
cleanse it cleansed out all my shit and
brought out so it could bring out the
best version of me
learning learning something really deep
inside to love myself again and and that
and that was like the coolest thing of
the whole the whole process yeah I mean
that's the thing I consistently heard
through the program after you know when
he reached out you know self-love was
huge for you and it's not necessarily
for every guy I believe that we live in
a world that can use a lot more of it I
know I have had to learn to give myself
a lot more of it and some days I'm not
so great with it you know even myself
pretty hard but I've learned to and when
I pick up on that and hear that you know
or guys would be struggling beating
himself up a lot that's the kind of
route that usually has to go and I love
the fact that you said it's a spiritual
journey because that's what it's been
for me I probably need to write more
about that because you know to me all of
like we're all on a spiritual journey
whether we believe in spiritual
spiritual just means it's really really
real for somebody Donna what's real in
terms of life experience it's not this
whoo whoo thing you know it's not very
very really it's really not although
there are things that happen that seem
magical a hairy fairy right when or
denied not Aryan just like yeah like
that was that easier that happened once
I started loving myself more or started
relating to women a different way more
understood this thing more but that
woman was basically waiting for an
opportunity to be with me hang out with
me sleep with me dating heat whatever
whatever occurred right and I just I
mean I feel it from you you just like
you know you like vibrate it you
resonate it and that's part of the vibe
thing like and the one thing you know
that I I'm still very clear on and was
clear and when I talk to you is that you
know I immediately you are extremely
likeable and comfortable to talk to in a
vibe right and that you can make women
feel comfortable the problem was the
attraction right nerves we can kind of
break it down that way and some guys
have both or some guys yeah some guys
have both or they tend to very come
for as the friend zone or scaredy zone
or needy zone sometimes or it puts the
guys in you know away from the
attraction zone so and one thing I want
to ask about or just mention here is you
mentioned how you know you had baggage
to clean out and you know for everyone
listening Michaels 5858 looks great but
seriously you know sometimes guys have
questions are my too old for this too
much baggage and you're clearly an
example you know of knaves doesn't
matter if your willingness to be
committed to doing the work to go into
the process of being open to it to
diving full in and that's what I'm here
to help do right on on all levels and
some people require more than others
like that's just the way it goes that's
why there's so much live interaction
it's not just an information product
that you try to apply because how do you
overcome those barriers with just
information alone some guys do really
take the information or able hit the
ground running and always the coaching
helps you know tune and tweak and then
there's some more getting under the hood
that that we've got to do that I've got
a you know hope to do in order to chef
so I love it because and I think I
believe that a lot has to do with
openness like the openness to the
process right and you can use the word
trust and you said you know you trusted
me which I love and appreciate however
you really trusted yourself
trusted life as well as what I really
think you're staying there it's a trust
of you know
entrusting your knowing that part of the
process of trust this happens to be
fully and fully immersed fully in it
yeah yeah you know trust doing all the
linen and and and I went all in and and
I got I got everything out of it I put
into it and that's the only way it works
I mean you you if you don't put
something into anything anything in life
you don't put something into it you're
not gonna get anything out of it and and
you know being a business owner I
understand that that's that's you know
that's what you got to do and you know
age losing my hair all this other shit
feeling like oh god I feel like I'm 70
years old my back
Hertz and whose you know none of that
shit matters it's it's all and it's all
in your mind you know it's really that
had to be drained at me like you know
is there's just like for instance like
on on Tuesday or Thursday I think it was
at work I was with a client and she came
in and she was talking and we're going
over things and all of a sudden the
conversation started moving in and
within an hour we were like being like
buddies and when she went to go to leave
she came up and gave me this huge huge
hug with her like face against mine and
she was probably thirty years old you
know I'm like so you know age doesn't
matter it's it isn't that that's a whole
thing in your head man and that's one
thing that's takes many takes a lot for
me to learn and that's that's that's
where I'm at baby it's really cool with
that that's so awesome and here's the
thing again like the vibe with you is
you know so strong you I can feel I can
picture the room I can see all that went
down and your vibe is is you know the
belief it's in your being now that you
live that not just this throwaway
statement which it can sound like Oh age
doesn't matter and this doesn't matter
this is a matter mainstream society it
all doesn't matter and to some degree it
can it's like if 58 you want to date a
21 year old what you can it's just going
to be very different you're gonna you
know what I mean you're gonna have to
have a youthful energy you know or a
ageless energy it's almost like saying
ageless energy and we all know those
people
hell I remember my locker partner in
high school who was like huh 17 I feel
so old and he felt like an old man I
mean what the hell people at 70 you know
70 or whatever there are sprightly and
energy and again I'm not saying there's
not something to plays to attraction
dynamic men and women but the more that
you work on the mindset and the state of
state of mind state of being the five
the more that stuff gets blown out the
way I like to look at it
everybody's in the bell curve in the
middle there are these outlying data
points a little nerdy Hiro speaking
what's got the other day about it I help
guys become outliers become that magical
exception then those things don't apply
to the guy that it doesn't apply to and
you know for you man I mean you just
like you I can tell how much you
appreciate women which is important to
appreciate appreciating people right I
can feel that as you describe that
interaction and that's important as well
as understanding how things go and how
attraction works and how to be that
version of the attractive self right
because you can be that self and be oh
you know you're you're you know it's
like you're just a big teddy bear
friendly guy and with a woman any age or
the women of age that you want to date
without that sexual edge without that
sexual vibe without that you know that
yeah I'm a man who appreciates people
and loves women all this but you know
I'm also equipped hello
you know I'm equipped like you know just
let you know my chase you down or
anything but I've got some goods over
here if you're interested I might be
interested we'll have to see if it's a
fad right yeah that is exactly how it
goes it's like if the it's this sexual
part of me that I need know how to bring
out and and that's and that's what's
coming out now is like you know and it's
it's not even I'm not even thinking
about it it's just I can see the look in
the woman's eyes like whew yeah you know
and it's really cool because I haven't
had that in so many years it's like it's
like whoa what it what a difference what
a transformation this has been you know
and I'm really enjoying life right now
yeah man I can tell you are so you
mentioned you know you wanted to meet
hot women and that's what start to
happen has happened
like what you know how how's that
process been what's you know we can talk
about what's happening today but
certainly any steps along the way of
things you went through too with
yeah well you know steps of just going
up up getting the balls to go up and
just say hi to a woman that that was
huge for me and and had to go through
the whole process of being able to do
that and now it's become more natural to
me it still is hard and it still is not
as natural as I would like it to be but
I know it's an everyday process but I'm
able to do but I'm able to go up and say
hi to any woman I want and I okay here's
what happened to me a little while ago
I asked one girl out you know we were
talking to each other and say hey that's
let's get together and let's go let's go
for a motorcycle ride and go to dinner
she goes okay cool I'd love to do that
and I said okay so take her out and then
in another two days later this other
girl calls me up and says hey Michael
let's go out to dinner I want to take
you to dinner I said okay great
so I'll do that and then a couple of
days afterwards I'm watching and I'm
like they're posting these things on on
media together at a rodeo and I'm going
oh shit they're friends and they and
they were talking to each other right so
then I get a text from one girl and then
I get a text from the other girl and
they're like playing games with me like
who's going to get me first and and kind
of crazy I mean I like shit that hasn't
happened to me since high school you
know where the there wasn't text but
there was you know that kind of teenage
interaction going on yeah that was
that's cool so today you figured out
that they knew each other did they know
did they figure out at that point too
that they were you know hanging out the
same theater they figured it out that
night because one started talking oh I
went I would not and I had dinner with
Michael and she's like looking about
well wait a minute he took me for a
motorcycle ride on Sunday and he took
you out on Tuesday Oh
[Laughter]
and and by the way one of these bells
now I've been seeing a lot of and we're
really hitting enough and having a great
time together which is which is kind of
cool and it's like you know showing her
that I don't have to be this needy guy
and she's seeing that oh shit he has
other guy other girls all over him
if I finally want to beat this guy I got
to chase him around and that's kind of
what she's doing and she's chasing me
and it it feels
I feel wanted I guess you can say you
know you feel that that Wow
women really like me they like me more
than I like that how'd this happen yeah
fascinating right and and and that's the
one that mentioned turned the hot little
romance that's the same one yeah yeah
awesome so yeah and it's it's
interesting because it becomes like it
becomes like a love for all women more
generalized rather than right that
specific one that's kind of crazy
sunniness and that's when they into you
and then you know you can tune into that
more if you want to don't have to but
it's also nice back to the fact that you
we're like I don't need a woman to be
happy and enjoy and love my life and
then it all comes rushing in right it's
like oh this is great it's great to be
wanted but also I get the sense I mean I
know that you know this and not that we
don't have our days you know being you
know perfectly imperfect human beings
that we are
but the it's great to be wanted but yeah
but and I I'm this guy and part of being
that guy is to not be attached to them
wanting you or needing you or you know
what I mean because that can be a trap
too right
wanting neediness is like me you know
it's like I got a that you that you have
to let go you know of being my neediness
has to be let go of and that and that's
something that I always like everyday
we're
on you know of yeah needing something
leaving a woman I don't need a woman
yeah and that's the guy they want the
guy doesn't need them yeah yeah that is
exactly yeah I mean what I've
discoveries the women love you when you
just show up as yourself not not trying
not do anything going out having fun and
just enjoying your life and saying hey I
want to be part of that you know and
that's what I see the women doing you
know what's so interesting that I'm
noticing right now is that you know guy
can come through the program and get
lots of results quickly or can get you
know certain results or seeing certain
amount of women but the enjoyment of it
too is is a whole different thing so
like you know you're getting results now
you're these women are coming after you
and it took until after your program for
some things to settle in sometimes it
goes that way you know honestly that's
how it goes sometimes it's really
quickly typically it's like mid
programmed and things start rolling and
then on the bell curve is it can you
know other guys are more on the outside
that happens after or they happen really
quickly right it kind of spreads out
like that I've noticed so but I've
worked with guys that have gotten you
know women chasing them friends with
benefits coming over and all that
but they don't have or haven't worked on
the level of self-love and letting go
the kneading wantonness the level that
you have so it's like you enjoy it more
and then there's just more to come for
you I know but I mean and I'm not
judging their path or whatever because
you know some guys want more of the
coaching that's like you know what do i
do what do i say behavioral stuff which
I'm still going to direct them and work
on the mind stuff but some guys are just
they haven't lived their life from the
deeper sense and I sort of have that
helped them take a look deeper if they
want it to settle in and be natural
because we have to shift
Dunham's mindset is like you know
mindset but a state of mind because you
know mindset is so like set like static
when it's really a dynamic thing you
know what I mean like the vibe is
dynamic it's an ongoing flowing kind of
process of life and interacting with
women and the more that we're in the
flow with this stuff the more it just
happens happens happens like like walk
in the room you look up in the hottest
women there just goes looks at you goes
high and bring you know hits your eyes
and you go hey yeah right that's that
dynamic vibe thing that occurs and
doesn't always happen like that yeah
going and engaging with women start the
conversations first absolutely needs to
happen but the way we also do things
around here is not about hunting
pursuing even approaching that word can
be a tricky one depending so yeah yeah
well you know I kind of like look at
myself as like yeah I'm a little late
bloomer I guess you know I it took it
didn't take me until after going through
the program and just kind of relaxing my
myself being more into my body and just
relaxing and just kind of I didn't it
happen and everything that I learned I
was I'm so introspective person that
that I was trying too hard so once I let
go of that and just stop trying so hard
and just kind of let just being you know
just being myself and just enjoying
things that's when it
that's when things started to take off
on me and it's it's is
within your within myself enjoying life
you know and had them going around being
a huh I have a smile on my face and when
that hot woman does come up and say hi
to me and like yeah hi back yeah
whatever this is great I'm having fun
you want to have fun right now and what
a cool journey this is yeah it's a
newest journey huh that's how I look at
a total continuous journey a journey of
life and those hands really cool yeah
that is cool man I love the way you said
that with the you know yeah I mean
coming oh it comes back you come back
the whole self-love piece with you is
just so so impactful and relaxing you
know part of that too is because
sometimes it can be there's definite
some information to go through and
there's some pushing that has to happen
sometimes within that relaxing into you
to your body because it can't just
happen in the head it's like we have
this whole body and he'll our sexual
organs are down in the middle of our
body in the center of our body more or
less like if we're not in touch with the
fact that we're a man and we have you
know sexual organs that are meant to
reproduce and more you know and enjoy an
enjoyable max-width with sex with
lovemaking whatever you want to call it
straight up fucking
whatever you're like that you want to
get their brains fucked out okay at some
point like I remember years ago I was
hanging out with a group of guys and one
girl really cute girl and we're having
this conversation at a club or whatever
and I said sometimes don't you just get
fucked if she would like and she
followed me around like this the whole
frickin night the whole I was like you
know and and guys they they want that
they may not be able to admit it and you
know it's not like they always want that
but it's down there and literally down
there for both of us right it's down
there yeah it's in our it's our general
areas that are growing like it's always
there always there but we can disconnect
from it and you really reconnect it to
that here yeah right
and then but it's okay to be a sexual
man and have you know have this have the
sexual I don't want to say wants or
needs but the sexual I have the sexual
capacity that's ready to serve the all
the women that want me if I so choose I
like it like that that reminds me of
when I was in my 20s and I was at a bar
I was getting really drunk this woman
next to me and I just was sitting there
going oh I'm so fucked up I got to go
home and she's gone and so I get up and
I started walking away and she comes
running out and she was Michael Michael
why are you going home don't you want to
go home and fuck me and that always
sticks in my mind here so many years
later that's how women are that's what
they want and I just have to be the
right person to show up to do that to be
there yeah and to understand that and
with your Catholic programming right and
your everything good you not talking
about sex right that probably was
shocking for you right and then having
to reconnect to that as well because
that's how it goes and sometimes you
know the really religious girls can be
the most wanting of sex especially with
the repression yeah not that she was a
religious girl but side comment there
yeah so so yeah I mean awesome anything
anything else here to share Michael in
terms of progress results that you you
know broke through strong we're pleased
with you know through the process and
and doing the work and continuing to do
it I'm actually extremely pleased with
the process scariest shit but but just
because of I had to work myself and
within myself and scared scared of
myself and to go through this whole
thing and you know yeah I almost call
spiritual awakening is what I is how I
how I would put it have just waking
myself up and learning and anybody that
that wants to go through and wants to
learn about themselves and be what these
hot women that they really desire to be
with or they want to change their lives
but this is second to none you can't get
any coaching like this one-on-one the
the talks that we have helping me work
through the thing so that I can be the
best person I am and and it's like
that's invaluable
that's totally invaluable great to you
yeah yeah yeah great great here it's
been so so helpful and impactful for you
so just like kind of payback in that
what was anything that was most you know
beneficial for you as as part of the
process or going through that I maybe
you just said it was the the coaching in
the interaction peace be calm and to
hear that anything else that might come
to mind may it may not be about the
process of the program but something
that was beneficial you learned realized
or whatever what I really what I really
I actually realized which is this kind
of deep for me is not is I didn't love
myself when I came here I have learned
to love myself and it's a process and
it's an everyday process and then that
is probably the number one thing I got
out of this whole thing was connecting
with myself again
and because it's shit all these hot
women they they do want you and I'm
learning that they do want to you just
got to be the right guy and being the
right guy is freedom you know and a
total freedom changing changing my
behaviors changing knowing what I was
doing in the past which was not working
and learning and why it wasn't working
yeah it's working man it's working
fantastic any any final thing you you
want to say or maybe that was that and
any final words of no pressure but I
sometimes like say words of wisdom for
any guys watching this be like me who's
scared shitless to make that first phone
call and make it and and go on a journey
man I mean it the only thing you're
doing is benefiting yourself so so if
you if you want to benefit yourself make
the call and and see if and see if it's
right and it might not be right for
everybody but it sure was right for me
and sure transformed my life into
something that I didn't think I would
become and I also met a great friend
here you know that that has taken me on
this journey and shown me showed me the
light showing me the right way to go
show me the this is the path you take
you know and it's a cool path and the
golden path man so that's so impacted by
your words man in and I learn I have
learned and am learning so much from you
to that's part of what does happen I
know I'm the expert and the guide and it
is a role that I play but also that
especially with someone like you who has
shown someone's courage and being scared
shitless but like I'm all-in that's the
epitome of courage which is comes from a
big heartedness right courage literally
comes from the Latin word which means
heart like not following the head
where's where all the fear is pretty
much I mean we experience the fear in
her body but it's all there what if I
can't what if I can't what if I'm not
good enough and what if I'm wearing this
guy's gonna you know tell me on a piece
of shit and you know all that and
following your gut instinct for what's
right for you and just like you said
it's not right for everybody we have you
got to follow your gut instinct on
what's right or wrong but a lot of times
what I notice is even in booking the
call or let alone if we determine it's a
fit to you know come to the program or
not the fat you know when it's a fit in
the gut but the heads going this is
right gotta go with the gut when the
guts yes or when the guts to know but
especially when the guts yes cuz the
fear
the fear is what has been stopping all
this time in most of our lives fears the
fear is a big thing I had so much fear
and of going into this whole thing and
as I went through this whole this whole
process that fear was going away and it
would go away more and more and more to
to where oh shit yeah I get stuck David
cool you know and and you'd call me on
my shit so I could learn how to go
forward you know and and you really you
dug deep and you saw me in this time and
I was like oh wow this guy can really
see inside me that I didn't think I saw
and it became a deep level yeah well
again and that's tribute to you to be
willing to open up and go there because
not every guy is or you know the process
sometimes has to be I have to be more
careful depending on who the guy is
because those deeper looks are I've
found to be the most transformative and
Ken where things can you know start to
accelerate and sometimes are really
tough they're really tough to
acknowledge and here's what I mean by
that I don't mean just the bat so I mean
the good stuff right hard to acknowledge
the great things about ourselves cuz we
live in a society that news and
everything focuses on the negative it
gets a lot of mileage and lots of mind
control and lots of products sold
through that exclusively so it's hard to
even knowledge of gray and you know when
even when guys have tremendous wins
during the program and they totally
disregard them and I have to hold on
like let's think
look at this look at this yeah but now
like that can be actually harder
especially when somebody lives in
negativity so much of acknowledging
their greatness acknowledging they
actually did this that they did this
that I didn't do it for them I might
have helped them guide it but you had to
do it it's definitely you have to work
it if you don't work it man you're not
gonna get anything out of it and
acknowledging and that's one thing you
were always really good at you would
acknowledge the winds the positivity and
say hey look how much you
look what you did from this week to that
week look at the difference you did this
yeah I asked you to go do this and you
went and did this that's a huge growth
and you had to point that out because we
don't see that we don't we don't
understand or at least I didn't
understand my growth and I thought oh
it's just like I'm not going anywhere
I'm not doing anything and then when you
point out yeah you are
look what you did it yeah it was so cool
yeah it has to go that way because
that's part of the limiting old mindset
that will just come in and just
disregard everything because it wants to
stay there so a big part of the work is
continuing to recondition that in
multiple ways through the you know
through the training videos and do the
coaching calls and emails and all the
ways that we interact in order to change
the course your ship whether we need to
change it 180 degrees which you said
life 180 or maybe a guy needs 45 degrees
maybe God needs 10 degrees and you know
and that that's it but you know I love
helping do the range and yet I know that
the Greece thing came up because you
said your life 118 since you would you
know jumped in the program and done the
work yeah and you know I realized you
know this wasn't it's not a program to
go learning how to get how to go out and
get laid that's why I look if I make
this phone call and you learn how to get
laid and that's that's that's not what
it was about for me yeah you know it's
become a byproduct of that because and
that's you know what I found in doing
the whole pickup thing is learning you
know get yeah I got laid and stuff and
you know meeting women that I never met
before cold on the street or cold in the
bookstore or whatever but the amount of
work and all that stuff and I just
didn't feel good I just it was so much
working I didn't feel good about myself
it didn't address before we talked about
having that magnetic vibe there's no
magnetism there of of what we talked
about here that
just happened so you can live your life
and enjoy your life and focus on your
business and from you know continue to
grow your business or serve well or you
know be with your friends and family not
have to do what I do with the weird
pickup shit which is like I almost have
separate bundles the pickup thing is
like you know I I think that's where I
was before it's like I was trying trying
to you are trying to pick this girl up
trying for that it was like that shit
don't work we don't work for me I know
that brother well thanks so much for
your time
thanks for this much love man glad that
were you know having just been climbed
coach with friends two brothers and yeah
just so appreciate you yeah I appreciate
you too David and this is this has been
really cool and was good talking to you
cool man you too thanks for all your
insights and wisdom and sharing man all
right guys we're done peace I'll see you
later



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I was like okay now I need to work on
myself in the sense of finding myself
again finding that compliments and so
that's when I stumbled upon I'm doing
all these internet searches and whatnot
and looking at thousands and thousands
of YouTube videos and I'm just like
there wasn't anything out there until I
came across yours and your description
was one of those things that I was like
this sounds almost exactly what I'm
looking for so that I'm talking with you
and I was like yes I want to move
forward this I'm the type of guy where
I'm always gonna try and better myself
so it's like good to me like having a
peace of mind and having the right
mindset you can't put a price Dollar on
that it's one of those things where I'm
like alright I'm gonna jump in there I'm
gonna do this
it's my career you could have see you
for doing that man so and so let's talk
about you know some of that progress you
made those results you got throughout
throughout the program what you saw from
that first day that you know you signed
up dove in you know and hit the ground
running with the with the program with
the coaching one and what kind of
happened you can you take us through
your journey I'm kinda yeah I noticed it
instantly in the work environment the
work environment it's like my confidence
level is actually usually my confidence
level is that its highest always when
I'm at work because I'm hired as
professional to work a very specific
thing and it's like when people come up
and ask me questions and they will give
me I don't know oh I think we should
approach the recording it sound this way
I'll have to explain to them is like no
we're gonna do it this way because these
are the problems that you're gonna run
into if we do it your way
and I've already experienced these
problems and this is why my approach is
always going to we're gonna go in this
direction you know that's just you know
try on it it's the ten years of doing
this that and it's the reason why you
hired me it's like four because I'm the
professional and the expert in this
field of you know the production and all
that it was and once I recognized how my
confidence level was there can then
started like a document I'm like okay
let's have my mental mindset of when I'm
in the workplace to be the same as when
I'm out in my social environment
and immediately right when I started
thinking in that mindset it's like my
approach anxiety was just gone hmm
it just didn't care because it's just
one of those things and I can and I
recognized within the interactions that
I'm having that a lot of times like
before this I would get like the eyes
rolling and like these girls feel like
oh okay here's another guy coming up and
talking to me and now it's it's the
opposite now there's like I go up and I
approach and they turn and they smile
and it's like a big like glowing smile
and I haven't done anything
yep that's all right baby you meup mojo
yeah I mean it was it was it's great
it's actually it's pretty pretty cool
experience
yeah I was gonna say after after that
break breakthrough I you know I
continued and ingesting more the
information off of your core library and
all that type of stuff and I just saw a
little a little tiny I mean the majority
of it that's like I learned pretty much
right off the bat but it was all about
execution yeah I mean there are numerous
times where I feel like oh I don't feel
like going out or I don't feel like
doing that but every single time I
overcame that feeling and I would just
force myself to go do it it always ended
up being a fun interaction or always end
up being like a fun night all that stuff
so it was a it was good awesome man and
so really immerse yourself dove in
started applying it seeing all that and
that's so typical and it's funny because
you know another client emailed me
recently said Wow soon as I sign up
start doing this even though this
business just it happens that happens
right and and then of course going on
you know applying the social dating life
and stuff to and there's this effect you
know the mindset in the vibe it like
it's the weirdest thing ever man you
know this Megan they tune into that they
recognize that right away yeah and so so
you know there's all that information
you applied and and and went through it
and you stayed in execution and action
right yes well and I'm curious about you
know in terms of that also you know the
parts that were more interactive and
hearing the other guys and what they're
going through and them getting coached
that part how that helped you move
through this stuff too that was that was
actually one of the more beneficial
sides I mean obviously all their
information that you gave it was great
information but having those conference
calls and hearing the other guy's
stories I mean there was some guys in
the stories that of course that I I
would just be like ah man this guy I can
just tell by the way he talks and the
tone in his voice I'm like this guy
needs a lot of work
totally he needs to push through some
other stuff but then there's other guys
that it was actually really inspiring
because some of the stories that I would
hear I mean it's it's this sounds bad
only because it's like you never want to
compare yourself but like if on some
it's it's it's a hard thing to not do
when you tell about your weekend and in
your experience and you hear a guy about
how awesome and amazing his weekend is
and they just like although I didn't
have a weekend that's good of sin yeah
that matter you don't need to think of
it that way you need to think of it in
terms of learn from his experience
you're already learning from your
experience but learn from his experience
or her experience and take take what he
learned and not only that it's a lot of
it was inspiring a lot of it some of
these stories that I would hear of like
I remember this one guy Nick he was just
going out and it's like he's he's
pulling left and right and he's not
doing anything all he's going up is just
going up and being friendly just being
myself and I'm just like yes yeah yeah
that's exactly it yeah so yeah I know it
was really it was really great to be
involved with all those uh those
conference calls and hearing the other
guy's story yes yeah that's one of the
the benefits of working in program like
this is that immersion thing in it you
know a lot of times because I've got my
little control panel I'm watching you
know and I'm bringing up the next guy to
work with and I expect a lot of guys to
be dropping off and everybody's staying
on me and wants to absorb and learn and
that's exactly the kind of people that I
want to help of course you know because
that those the ones are gonna get
results I don't want people they're
gonna dabble and just listen to some
nice and that and and I don't allow that
I don't allow those people in even and
that's why the group is like that I
don't allow it in and of course Oh
certain guys are further behind and
further ahead that's natural and you hit
on the you know the whole comparison
trap thing which is you know I've got to
keep you guys look don't compare
I know and I know your brain is gonna do
it that's how we're conditioned we do
this all that matters is your own
progress in moving forward right yeah
awesome man and I'm curious if you're
willing to tell the Vegas story as well
what happened worried that was a great
that was a great little interaction so
it's not along with some a buddy of mine
so he did the whole back in college ten
years ago the whole semester at sea
thing were they him and he just jumped
on a boat and they go travel around the
world and stop off at all these
countries and so he met this this really
cool cool group of guys and I had I had
a really rough work week and one on he's
like dude come with me to Vegas he's
like let's get you know he's like I'm
like perfect let's do this let's go blow
some steam and the first time we're out
there were just gambling you know just
catching up and all that type stuff but
the second day we went to one of the
pool parties there at the casino and my
my only goal this whole trip I was just
like I'm just gonna go talk to as many
people as possible that's it that was
the only plan I had and so I'm just
going around to this pool party just
talking it up with guys girls which is
anyone that wanted to talk to the
hottest cocktail waitresses that are
around all that stuff yeah and so it's
like I'm talking to a couple little
brides party's over here bro what do you
call a bachelor property was over here
and there and whatnot but there was this
there was just one girl that I had
approached and like instantly it was
just like a very very flirtatious vibe
like just happened like right away and
you know I'm throwing out little
bantering and being flirtatious with her
and all this type of stuff and it was I
don't know it was just a fun experience
because like she interrupted I was in
the middle of like telling one of my
stories about working for a team in LA
and she just like she grabbed me and
started kissing me and I'm just like
what's going on this is awesome I
probably could have said a couple things
to like escalated further what I mean is
I was just so carefree that I just like
this is fun so it was it was a great
experience and it's just one of those
things where it's like I wasn't using
the appliance I wasn't doing anything I
was just being myself
and I think it was just the confidence
and the vibe that I
projecting was getting it was accepted
and was you know it was working in my
favor
totally man and you're you know being
social with everybody and flirtin and
being carefree about it and the thing
you know to note to guys listening is
that this girl immediately was into your
vibe you know that she was the one being
the aggressor yeah I kissed you she's
the one who grabbed you she was the one
who did that and usually it's the other
way around yeah and so that's the way it
should be wanted it to be it's like you
were talking about earlier about our
society be conditioned like I know the
guy always has to be the aggressive the
guy always have to be like now those
women have the exact same thoughts that
we have if anything they probably have
more sexual thoughts than we have just
because you they're sexual human beings
just like we are yeah so yeah I was
always I've always been a firm believer
I'm like now I don't I don't need to you
don't need to follow the the social norm
no that's right you can change that
yeah and women want to do it they just
don't know how they deep down want to
and guys definitely don't know how like
you know I you remember when I used to
be like oh she's being aggressive to me
that's not the way it's supposed to go
that's turning me off and now I'm like
what right that's just how I was
conditioned and it's very typical and
you can go totally other way and it can
be a lot easier and then you'll attract
more women because all the other guys
are not doing that they're just
following the standard MO and even the
pickup guys they just expand they take
more actually have more techniques sure
can they get better results depending
but they're still chasing them down and
think that that's the way it's got to go
mm-hmm and all that all that mindset is
all outcome dependent and it's like that
having that whole outcome dependent all
it ever did in the past was just cause
more you know over analyzing and cause
like like anxiety and stuff like that
like like once you get rid of all that
you just you feel better you just see it
doesn't matter it's like it's like it's
what I don't know what would you call it
first of all problems where you're
worried about
your introduction was with that person
it's like yeah doesn't matter we're in
the first world so it's like half world
problems yeah yeah



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hey what's up guys I'm really pleased
this evening to bring you an awesome guy
an awesome client Jeff hood who is a
successful entrepreneur business owner
and investor all-around great guy and
we're gonna talk to Jeff tonight about
his story his transformation of where he
used to be before he came into his
program and we started working together
to get him some really really phenomenal
results socially and with women and yeah
excited to have you here tonight Jeff
welcome thank you dude but I love
working with you I love all the results
that you've gotten and continue to get
and you know for me you're always the
guy that will just freakin do it you
will just do what we talked about what I
say like almost no questions asked and
it's one of the reasons I think you've
gotten such great results as well that
you just will you're an action taker
you're committed you'll do it and and
it's huge so you know I just want to
start off with kind of telling a bit
about your story about where you were
when you first you know came to me
before you came to me reaching out
saying you know I need help with this
social life dating and all that just
explain a bit here where you're at and
what life was like for you just start it
all off I was the you know shy guy that
said over in the corner of the bar never
approached or talked to a woman and
never had the guts to if somebody would
try to get me to hey that girls looking
at year whatever I had never had the
guts I just sat there and like well if
she does she'll approach me never even
you know talk to him or whatever that if
I ever did I had probably too much
liquid courage in me and then half the
time you know remember what you said or
whatever or what she looked like the
next day so that was kind of me the wall
they my buddies used to call me the
Wallflower
that sit in the corner and watch write
the watch or the wealth or not I mean I
it's so interesting because I remember a
lot about the converse
before guys sign up and what struck me
is when we first talked you know you
said you liked the wallflower
and I said to you I asked are you
talking to people you know outside your
social group I started your friends and
you said why would I do that and I was
like why wouldn't you and you're like oh
okay maybe maybe I'm thinking about this
the wrong way a little bit here and I
remember hearing you start to wake up to
the fact that there was another way to
think about it right then let alone all
the other stuff we've been working on do
you remember that you notice I do yeah
and so you know and I also remember that
when you came to me there was a story
about a woman you were dating that
wasn't really working out for the effort
for the way the relationship was going
and all back he talked a little bit
about that yeah I was dating a girl at
the time kind of well it was pretty much
the end of it but I remember talking to
you about it and you were asking me a
few questions about it and I'm like well
you know basically you know obviously we
have blinders on we didn't I didn't see
it but I took her to a trip to Vegas for
the weekend and pay for the whole thing
and everything then when we got home a
couple weeks later she was almost
bothered her and asked her what was
wrong she's like well remember when
we're in Vegas I was looking at that
jewelry they're like yeah it's like well
I'm still pissed off you didn't buy me
that $40.00 bracelet or whatever like
okay so that's kind of you know how that
went I would guess I've indulged more on
that I've always been kind of the
provider in a relationship right yeah
and we fixed all that haven't we hear
guys talk about it good guys like you
that deserve to have what they want in
terms of dating relationships with women
and and I just you know and I'm like oh
yeah I can help you with this if you're
open to it so and was that how long was
that before you reached out was that
like a couple
sir month or right around the time it
was probably a couple weeks to a month
after I reached out to you okay or you
reached out to me after that got it
right right and and was it you know what
were you just you just like fed up or
something at this point you're like
screw this when that is the straw that
broke the camel's back that's the sense
I remember why is this happening like
what's going on here you know what I
mean
ya know that's kind of what it was you
know and obviously what I would after
that I'm going out again a lot and I was
the Wallflower set the guy that sat
there in the corner or sat there at the
table with his buddies and did say
anything to anybody like I can't I can't
be this guy the rest of my life unless I
want to be here I don't want to be him
so I need to change most a few videos
and stuff of your stuff and decided well
I'm gonna give him a shot then after I
talked to you and like sounds like he
can help me let's do it awesome man yeah
and and help you we have so you know
what what were you first thinking when
you signed up blank with their doubts or
fears or can I do this is this the right
fit is this stuff real any of that stuff
going on or you just like you know you'd
seen an offer because usually there's a
little to a fair amount of that going on
depending on the guy um yes I mean I'm
not gonna lie there was doubts and
thinking okay is this another one of
them people that just are gonna tell you
they're gonna help you and get your
money and vamoose there you go but you
know then after we had the one-on-one
interview talking before anything was
ever set up or anything yeah just kind
of convinced me with you I mean just
that one interview before he ever
started anything open my eyes and got me
thinking about things and he started to
point me in that direction right then
and there
cool cuz and so it sounds like you had
some experiences did you um did you was
it like infoproducts or did you actually
I don't think you worked with other
coaches or mentors or anything but did
you buy some product or something is
that what you matter of like here's
another one they take your money in
vamoose or no I hadn't
you know how they are all over the
internet I've looked at them and kind of
researched it and I'm just like yeah
okay whatever and the one one thing I
liked about yours was you know all the
ones you seen on the here you know you
see on the internet which they're all
seems like basically the same but it's
all done through you know everything's
email and video you know they send you
videos or whatever
I like jurors were we had a one we have
a once a week call to talk things out I
mean I'll admit I'm the worst at
emailing back and forth you know that
[Laughter]
just yeah just kidding and but I mean
you know you have consistently shown up
to the calls on the work like that's
good to hear because I hear that a lot
especially when I speak to guys you know
every week you know if we're seeing how
I can help them and talking about their
challenges and where they want to go and
talking about steps and stuff is a lot
of times I hear hey you know what I like
to buy yours it's about you and changing
you and becoming you know the most
important relationship is the one with
yourself actually that we we tend to
miss we think it's about relationship
with the women or our friends or our
family or our employees in your case by
the way guys you see the s back there
Jeff owns a snap-on tools franchise I
was joking with them that you might need
a strap-on with all the actions but
anyways like that's what I hear because
the information alone just generally
doesn't do it if a guy says he has
shyness anxiousness problems have been a
certain way all's life and there's no
one to help you and say hey crack this
crack that try this try that you need to
change this you're doing that right
right along with you know the
information is part of it but you know
the transformations we like to say is a
huge if you
part of it which happens in the
interaction so I'm glad to hear that
they kind of deep dig into that a little
bit more it's like you know your weekly
calls it's a one-on-one with each one of
us plus you hear the other guys on the
calls and sometimes you don't think I
mean last night there was the one guy
was talking about his work I'm like oh
my god that hits bay exactly there you
know you pick up other things from other
guys you didn't realize you had or was
doing and tell you hear somebody else
said then you think about and you're
like shit that was me that's me - yeah
you receive the coaching and that and
help by listening to somebody else
because what happens a lot of times with
guys - is like that have dating your
social life issues it's easy to hide and
work you know especially because I I
work with successful guys you know
ambitious entrepreneurs like yourself
executive types whatever because you
know success is really much more easily
transferable because you've been
successful here what we just need to get
it working over here but one of the
things is if something's getting in the
way and that's happening there's nobody
there to point it out with just an in
you know here's an information product
videos it's like hold on there's a
pattern going on here that we need to
take a look at this might be preventing
you from stuff not saying that's going
on with you these days but right that's
the kind of thing that we have to
identify so right so let's so I'm glad
you know I'm the group call format is it
set up that way for that way so but
anyways you know let's talk about like
progress results you know we've talked
about a little bit about where you were
some about you know working together how
that's been going but you know what's
happened for you what's been different
in terms of results in progress first
you know there was every week you would
give me little steps to do and I would
go out and do them and it wasn't like
jumping right into everything was almost
like baby steps but I would do it so now
I can go in to any place and whether I
know anybody or not I can mingle around
and talk and you know and I can approach
girls and I don't know it's not like I'm
approaching them to hit on them now it's
going up to talk to him
getting them to hit on me yeah and they
do and they will and and you know one of
the things is I remember I mean pretty
quickly you got some rapid results you
were seeing three women at once kind of
six or seven weeks and I think yeah
there was probably that soon right
and that's the thing is you know if a
guy is ready to jump in and hit her you
know hit the ground running then you
know we can go right into things with
the you know guys with shyness issues
you know like you had you know sometimes
we need the baby stuff it a little bit
just to get people comfortable but you
still move pretty damn quickly to get
those kind of results you know and you
know what I love too is starting to hear
the stories about your friends who you
go out with that do hit on chicks buying
drinks and then the women are interested
in you and coming to you and like hey
what's your story and you know and and
your friends still haven't asked they
haven't really it's like they haven't
noticed I don't know or maybe just
because you you know weren't approaching
before you had this capacity you didn't
know about the women waiting for you
which is probably true but they just are
like he's the guy you know they like and
and they still do the same shit that
doesn't work exactly
they just sit back and watch yeah I mean
you are like a menagerie like right it's
like a movie of debauchery that is
occurring in front of their eyes
and they just need popcorn to sit and
watch the girls hit you know that the
girls give you the number you know ask
for your number and then you know tell
your stories later or whatever but I
think it's hilarious man and it's cool
that you're able to do it around those
kinds of guys you don't have to drop
your friends
right you have to get rid of your
friends and you're able to make it work
just fine because that's how it works so
any you know any specific what for you
like things that you've accomplished and
that you've done that you know sort of
blew you away or you're like really
pleased with that you didn't think you
could do before you know what I mean any
specific experiences with some of these
women and meeting these women or however
the interactions went down yeah I'm
gonna add a couple that really stick out
my mind I remember it was probably maybe
eight to ten weeks in to your thing is
you know through the coach and you did
it would be you know I approached a few
women and just you know said I'm hitting
on them just hey how's it going Cheers
hope you guys are having fun blah blah
blah and it seemed like doing stuff like
that I mean I remember one particular
instance I did that to a couple girls
and then one came over and talked to me
and stuff and we just and it kind of
went you know back and forth a little
bit I'd wander around and talk to her
and then I just you know well I gotta go
I gotta talk to my buddies I gotta you
know and eventually she come over and
grabbed me he says hey come here with me
and took me to the other side the bar
was quiet
it sat there and talked to me for a
while and then you know later then I she
was leaving and I was leaving and she's
like well here here let me get your
number and I'll get ahold of you and she
did and we had a kind of a weekly
hook-up session for a few weeks after
that you know all it was and then I had
and this is my favorite one I know you
remember this one I was up in that out
of town kinda and place was crowded and
me and my buddies walked in and we were
just kind of standing there and we seen
this older couple and a girl sitting
there at the table we noticed I'm paying
their tab and before I would have just
sat there you know my buddies like we'll
go ask them if they we can have their
table when they leave and before I would
have just stood there and watched over
them like a vulture and waited to tell a
gone up but with your coaching and stuff
I just walked up and said hey how you
guys doing you know you having fun in
here is this good place to be and
they're like yeah and I'm like hey do
you mind if you know when you guys get
ready to leave if you know me and my
buddies here can have your table looks
like you paid your tab and they're like
well no he just sit down here with us
like okay so I sat down there and it was
a you know older couple with their
daughter and I'm sitting there and the
dad leaves and goes off I don't know
what he was doing so I'm sitting there
with the mother and the daughter just
talking to him and then before you know
it I was just basically me and the
daughters having her conversation and
the father comes back and sits down he's
like well did you know the deal yet I
just kind of looked at him like what the
hell are you talking about he's like
we'll have you nailed the deal down with
my daughter yet and I'm like uh I was
dumbfounded didn't know what to do and I
just kind of went speechless and she
looks at me and kind of smile and I
looked at him and said yeah he has let's
go like okay so we left went back to
their Congo they had their town and
dinner thing and next morning I got up
and left was hoping to leave before mom
and dad were up but didn't make it so I
had to say bye to them as I walked out
the condo well he just said I hope it
went well hope you have fun later
I think you know how I went down a
little detail that I think it's
important to share with how this stuff
works and and I'm going to talk about a
little bit why why it's working a little
bit is you went over and then she called
you back over or said come over and talk
to me when her parents left right well
actually you know I went over and kind
of talked to him about getting the table
I said yeah I'm like okay let me know
when you guys leave but I walked off and
then we were just kind of standing there
and she just I looked back at her and
she waved me over hey just come over
here
went over there and I was just standing
there and she's like well just we'll sit
down while you're waiting so that's when
I sat down at the table with them yeah
she was the vulture see ya
vulture as' so what I love about that is
so often you know guys want to push push
push and stick in there and you just get
a chill out and just interacting but
this this Keys in the vibe right
sexually magnetic vibe which you have
down you have it there's always more
levels to a lock and working on some of
that stuff but that's what that happens
when you have that and you know a lot of
the processes working through the
limiting beliefs and subconscious not
only doing this stuff but you know you
can't just do those steps or like a guy
would try to break those down steps and
go okay you know you know let me write
those down and just do Jeff did well
doesn't quite work like that
the vibe and who you are as you show up
into the room makes a whole a huge
impact on how that all went down and I
guarantee you that she probably noticed
you right away cuz you have that vibe
that your friends don't the other guys
don't right and I know that even then
you like you had a little bit fear
because I remember you going
you know correct me if I'm wrong she's a
gorgeous girl you're like that's a
gorgeous
she was right yeah I was I mean I was
when I very first walked up I'm just
thinking the only shit what am I doing
here and then you know that went by the
buy-side and I just went did my thing
and after that I was okay yeah yeah I
mean it's you know awesome and now you
got the hook-up in the town whenever you
go back so and and and I was a town in
Utah right that was still huge I know
you've taken a lot of trips over the
last year or so yeah that was him like
pork City I was a little hour or so away
from where I'm at right right so yeah
and and and so LOV that love that
sterling experience you know what else
do I know you know recently there's some
of that stuff where you know we're
taking the next level and some of those
women that are you know a little bit
competing for you or throwing you their
numbers at you and doing all that kind
of stuff as well any other any other
results or progress that you know that
you've been happy with just even I think
you know how you feel like confidence
wise all that stuff you can talk about
that too I'm curious about that like how
that's been going
not only the external results but you
know how you're feeling about and your
comfort level and all that oh yeah so
like I mean my confidence level was
probably you know when I'd walk into a
bar or whatever was probably maybe three
or three at the highest you know
obviously I said I was just the guy that
walked and followed my buddies and then
sat there in the corner her stood there
in the corner against the wall didn't
say anything anybody now I would say you
know I'm at least for his confidence up
there eight nine I walk in and kind of
forget my buddies are even there four
points in time and I do my mingle in and
talk to everybody and you know whether a
norm or not you know I make it's almost
like I don't know if it's good to say
but make my rounds through the bar
scoped it out and talking to people and
just kind of keep doing that throughout
the night so I would say you know my
confidence
eight nine up there now oh yeah that's
awesome I mean what a transformation man
like going from Wallflower to like the
mayor of the tablet or whatever and that
you actually enjoy doing it - I where's
I think I'm was a this week's car like
you're actually actually like yeah I
actually enjoy it too because it's yeah
we can't get good at thing anything
without learning to enjoy it right you
know before when I first started this a
couple things you had me do you know I
was like I will obviously you told me to
go out but I'm just like well shit I
have no plans this weekend my buddies or
below they're gone or whatever you're
like we'll go out by yourself
you know what I would have never did
that before but when I did I was the guy
that walked up to the bar ordered my
drinks and just sat there and stared at
the wall or the TV above and didn't say
a word to anything now it's like fucking
who cares I'm going in
walk in and you know and not nervous
don't care don't think about what
anybody's thinking about me go in or my
drink sometimes I'll just sit there at
the ball bar for a bit and chill but
then I'll get up and do my mingle and
around and do whatever and before you
know it you know half the time you're
sitting with some guys sometimes or a
table full of girls talking you know on
that part of it I like is then if you're
sit there at the table table full of
girls I almost expect you to sit there
with them the rest of the night I've had
a few occasions where like well I gotta
go I gotta go talk to these other people
and they're just looking at you like why
do you leave on us you know it feels
like it's making it I don't know it's
like a more attraction or like what the
hell's with this guy we let him sit here
with us and he's leaving and coming back
nobody does that
yep yep yeah and especially the lot of
the girls they are the more they expect
guys to mind going around and you're
just being social you're not you know
trying to get anything and it's very
very attractive everyone but especially
of course to to the women so you've
executed beautifully man you again it's
one of those things I love about you do
it without question you don't need to
know why I know that's you know in terms
of me in my process my poor mentors and
coaches have to deal with my wine that's
awesome in and you know I love hearing -
how often it's you know the women are
you know asking things about you who are
you and what's your deal and you know
here's you know you're leaving why are
you leaving stay all that kind of stuff
right happens all the time
oh yeah just yeah just kind of like last
last weekend we were talking about this
the other night is
what I told the one or the one cap I
talked to one for a second then she come
back and he sat and talked for a little
while and she's like I've seen you
around in here I've noticed you you know
and then when I left she's like why are
you leaving now
huh I'm just leaving yeah just doing
your thing doing a master of not giving
a fuck like that's definitely a strength
of yours sometimes to a fault so they're
waiting I was waiting for you to call
man on that I'm like yeah God now I'm
gonna hear that again results right
without you know some women are just
more assertive than others we got to
help them be more assertive okay we got
to help them come after us because they
don't know how it's like we're being you
know we're dating your dating trainer in
that way like way to do it here's what
you really want girl right it's sort of
like that because they're so used to the
opposite so that's awesome man so
anything else here anything else or
anything you want to mention about
challenges you come across and overcome
any other results anything you want to
in progress you want to mention here
that's of significance to you um
yeah kinda I mean one thing use you kind
of talk about a lot and stuff is how you
know 90% of your guys out there or
buying chicks girls drinks and I
remember I've had quite a few instances
were just you know you start talking to
a girl on she's like well buy me a drink
and I always use your saying well okay
it'll be two for one you buy me to buy
you one
and I think that shocks them and then
you know and most of the time they end
up buying you the first drink and you
don't ever have to buy them any anyway
yeah you've turned into the hot girl
that walks off there oh thanks nice to
meet you I'll see you later
that make payback we're not trying to do
payback or anything in and you know as
you know I mean we talk about things to
do and say but it's still that's so
secondary to everything it's the vibe
it's yeah it's you know not like hanging
around and be like trying to suck all
the juice out of a hot girl her energy
and all that kind of crap like that you
know and being needy and creepy and all
these things you know and it's about
making you know if I say try this or
that it's about making it work for you
and some of the things do and don't
because ultimately right at all it's 80%
of more psychology maybe more this stuff
really really is and you know guys
listen to this okay you know yeah of
course you can try the line but don't be
surprised if it doesn't work because
your psychology your vibe isn't in the
right place in psychology drives if I'm
fundamentally don't be surprised guys I
mean go for it but still like it's about
and it's different for everybody they
have different things to work through
different you know limiting beliefs and
subconscious things that have to be
shifted to have that vibe so we walk in
the room it's like here's that guy
something's different just by the way he
comes into the room and it's it's not
body language I mean it is but it's not
of course body language plays into it
but it's not coming in there just like
it's how you be yourself how you view
attraction how you understand - like
attraction and how it really works and
and what women sort of really want the
kind of guy the version of you because
you got to be you got to be yourself and
you got to do some things differently or
shift some things in order to have that
dynamic happen to where they're like
tasting starting to chase or being tree
starts with intrigue and then it goes
into you know some interactions and then
that sort of pursuit thing that flip the
script slip pursuit thing that we do
yeah exactly
I think you know a lot of I've changed
is and why it's easier and approach is I
don't feel like I have to when I walk up
to her girl start the conversation start
hitting on her
I just do it as a casual conversation
and then like you said you walk away and
I think it dumbfound
like what the hell why is this guy doing
this yeah more what do you think in
terms of of your program and the work
we've done together what what's been
most beneficial for you so far a couple
things that you feel you know really
helped ya helped in terms of getting you
the progress and results um I would say
my number one thing is our Tuesday calls
when you ask us about you know what what
went on over the weekend and what we
want you know how it went out then you
dissect it and tell us what you know
we'll try this try that try this then
you go out the next weekend and try it I
think that does help the most because
it's more of a it's like a one on you
know it's a one-on-one situation not you
know got 20 guys listening or 20 you're
trying to tell 20 guys the same thing
that do you you've on the calls you kind
of dissect each one of us and help
individually I think that's the that's
the number one thing and then your
videos and stuff that you send to us and
go through watching them but I I can
tell a difference when I you know I go
back and watch some of them more and
more and I can tell what I don't have it
when watch them for a while it's like oh
shit I'm starting to go back to my old
ways I need to go watch some some of
these videos certain videos can't think
of any right off the top of my head but
you know when you scroll through the
library it's like one you need to watch
this one again you do it and go back to
your new way I would say that those two
things yeah and I mean that's you know
that's the power of individual
interaction breaking down and helping
you see things that you don't
necessarily see that I can listen being
on the other end of the conversation
right because we're just literal worlds
and I love it I absolutely love it
because I just feel like I was born made
to coach and shrink I just love it just
do it all like a night and
not lose energy but going in and yeah
helping each guy I love that because
it's what's required because each guys
are at different spots or further along
further behind or whatever and it's you
know we also talked a lot about don't
compare yourself to where other guys rap
because that can really happen it can
can you can trigger some guys into like
you know oh I shouldn't go I didn't have
enough progress no no always come come
as much as you can because I guarantee
you there's something you're not seeing
and for a guy who hasn't been that
social or you know they're guys I talk
to they're less social than you were
when you start it like you're at least
going out with friends and stuff you
know and talk to other people but there
are guys that just getting out of the
freaking house you know by themselves
with people and just stepping out and
going you know even for 10 minutes then
coming back is huge but they say all
because Jeff is you know track these
women and he's got a friends with
benefits that turned out to be and you
know it's really important to not silo
yourself too right
remember that happened you do because
what happened is you've got those three
girls and then a few of a couple of
knocked off and then you're still seeing
the same one and then you went in this
slump but the slump was really about
your mindset you're like oh now I've
failed right and that's part of what we
have to address is that I'm like hold on
give you perspective on hold on dude
like that happens like it's gonna come
back up we got to keep just keep going
here right and that's you know you're
talking about the immersion of the
videos and stuff too because it is a
continual process of right re-patterning
until it just becomes who you are right
you know and one one thing to kind of
towards that to that I have to say that
it's helped me for us you know I was
like when I go into the grocery store
you know when you see a girl before I
just kind of like look at her like holy
shit that girl is hot
I walk by now it's like you know hi
how's it going you know and they they're
just as interactive as you are you know
never picked up a girl at the grocery
store yet but you know before I would
have never hide was on a mission I went
in knew what I wanted got what I wanted
did say shit to nobody and got out now
it's like go in and as you
people you know it doesn't have to be a
woman just a guy hey that was going high
on you go you know and then flirting
with the cashiers and stuff like that I
would have never did anything like that
before
yep it's it's gotta to really be like
and I talked about in my my free what I
call my free masterclass now you know
that everybody gets when they you know
check my stuff out or whatever the three
types of guys and you know we're talking
about level three which is everywhere
this magnetic attraction goes on and
it's you show up this everywhere right
not just at the bar or not just that you
know the meetup group or the hiking club
or the running club if you know a guy
wants to go that route more socially
it's really everywhere being that that
magnetically attractive and confident
version of yourself practice networking
on it being true to who you are your
core but then and that that's that's
beautiful what you said because it's
it's everywhere and it just says like
silent okay only at night that's you
know that's a very pickup be approached
to or very hunter approach okay and then
that comes out your vibe it comes out
when you walk in the room right or if
guys in a good day in any and he might
go to the store and he's like yeah okay
and then I'm gonna be trying so later
it's like the vibes all fucked up
because it's an always on everywhere
thing and that's you know we're not
perfect but that's the way to view this
stuff it's gotta right you got to
integrate it into your life by being and
even at home you know thinking about
yourself in a certain way like you know
like going to the grocery store and you
know instead of the girl being like oh
that's a hot girl it's more like okay
there's a hot girl or I'm a hot one
you know what are we talking about here
right totally different mindset there
that um that is that it that really has
is powerful it's really powerful to
placed in the vibe and and that's why
you know I'm always hitting on yeah
here's what do we say here's some things
behavior but it all starts with the mind
in psychology and how we view it right
and it's interesting I was just watching
you there even is the way you're talking
about going the grocery store you're
like there's a hot girl your eyes were
darting which I call squirrely it's like
bizarro right it's like there she is and
it may not be that you know extreme but
guys will be like this this right this
happens all the time happens with my guy
friends that don't get it to check out
the girl kihachi is and they like turn
their head like that and the girls feel
if they're like it happened but when you
don't do that and you're just like go
whatever totally like it all makes a
difference every little step of the way
right it does I mean I was that guy he
liked your bunnies before now it's like
yeah she's just I mean yeah she's hot
but I'm not gonna like start drooling
and stuff over like I probably would
have before now it's just like hey how's
it going yeah you are the grass you're
on the path by buying girls drinks and
then starting to stick roses in them so
thank God you met me well yeah pretty
much yeah but you weren't doing that
stuff buying drinks in provider shaprut
you were actually exactly yeah I mean I
don't think I did really I ever went out
on many dates where the girl ever paid
you know and I had another instance I
can't remember how many weeks ago but a
couple weeks ago where one of the girls
that I talked to we exchanged numbers
and she invited well this was during the
World Series
just text me out of the blue hey what
are you doing I'm like I'm gonna watch
the game and go why don't you meet me
and I'll buy your beer and pizza at
such-and-such place we met she bought
their pizza hang out all night yeah it's
any slut I'm not chasing I've let her
chase me what yes yeah you're letting
her chase you she is chasing you and now
you are depriving her sir of
your services are like snap-on but with
tea you know I think we need to have a
serious talk Jeff about how abusive you
are by not what she wants well I will
she's just got to pursue me yeah yeah
awesome men so any any final takeaways
or insights to you know give the guys
listening to this you know before we
sort of wrap up here it would be listen
when were when you're on the calls and
watch the you know the videos and stuff
that he tells you to watch that helps ya
take action take act lots of accent like
Jeff be committed be courageous yeah you
know cuz that's that's what I love about
you and and the courage part to that you
know you have had to work through a lot
of fear and and part of the process has
been you know the fear needs to be you
know reduced like we don't want you
constantly pushing through it but you
have enough grit to do it but part of
the coaching process and something we
should maybe should mention here is the
inner work the inner psychology work
that has to be done at home pretty much
of a daily basis especially at the
beginning you know to really start to do
things it's not just about going out
it's got to go hand in hand
and that's the beauty of it because for
guys too shy and whatever well we start
somewhere we can start right in the in
the home right all right and I you know
I'd say these days about two-thirds of
the guys to two-thirds between 2/3 and
3/4 are shy introverts and I am getting
more extroverted guys coming do you have
more attraction problems or they mean
have social confidence problems but they
have you know talking to beautiful women
problems you know whatever that is but
you know we can you know we can start
wherever wherever you're at basically
that's the beauty of you know working in
live group rather than just product and
and working on a weekly basis
with consistency for those course
corrections or you know sometimes it's
okay I start off we've got to be a
little more gentle but if guys not
making progress getting out there I'm
gonna push them we're gonna find out I'm
gonna get to the root of it you know me
I'm gonna find the fuck out you know
like my little coaching ears like all
right I'm gonna hear it
there's no bullshitting and I'm not you
know I'm not doing it in a way I'm doing
a way to support you know which came for
ya you're gonna call about you're gonna
call us out on her bullshit tell us to
you know I remember you one time tell me
I need to go out cuz and I did I didn't
go out and you're just like well how you
got to learn anything if you don't go
out you don't learn anything
this wasn't your exact words but was
pretty much you're not gonna advance or
learn anything sitting home by yourself
you know we all need like we all have
these nights but you need to go out yeah
yeah I call them with that but you know
there was a couple times I didn't feel
like going out but I made myself go out
and it turned out good funny how it
always does if you just do it on some
level but yeah I don't remember that
that that was a while ago yeah that was
a long time ago but right at the
beginning sort of thing bad but
interesting that yeah I remember that
now I totally forgot about it because
you are so consistent and all these
results and meeting women every week and
all that stuff so yeah it's it's
interesting and some guys will have
every one guy who for weeks like we just
watched like the videos and then do
nothing and say all the videos like feel
good when I watch it but then but then
it's nothing's working like ten no
that's a starting point that's only you
know a third or less of the program like
you've got a you got a practice stuff
home out and about this is everywhere
you know this is not a freaking YouTube
channel he got it sometimes that's what
I have to it was like you know show you
guys and get to what's going on if some
resistance
they're usually some fear right then it
seems like oh you know he's not
following the programs not doing the
work so that's what I sent out in
service to you guys to help you guys in
his brotherly loving of a way as
possible but if a guy's not hearing me
I'm gonna be like dude what no good Matt
we gotta fix this right right again
you've always been you know you listen
up and you do it and you like okay you
know I'm gonna do it and then I think a
big part of the work later on it's been
really really to get those fear levels
lower and lower which has been happening
beautifully lately too because you're
doing the other stuff that helps with
that which is a lot of the inner self
it's not just you know you can grind it
out now it's about making it natural and
effortless which you know more that's
that's where you are more and more that
I see that's pretty much where you're at
there's like a little bit right but you
but you and even the last few weeks been
making leaps and bounds for what I could
see yeah I feel like I have to yeah
awesome man thanks for thanks for being
here sharing your insights and your
experience and all about with everybody
and that's all we got that's that's
that's all she wrote folks so thanks
again Jeff and I'll talk to you soon
okay
see you guys good


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