(6:00:29 PM) Honey: PL: Have I done something to offend you James?
(6:00:32 PM) Lost left the room (quit: Quit: Have you ever shaved a mokole?).
(6:01:00 PM) JamesBeckett: No. Im just smoking
(6:01:08 PM) JamesBeckett: Don't ...want you getting it
(6:01:32 PM) Taho-Nefer: HArley>  IF you did, you're stealing my shtick, Honey.  Granted, I'm banished to halfway across the world, so I suppose somebody has to be the asshole there.
(6:01:52 PM) JamesBeckett: Lot on my mind right now..
(6:02:00 PM) JamesBeckett: The old nervous habit is back
(6:02:02 PM) Honey: PL: Oh...:::she pauses and listens to Harley::: I do miss you Harley.
(6:02:11 PM) Honey: PL: What’s on your mind?
(6:02:45 PM) JamesBeckett: Not sure how much of it has been made public.
(6:03:01 PM) JamesBeckett: So cant say much if kat didn't share yet.
(6:03:18 PM) Honey: PL: We are not public. We are pack and...what happened when -I- didn’t share things?
(6:03:42 PM) JamesBeckett: They asked Kat to be matriarch of the kumpania.
(6:04:01 PM) Taho-Nefer: I miss you too, Honey.
(6:04:10 PM) Taho-Nefer: That's not surprising, Jimmy.
(6:04:11 PM) JamesBeckett: But to do so she has to accept three husbands.  One from each of the families.
(6:04:26 PM) JamesBeckett: So ya know..  the whole monogamy thing in me is screaming
(6:04:34 PM) Honey: PL: Yup. I told Penn this the other day. Knew it was gonna happen.
(6:05:00 PM) Honey: PL: She could always say no, can’t she?
(6:05:28 PM) JamesBeckett: She can.  But i want it to be her choice. Not because she felt she had to for me...
(6:06:49 PM) Taho-Nefer: Seems like you've got a choice, then, Jimmy.  But only if she chooses to do the job.  You either walk away from her, or you suck it up and realize that she's not taking other lovers by choice, but by culture and duty.
(6:07:09 PM) JamesBeckett: I understand perfectly.
(6:08:05 PM) JamesBeckett: In the end. I love Kat. I just... there's a lot we both need to think of here.
(6:08:21 PM) Taho-Nefer: Honestly, I'm not sure that you do.  Because you're making it about you, and it really isn't about you at all.
(6:09:00 PM) JamesBeckett: There's more to it than that Harley.
(6:09:24 PM) JamesBeckett: This isn't just a political union.  They expect her to have families with all of them.
(6:09:36 PM) JamesBeckett: We haven't even established that she wants kids uet.
(6:09:56 PM) Taho-Nefer: I never said it was a political union.  And I figured that they would expect that.  You're not Kin.  You don't get it.
(6:10:19 PM) JamesBeckett: Yep. Apparently im just bein a selfish prick here.
(6:10:23 PM) JamesBeckett: Great talk.
(6:10:25 PM) Taho-Nefer: Pretty much.
(6:10:44 PM) JamesBeckett: And this is why i refuse to open up lately. Fuck you
(6:10:48 PM) Attamark: Eva: Not everyone can do the whole poly thing, nothing selfish about it.
(6:10:58 PM) JamesBeckett: Thanks Eva...
(6:11:14 PM) Taho-Nefer: If Sage had to take another spouse or multiples for the sake of her Tribe, I'd be surprised if she didn't do it.  Because that's this life is, and always HAS been, about.
(6:11:35 PM) JamesBeckett: That doesn't mean you have to accept it.
(6:11:43 PM) JamesBeckett: None of us do.
(6:11:52 PM) Taho-Nefer: Would I like it?  Fuck no.  But it's part of this fucked up life.  You can't accept it, that's on YOU.  Not on HER.
(6:12:04 PM) JamesBeckett: Cool. Thanks.
(6:12:36 PM) JamesBeckett: Ill just get my shit and go then. Cause clearly im holding her back.
(6:13:31 PM) Attamark: Eva: And the fact they share a life, means nothing before this decision came to them Harley?