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- It's not.
- we semi-seriously talked about marriage somewhere down the line
- she talked about losing her virginity to me. thats a huge decision
- those both have to count pretty big
- oops forgot the point in the first one
- she said she'd always pictured marrying a christian. but maybe not anymore
- When was all of this, though?
- both were still floating around just over a week ago
- See, that's strange
- also
- did you initiate most of these points, or did she?
- those were both totally her doing
- I didnt even bring them up
- See, that's really incongruous...
- and its the fact that she says shes literally ONLY JUST realised she has feelings for this other guy
- its like she sees that
- and she panics
- it makes her think about us
- and how the distance sucks
- so shes scared. thinks its too hard. shes scared because of these feelings, she thinks its just going to get harder
- plausible?
- oh yeah and another pretty important bit
- she said the otherguy revelation happened just before the conference
- and it was the reality of the conference and that, and me not being there when I was going to be because it changed to december
- and thats what made her think of it all
- so shes starting to look at things differently. and this is her first serious relationship so she doesnt know how to handle it
- i mean. this could all just be made up crap in my head to justify my ridiculousness
- but the way it all happened
- would suggest all the above
- See, the fact that she was bringing up all those things that recently definitely throws some of my other ideas out the window
- But I'm not sure she'd "panic", as you put it
- She doesn't seem the type, or is she...?
- I think she may be
- shes a very organised person
- she sees stuff going wrong
- and she wants to sort it out
- she wants everything to be tidy
- as it were
- but is she the type to make snap decisions?
- ...no
- in fact she's very indecisive
- You have to consider that
- hmm
- but then that works both ways
- because it means that shes still thinking about the decision shes made about us
- so you see
- there are all these questions
- do you see now why I want "closure"?
- I saw it before
- but I repeat: It sounds like you've basically made up your mind, and you're just looking for agreement from other people
- I'm not. I mean its just the way I'm working it, I am just trying to justify it. because thats probably what I want. what I need is for you to knock me back to reality if it sounds completely worthless
- But you said earlier that it isn't black and white.
- so i'm explaining it all to you in the hope that youre seeing what im seeing. and you see that there is a shred of hope that would make it worth doing
- what isnt black and white?
- This situation
- What you're doing is you're expecting someone else to help make the choice, so that if it fails you'll feel better that at least you didn't make a crazy move without consulting someone first
- yes
- exactly
- I mean I know you'll always say dont do it (go see her). that is always the sensible answer. I guess what I'm trying to achieve is for you to be able to say "It was stupid, but I can see why he did it". If you arent able to say that, then I'll definetely reconsider
- But this isn't the type of choice you can depend on someone else for, really
- okay well I guess my only question I can ask you is, does it still sound as dumb as when I first said it. or can you see why I want to now? because as you said, I'm in a very irrational state. I do need advising. I know you cant give me the defining answer. I just want to know if I'm being 100% crazy, or if there's method behind the madness
- The madness came before the method.
- wat
- You're using logic to try to justify the crazy idea. That's not saying that the logic makes no sense -- but it sounds like you made it up after the idea had already struck.
- it's not like that. I've been talking with my housemate about it for hours. I explained everything to her which means I've already been through it all. she was the one that brought up the idea. I may have mentioned it in passing but I was over it. she rekindled the idea. she agrees that it doesnt all seem to add up
- I think that the reaction to your idea will change with each person you tell it to
- You always have to take personality into account when accepting advice from anyone
- an optimist will always give different advice from a realist, and so on
- you would appear to be a realist
- Don't judge too quickly
- I'm trying, but the hopeless romantic in me is also yelling inside my head.
- what does she say?
- She says go. But it's the same voice that's telling you to go, and there's no logic in that voice -- mostly years of watching romance movies and wanting to jump in front of a bus. (d)
- well then im back to: its better to regret what you did do than regret something you could have done but didnt
- I'm sure there's an equally convincing that would justify the opposite. But really, haven't you made the choice already?
- Here's what it comes down to: You can go, and I will support your decision even if there's no real logic behind it. But I will not say that it was founded logic, because it's not
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