If one treats sexual urges as something to deny Puritanically, he is attached to them and gives them power over himself to cause a sudden panicked indulgence. A man can delete a dirty folder, but it is possible that the room inside the heart remains unclean. What defiles the heart is not porn nor lust but delusions which surround it. What is sinful is not fapping, and what is virtuous is not abstinence. Indeed, one man faps and falls into hell; another faps and communes with angels.  What separates them are their reasons for doing what they do. A wicked heart taints all endeavors with sin. What is evil if not a burden in the heart? Such burdens are nothing but heavy chains collected over a lifetime. A man conducts with his breath and a free heart beats to the tune. What is cause for alarm, breath decides, and what is worthy of peace, is determined by breath also. But a heart in chains plays different songs.  At every moment, a decision is made on what to put inside the heart. Fear, and fear enters it. Hate, and hate enters. Excite, and excitation enters. So it is also by the same means that courage, love, and peace find their dwelling. When a man seeks control of desires, he does battle with himself, and when he distances himself from objects of desires he admits defeat. But such a man is full of folly both for not dealing with himself amicably and for not recognizing the objects entered his heart, not just his presence. If he realizes this, he might take inventory of his heart's possessions and ask regarding each one, "Is it made of virtue?"  So it might be said some men own porn of virtue, but who has made the virtue is not the pornographer but rather the viewer, and the means by which immorality is transformed into virtue are only possible with an unburdened heart. A mind in the gutter, makes the whole world the gutter. Indeed, it is by chains of attachment that porn injures a man, and what is attached are many vile things. Attach the heart to fear, and the porn induces fear. Attach the heart to misery, and the porn turns into misery. Attach the heart to restlessness, and the porn is unrelenting. Attach the heart to darkness, and the next surprise visit by lewd form will be a demon from hell empowered by its victim.  What is the difference between chains of attachment and wings of liberation? That which enchains is full of delusions—things whose nature isn't understood. That which liberates is transparent to reveal both sides. Therefore, don't be confused. Lust is vanquished by being at peace with it. When the pressure of lust is finally seen as illusion, lust itself becomes one face of liberation, and the delusion defiles the heart no more. Lust weighs down on the one attached to lust. Fill the heart with better things, and there is no room for lust to dwell.  Whether or not one sees porn ever again, or whether or not one faps again, temptation can come to pull on old chains. Lust may come, and with it a stressful sense of unyielding urgency to release and restlessness. It is not by frustration or denial that lust leaves. It is by observing it and remembering to breathe. Perhaps it still doesn't leave, but being troubled by it is worse than not being troubled by it. By remembering the chains are not real, one becomes free. Some may also want to fly, but they should first make certain that their wings are not made of wax like Icarus. Flying should come as easy as walking. Is there anxiety or tension? Relax. Breathe. Is there shame or fear? Stand upright and be courageous. Is there hunger? Be content. Is there weakness? Be strong. Is there hatred or spitefulness? The malice injures oneself, so feel love inside. Is there sadness? Be joyful. Sexuality is not inherently sinful, but wicked ways make all matters wicked. Still, in a world where all is permissible, not all things are preferable or ideal. Whether no more porn or no more fapping, they become rewarding and practical when the heart is ready.