❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
So we came up with some points
overall you're honestly doing a great job
we just want to make sure you'd ok with the job parameters
so to that end
>moderating will rely on her being able to reach a decision/outcome without applying the rules to the majority of situations that are against the rules,  and won't require discipline action
>situations not in the rules will require discipline action
if you think you can work with those scenarios
then we're smooth sailing
chililily03/09/2019
the wording on the first point is tripping me up a little, could you elaborate?
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
Ok so there are a lot of times when people "break the rules" but we don't discipline them bc they're minor offenses ie things that lead to verbal warnings or reminders rather than actual warnings
it's about learning to read which situations are which
chililily03/09/2019
oh yeah, I feel like I'm fairly clear on that although since it's being brought up :thinking:
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
ok, i mean this is just me checking in
to make sure you feel comfortable with it
i mean it's never comfortable but you do learn more
chililily03/09/2019
yeah, I can pick up on things through observation and such, it just takes a lot longer
hence the questions and argumentation sometimes, those are all attempts to pin down some things so I have something a lil more solid to work with
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
yeah that makes sense
cool :smiley: it's something we can pay attn to
do you remember when your trial is up?
chililily03/09/2019
mm march 13 I think, although february being a shorter month, if it's 30 days it would be a little after that
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
ok, we'll check in again next week then
chililily03/09/2019
aight
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
any questions for me or the execs at large
chililily03/09/2019
:thinking: not much in particular, although I've been thinking a bit about how to best diffuse conflict in lounge and such. I don't really like being aggressive but it's kind of been my fall-back, and been wondering about better ways to go about it
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
hmm.
sometimes we have to put our feet down
the more you can phrase things as questions the better
and don't say "or else" yknow but basically like, This conversation has to end or it we will need to continue it in private
leaving that "open ending" of "we can talk about it" alos helps
chililily03/09/2019
yeah...I just remember, when I was on the other side of things, being told to simply drop conversations was often rather frustrating to me. it kind of adds a sense of not being heard, yknow? but getting more involved than that in a public channel also doesn't seem ideal
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
right which is why offering the private space to talk to a mod usually diffuses because it's a threat but not a
threat
and it says ok we'll hear your side
but also says it's inapprops to talk here
chililily03/09/2019
mm, I do like that approach and I've done it at least once. it doesn't seem like something that's used often though, or it could just be that contexts sometimes don't allow easily for that
oh, now that I think about it
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
it's very often that contexts don't allow but i think we can also teach the others
chililily03/09/2019
I had a question about situations where more than one person involved is brought into muted/office
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
sure
chililily03/09/2019
particularly in the last case there was a lot of "I'm the one getting targeted, what about the rest?" sentiments going on
which brought up the question of like, how much to disclose about others' situations in that case
like normally it's usually not really appropriate to discuss moderating actions made regarding other members, but in that kind of case not disclosing can contribute to a feeling of mistreatment and such
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
So in that case we usually say "The other party(s) are being addressed as well but we do not share what disciplinary actions, if any, are taken. You'd have to ask them."
chililily03/09/2019
alright
❀ ȥҽɳ ❀03/09/2019
If it's something like the other person got banned
you can tell that that they got banned but not the specific reason
the rest of it is just privacy stuff
i lean on that a lot
"for the privacy of our other users"
i need to run afk for a few -- feel free to leave more questions if you want to! :zenhrt:
chililily03/09/2019
I think that's probably it for now, thanks o/