$ServerList = @()

foreach ($p in $RefList)
{
    $Server = New-Object System.Object
    $Server | Add-Member -MemberType NoteProperty -Name RefrenceList -Value $p.Name

    $ServerList += $Server
}

foreach ($s in $VMList)
{
    $Server = New-Object System.Object
    $Server | Add-Member -MemberType NoteProperty -Name vCenter -Value $s.name

    $ServerList += $Server
}

$ServerList = @()

foreach ($p in $RefList)
{
    $Server = New-Object System.Object
    $Server | Add-Member -MemberType NoteProperty -NameRefrenceList -Value $p.Name

    $ServerList += $Server
}

Foreach ($server in $serverlist)
{
    if ($vmlist -contains $server)
    {
        $server | add-member -MemberTypeNoteProperty -Name VMList -Value $Server
    }
}

$ServerList = $reflist | select Name, SQL,SCCM, AD, VCenter #as needed.

foreach ($server in $ServerList)
{
  if ($vmlist -contains $server)
  {
    $Server.VCenter =  $Server.Name
  }
  if ($sqllist -contains $server)
  {
    $Server.SQL =  $Server.Name
  }
 #....
}