How to deal with a Many-To-Many Relation in my API

// Responsible for the relation
    public class Foo
    {
        List<Bar> Bars = new List<Bar>();

        public void AddBar(Bar bar)
        {
            Bars.Add(bar);
            bar.AddFoo(this);
        }
    }

    public class Bar
    {
        List<Foo> Foos = new List<Foo>();

        // This shouldn't exist.
        public void AddFoo(Foo foo)
        {
            Foos.Add(foo);
            foo.AddBar(this); // Inf Recursion
        }
    }

public class Foo
{
   private IList<Bar> Bars {get;set;}

   public void AddBar(Bar bar)
   {
      Bars.Add(bar);
      bar.Foos.Add(this);
   }
}

public class Bar
{
   internal IList<Foo> Foos {get;set;}
}

protected Set getEvents() {
	return events;
}

protected void setEvents(Set events) {
	this.events = events;
}

public void addToEvent(Event event) {
	this.getEvents().add(event);
	event.getParticipants().add(this);
}

public void removeFromEvent(Event event) {
	this.getEvents().remove(event);
	event.getParticipants().remove(this);
}

DALFactory.FooAdapter.getBars(foo);

public class Foo
{
    List<Bar> Bars = new List<Bar>();

    public void AddBar(Bar bar)
    {
        Bars.Add(bar);
        Bar.AddFoo(bar,this);
    }
}

public class Bar
{
    List<Foo> Foos = new List<Foo>();

    // This shouldn't exist.
    public static void AddFoo(Bar bar, Foo foo)
    {
        bar.Foos.Add(foo);
        //foo.AddBar(this); inf recurtion
    }
}