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- Subtitles by explosiveskull
- www.OpenSubtitles.org
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- I like this.
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- I like being friends
- with you. This is fun.
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- Come on. Come on.
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- What? You like this?
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- - Yes!
- - You don't like being in a relationship,
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- - like an official relationship?
- - Mm... yeah, I did not say that.
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- Um, I think it's best
- we don't talk about that.
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- - We focus on now, me and you.
- - Okay, let's talk about now.
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- - Okay.
- - Now is I don't care about labels.
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- I don't care what we call
- ourselves, okay? It's...
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- 00:00:48,488 --> 00:00:51,158
- No, Nate, it's not about labels.
- It's just like I don't know
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- where I'm gonna be
- a year from now. So...
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- 00:00:53,426 --> 00:00:56,096
- - What, are you quitting your job?
- - Maybe.
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- Maybe I'll, you know,
- teach English abroad.
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- - Or I'll join the Peace Corps.
- - The Peace Corps?
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- Yes, yes. They need IT people just like everybody else.
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- Look, I just don't know where
- I'm gonna be a year from now.
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- And so I don't want you waiting around
- for me. It's just not fair to you.
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- - I don't care. Okay? What I care about is...
- - Oh.
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- - Hey, what's up?
- - <i>Hey.</i>
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- - You guys?
- - Yeah? You okay?
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- You guys? Josh. Josh!
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- I'm sorry.
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- I thought you were
- shitting in there!
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- Oh, my God!
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- What? What'd I miss?
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- Uh, well, we were
- just saying, um,
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- if it's a girl, we were
- thinking of calling her Sarah.
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- - After Aunt Sarah.
- - Oh, my God!
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- - What do you think?
- - I love it!
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- - You do?
- - Yes!
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- Oh, I think
- you have the wrong table.
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- Oh, no, no,
- you have the right table.
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- The two glasses are
- for the gentlemen.
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- - Jess! No!
- - Yes, yes, yes.
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- You can show solidarity
- with me starting tomorrow.
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- Tonight we're celebrating
- your... this isn't about me.
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- 00:03:02,421 --> 00:03:05,391
- - Yes, please, pour, pour.
- - Okay, fine, fine, fine.
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- 00:03:05,425 --> 00:03:08,061
- - But tonight we are paying.
- - We'll see about that.
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- No, if she tries to give you her
- credit card, please do not take it.
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- No, don't rope her into this!
- I'm so sorry, we're the worst.
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- - You're fine.
- - Oh, but you know what? Um...
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- I will have a Diet Coke.
- I'm not drinking tonight.
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- - Pregnancy.
- - Oh, my God! Congratulations!
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- What? Oh, oh,
- she's not gonna tell anyone.
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- - Look, don't tell anyone.
- - I'm very trustworthy.
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- No, no, I just don't want to tell
- anyone until, like, the third trimester.
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- Okay. You know what? It's my bad.
- We can wait until the kid's first birthday
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- to tell people, it'll
- be your call. I'm sorry.
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- - It's fine. I'm sorry.
- - This is very sweet.
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- My siblings would never include
- me in this type of thing.
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- - Oh, they...
- - We're actually not siblings.
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- They're the new parents.
- I'm just the vessel.
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- Ew! No. Oh, my gosh. We are
- not using the word "vessel."
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- - That's a little...
- - Oh, my God. I'm so sorry.
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- You guys,
- dessert's gonna be on us.
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- - No! You don't have to do that!
- - You don't have to do that.
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- - No, seriously. I'm an asshole.
- - No, you're totally fine!
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- So they're not paying you?
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- First of all, it is illegal to
- pay for surrogacy in New York.
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- Second of all, no,
- that would be weird!
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- It's funny, I'm already getting comments
- from people saying I'm doing it for money.
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- I'm like, no, are you crazy?
- There's so many other ways to make money.
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- - Hm...
- - I'm doing this because I want to.
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- And because Josh
- and Aaron deserve...
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- 00:04:33,113 --> 00:04:37,584
- - So was I the last to know?
- - No. No, no. Um...
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- When I say "people,"
- I mean Jocelyn.
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- Before I called you and Dad,
- I talked to Jocelyn, that's it.
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- And they are reimbursing me
- for every copay,
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- every piece of maternity wear,
- every prenatal vitamin, even food.
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- - It's all in the contract.
- - Good.
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- I mean, it's not a contract,
- it's an agreement.
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- But we're being very by-the-book.
- We each have lawyers.
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- - Yeah, and they're gonna be great dads.
- - Okay.
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- - And you're feeling good?
- - Mm-hm. Mm-hm.
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- I feel great.
- I have no nausea.
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- - Do you know how lucky you are?
- - Yes.
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- I couldn't stop throwing up.
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- My morning sickness
- was so bad
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- I was worried the two of you
- weren't getting enough nutrients.
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- I know, Mom, you've told us
- a million times.
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- - Yeah.
- - Well...
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- Now, as life-changing as
- a fiction writing class can be,
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- we want to offer, um,
- a broader range of skills
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- to help these women in the job
- market once they've been released.
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- Now, the largest roadblock
- to that...
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- - It isn't allowed in prison.
- - Yes, exactly.
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- Um, so that's why we're interested
- in hiring a team of developers
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- to customize software that
- would simulate the internet.
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- - Hm.
- - Which we currently don't have the budget for.
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- I follow. I was thinking,
- why do you need us?
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- Tell me more.
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- Absolutely. And I've
- tried to partner with them,
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- and it's just not something
- that they're interested in.
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- They only serve men and this is
- already a male-dominated field.
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- But you know what?
- We got really close. That's great.
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- Next time we'll be closer. I mean,
- there are so many other potential donors
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- - who'd be into this.
- - Jess, Jess. I'm so sorry, but this is not your job.
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- I think this is a good
- opportunity for you to refocus.
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- This project
- is a great, great idea,
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- but I think for now it's best if we
- focus on the basics of what we do.
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- We're not where I'd like us
- to be in terms of the gala.
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- - Okay.
- - Have you sent out the "save the date" email?
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- I will do that right now.
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- Yeah.
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- - Hey, we can just order food.
- - No, this'll take me like two seconds.
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- Okay, just don't make it
- like a whole production.
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- - Oh, some people just say, "Thank you, Jess."
- - Thank you, Jess.
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- - Huh.
- - Hey, how's, um, Nate?
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- - Um...
- - Oh, okay. You don't have to talk about it
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- - if you don't want to.
- - No, no, you're fine. Um...
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- He clearly wants to get married, and I don't
- think it's that kind of a relationship.
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- - No, I think he's great.
- - He is great, he's just boring.
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- You don't understand, babe. Jess is only
- attracted to emotionally unavailable men.
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- Uh, false. I'm also attracted to men
- who live in different cities from me.
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- Yeah, right, right. Geographically unavailable men.
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- How far along are you?
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- 00:08:06,659 --> 00:08:10,363
- - I am 32 weeks.
- - Oh, my God!
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- - Congratulations!
- - Thank you. What about you?
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- - Um, ten weeks.
- - Oh.
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- But it's not mine.
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- Biologically...
- biologically it is.
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- But I...
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- I'm a surrogate
- for my two best friends.
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- Oh. Wow.
- That's really cool.
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- - I could never do that.
- - Oh, you know, people say that all the time.
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- But I'm like, no,
- I think you could.
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- I mean, I don't know you.
- But I feel like anyone could.
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- Wow.
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- - Sorry.
- - No, we're totally fine.
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- We are gonna be late.
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- The test came back positive
- for Down syndrome. Trisomy 21.
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- 00:09:09,121 --> 00:09:12,659
- As I mentioned,
- the test is 99 percent accurate.
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- False positives
- are extremely rare.
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- I have a genetic counselor I can recommend
- who can guide you through your options.
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- I can also give you the information
- of a great community center
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- if you want to learn more
- about Down syndrome.
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- There's nothing you did
- that caused this,
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- and we have no reason to believe at this point
- that the fetus isn't perfectly healthy.
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- It just has an extra chromosome.
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- If you want to get pregnant
- again in the future,
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- we have no reason to believe
- that you're any more likely
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- than anyone else to have another
- child with Down syndrome.
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- 00:09:57,770 --> 00:10:01,441
- Now, do you have
- any questions for me?
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- Josh, you okay in there?
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- Josh?
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- 00:10:48,821 --> 00:10:52,459
- - How you doing?
- - Hey.
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- You know you've been in there
- for like 45 minutes, right?
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- - Oh. I have?
- - Yeah. You're gonna be pruney.
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- 00:11:18,083 --> 00:11:22,054
- Aaron's on his way back.
- Do you want to get something for dinner?
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- 00:11:22,087 --> 00:11:26,525
- - I'm not hungry.
- - Well, you have to eat something.
- 153
- 00:11:27,659 --> 00:11:30,195
- Do you think
- I came across, like...?
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- What?
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- Like I actively wanted him
- to go to work
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- because I didn't
- want him around today?
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- 00:11:37,135 --> 00:11:40,573
- - No, no.
- - I just don't want to be a burden.
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- 00:11:40,606 --> 00:11:42,075
- I feel like I've been
- so much to...
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- No. Hey,
- you're not a burden.
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- I just, like, I want him
- to be able to process,
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- 00:11:47,779 --> 00:11:50,283
- you know, without
- feeling like he's... you know.
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- Yeah.
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- 00:11:59,025 --> 00:12:03,996
- Oh...
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- 00:12:09,068 --> 00:12:11,571
- - Hi.
- - <i>Hi.</i>
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- 00:12:11,603 --> 00:12:15,240
- - Hey, can we talk later?
- - <i>What's wrong?</i>
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- 00:12:15,274 --> 00:12:18,512
- Nothing. Uh...
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- 00:12:20,579 --> 00:12:23,883
- <i>Josh, are you there?</i>
- 168
- 00:12:26,718 --> 00:12:30,991
- <i>We can talk later.
- Just tell me why you're upset.</i>
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- 00:12:39,765 --> 00:12:41,867
- Hey, Jodi, this is Jess.
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- 00:12:41,900 --> 00:12:45,604
- <i>Jess. Hi, dear.
- What's going on?</i>
- 171
- 00:12:45,638 --> 00:12:48,241
- We just got some news today.
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- 00:13:22,875 --> 00:13:27,679
- I hate the lines.
- I think they need to be more prominent.
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- - Okay. Sure.
- - Thicker, maybe?
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- 00:13:29,749 --> 00:13:33,153
- And the color...
- I don't know.
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- 00:13:45,398 --> 00:13:51,004
- - Did you guys sleep last night?
- - Sort of.
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- Jess? Josh and Aaron!
- Oh, my God!
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- 00:13:58,309 --> 00:14:02,414
- - Dave and Kevin!
- - Alex just told us the good news. Mazel tov!
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- 00:14:02,448 --> 00:14:07,053
- - Oh, thank you. We're excited.
- - It's really exciting.
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- 00:14:07,086 --> 00:14:09,322
- - What week is it?
- - Uh, 13.
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- 00:14:09,355 --> 00:14:12,392
- - Oh, wow.
- - Do we know the gender yet?
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- 00:14:12,424 --> 00:14:14,993
- - Not yet.
- - Oh.
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- Don't ask that. That is...
- It's just so insane
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- that we even gender
- at birth, right?
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- 00:14:19,832 --> 00:14:22,168
- Yeah. Totally. Um...
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- 00:14:22,201 --> 00:14:26,172
- Well, it was really good to see you guys.
- I hope you're doing well.
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- 00:14:26,204 --> 00:14:29,275
- Oh, yeah, totally.
- Likewise. And...
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- 00:14:29,308 --> 00:14:32,779
- - We'll just...
- - Yeah. How about we see if there's a table outside.
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- 00:14:32,812 --> 00:14:34,714
- - We were gonna...
- - We were gonna sit outside.
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- 00:14:34,746 --> 00:14:36,782
- - Oh, great.
- - Okay, enjoy.
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- 00:14:36,816 --> 00:14:39,753
- - See you. Bye.
- - Good seeing you.
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- 00:14:53,765 --> 00:14:58,170
- So are you guys gonna go to that
- community center that Nadine mentioned?
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- 00:14:58,203 --> 00:15:02,074
- Um... I don't know.
- We haven't really talked about it yet.
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- I, um... I mean, I knew somebody
- with Down syndrome growing up, so...
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- 00:15:06,478 --> 00:15:09,848
- - You did?
- - I don't really... yeah. My friend Kelsey's brother.
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- Oh. Well, um, aren't you curious to
- get a sense of the community here?
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- Uh, yeah. We were just...
- We have to find out when they're open.
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- It's every afternoon
- except Sunday.
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- 00:15:23,129 --> 00:15:25,231
- Mm-hm.
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- 00:15:27,232 --> 00:15:30,035
- - Hi.
- - Hi.
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- 00:15:30,068 --> 00:15:32,472
- - Hi, sorry. Can I help you?
- - I'm Jess.
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- - I called you earlier.
- - Oh, right. Oh, Jess.
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- - Yes, thank you. Thank you for coming.
- - Hi.
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- 00:15:37,943 --> 00:15:40,212
- - And, uh, you're Aaron. Right?
- - Uh, Josh.
- 204
- 00:15:40,246 --> 00:15:43,348
- - Oh, Josh. Nice to meet you. Welcome.
- - Nice to meet you.
- 205
- 00:15:43,381 --> 00:15:47,319
- An activity session just started,
- actually, so let's... Oh, hey.
- 206
- 00:15:47,352 --> 00:15:49,789
- - This is Malik.
- - Hi, Malik, I'm Jess.
- 207
- 00:15:49,822 --> 00:15:52,924
- - Hi.
- - Jess. Josh. He's a great singer.
- 208
- 00:15:52,957 --> 00:15:54,993
- Bye, Malik.
- 209
- 00:15:55,026 --> 00:15:57,796
- - Okay, so just this way.
- - Okay.
- 210
- 00:16:17,917 --> 00:16:20,954
- Hi.
- 211
- 00:16:26,257 --> 00:16:28,293
- What are you guys playing with?
- 212
- 00:16:28,327 --> 00:16:30,462
- Yeah.
- 213
- 00:16:31,329 --> 00:16:33,098
- You wanna...?
- 214
- 00:16:35,034 --> 00:16:38,303
- You put it in here and then...
- 215
- 00:16:41,472 --> 00:16:43,543
- I don't know.
- 216
- 00:16:46,245 --> 00:16:48,181
- Hey!
- 217
- 00:16:48,213 --> 00:16:50,949
- Hey! What's your name?
- 218
- 00:16:50,982 --> 00:16:53,886
- Hey, Leon.
- Can I look in there?
- 219
- 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:57,990
- Wait, where am I?
- 220
- 00:16:58,023 --> 00:16:59,425
- Oh!
- 221
- 00:17:00,558 --> 00:17:02,562
- Oh, man,
- you're taking me away!
- 222
- 00:17:02,595 --> 00:17:04,430
- You're taking me away!
- 223
- 00:17:04,462 --> 00:17:06,099
- What? Okay.
- 224
- 00:17:11,536 --> 00:17:14,105
- Leon!
- 225
- 00:17:14,139 --> 00:17:17,310
- What's all this money
- on the floor?
- 226
- 00:17:18,643 --> 00:17:21,146
- There he is!
- 227
- 00:17:30,488 --> 00:17:32,991
- Wesley, where's yellow?
- 228
- 00:17:33,025 --> 00:17:36,195
- - Ah!
- - Where's yellow?
- 229
- 00:17:39,331 --> 00:17:41,400
- Give me five!
- 230
- 00:17:43,002 --> 00:17:45,404
- Oh! Are you okay?
- 231
- 00:17:45,437 --> 00:17:50,176
- - Where?
- - You can give me five. Yeah.
- 232
- 00:17:50,208 --> 00:17:54,447
- V! Another easy one.
- 233
- 00:17:54,479 --> 00:17:57,249
- W!
- 234
- 00:17:57,283 --> 00:18:00,419
- - Here we go.
- - X!
- 235
- 00:18:00,451 --> 00:18:03,188
- - Yes, exactly, X!
- - Good job.
- 236
- 00:18:03,221 --> 00:18:05,657
- Y!
- 237
- 00:18:05,690 --> 00:18:07,959
- And for a Z,
- you just draw a Z.
- 238
- 00:18:07,993 --> 00:18:12,063
- Z!
- 239
- 00:18:12,096 --> 00:18:15,166
- And then now...
- 240
- 00:18:19,204 --> 00:18:22,642
- Hi, hi. How's it going?
- 241
- 00:18:22,675 --> 00:18:25,645
- - Hi, Patrick.
- - Hi. I'm Jess.
- 242
- 00:18:25,678 --> 00:18:27,313
- Hi, I'm Rachel.
- Nice to meet you.
- 243
- 00:18:27,345 --> 00:18:29,347
- - Josh.
- - Josh, hi. Sandra.
- 244
- 00:18:29,380 --> 00:18:31,918
- - I'm Jess.
- - Sandra. I...
- 245
- 00:18:31,950 --> 00:18:34,120
- - Excuse us.
- - Bye, nice to see you.
- 246
- 00:18:34,152 --> 00:18:38,591
- - Bye.
- - My son used to come here, but, you know, he's grown now.
- 247
- 00:18:38,623 --> 00:18:41,928
- But you, uh... you don't wanna
- get rid of him, do you?
- 248
- 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:44,063
- - No.
- - No, okay. Good to see you.
- 249
- 00:18:44,095 --> 00:18:45,563
- - Yeah.
- - You're here.
- 250
- 00:18:45,596 --> 00:18:47,632
- - Preggers?
- - Uh, yes, I am.
- 251
- 00:18:47,666 --> 00:18:49,669
- - Congratulations.
- - I will actually... thank you.
- 252
- 00:18:49,701 --> 00:18:52,938
- - I'll let you guys get caught up and I'll be right back.
- - Yeah, sure.
- 253
- 00:18:52,971 --> 00:18:54,472
- Thanks.
- 254
- 00:18:54,505 --> 00:18:57,476
- - Hey. Hey!
- - Hi.
- 255
- 00:18:57,508 --> 00:19:00,278
- Um, I just want to tell you
- I love your dress.
- 256
- 00:19:00,312 --> 00:19:03,649
- - Oh, thanks.
- - Where did you get it from?
- 257
- 00:19:03,681 --> 00:19:06,051
- We can't...
- we have to leave this here.
- 258
- 00:19:06,084 --> 00:19:08,219
- Play with it... I know.
- Okay, two more times.
- 259
- 00:19:08,253 --> 00:19:11,691
- - I think this is vintage.
- - Oh, that's amazing.
- 260
- 00:19:11,724 --> 00:19:13,993
- - Did you get it here?
- - No, Chicago.
- 261
- 00:19:14,025 --> 00:19:16,294
- Oh, of course. All the stores
- here are so picked over, right?
- 262
- 00:19:16,328 --> 00:19:18,097
- Leon, honey,
- this has to stay here.
- 263
- 00:19:18,130 --> 00:19:20,232
- - Hey!
- - Let's go, my love. Let's go.
- 264
- 00:19:20,265 --> 00:19:21,734
- We'll do it next time.
- Out the door.
- 265
- 00:19:21,766 --> 00:19:25,236
- Bye, Leon! I'm Jess.
- It was really great to meet you!
- 266
- 00:19:25,269 --> 00:19:28,273
- Bye,
- nice to see you, Leon!
- 267
- 00:19:29,574 --> 00:19:31,643
- It was really nice to meet you.
- Thank you.
- 268
- 00:19:31,677 --> 00:19:34,513
- Yeah, anytime.
- Just give me an email, give me a shout.
- 269
- 00:19:34,545 --> 00:19:36,582
- Actually, I think we
- have time for coffee.
- 270
- 00:19:36,614 --> 00:19:38,984
- - Is there a coffee shop somewhere nearby?
- - Sure.
- 271
- 00:19:39,017 --> 00:19:40,518
- - Uh... okay?
- - That's a great idea.
- 272
- 00:19:40,552 --> 00:19:42,053
- - Yeah.
- - You're good with people?
- 273
- 00:19:42,086 --> 00:19:43,755
- I am, yeah, yeah.
- Go, go, go.
- 274
- 00:19:43,788 --> 00:19:48,660
- Well, Jason's...
- he's in this program at UCLA,
- 275
- 00:19:48,694 --> 00:19:54,767
- which is great, but it's...
- it's really hard not having him around.
- 276
- 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:58,704
- He's... he's just
- my Zen master, he's...
- 277
- 00:19:58,736 --> 00:20:01,140
- He just reminds me
- to smell the flowers.
- 278
- 00:20:01,172 --> 00:20:03,708
- He's like, "Here,
- smell this flower."
- 279
- 00:20:03,742 --> 00:20:05,711
- You know,
- not having him here, it's...
- 280
- 00:20:05,744 --> 00:20:08,714
- Oh, I just... I'm just
- relapsing into old habits.
- 281
- 00:20:08,746 --> 00:20:11,150
- I'm sorry,
- I'm talking your ear off.
- 282
- 00:20:11,182 --> 00:20:14,052
- No, no. What about
- your old habits?
- 283
- 00:20:14,085 --> 00:20:16,588
- Oh, just old anxieties.
- 284
- 00:20:16,621 --> 00:20:20,458
- I just... I was raised in this
- very competitive household,
- 285
- 00:20:20,492 --> 00:20:23,195
- I went to Princeton for like
- three consecutive programs.
- 286
- 00:20:23,227 --> 00:20:25,563
- I mean, just imagine
- this pressure cooker,
- 287
- 00:20:25,596 --> 00:20:27,599
- and all these people
- running around terrified,
- 288
- 00:20:27,632 --> 00:20:29,668
- really having to prove
- how smart they are.
- 289
- 00:20:29,700 --> 00:20:33,706
- - My mom is a dean at Yale, so...
- - So, okay, you know. You know.
- 290
- 00:20:33,738 --> 00:20:37,142
- All right.
- So then Jason, he just...
- 291
- 00:20:37,176 --> 00:20:39,311
- He just...
- 292
- 00:20:39,343 --> 00:20:41,813
- He just snapped me
- right out of it, yeah.
- 293
- 00:20:41,846 --> 00:20:45,116
- He... he just...
- 294
- 00:20:45,150 --> 00:20:49,022
- He just taught me
- everything... everything.
- 295
- 00:20:50,522 --> 00:20:53,726
- Really realigned.
- Taught me everything.
- 296
- 00:20:53,758 --> 00:20:56,161
- Yeah. I'm...
- 297
- 00:20:56,195 --> 00:20:57,630
- That sounds really New Agey.
- 298
- 00:20:57,662 --> 00:21:00,498
- Oh, Josh and I met
- at Sarah Lawrence.
- 299
- 00:21:00,532 --> 00:21:03,535
- - Oh! Oh.
- - Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
- 300
- 00:21:03,569 --> 00:21:06,672
- The hardest part of this pregnancy
- has been not drinking kombucha.
- 301
- 00:21:06,705 --> 00:21:08,775
- Yeah. No, no, no.
- 302
- 00:21:46,611 --> 00:21:50,615
- Hey. Hey, what's up?
- Is everything okay?
- 303
- 00:21:54,152 --> 00:21:57,890
- - How's your mom?
- - Mm...
- 304
- 00:21:57,922 --> 00:22:00,758
- Um...
- 305
- 00:22:00,792 --> 00:22:03,329
- I've been avoiding her.
- 306
- 00:22:05,229 --> 00:22:08,833
- No need to stress her out,
- you know?
- 307
- 00:22:08,867 --> 00:22:12,138
- By that I mean no need to
- stress me out with her stress.
- 308
- 00:22:12,170 --> 00:22:14,172
- Mm-hm.
- 309
- 00:22:16,909 --> 00:22:20,412
- Have you been in touch
- with your friend Kelsey?
- 310
- 00:22:21,947 --> 00:22:24,150
- Because of her brother
- with Down syndrome?
- 311
- 00:22:24,182 --> 00:22:28,219
- - Mm-hm.
- - Mm...
- 312
- 00:22:28,253 --> 00:22:32,691
- No, her... her brother
- died years ago.
- 313
- 00:22:32,724 --> 00:22:34,927
- - Fuck.
- - Yeah.
- 314
- 00:22:34,959 --> 00:22:36,394
- What was his name?
- 315
- 00:22:37,862 --> 00:22:40,565
- Devon.
- 316
- 00:22:40,599 --> 00:22:43,869
- Did you have
- a relationship with him?
- 317
- 00:22:43,901 --> 00:22:46,804
- He wasn't really somebody you
- could have a relationship with.
- 318
- 00:22:46,838 --> 00:22:49,175
- What does that mean?
- 319
- 00:22:49,207 --> 00:22:52,378
- He didn't seem to know whether you
- were in the room with him or not.
- 320
- 00:22:52,410 --> 00:22:56,314
- I'm sure he was aware of your
- presence, even if he couldn't show it.
- 321
- 00:22:56,348 --> 00:23:00,353
- - You never met this person, Jess.
- - Yeah, but...
- 322
- 00:23:01,986 --> 00:23:05,190
- Okay. You're right.
- 323
- 00:23:11,662 --> 00:23:14,799
- Aaron was saying...
- 324
- 00:23:14,832 --> 00:23:20,672
- he doesn't know
- if we can afford it.
- 325
- 00:23:20,706 --> 00:23:22,808
- I mean, having a kid
- with Down syndrome,
- 326
- 00:23:22,841 --> 00:23:27,179
- it requires a lot.
- 327
- 00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:31,917
- Okay. Um...
- 328
- 00:23:31,949 --> 00:23:34,852
- - So are you saying...?
- - I don't know.
- 329
- 00:23:34,886 --> 00:23:40,492
- It's like nothing... nothing
- feels like the right decision.
- 330
- 00:23:40,525 --> 00:23:45,296
- - I don't know. I don't know.
- - Okay, you don't have to know right now.
- 331
- 00:23:45,330 --> 00:23:47,300
- It's only week 13.
- 332
- 00:23:58,610 --> 00:24:00,446
- Oh...
- 333
- 00:24:34,746 --> 00:24:36,915
- - Thanks for coming. It was a good turnout.
- - Yeah.
- 334
- 00:24:36,948 --> 00:24:40,451
- - Nice harmonizing, by the way.
- - Oh, thank you.
- 335
- 00:24:40,485 --> 00:24:43,022
- I wanted to tell you we're
- having a party here on the 21st.
- 336
- 00:24:43,054 --> 00:24:44,457
- - Okay.
- - So...
- 337
- 00:24:47,092 --> 00:24:48,794
- - Hey.
- - Hey.
- 338
- 00:24:48,826 --> 00:24:50,561
- I'm going this way too.
- 339
- 00:24:50,594 --> 00:24:52,630
- Sorry, remind me of your name?
- 340
- 00:24:52,663 --> 00:24:55,433
- I'm Jess.
- And you're Bridget, right?
- 341
- 00:24:55,467 --> 00:24:57,602
- - And Leon?
- - Good memory.
- 342
- 00:24:57,636 --> 00:24:59,705
- Thanks.
- 343
- 00:24:59,737 --> 00:25:02,707
- - So what do you do?
- - Mommy, look.
- 344
- 00:25:02,740 --> 00:25:06,844
- Look at these bubbles.
- 345
- 00:25:06,878 --> 00:25:09,648
- - Um, what do I...
- - Yeah, what do you do?
- 346
- 00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:11,350
- - For a living?
- - Uh-huh.
- 347
- 00:25:11,382 --> 00:25:13,986
- Oh. I, um...
- I run a catering business.
- 348
- 00:25:14,018 --> 00:25:16,988
- - Oh, awesome.
- - How about you?
- 349
- 00:25:17,022 --> 00:25:21,460
- I work for a nonprofit that
- provides classes for incarcerated women.
- 350
- 00:25:21,493 --> 00:25:24,996
- - Wow.
- - Yeah, I'm basically just a glorified social media manager.
- 351
- 00:25:25,030 --> 00:25:28,701
- And so are you
- volunteering at the center?
- 352
- 00:25:28,734 --> 00:25:32,538
- Oh, um, I'm actually just here
- for information. I'm pregnant.
- 353
- 00:25:32,571 --> 00:25:35,341
- I'm a surrogate
- for my two best friends.
- 354
- 00:25:35,373 --> 00:25:38,476
- - And, um...
- - That guy you were with last time?
- 355
- 00:25:38,509 --> 00:25:43,548
- Yeah, yeah. But I'd love to talk
- to you some more about everything,
- 356
- 00:25:43,582 --> 00:25:45,684
- if you maybe have time
- for coffee sometime?
- 357
- 00:25:45,717 --> 00:25:48,420
- - Well, I'm trying to quit caffeine.
- - Oh!
- 358
- 00:25:49,787 --> 00:25:52,390
- Do you remember that kid Leon?
- 359
- 00:25:52,423 --> 00:25:56,027
- - No.
- - One of the kids from the community center?
- 360
- 00:25:56,061 --> 00:26:00,432
- Oh, okay. Yeah,
- I don't remember their names.
- 361
- 00:26:00,465 --> 00:26:03,101
- I actually went
- back there today.
- 362
- 00:26:03,134 --> 00:26:05,903
- Aaron, you gotta come.
- This kid is amazing.
- 363
- 00:26:05,937 --> 00:26:07,906
- - Yeah?
- - Wait. You went back?
- 364
- 00:26:07,938 --> 00:26:09,440
- Yeah, I just wanted to.
- 365
- 00:26:09,474 --> 00:26:11,476
- And I knew you two
- couldn't take off work.
- 366
- 00:26:11,509 --> 00:26:14,612
- Plus, I just feel
- like personally I had a lot
- 367
- 00:26:14,646 --> 00:26:18,851
- of preconceived notions and so it's
- good to be there and be like, "Oh!"
- 368
- 00:26:18,883 --> 00:26:23,654
- I was reading one of the books
- that the midwife recommended,
- 369
- 00:26:23,688 --> 00:26:26,792
- and in it, it talks about how until
- pretty recently it was the norm
- 370
- 00:26:26,824 --> 00:26:29,861
- to institutionalize children
- with Down syndrome.
- 371
- 00:26:29,894 --> 00:26:33,064
- And in those institutions,
- they didn't teach them to read or write.
- 372
- 00:26:33,098 --> 00:26:35,534
- They just assumed
- that they couldn't.
- 373
- 00:26:35,566 --> 00:26:38,803
- And so a lot of those kids
- grew up to have problems
- 374
- 00:26:38,836 --> 00:26:40,772
- because of how they were raised.
- 375
- 00:26:40,805 --> 00:26:44,409
- And there was a ton
- of horrific abuse going on.
- 376
- 00:26:44,442 --> 00:26:48,413
- And that was true for pretty
- much everyone with Down syndrome.
- 377
- 00:26:48,447 --> 00:26:51,582
- And then in the '70s,
- there was this incredible mom
- 378
- 00:26:51,615 --> 00:26:53,584
- who just did not accept
- those limitations.
- 379
- 00:26:53,618 --> 00:26:57,790
- She... she assumed that her son
- could read if he was taught,
- 380
- 00:26:57,823 --> 00:27:00,993
- and she was right.
- 381
- 00:27:01,025 --> 00:27:03,861
- And that one story, that changed
- the whole community,
- 382
- 00:27:03,894 --> 00:27:08,466
- and how they perceived,
- you know, what was possible.
- 383
- 00:27:08,499 --> 00:27:10,736
- - It was amazing. You guys should read it.
- - Mm.
- 384
- 00:27:10,768 --> 00:27:13,772
- Yeah, that's super
- interesting.
- 385
- 00:27:15,673 --> 00:27:18,109
- - Uh, dinner's ready.
- - Okay.
- 386
- 00:27:18,142 --> 00:27:21,079
- - Aaron.
- - Mm, looks good.
- 387
- 00:27:37,629 --> 00:27:39,465
- Water.
- 388
- 00:27:39,497 --> 00:27:42,601
- Um... this.
- 389
- 00:27:47,973 --> 00:27:50,075
- Can I?
- 390
- 00:27:55,045 --> 00:27:57,816
- - Take that?
- - Thank you.
- 391
- 00:28:00,150 --> 00:28:02,053
- Bon appetit.
- 392
- 00:28:04,155 --> 00:28:06,091
- Thanks, man.
- 393
- 00:28:07,993 --> 00:28:10,229
- Mm.
- 394
- 00:28:10,262 --> 00:28:13,899
- - This is so good. Thank you.
- - I'm glad you like it.
- 395
- 00:28:20,138 --> 00:28:24,810
- Mm. You know, it would be really cool
- if we could hang out with Leon's family.
- 396
- 00:28:24,842 --> 00:28:27,144
- He has the most amazing mom.
- 397
- 00:28:27,178 --> 00:28:29,715
- Sure. Maybe.
- 398
- 00:28:29,747 --> 00:28:32,851
- I mean, I was thinking
- maybe this week.
- 399
- 00:28:55,806 --> 00:28:58,676
- Hey, Bridget.
- I'm so sorry to bug you.
- 400
- 00:28:58,709 --> 00:29:03,180
- Um, but I just wanted to know if you
- wanted to get together this weekend.
- 401
- 00:29:03,214 --> 00:29:06,618
- Um, I'm more than happy
- to come to your neighborhood
- 402
- 00:29:06,650 --> 00:29:11,055
- or I can meet you on your lunch
- break, whatever is easiest for you.
- 403
- 00:29:11,089 --> 00:29:14,159
- Just let me know. Okay, bye.
- 404
- 00:29:22,734 --> 00:29:24,537
- Oh, this is it.
- 405
- 00:29:29,140 --> 00:29:31,310
- - Hey. Hi, come on in.
- - Hey!
- 406
- 00:29:31,342 --> 00:29:32,744
- - Thank you.
- - Hi.
- 407
- 00:29:32,776 --> 00:29:34,178
- - Hi, I'm Josh.
- - Bridget.
- 408
- 00:29:34,211 --> 00:29:35,212
- - It's nice to meet you.
- - Hi, nice to meet you.
- 409
- 00:29:35,246 --> 00:29:36,715
- - Aaron.
- - Hi, Bridget.
- 410
- 00:29:36,747 --> 00:29:38,049
- - Come on in.
- - Thanks for having us.
- 411
- 00:29:38,082 --> 00:29:40,151
- - Absolutely.
- - Oh! Hey!
- 412
- 00:29:40,185 --> 00:29:43,188
- Um, I know you said not
- to bring anything, but...
- 413
- 00:29:43,220 --> 00:29:45,323
- Oh, thank you.
- 414
- 00:29:45,357 --> 00:29:47,859
- Um, do you guys have chocolate?
- 415
- 00:29:47,891 --> 00:29:49,260
- Do you have
- a dietary restriction?
- 416
- 00:29:49,294 --> 00:29:51,630
- No, no, I just...
- 417
- 00:29:51,662 --> 00:29:55,132
- - Oh, yes, I'm so sorry.
- - No, no, it's fine. Thank you.
- 418
- 00:29:55,166 --> 00:29:56,935
- - Hey.
- - Hi!
- 419
- 00:29:56,967 --> 00:29:59,137
- - Hey, I'm Dan.
- - Josh. Thank you for having us.
- 420
- 00:29:59,169 --> 00:30:01,340
- - Hey, Aaron. Hi.
- - Aaron, nice to meet you.
- 421
- 00:30:01,372 --> 00:30:04,709
- - Hey, I'm Jess.
- - Jess! Hey.
- 422
- 00:30:04,743 --> 00:30:07,044
- - Hey!
- - You are too heavy for this.
- 423
- 00:30:07,078 --> 00:30:09,181
- Say hi. You wanna
- give him a hug?
- 424
- 00:30:09,214 --> 00:30:13,385
- - Hi. How are you?
- - Aw!
- 425
- 00:30:13,418 --> 00:30:17,789
- - Nice to meet you.
- - Do you wanna give Aaron a hug?
- 426
- 00:30:17,822 --> 00:30:20,958
- - Come.
- - Sure. Where are we going, man?
- 427
- 00:30:20,992 --> 00:30:24,930
- - You guys want anything to drink?
- - Um, what are you having?
- 428
- 00:30:24,963 --> 00:30:26,632
- - Seltzer.
- - I'll have seltzer also.
- 429
- 00:30:26,665 --> 00:30:28,066
- - Seltzer?
- - What are you having?
- 430
- 00:30:28,099 --> 00:30:30,369
- Beer. Yeah, Josh?
- 431
- 00:30:30,401 --> 00:30:34,305
- Oh, uh, yeah. Just a water
- or whatever you're...
- 432
- 00:30:34,339 --> 00:30:36,642
- - Whatever you guys are having.
- - You sure?
- 433
- 00:30:36,675 --> 00:30:39,177
- - Yeah.
- - Have a beer, come on.
- 434
- 00:30:39,209 --> 00:30:41,178
- - You're having a beer?
- - Don't peer pressure him.
- 435
- 00:30:41,211 --> 00:30:43,814
- - Yeah. Yeah, I'll have a beer.
- - Okay.
- 436
- 00:30:43,848 --> 00:30:45,217
- - Oh, thank you.
- - They're twist-off.
- 437
- 00:30:45,249 --> 00:30:47,718
- - Okay.
- - He's sharing the blueberries?
- 438
- 00:30:47,752 --> 00:30:50,956
- - I love it.
- - Yeah.
- 439
- 00:30:50,988 --> 00:30:53,057
- Oh, thank you.
- Thank you so much.
- 440
- 00:30:58,862 --> 00:31:03,168
- Yeah? You wanna come out
- and join us out here?
- 441
- 00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,202
- - What's up?
- - No, thank you.
- 442
- 00:31:05,236 --> 00:31:06,938
- "No thank you"
- on the orange?
- 443
- 00:31:06,970 --> 00:31:09,807
- - Okay, manners.
- - I'm gonna try this.
- 444
- 00:31:09,841 --> 00:31:12,343
- - You want cheese? Okay.
- - Yes.
- 445
- 00:31:12,377 --> 00:31:16,415
- - I'm gonna make this a little...
- - Oh, okay. Ooh! Okay.
- 446
- 00:31:16,448 --> 00:31:18,283
- - Look at this.
- - Mini pizza.
- 447
- 00:31:18,315 --> 00:31:21,352
- - Happy birthday.
- - Happy birthday to you!
- 448
- 00:31:21,386 --> 00:31:24,122
- - Thank you!
- - Happy birthday.
- 449
- 00:31:24,155 --> 00:31:26,792
- - Is it his birthday?
- - No.
- 450
- 00:31:26,824 --> 00:31:29,928
- - It's not his birthday.
- - He's just joking.
- 451
- 00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:31,697
- It's everybody's birthday.
- 452
- 00:31:31,729 --> 00:31:34,098
- What? You want a drink?
- 453
- 00:31:34,131 --> 00:31:35,734
- - I need this.
- - You need this?
- 454
- 00:31:35,766 --> 00:31:37,468
- Another one?
- Can you eat this one first?
- 455
- 00:31:37,502 --> 00:31:41,473
- - Okay.
- - Okay. Thank you.
- 456
- 00:31:41,505 --> 00:31:47,411
- Well, the food is great. I mean, Ina Garten
- would be so lucky to get invited here.
- 457
- 00:31:47,445 --> 00:31:50,314
- - Bridget hates Ina Garten.
- - I don't hate her.
- 458
- 00:31:50,348 --> 00:31:54,019
- I think the whole barefoot thing
- is a little forced.
- 459
- 00:31:54,052 --> 00:31:55,821
- - Okay.
- - She's a little uptight.
- 460
- 00:31:55,853 --> 00:31:57,322
- - Yeah, okay.
- - For shoes off.
- 461
- 00:31:57,354 --> 00:32:00,092
- - And the name Ina.
- - And the name Ina?
- 462
- 00:32:00,124 --> 00:32:02,193
- It makes me uncomfortable.
- 463
- 00:32:02,226 --> 00:32:06,465
- Anyway, moving on.
- How's that taste?
- 464
- 00:32:06,497 --> 00:32:08,199
- Oh...
- 465
- 00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:12,770
- So...
- 466
- 00:32:12,803 --> 00:32:17,942
- Do you guys have any questions
- for me or...?
- 467
- 00:32:17,976 --> 00:32:21,746
- - Um...
- - Um...
- 468
- 00:32:21,780 --> 00:32:27,319
- Well, I guess, um, you guys could just
- tell us what you wish you knew before.
- 469
- 00:32:32,223 --> 00:32:38,029
- I guess just like logistically,
- there's just a lot to handle.
- 470
- 00:32:38,062 --> 00:32:40,998
- I underestimated how much time
- I would spend on the phone...
- 471
- 00:32:41,032 --> 00:32:44,770
- - Right.
- - ...advocating and fighting for myself with bureaucrats.
- 472
- 00:32:44,803 --> 00:32:49,306
- Yeah, I am more tired
- than I think we've ever
- 473
- 00:32:49,340 --> 00:32:52,276
- imagined humanly possible.
- 474
- 00:32:52,310 --> 00:32:57,315
- Well, forgive me if I'm wrong,
- but isn't all parents?
- 475
- 00:32:57,348 --> 00:33:01,486
- - Uh-huh.
- - Hm.
- 476
- 00:33:04,988 --> 00:33:07,958
- - And do you love his school?
- - Yeah, we do.
- 477
- 00:33:07,992 --> 00:33:09,294
- We really... we love it.
- 478
- 00:33:09,326 --> 00:33:12,363
- It take us a really long time
- to find some...
- 479
- 00:33:12,397 --> 00:33:16,034
- something I think that fit.
- Um...
- 480
- 00:33:16,066 --> 00:33:19,970
- And don't get me wrong,
- it's extremely expensive.
- 481
- 00:33:20,004 --> 00:33:23,542
- - Oh, is public school horrible for...?
- - No, I don't mean that.
- 482
- 00:33:23,574 --> 00:33:27,411
- I've heard great things. It's just once
- we found something we connected with,
- 483
- 00:33:27,445 --> 00:33:33,217
- - we just... stayed.
- - Yeah, yeah.
- 484
- 00:33:33,251 --> 00:33:38,557
- And you guys love the community center.
- Do you have fun there?
- 485
- 00:33:38,590 --> 00:33:42,494
- Do I have fun? Um...
- I think it's great for Leon.
- 486
- 00:33:42,526 --> 00:33:45,296
- - Mm-hm.
- - It's been wonderful for him.
- 487
- 00:33:45,330 --> 00:33:50,268
- And, you know, Sandra's...
- she's incredibly...
- 488
- 00:33:50,301 --> 00:33:53,170
- well connected,
- she's very well informed.
- 489
- 00:33:53,204 --> 00:33:58,342
- We got a... we got a great
- pediatrician rec from her, so yeah.
- 490
- 00:34:02,580 --> 00:34:07,485
- - Can I get you anything else?
- - No, but the food is spectacular. Thank you.
- 491
- 00:34:07,517 --> 00:34:09,920
- Leon, did all the cooking.
- Right, Leon?
- 492
- 00:34:09,954 --> 00:34:11,289
- - Yeah.
- - Yeah.
- 493
- 00:34:11,322 --> 00:34:12,923
- - Good job, man.
- - Wonderful chef.
- 494
- 00:34:12,956 --> 00:34:14,525
- You're a little chef?
- 495
- 00:34:18,128 --> 00:34:22,132
- So do you not like Sandra?
- 496
- 00:34:22,166 --> 00:34:27,005
- What... why would
- you say that?
- 497
- 00:34:27,037 --> 00:34:30,007
- - Oh...
- - No! No, no, no! I mean, she's great.
- 498
- 00:34:30,041 --> 00:34:33,912
- Look, we don't have
- a lot in common. Um...
- 499
- 00:34:33,945 --> 00:34:37,314
- - But no.
- - Please say more.
- 500
- 00:34:37,347 --> 00:34:41,986
- I... Oh, my God.
- 501
- 00:34:42,019 --> 00:34:46,423
- You know, I just sometimes
- feel like she...
- 502
- 00:34:46,456 --> 00:34:49,493
- sort of uses her son like
- some sort of literary device.
- 503
- 00:34:49,526 --> 00:34:53,965
- Like some sort of magical realism
- trope, like, um...
- 504
- 00:34:53,997 --> 00:34:56,967
- You know, like he's
- some sort of unicorn.
- 505
- 00:34:57,001 --> 00:35:00,338
- - Leon, honey. You finished?
- - Yeah.
- 506
- 00:35:00,371 --> 00:35:05,175
- Yeah? Okay. Well,
- you out of here?
- 507
- 00:35:05,209 --> 00:35:10,348
- - I got it.
- - Okay. I actually think she used the term
- 508
- 00:35:10,381 --> 00:35:15,220
- "magical creature" once.
- And so I just... I...
- 509
- 00:35:15,253 --> 00:35:19,691
- I don't know,
- I find her approach...
- 510
- 00:35:19,724 --> 00:35:21,927
- objectifying.
- 511
- 00:35:23,026 --> 00:35:25,264
- Mm-hm. Yeah.
- 512
- 00:35:29,733 --> 00:35:33,537
- Look at all those hearts!
- 513
- 00:35:33,570 --> 00:35:36,440
- Don't you like hearts?
- You like rainbows better?
- 514
- 00:35:36,474 --> 00:35:39,144
- - Yes.
- - Yeah. Me too.
- 515
- 00:35:43,481 --> 00:35:45,950
- That's good?
- You like this one?
- 516
- 00:35:45,983 --> 00:35:47,718
- Hold on, I wanna see your face.
- 517
- 00:35:47,751 --> 00:35:49,553
- I will wait.
- 518
- 00:35:59,329 --> 00:36:03,267
- - This one... this.
- - This one? All right.
- 519
- 00:36:03,300 --> 00:36:05,602
- Wait.
- 520
- 00:36:05,635 --> 00:36:08,072
- I do it.
- 521
- 00:36:08,106 --> 00:36:10,308
- - Let me try this.
- - Okay.
- 522
- 00:36:10,340 --> 00:36:13,010
- - Try that one. Yeah.
- - This one? All right.
- 523
- 00:36:13,043 --> 00:36:15,980
- - Tell me when to go.
- - Okay.
- 524
- 00:36:20,184 --> 00:36:23,688
- - He can play, right?
- - In house. In house.
- 525
- 00:36:23,720 --> 00:36:26,423
- - In house? Yeah?
- - In house.
- 526
- 00:36:26,456 --> 00:36:29,226
- Okay. Wanna do that one?
- 527
- 00:36:29,260 --> 00:36:32,397
- Very good.
- 528
- 00:36:32,430 --> 00:36:35,633
- That's so good.
- 529
- 00:36:39,037 --> 00:36:42,006
- Um, guys, I think I'm just
- gonna take the subway.
- 530
- 00:36:42,039 --> 00:36:44,375
- What, you sure?
- The Uber's a minute away.
- 531
- 00:36:44,409 --> 00:36:47,611
- Yeah, but I have nausea,
- it's morning sickness.
- 532
- 00:36:47,644 --> 00:36:49,581
- I don't really wanna
- be in the car, so...
- 533
- 00:36:49,613 --> 00:36:53,485
- - But I love you.
- - I love you too.
- 534
- 00:36:53,517 --> 00:36:57,488
- - See you. Love you.
- - Feel better. Yeah. Love you too.
- 535
- 00:37:05,630 --> 00:37:09,566
- <i>...educated
- decision based on what life</i>
- 536
- 00:37:09,599 --> 00:37:13,070
- <i>actually looks like for people
- living with Down syndrome in 2019.</i>
- 537
- 00:37:13,104 --> 00:37:19,377
- <i>And so part of my job is to help
- them get these pamphlets out,</i>
- 538
- 00:37:19,410 --> 00:37:22,147
- <i>get this
- current information out.</i>
- 539
- 00:37:22,180 --> 00:37:26,251
- <i>And the thing that I love about
- the pamphlet is it does not say,</i>
- 540
- 00:37:26,284 --> 00:37:29,586
- <i>"Down syndrome's amazing."
- No, what it does say</i>
- 541
- 00:37:29,619 --> 00:37:35,359
- <i>is these are medical risks for
- people living with Down syndrome.</i>
- 542
- 00:37:35,392 --> 00:37:40,130
- <i>Here is also this super beautiful
- baby, because that's Down syndrome.</i>
- 543
- 00:37:40,164 --> 00:37:42,734
- <i>It's both sides of...
- it's honest.</i>
- 544
- 00:37:42,767 --> 00:37:46,303
- <i>It's an honest and real
- representation of...</i>
- 545
- 00:37:49,639 --> 00:37:52,443
- You were the one who said it's
- fine, it's the second trimester.
- 546
- 00:37:52,477 --> 00:37:54,512
- And if I could
- take it back, I would.
- 547
- 00:37:54,544 --> 00:37:58,582
- - Too late.
- - Of course I know it's too late.
- 548
- 00:38:00,450 --> 00:38:05,289
- Jess? Hey, is the...
- is the buzzer not working?
- 549
- 00:38:05,322 --> 00:38:08,092
- Um, no, your Australian neighbor
- let me in.
- 550
- 00:38:08,126 --> 00:38:10,562
- I'm actually gonna go grab a tea real
- quick. Do you guys want anything?
- 551
- 00:38:10,595 --> 00:38:12,464
- Yeah, I'll make some tea.
- 552
- 00:38:12,497 --> 00:38:13,765
- No, you need your alone time.
- 553
- 00:38:13,798 --> 00:38:16,267
- No, we'd actually love
- to talk to you, um, now.
- 554
- 00:38:16,300 --> 00:38:17,735
- So, what kind of tea
- do you want?
- 555
- 00:38:17,767 --> 00:38:21,606
- No, no, I'm okay. Um...
- 556
- 00:38:21,639 --> 00:38:23,740
- - Hey!
- - Hey.
- 557
- 00:38:23,773 --> 00:38:27,778
- - Earl Grey okay?
- - No, Aaron, I'm really good.
- 558
- 00:38:27,811 --> 00:38:31,348
- - Everything okay?
- - Mm-hm.
- 559
- 00:38:34,751 --> 00:38:36,621
- So, um...
- 560
- 00:38:38,289 --> 00:38:39,756
- We've been talking.
- 561
- 00:38:39,789 --> 00:38:41,525
- And...
- 562
- 00:38:42,660 --> 00:38:45,464
- You want an abortion.
- 563
- 00:38:49,233 --> 00:38:52,370
- Yes, we want an abortion.
- 564
- 00:38:55,572 --> 00:38:59,376
- - Okay.
- - Yeah?
- 565
- 00:38:59,410 --> 00:39:03,381
- What do you mean?
- Of course.
- 566
- 00:39:03,414 --> 00:39:08,386
- - I'm so sorry.
- - For what, babe?
- 567
- 00:39:21,198 --> 00:39:24,501
- Mm-hm.
- 568
- 00:39:24,535 --> 00:39:27,506
- Okay, yeah. That's fine.
- 569
- 00:39:29,874 --> 00:39:32,343
- Okay, 8am. Okay.
- 570
- 00:39:34,711 --> 00:39:37,648
- Thank you so much.
- All right, see you Tuesday.
- 571
- 00:39:37,682 --> 00:39:40,819
- 8am. Thank you. Bye.
- 572
- 00:39:44,255 --> 00:39:45,890
- Hey, guys?
- 573
- 00:39:46,990 --> 00:39:50,628
- Guys. Hey.
- 574
- 00:39:50,660 --> 00:39:52,963
- What do you want
- to get for dinner?
- 575
- 00:39:52,997 --> 00:39:55,300
- Um...
- 576
- 00:39:59,769 --> 00:40:03,974
- - I'm easy. Whatever you want.
- - What do you want?
- 577
- 00:40:04,008 --> 00:40:07,312
- Um... can we do Thai?
- 578
- 00:40:07,345 --> 00:40:09,247
- - Thai it is.
- - Absolutely.
- 579
- 00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:11,917
- - Yeah.
- - Okay.
- 580
- 00:40:43,847 --> 00:40:46,817
- Open your mouth, close your eyes.
- Give me your tongue.
- 581
- 00:40:46,851 --> 00:40:51,488
- Oh, my goodness! I can't believe you!
- 582
- 00:40:51,521 --> 00:40:53,457
- - He's a daredevil.
- - Should I try?
- 583
- 00:40:53,490 --> 00:40:55,360
- - Yeah.
- - I don't know if I can.
- 584
- 00:40:55,392 --> 00:40:58,762
- I think it's gonna
- be too sour.
- 585
- 00:41:01,698 --> 00:41:03,034
- - It's so sour.
- - Should she try it again?
- 586
- 00:41:03,066 --> 00:41:05,003
- - Yeah.
- - Yeah? Oh!
- 587
- 00:41:05,035 --> 00:41:06,838
- I don't like it.
- 588
- 00:41:08,072 --> 00:41:09,907
- I have a surprise!
- 589
- 00:41:09,939 --> 00:41:12,943
- Oh, my gosh!
- 590
- 00:41:15,912 --> 00:41:20,885
- There was this one mom that
- I did really connect with.
- 591
- 00:41:20,918 --> 00:41:24,622
- And Leon and her son
- really hit it off, but...
- 592
- 00:41:25,923 --> 00:41:29,794
- she lived all the way
- in Washington Heights.
- 593
- 00:41:29,827 --> 00:41:34,332
- So I did set up a few playdates,
- but honestly I just...
- 594
- 00:41:34,365 --> 00:41:37,334
- - couldn't get there.
- - Hm.
- 595
- 00:41:37,367 --> 00:41:42,306
- - Just like such a bad mom.
- - Oh, yeah. You're the worst mom.
- 596
- 00:41:44,742 --> 00:41:47,678
- I kind of am.
- 597
- 00:41:47,711 --> 00:41:50,581
- Definitely gonna call
- Child Protective Services.
- 598
- 00:41:50,613 --> 00:41:54,751
- I am letting an iPad raise my child half the time.
- 599
- 00:41:58,722 --> 00:42:01,726
- Whoa, whoa, whoa.
- What did he press?
- 600
- 00:42:01,758 --> 00:42:03,594
- - I don't know.
- - Hold on.
- 601
- 00:42:05,396 --> 00:42:08,432
- Yeah. Um...
- 602
- 00:42:08,465 --> 00:42:12,869
- I just need to ask
- a hypothetical question.
- 603
- 00:42:12,903 --> 00:42:15,340
- Dad, are you still there?
- 604
- 00:42:16,639 --> 00:42:18,575
- Um, when you guys
- were pregnant with me,
- 605
- 00:42:18,608 --> 00:42:21,578
- did you do any prenatal testing?
- 606
- 00:42:23,012 --> 00:42:25,515
- Really?
- 607
- 00:42:25,548 --> 00:42:28,652
- Um, what would have done
- 608
- 00:42:28,686 --> 00:42:31,122
- had it come back positive
- for sickle cell?
- 609
- 00:42:31,155 --> 00:42:33,490
- Would you have aborted me?
- 610
- 00:42:50,707 --> 00:42:54,445
- Oh, do you remember that law
- firm that you were clerking at
- 611
- 00:42:54,477 --> 00:42:56,646
- - when you and Josh first started dating?
- - Yes.
- 612
- 00:42:56,680 --> 00:43:00,585
- Do I remember?
- 613
- 00:43:00,617 --> 00:43:02,686
- Well, um, I looked them up.
- 614
- 00:43:02,720 --> 00:43:04,822
- And I know that they
- represented Exxon,
- 615
- 00:43:04,854 --> 00:43:10,594
- but they also were on the good side of
- the Supreme Court gay marriage case.
- 616
- 00:43:10,628 --> 00:43:12,796
- So they're not all bad.
- 617
- 00:43:12,829 --> 00:43:14,097
- I don't understand.
- 618
- 00:43:14,131 --> 00:43:17,535
- Maybe you could try
- to get a job there.
- 619
- 00:43:17,568 --> 00:43:21,472
- Look, I know that you said
- money was such a major factor.
- 620
- 00:43:21,505 --> 00:43:26,110
- And I get part of what makes Bridget's
- life possible is that they have money.
- 621
- 00:43:26,142 --> 00:43:30,046
- Look, the firm that I'm at now
- is the perfect firm for me.
- 622
- 00:43:30,079 --> 00:43:34,952
- You know, and it's not easy to just
- get a job at another law firm. It's...
- 623
- 00:43:37,887 --> 00:43:42,693
- I... I'm just thinking
- of options.
- 624
- 00:43:43,894 --> 00:43:46,898
- Jess, I just want you to know
- that we've...
- 625
- 00:43:46,930 --> 00:43:50,001
- we've considered all of this,
- we thought about all the possible options.
- 626
- 00:43:50,034 --> 00:43:52,537
- You know, it's not a decision
- that we just made flippantly.
- 627
- 00:43:52,570 --> 00:43:55,006
- No, I know. I know.
- 628
- 00:43:58,142 --> 00:44:01,044
- - Is everything okay?
- - Yeah.
- 629
- 00:44:01,077 --> 00:44:04,481
- Yeah, just... I'm fine.
- 630
- 00:44:09,653 --> 00:44:11,890
- - Hey.
- - Hey.
- 631
- 00:44:13,023 --> 00:44:16,827
- Okay. So, um...
- 632
- 00:44:16,860 --> 00:44:20,530
- What we are about to do means nothing.
- Okay? Do you promise?
- 633
- 00:44:20,564 --> 00:44:22,033
- - Yeah, yeah.
- - It doesn't change anything between us.
- 634
- 00:44:22,066 --> 00:44:23,167
- We are not getting
- back together.
- 635
- 00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:24,468
- - Okay.
- - Okay, great.
- 636
- 00:44:24,501 --> 00:44:25,602
- Okay.
- 637
- 00:44:42,052 --> 00:44:45,122
- - Hm?
- - Mm...
- 638
- 00:44:51,628 --> 00:44:56,099
- You... want some
- scrambled eggs?
- 639
- 00:44:57,901 --> 00:45:01,238
- Let's just stay like this
- for a little bit.
- 640
- 00:45:01,271 --> 00:45:02,940
- Okay.
- 641
- 00:45:16,119 --> 00:45:19,490
- Thank you for this.
- 642
- 00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:28,032
- I am here for you.
- 643
- 00:45:32,936 --> 00:45:35,506
- - Hey.
- - Hm?
- 644
- 00:45:40,043 --> 00:45:41,845
- How are you doing?
- 645
- 00:45:41,878 --> 00:45:47,951
- Hm? No, like...
- like how are you really doing?
- 646
- 00:45:47,985 --> 00:45:53,124
- - Uh...
- - Look, it's just that if I know what you are going through,
- 647
- 00:45:53,157 --> 00:45:57,160
- then I'll have a better chance
- of being there for you.
- 648
- 00:45:57,193 --> 00:46:00,965
- Uh...
- 649
- 00:46:00,997 --> 00:46:04,769
- I actually don't think
- that's true.
- 650
- 00:46:04,802 --> 00:46:08,204
- What? Wait, whoa, whoa, whoa.
- Whoa, whoa, whoa.
- 651
- 00:46:08,238 --> 00:46:12,043
- - You don't think I can handle it?
- - No.
- 652
- 00:46:12,075 --> 00:46:14,746
- No, I actually don't.
- 653
- 00:46:17,213 --> 00:46:21,018
- - Really?
- - Yes.
- 654
- 00:47:00,356 --> 00:47:02,860
- Hey.
- 655
- 00:47:02,892 --> 00:47:04,928
- Thank you so for letting me
- stay with you guys.
- 656
- 00:47:04,961 --> 00:47:08,198
- Oh, stop it. You can stay
- as long as you want.
- 657
- 00:47:08,231 --> 00:47:11,768
- It'll be nice to have
- the extra childcare.
- 658
- 00:47:14,137 --> 00:47:20,110
- Also, thank you for not
- asking me how I'm doing.
- 659
- 00:47:20,144 --> 00:47:22,279
- Is that your way of saying you
- want me to ask how you're doing?
- 660
- 00:47:22,311 --> 00:47:26,249
- No, no. It just means...
- you're not like scrutinizing me.
- 661
- 00:47:26,282 --> 00:47:30,121
- I don't feel like I have to
- pretend like I'm okay around you.
- 662
- 00:47:30,153 --> 00:47:32,322
- Good.
- 663
- 00:47:40,930 --> 00:47:43,700
- What if I were to like
- have this kid on my own?
- 664
- 00:47:43,733 --> 00:47:46,736
- You know? If I moved
- somewhere around here.
- 665
- 00:47:46,769 --> 00:47:49,273
- - Would you help me?
- - Well...
- 666
- 00:47:49,305 --> 00:47:53,043
- Jess, I'm not sure I'm
- well versed on Down syndrome.
- 667
- 00:47:53,077 --> 00:47:57,314
- I know, but I'm not asking you to be
- like a physical therapist or anything.
- 668
- 00:47:57,347 --> 00:48:00,284
- I'm just asking you,
- would you have my back?
- 669
- 00:48:00,316 --> 00:48:03,753
- Of course I would.
- Yes, of course.
- 670
- 00:48:03,787 --> 00:48:05,657
- Thank you.
- 671
- 00:48:06,456 --> 00:48:08,191
- Eat those crackers.
- 672
- 00:48:08,224 --> 00:48:10,093
- I mean,
- I shouldn't do it.
- 673
- 00:48:10,126 --> 00:48:12,729
- It's probably a bad idea.
- You think it's a terrible idea.
- 674
- 00:48:12,762 --> 00:48:15,331
- - I didn't say that.
- - But that's what you think, right?
- 675
- 00:48:15,365 --> 00:48:18,336
- It's not for me to decide.
- 676
- 00:48:20,303 --> 00:48:22,305
- What do you think, Winston?
- 677
- 00:48:22,338 --> 00:48:24,074
- Oh.
- 678
- 00:48:24,108 --> 00:48:27,812
- - Oh, sweetie.
- - Little baby boy.
- 679
- 00:48:35,818 --> 00:48:37,721
- Jessica?
- 680
- 00:48:39,021 --> 00:48:41,357
- - Hi!
- - Hi, Jess.
- 681
- 00:48:41,390 --> 00:48:44,360
- Hey, Dad. Um, one second.
- 682
- 00:48:44,394 --> 00:48:48,332
- - Hey.
- - Hey!
- 683
- 00:48:48,365 --> 00:48:50,367
- Didn't know you guys
- were gonna be here.
- 684
- 00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:54,104
- I'm sorry, what, am I not allowed
- to come and visit my grandbaby?
- 685
- 00:48:54,137 --> 00:48:59,209
- Oh, well,
- she's at swim class, so...
- 686
- 00:48:59,242 --> 00:49:04,481
- You haven't been returning my calls.
- 687
- 00:49:04,514 --> 00:49:06,950
- I know, I'm sorry.
- 688
- 00:49:06,983 --> 00:49:11,221
- Well, you know, when you do that
- I get seriously worried.
- 689
- 00:49:11,255 --> 00:49:15,191
- Um... serious question for you,
- 690
- 00:49:15,224 --> 00:49:18,996
- as the trustee of my trust.
- 691
- 00:49:19,028 --> 00:49:22,065
- Could I take out a hundred grand
- to put down...?
- 692
- 00:49:22,099 --> 00:49:23,367
- Oh.
- 693
- 00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:25,869
- It's for a down payment
- on a house.
- 694
- 00:49:25,903 --> 00:49:30,374
- I'm thinking somewhere in Connecticut, halfway
- between here and where you guys live.
- 695
- 00:49:30,407 --> 00:49:34,245
- - What is wrong?
- - Why are we talking about real estate right now?
- 696
- 00:49:34,278 --> 00:49:36,814
- I mean, you can understand
- why we're a bit...
- 697
- 00:49:36,847 --> 00:49:38,916
- Yeah, Josh and Aaron
- don't want to have the kid.
- 698
- 00:49:38,948 --> 00:49:42,385
- So I'm considering...
- 699
- 00:49:42,418 --> 00:49:45,421
- I'm thinking about ways
- that I can adopt...
- 700
- 00:49:45,454 --> 00:49:48,424
- - I mean, not adopt...
- - No. No.
- 701
- 00:49:48,457 --> 00:49:52,396
- I'm not giving you the money
- for this.
- 702
- 00:49:52,428 --> 00:49:55,900
- But you always said it was
- for a down payment.
- 703
- 00:49:55,932 --> 00:49:59,402
- I mean, in terms of mortgage,
- I will still be working.
- 704
- 00:49:59,436 --> 00:50:02,139
- I would work part-time
- where I currently work,
- 705
- 00:50:02,171 --> 00:50:06,976
- or I would freelance, and I'd have
- child support from Josh and Aaron.
- 706
- 00:50:07,010 --> 00:50:10,214
- Are you factoring
- in maintenance costs?
- 707
- 00:50:10,247 --> 00:50:12,116
- - Are you factoring in...
- - Yes! Yes, I am.
- 708
- 00:50:12,148 --> 00:50:15,485
- - Child support?
- - Yeah. No, I get it.
- 709
- 00:50:15,519 --> 00:50:19,523
- It's the ultimate,
- um, stereotype.
- 710
- 00:50:19,555 --> 00:50:22,059
- The single black mother.
- No, I get it. I get that.
- 711
- 00:50:22,092 --> 00:50:25,361
- It's something that you guys have
- worked your entire lives to avoid.
- 712
- 00:50:25,394 --> 00:50:28,865
- And it's... it's a real thing.
- I hear it.
- 713
- 00:50:28,898 --> 00:50:33,603
- But I can't spend my entire life
- just avoiding being a stereotype.
- 714
- 00:50:33,637 --> 00:50:36,340
- That can't be the deciding
- factor in everything.
- 715
- 00:50:36,372 --> 00:50:38,541
- When your grandparents
- made this trust for you,
- 716
- 00:50:38,575 --> 00:50:44,515
- this was not what they envisioned for it.
- To put it lightly.
- 717
- 00:50:44,548 --> 00:50:49,620
- You have a trust because your
- grandparents saved every penny,
- 718
- 00:50:49,653 --> 00:50:53,858
- and they worked very,
- very, very hard.
- 719
- 00:50:53,890 --> 00:50:57,260
- Harder than you can even fathom.
- 720
- 00:50:57,293 --> 00:51:00,563
- Okay. I acknowledge that.
- 721
- 00:51:00,597 --> 00:51:04,568
- Okay? And I acknowledge
- the fact that I will never know
- 722
- 00:51:04,601 --> 00:51:07,204
- what Grandma
- and Grandpa went through.
- 723
- 00:51:07,236 --> 00:51:10,240
- But isn't one of the objectives
- of their hard work
- 724
- 00:51:10,273 --> 00:51:13,410
- that I would be able to choose,
- that I'd be able to do what I want?
- 725
- 00:51:16,113 --> 00:51:22,119
- The choice to be a single mother
- of a special needs child?
- 726
- 00:51:22,151 --> 00:51:25,588
- I don't know. Maybe.
- Maybe that's what I want.
- 727
- 00:51:25,622 --> 00:51:30,361
- - Jess.
- - Your have an exceptional career, okay?
- 728
- 00:51:30,394 --> 00:51:32,496
- And I know you're
- not happy right now,
- 729
- 00:51:32,528 --> 00:51:36,065
- but I think if you sacrifice your
- work, you will regret it.
- 730
- 00:51:36,099 --> 00:51:38,635
- Mom, I'm not happy there.
- I'm not.
- 731
- 00:51:38,668 --> 00:51:41,337
- And okay, yeah,
- maybe it looks cool
- 732
- 00:51:41,371 --> 00:51:45,075
- that I'm working at this fancy
- nonprofit that does important work.
- 733
- 00:51:45,108 --> 00:51:46,910
- But the more I think about it,
- the more I'm like,
- 734
- 00:51:46,943 --> 00:51:48,544
- - do we actually do important work?
- - Yes.
- 735
- 00:51:48,577 --> 00:51:51,981
- Or... or do we make wealthy
- donors likes yourselves
- 736
- 00:51:52,014 --> 00:51:55,451
- feel less guilty for
- their privileged existences?
- 737
- 00:51:55,485 --> 00:51:57,354
- Well,
- forgive me for my privilege,
- 738
- 00:51:57,387 --> 00:51:59,423
- but your organization
- makes a difference.
- 739
- 00:51:59,456 --> 00:52:03,093
- I am just a glorified web designer, Mom.
- Anyone could do that for them.
- 740
- 00:52:03,126 --> 00:52:05,162
- Oh, I am so tired of you
- underselling yourself.
- 741
- 00:52:05,195 --> 00:52:07,997
- You are a brilliant designer.
- You're a brilliant marketer.
- 742
- 00:52:08,030 --> 00:52:11,267
- You're a brilliant technician.
- And you care about the causes.
- 743
- 00:52:11,300 --> 00:52:12,669
- You're describing
- every chick in Brooklyn.
- 744
- 00:52:12,702 --> 00:52:14,570
- Go to law school.
- 745
- 00:52:14,604 --> 00:52:16,439
- - Make a difference that way.
- - Oh, my God!
- 746
- 00:52:16,472 --> 00:52:19,409
- - I'm not going to law school.
- - Oh, that's too drastic?
- 747
- 00:52:21,278 --> 00:52:23,280
- Start your own nonprofit.
- 748
- 00:52:23,313 --> 00:52:27,217
- Mom, having this child is making a
- difference in an real and tangible way.
- 749
- 00:52:27,249 --> 00:52:30,253
- Honey, think practically. Okay?
- 750
- 00:52:30,287 --> 00:52:34,525
- - You're being... academic...
- - No, Mom, I am being practical.
- 751
- 00:52:34,557 --> 00:52:39,295
- Because the public school system needs
- parents like me to lobby for change.
- 752
- 00:52:39,329 --> 00:52:42,533
- Most of the parents who have children
- with DS, they're working class.
- 753
- 00:52:42,566 --> 00:52:44,968
- They don't have time
- or the resources to do this.
- 754
- 00:52:45,001 --> 00:52:47,603
- You don't have the time,
- you don't have the resources,
- 755
- 00:52:47,637 --> 00:52:51,441
- and having one kid
- is a drop in the bucket.
- 756
- 00:52:51,474 --> 00:52:56,479
- You know, honey, what you are talking about
- is... is healthcare inequality, right?
- 757
- 00:52:56,512 --> 00:52:58,748
- - Hm.
- - So in an ideal world,
- 758
- 00:52:58,782 --> 00:53:01,651
- everybody would have access
- to genetic testing.
- 759
- 00:53:01,684 --> 00:53:04,354
- So that we could eradicate
- Down syndrome?
- 760
- 00:53:05,488 --> 00:53:07,992
- Yes.
- 761
- 00:53:11,260 --> 00:53:13,463
- Oh, my God.
- 762
- 00:53:13,497 --> 00:53:16,233
- You have to see the parallels.
- That's eugenics.
- 763
- 00:53:16,265 --> 00:53:19,503
- - Oh, Jess, God no!
- - Yes, yes, yes, it is.
- 764
- 00:53:19,535 --> 00:53:23,439
- Yes, it is. They used to think that Mongolian
- blood was the cause for Down syndrome.
- 765
- 00:53:23,472 --> 00:53:26,610
- You are not telling me anything
- that I don't know. Okay?
- 766
- 00:53:26,642 --> 00:53:30,347
- The fact:
- people with Down syndrome
- 767
- 00:53:30,380 --> 00:53:33,650
- have a much more difficult life.
- 768
- 00:53:33,682 --> 00:53:36,486
- Okay, but where
- do we draw the line?
- 769
- 00:53:38,121 --> 00:53:43,059
- We... we draw the line...
- 770
- 00:53:43,093 --> 00:53:45,029
- at Down syndrome.
- 771
- 00:53:45,061 --> 00:53:48,564
- Okay. This is gross.
- I can't be here right now.
- 772
- 00:53:48,597 --> 00:53:50,700
- - Jess.
- - Jess, you do not have the luxury
- 773
- 00:53:50,733 --> 00:53:54,404
- of thinking
- about this much longer.
- 774
- 00:54:06,249 --> 00:54:08,584
- You know, when I was 20,
- 775
- 00:54:08,617 --> 00:54:11,387
- I was dating this guy,
- it was before I met your dad.
- 776
- 00:54:11,421 --> 00:54:13,457
- And I got pregnant.
- 777
- 00:54:13,490 --> 00:54:17,061
- And I was overwhelmed and I
- was terrified to tell Grandma.
- 778
- 00:54:17,093 --> 00:54:20,430
- And the prevailing sentiment was that
- it was a decision that one regrets
- 779
- 00:54:20,463 --> 00:54:22,065
- for the rest of their lives.
- 780
- 00:54:22,099 --> 00:54:25,602
- And I thought about
- having a kid with some guy.
- 781
- 00:54:25,635 --> 00:54:28,205
- And when I think back
- to that now,
- 782
- 00:54:28,238 --> 00:54:33,310
- I made the best
- possible decision.
- 783
- 00:54:33,343 --> 00:54:35,780
- Mom, I've had an abortion.
- 784
- 00:54:37,581 --> 00:54:42,820
- - Oh, Jess.
- - Dad, it's okay. It's okay. I'm fine.
- 785
- 00:54:42,852 --> 00:54:44,655
- You know you could've come
- to me with that, right?
- 786
- 00:54:44,688 --> 00:54:47,356
- Yes, of course.
- I just... it was...
- 787
- 00:54:47,389 --> 00:54:50,593
- I was 23, and I had
- my therapist and...
- 788
- 00:54:50,626 --> 00:54:55,131
- a week later I was fine.
- Look, that's not the issue here.
- 789
- 00:54:55,164 --> 00:54:58,835
- - Then what is the issue?
- - It's... "This fetus has Down syndrome,
- 790
- 00:54:58,869 --> 00:55:00,504
- let's throw it out
- with the garbage."
- 791
- 00:55:00,537 --> 00:55:01,872
- Jess,
- I am not saying that.
- 792
- 00:55:01,905 --> 00:55:05,709
- I do not support
- some dystopian society.
- 793
- 00:55:05,742 --> 00:55:09,313
- If Josh and Aaron wanted
- to raise this child,
- 794
- 00:55:09,345 --> 00:55:13,483
- and you were gonna
- be the godmother,
- 795
- 00:55:13,517 --> 00:55:16,220
- that would be great.
- 796
- 00:55:19,923 --> 00:55:23,861
- Okay. Well, maybe we should
- just call it a night.
- 797
- 00:55:25,494 --> 00:55:26,796
- Do you want
- to come home for dinner?
- 798
- 00:55:26,829 --> 00:55:28,898
- I think I'm gonna stay here
- 799
- 00:55:28,932 --> 00:55:32,269
- and help put Winston to bed.
- 800
- 00:55:32,302 --> 00:55:38,742
- Well, we're gonna
- talk tomorrow? Hm?
- 801
- 00:55:38,775 --> 00:55:43,313
- Maybe tomorrow you'll feel like
- discussing this in a more adult way.
- 802
- 00:55:43,345 --> 00:55:46,382
- Okay, Mom, no, I am an adult.
- I am an adult.
- 803
- 00:55:46,416 --> 00:55:50,387
- Okay? I'm an adult
- and I'm having an adult...
- 804
- 00:55:50,419 --> 00:55:52,755
- You are not having
- an adult conversation.
- 805
- 00:55:52,789 --> 00:55:55,726
- You are acting like
- you're not making a decision
- 806
- 00:55:55,758 --> 00:55:59,295
- that's going to affect
- all of our lives immensely.
- 807
- 00:55:59,329 --> 00:56:03,432
- Okay? What happens after you're gone? Who's
- gonna provide for this child when you go?
- 808
- 00:56:03,465 --> 00:56:07,503
- Okay? Don't act like... don't pretend that
- my thinking about this doesn't matter!
- 809
- 00:56:07,537 --> 00:56:09,273
- Of course what you
- think matters!
- 810
- 00:56:09,305 --> 00:56:11,240
- Why do you think I'm so
- desperate to get your approval?
- 811
- 00:56:11,273 --> 00:56:13,676
- Well, you're not gonna
- get my approval, not like this.
- 812
- 00:56:13,709 --> 00:56:16,512
- This girl has a Masters
- degree from Columbia University!
- 813
- 00:56:16,546 --> 00:56:19,216
- Okay, a piece of paper that tells
- everyone else that I'm better than them.
- 814
- 00:56:19,249 --> 00:56:22,186
- - Right, Mom?
- - Karen!
- 815
- 00:56:32,928 --> 00:56:36,200
- Mm...
- 816
- 00:57:00,789 --> 00:57:04,794
- - Hey, I'm so sorry about the email thing.
- - It's okay.
- 817
- 00:57:04,827 --> 00:57:08,764
- Yeah, but I know it makes us look bad.
- Um, should I send an email
- 818
- 00:57:08,798 --> 00:57:11,001
- following up to clarify
- or fix that mistake?
- 819
- 00:57:11,034 --> 00:57:13,803
- - No, that'll just draw more attention to it.
- - Okay.
- 820
- 00:57:13,836 --> 00:57:18,575
- - Um, but I am sorry.
- - It's okay. Don't worry about it.
- 821
- 00:57:39,028 --> 00:57:42,733
- Hey, sorry, we close for lunch at
- 4, but we open for dinner at 5.
- 822
- 00:57:42,765 --> 00:57:45,302
- - Is your manager around?
- - What can we help you with?
- 823
- 00:57:45,334 --> 00:57:49,606
- I'm just wondering how you accommodate
- someone unable to walk up the stairs?
- 824
- 00:57:49,639 --> 00:57:52,309
- Um, we'll do whatever we can
- to help them.
- 825
- 00:57:52,342 --> 00:57:57,546
- But how? This is a hypothetical.
- No one's with me. But how?
- 826
- 00:57:57,579 --> 00:58:00,349
- Could you hold
- on one second?
- 827
- 00:58:00,383 --> 00:58:02,586
- Hey, how can I help you?
- 828
- 00:58:02,619 --> 00:58:05,521
- You can make your restaurant
- wheelchair accessible.
- 829
- 00:58:05,555 --> 00:58:09,760
- I mean, it's illegal, if you've ever heard
- of the Americans with Disabilities Act.
- 830
- 00:58:09,793 --> 00:58:12,829
- - So...
- - Uh...
- 831
- 00:58:12,861 --> 00:58:16,832
- - Thank you for the feedback.
- - Mm-hm.
- 832
- 00:58:16,865 --> 00:58:19,969
- It's definitely
- something we're working on.
- 833
- 00:58:21,970 --> 00:58:24,840
- We're working on
- installing a ramp.
- 834
- 00:58:24,874 --> 00:58:27,910
- And in the meantime?
- 835
- 00:58:27,943 --> 00:58:31,947
- We're more than happy
- to lift anyone up the steps.
- 836
- 00:58:31,981 --> 00:58:35,686
- You're gonna lift someone?
- And how are they able to let you know that
- 837
- 00:58:35,718 --> 00:58:38,588
- if they're just passing by?
- 838
- 00:58:38,621 --> 00:58:43,427
- Thank you for the feedback.
- Is there anything else we can do for you?
- 839
- 00:58:43,459 --> 00:58:46,996
- - Hey! How are you?
- - Okay.
- 840
- 00:58:47,030 --> 00:58:49,765
- - What's up?
- - You know.
- 841
- 00:58:49,798 --> 00:58:52,101
- Can I, um...
- can I take your coat or...?
- 842
- 00:58:52,135 --> 00:58:55,671
- - No, it's okay. Can I have water?
- - Okay. Come in, yeah.
- 843
- 00:58:55,704 --> 00:58:59,008
- - Can you get her some water?
- - Yeah, of course.
- 844
- 00:59:04,981 --> 00:59:07,351
- - Thank you.
- - Mm-hm.
- 845
- 00:59:09,785 --> 00:59:11,655
- Mm.
- 846
- 00:59:16,892 --> 00:59:22,565
- I just... I just want you to know that we
- don't want this to be the end of... We...
- 847
- 00:59:22,599 --> 00:59:24,867
- We want to try again with you.
- 848
- 00:59:24,901 --> 00:59:27,771
- If that's something
- you're interested in.
- 849
- 00:59:27,803 --> 00:59:31,707
- Whenever... whenever
- you're ready.
- 850
- 00:59:31,740 --> 00:59:35,978
- Okay? I mean it. And no...
- no pressure. You've already...
- 851
- 00:59:36,012 --> 00:59:38,849
- Josh, I...
- 852
- 00:59:38,881 --> 00:59:41,985
- I know that you're trying to
- be thoughtful right now,
- 853
- 00:59:42,017 --> 00:59:44,887
- and I appreciate it,
- I just, um...
- 854
- 00:59:44,921 --> 00:59:47,424
- I can't think that far
- into the future.
- 855
- 00:59:47,456 --> 00:59:50,726
- Okay.
- 856
- 00:59:50,760 --> 00:59:53,497
- Please tell us what's wrong.
- 857
- 00:59:53,530 --> 00:59:57,534
- Nothing's wrong.
- No, nothing's wrong. Um...
- 858
- 01:00:03,972 --> 01:00:07,043
- Look, I know
- that this is...
- 859
- 01:00:08,744 --> 01:00:10,980
- not what you planned for.
- 860
- 01:00:11,014 --> 01:00:13,849
- But...
- 861
- 01:00:13,883 --> 01:00:17,854
- what if we were co-parents?
- 862
- 01:00:17,887 --> 01:00:20,590
- I could share some
- of the responsibility.
- 863
- 01:00:20,622 --> 01:00:24,660
- I could move into an apartment
- within walking distance from here.
- 864
- 01:00:24,693 --> 01:00:26,662
- Financially too.
- 865
- 01:00:30,767 --> 01:00:33,970
- Look, why don't I give you
- some time to consider that?
- 866
- 01:00:34,003 --> 01:00:36,840
- - Okay? Just sleep on it.
- - Wait, Jess. Can you...
- 867
- 01:00:36,872 --> 01:00:41,077
- Is that even realistic?
- I mean, in all fairness...
- 868
- 01:00:41,110 --> 01:00:45,048
- I would make it work.
- 869
- 01:00:45,081 --> 01:00:47,717
- Look, I know that...
- 870
- 01:00:47,749 --> 01:00:49,985
- Okay, getting a sister-wife
- is not what you bargained for.
- 871
- 01:00:50,019 --> 01:00:51,888
- Jess, when we
- made this decision,
- 872
- 01:00:51,921 --> 01:00:54,491
- we took into consideration the
- fact that we could lean on you,
- 873
- 01:00:54,523 --> 01:00:57,760
- and that you'd be a huge part
- of our support system if...
- 874
- 01:00:57,793 --> 01:00:59,896
- we had the child.
- 875
- 01:01:02,097 --> 01:01:04,233
- Okay. Forget what I just said.
- 876
- 01:01:04,267 --> 01:01:06,903
- Um...
- 877
- 01:01:06,936 --> 01:01:11,842
- What if... what if you just got a monthly
- contribution to help pay for everything?
- 878
- 01:01:11,874 --> 01:01:15,878
- And I would still just be "Aunt Jess,"
- off to the side, not breathing down...
- 879
- 01:01:15,912 --> 01:01:18,014
- - No, we couldn't ask that of you.
- - No, I know.
- 880
- 01:01:18,046 --> 01:01:21,684
- I know you're
- not asking that of me, but...
- 881
- 01:01:21,718 --> 01:01:24,621
- maybe I'm telling you that
- the money is coming your way,
- 882
- 01:01:24,653 --> 01:01:28,724
- should you decide
- to have this kid.
- 883
- 01:01:28,758 --> 01:01:32,763
- You've said that it was all
- about financial factors, so...
- 884
- 01:01:35,597 --> 01:01:37,066
- We don't have time
- to sleep on it.
- 885
- 01:01:37,099 --> 01:01:40,603
- Your appointment
- is day after tomorrow.
- 886
- 01:01:40,637 --> 01:01:44,073
- Um... uh, no.
- 887
- 01:01:46,075 --> 01:01:48,145
- Um...
- 888
- 01:01:53,282 --> 01:01:58,654
- I... I postponed
- the appointment.
- 889
- 01:02:02,892 --> 01:02:06,530
- - You postponed the appointment?
- - Yes.
- 890
- 01:02:06,563 --> 01:02:09,666
- I can be in charge
- of the timing. It's okay.
- 891
- 01:02:12,568 --> 01:02:14,970
- Look...
- 892
- 01:02:15,003 --> 01:02:19,742
- Doesn't... doesn't
- Bridget seems happy?
- 893
- 01:02:19,776 --> 01:02:23,079
- - And Sandra too.
- - No. No.
- 894
- 01:02:23,111 --> 01:02:26,715
- Honestly. I mean...
- And so what if they are?
- 895
- 01:02:26,749 --> 01:02:31,555
- It's a self-selecting
- population, you know?
- 896
- 01:02:31,588 --> 01:02:34,658
- Look, the parents who are having
- a really, really hard time,
- 897
- 01:02:34,691 --> 01:02:38,328
- the ones who maybe wish
- that they had...
- 898
- 01:02:38,360 --> 01:02:40,563
- They're not the ones
- going to these meet-ups
- 899
- 01:02:40,597 --> 01:02:44,167
- or the ones writing
- books about it. It's...
- 900
- 01:02:44,200 --> 01:02:48,071
- And of that group, how do we know
- they're not just, like, faking happiness?
- 901
- 01:02:48,104 --> 01:02:52,842
- Okay. Parenting is hard.
- 902
- 01:02:52,874 --> 01:02:55,344
- It is not easy.
- I'm not saying that.
- 903
- 01:02:55,378 --> 01:02:59,749
- Look, there's a reason you
- have gravitated towards Leon,
- 904
- 01:02:59,782 --> 01:03:05,588
- okay, and not some of the other kids who
- are way less high-functioning than he is.
- 905
- 01:03:05,622 --> 01:03:12,596
- Okay, this kid is not gonna be like
- that kid that you grew up with.
- 906
- 01:03:12,628 --> 01:03:16,599
- It's not gonna be like Devon.
- Things are changing so much.
- 907
- 01:03:16,633 --> 01:03:18,735
- Leon is where things
- are headed.
- 908
- 01:03:18,767 --> 01:03:20,803
- Yeah, and the more
- intelligent the kids are,
- 909
- 01:03:20,836 --> 01:03:25,307
- the more aware they are
- of their... their limitations.
- 910
- 01:03:25,340 --> 01:03:27,943
- Look, that's in
- the book you gave us.
- 911
- 01:03:27,977 --> 01:03:31,214
- Oh, I didn't know
- that you read that.
- 912
- 01:03:31,247 --> 01:03:33,216
- Yeah, Jess.
- 913
- 01:03:33,249 --> 01:03:36,052
- Look, let's say Leon wants
- to be a musician.
- 914
- 01:03:36,084 --> 01:03:40,689
- Then it's his mom's job to tell him
- that that's not a realistic possibility.
- 915
- 01:03:40,722 --> 01:03:42,758
- To constantly be the bearer
- of bad news...
- 916
- 01:03:42,791 --> 01:03:48,297
- - No, Leon could be a musician.
- - Come on, it's not the same thing.
- 917
- 01:03:48,331 --> 01:03:52,369
- The kids in the Special Olympics know
- that they are in the Special Olympics.
- 918
- 01:03:52,401 --> 01:03:56,740
- - Josh, that's not helpful.
- - And they don't care. They like the Special Olympics.
- 919
- 01:03:56,773 --> 01:04:00,910
- I'm pretty sure they're not
- like, "Oh, the Special Olympics."
- 920
- 01:04:00,943 --> 01:04:04,314
- Okay, so Leon won't be the
- next Alicia Keys. Who cares?
- 921
- 01:04:04,347 --> 01:04:06,282
- That's not what I'm
- saying. What I'm saying is
- 922
- 01:04:06,314 --> 01:04:09,785
- I want our child to have
- a fulfilling life.
- 923
- 01:04:09,818 --> 01:04:12,655
- Okay. Okay. Um...
- 924
- 01:04:12,689 --> 01:04:18,695
- I think you're more so talking
- about the ego of the parents.
- 925
- 01:04:18,727 --> 01:04:22,731
- Right? About being able
- to brag about your kid.
- 926
- 01:04:22,764 --> 01:04:25,067
- 'Cause lots of people
- with DS have fulfilling lives.
- 927
- 01:04:25,101 --> 01:04:28,872
- I mean, there's a teacher at the
- center who's an adult who has DS
- 928
- 01:04:28,905 --> 01:04:31,041
- and she seems pretty fulfilled.
- 929
- 01:04:31,073 --> 01:04:34,943
- I'm pretty sure she doesn't
- wish she'd never been born.
- 930
- 01:04:34,977 --> 01:04:38,348
- - All right. You know who Richard Dawkins is?
- - Of course.
- 931
- 01:04:38,381 --> 01:04:42,419
- Well, he said it's...
- it's actually immoral, it's unethical
- 932
- 01:04:42,452 --> 01:04:45,988
- to not terminate
- a fetus with DS.
- 933
- 01:04:46,021 --> 01:04:47,724
- You know, it's not like we're
- the first people to...
- 934
- 01:04:47,756 --> 01:04:51,226
- - He is alt-right.
- - No he's not.
- 935
- 01:04:51,260 --> 01:04:54,964
- - He is blatantly anti-Islam.
- - He is against all religion.
- 936
- 01:04:54,997 --> 01:04:57,167
- He's atheist, which last
- I checked, so were you.
- 937
- 01:04:57,200 --> 01:04:59,869
- Okay, I think we're exhausted,
- so why don't we just call this a night.
- 938
- 01:04:59,901 --> 01:05:02,371
- No, no, but you could try not
- to make it inflammatory.
- 939
- 01:05:02,405 --> 01:05:04,807
- No, I know,
- "Pregnant bitches be crazy."
- 940
- 01:05:04,840 --> 01:05:08,177
- Will you stop putting
- words in our mouths, Jess!
- 941
- 01:05:10,046 --> 01:05:13,483
- Maybe Richard Dawkins
- is not alt-right,
- 942
- 01:05:13,515 --> 01:05:17,320
- but what he is expressing there
- is eugenics.
- 943
- 01:05:17,352 --> 01:05:21,124
- It's in the clothes of a civilized
- argument, but that is eugenics.
- 944
- 01:05:21,157 --> 01:05:24,260
- My grandparents lost their
- entire families to eugenics.
- 945
- 01:05:24,293 --> 01:05:26,028
- I think I know
- a thing or two about it.
- 946
- 01:05:26,061 --> 01:05:28,297
- - To say that this is the same...
- - Oh, and I couldn't possibly
- 947
- 01:05:28,331 --> 01:05:31,934
- understand because black people
- have never experienced eugenics.
- 948
- 01:05:31,968 --> 01:05:34,337
- A little help here?
- 949
- 01:05:34,369 --> 01:05:37,272
- Okay, great!
- Thank you so much.
- 950
- 01:05:37,305 --> 01:05:39,208
- - I don't know...
- - This is so stupid.
- 951
- 01:05:39,242 --> 01:05:42,979
- If you are now defining life
- as having begun...
- 952
- 01:05:43,012 --> 01:05:44,814
- No, I'm not going pro-life
- on you.
- 953
- 01:05:44,847 --> 01:05:47,883
- I just... I want you to actually
- think about this choice.
- 954
- 01:05:47,916 --> 01:05:52,020
- We have. We have. I don't know
- how to convince you that we...
- 955
- 01:05:52,053 --> 01:05:57,494
- - What... what do you want?
- - I want... I want you...
- 956
- 01:05:57,526 --> 01:06:02,331
- I want you to start grieving this
- child that you have in your mind,
- 957
- 01:06:02,365 --> 01:06:05,235
- and then start
- preparing for this kid.
- 958
- 01:06:05,267 --> 01:06:11,440
- Start reading, start engaging with
- people when we go to the Playhouse.
- 959
- 01:06:11,474 --> 01:06:15,111
- We have been, Jess, we've...
- 960
- 01:06:15,144 --> 01:06:19,515
- Look, we want to be the parents
- that everyone expects us to be,
- 961
- 01:06:19,548 --> 01:06:24,987
- that finds a way to turn this into a
- gift, who writes the memoir.
- 962
- 01:06:25,021 --> 01:06:27,122
- But we're just,
- we're strong enough.
- 963
- 01:06:27,155 --> 01:06:28,957
- Yes, you are! You can be!
- 964
- 01:06:28,990 --> 01:06:33,329
- Okay, fine, then we
- are terrible people. Okay?
- 965
- 01:06:33,361 --> 01:06:35,932
- I feel like that is
- what you want me to say.
- 966
- 01:06:35,965 --> 01:06:38,233
- And so now that we've said it,
- can we just move on?
- 967
- 01:06:38,267 --> 01:06:41,337
- - No, that is a cop-out.
- - Look, Jess.
- 968
- 01:06:41,369 --> 01:06:44,339
- As gay men, our whole lives,
- 969
- 01:06:44,372 --> 01:06:48,378
- we have made do with the cards we've
- been dealt and not complained about it.
- 970
- 01:06:48,410 --> 01:06:54,416
- Okay? It's like ingrained in us that we should
- be grateful for the crumbs that we have.
- 971
- 01:06:54,450 --> 01:06:57,954
- And I'm not saying
- that we deserve pity, I'm not.
- 972
- 01:06:57,986 --> 01:07:02,457
- I'm just saying that we do
- deserve to be like everyone else.
- 973
- 01:07:02,490 --> 01:07:05,594
- Okay? And not have
- to apologize for it.
- 974
- 01:07:05,628 --> 01:07:09,399
- We are not some
- scummy rare outlier here.
- 975
- 01:07:09,432 --> 01:07:13,136
- The majority of couples in our
- situation do decide to terminate,
- 976
- 01:07:13,168 --> 01:07:17,206
- and just like them we deserve
- to try again,
- 977
- 01:07:17,240 --> 01:07:20,310
- we deserve to try
- and have a kid who's...
- 978
- 01:07:20,343 --> 01:07:23,613
- - Yeah.
- - A kid who's perfect.
- 979
- 01:07:23,646 --> 01:07:28,084
- - No, a kid who's normal.
- - Josh, that's not the right word.
- 980
- 01:07:35,624 --> 01:07:39,428
- Right. Yeah.
- 981
- 01:07:39,461 --> 01:07:46,235
- You have this idea of this chill, little,
- quiet kid wearing Steven Alan clothes.
- 982
- 01:07:46,269 --> 01:07:49,305
- You can't stand the thought of
- being in some fancy restaurant
- 983
- 01:07:49,338 --> 01:07:53,476
- and having everybody look over at you
- because your slobbering retard child
- 984
- 01:07:53,508 --> 01:07:55,445
- is throwing a tantrum.
- No, that's how most
- 985
- 01:07:55,477 --> 01:07:58,414
- of the fucking bougie people
- in this city think, right?
- 986
- 01:07:58,447 --> 01:08:00,650
- That's why this city
- is so full of stairs everywhere.
- 987
- 01:08:00,682 --> 01:08:03,151
- Let's keep everyone out who's
- less than some Aryan ideal.
- 988
- 01:08:03,184 --> 01:08:05,554
- Because, what, we think
- that we'll never grow old
- 989
- 01:08:05,588 --> 01:08:08,524
- and lose our mobility, or God
- forbid, our mental ability?
- 990
- 01:08:08,557 --> 01:08:11,427
- Yes, Jess, the system is
- fucked. That is not our fault.
- 991
- 01:08:11,459 --> 01:08:13,896
- But when you say that
- it's a financial issue,
- 992
- 01:08:13,930 --> 01:08:17,567
- what you really mean is you're not willing
- to give up any aspect of your lifestyle.
- 993
- 01:08:17,599 --> 01:08:22,004
- - You guys are rich!
- - Okay, I think we've said everything we need to say, Jess.
- 994
- 01:08:22,037 --> 01:08:24,174
- We've made our decision.
- 995
- 01:08:29,545 --> 01:08:31,981
- I'm making mine.
- 996
- 01:08:32,013 --> 01:08:35,484
- I may have to hold you
- to that contract that we wrote.
- 997
- 01:08:37,452 --> 01:08:41,089
- Jess, the only way you can sue us is
- if we don't cover medical expenses,
- 998
- 01:08:41,122 --> 01:08:43,192
- which we are doing,
- 100 percent for you.
- 999
- 01:08:43,224 --> 01:08:45,093
- - You know what? The lawyer cautioned us about...
- - 100 percent.
- 1000
- 01:08:45,126 --> 01:08:47,362
- Aaron, I know that it is
- a gentlemen's agreement
- 1001
- 01:08:47,396 --> 01:08:50,233
- or whatever, I'm not
- talking about suing you.
- 1002
- 01:08:50,265 --> 01:08:53,369
- I'm talking about holding you
- to this as human beings.
- 1003
- 01:08:53,402 --> 01:08:56,039
- What do you mean, contractually
- I have to have an abortion?
- 1004
- 01:08:56,071 --> 01:08:57,572
- - What are you gonna do, tie me down?
- - Jess, of course!
- 1005
- 01:08:57,606 --> 01:08:59,242
- You're absolutely right.
- If you want to have the kid...
- 1006
- 01:08:59,275 --> 01:09:02,612
- I know that! Don't you think
- I fucking know that?!
- 1007
- 01:09:10,052 --> 01:09:13,488
- Yeah, so... obviously,
- 1008
- 01:09:13,522 --> 01:09:16,092
- I could have the kid
- if I wanted to,
- 1009
- 01:09:16,125 --> 01:09:19,662
- and Josh would have
- to pay me child support.
- 1010
- 01:09:19,695 --> 01:09:23,566
- We'd have a real Jerry Springer
- situation on our hands.
- 1011
- 01:09:23,598 --> 01:09:29,304
- Obviously, I don't want to have to get
- lawyers involved if we don't have to.
- 1012
- 01:09:29,338 --> 01:09:32,608
- Come on, Jess,
- that is not what you want, Jess.
- 1013
- 01:09:32,640 --> 01:09:36,146
- - That cannot possibly be what you want.
- - I don't know.
- 1014
- 01:09:38,280 --> 01:09:41,651
- I'm just saying, like,
- think about it.
- 1015
- 01:09:46,688 --> 01:09:49,624
- - I'm gonna go.
- - Wait, Jess, we have to finish this conversation.
- 1016
- 01:09:49,657 --> 01:09:52,495
- No, I think we've said
- everything we need to say.
- 1017
- 01:09:56,531 --> 01:10:00,469
- Hi. Hey, how's it going?
- 1018
- 01:10:03,138 --> 01:10:06,375
- Yeah. Oh, shit, shit.
- 1019
- 01:10:06,409 --> 01:10:08,611
- I didn't realize how
- late it was. I'm so sorry.
- 1020
- 01:10:08,643 --> 01:10:14,483
- Um, I just... can I take you out
- to dinner sometime this week?
- 1021
- 01:10:14,517 --> 01:10:18,421
- There's this incredible place
- called Otway in Clinton Hill
- 1022
- 01:10:18,454 --> 01:10:24,027
- that, I mean, it has the most amazing
- pumpkin dish that I've ever had in my life.
- 1023
- 01:10:33,268 --> 01:10:36,138
- So?
- 1024
- 01:10:36,171 --> 01:10:38,741
- - It's good.
- - What?
- 1025
- 01:10:38,773 --> 01:10:41,677
- - Uh no, it is...
- - It's good.
- 1026
- 01:10:41,710 --> 01:10:44,447
- It is more than good.
- It is amazing.
- 1027
- 01:10:44,479 --> 01:10:48,351
- Look, I'd be happy if I was
- sitting in a McDonald's right now.
- 1028
- 01:10:48,384 --> 01:10:51,154
- I'm just so happy
- to be out of the house.
- 1029
- 01:10:51,187 --> 01:10:54,390
- Excuse me.
- 1030
- 01:11:00,429 --> 01:11:05,134
- Uh, so I have a question for you,
- and I need you to be honest with me.
- 1031
- 01:11:05,166 --> 01:11:08,303
- Okay.
- 1032
- 01:11:08,336 --> 01:11:12,075
- Do you think that I
- could do this on my own?
- 1033
- 01:11:12,107 --> 01:11:15,677
- Have this child? I mean,
- you've probably picked up on the fact
- 1034
- 01:11:15,710 --> 01:11:18,580
- that Josh and Aaron
- don't want to...
- 1035
- 01:11:18,613 --> 01:11:23,119
- I am so sorry. I am vomiting
- all of this on you.
- 1036
- 01:11:23,152 --> 01:11:27,256
- Uh, I mean, I...
- I don't know.
- 1037
- 01:11:27,289 --> 01:11:31,693
- - Yeah.
- - Right.
- 1038
- 01:11:31,727 --> 01:11:35,197
- Maybe I should spend
- some more time with Leon.
- 1039
- 01:11:35,231 --> 01:11:39,469
- You know, I could babysit and then
- you and Dan could have a date night.
- 1040
- 01:11:39,501 --> 01:11:43,371
- We... he already
- has so many babysitters and...
- 1041
- 01:11:43,405 --> 01:11:47,509
- he's on a pretty,
- you know, tight schedule.
- 1042
- 01:11:47,543 --> 01:11:54,517
- - Yeah, but I'd like to.
- - I really appreciate it, but I'd rather not.
- 1043
- 01:11:54,549 --> 01:11:57,219
- Oh, yeah. Oh, of course.
- 1044
- 01:11:57,253 --> 01:11:59,688
- Um... oh, my God.
- 1045
- 01:11:59,722 --> 01:12:02,858
- I... I probably just
- came off very Sandra-like.
- 1046
- 01:12:02,892 --> 01:12:06,295
- No, with a very like, "Let me
- observe him in his natural habitat."
- 1047
- 01:12:06,327 --> 01:12:08,731
- - Really?
- - And that's so gross. I'm so sorry.
- 1048
- 01:12:08,763 --> 01:12:11,300
- It's really okay.
- 1049
- 01:12:13,768 --> 01:12:18,573
- Do you think that I... I don't know,
- that I would be up to the task?
- 1050
- 01:12:18,607 --> 01:12:21,711
- I mean... Well,
- just think about it and get back to me.
- 1051
- 01:12:21,744 --> 01:12:24,546
- No, I really don't need to think about.
- I just... I don't know, Jess.
- 1052
- 01:12:24,580 --> 01:12:26,716
- It's... it's truly
- your decision.
- 1053
- 01:12:26,749 --> 01:12:29,552
- - Yeah, I know, but what do you think?
- - I don't think anything.
- 1054
- 01:12:29,585 --> 01:12:32,688
- I think I don't know you well enough.
- I don't know your finances.
- 1055
- 01:12:32,720 --> 01:12:35,625
- - I can tell you my finances.
- - That's really not the point.
- 1056
- 01:12:36,724 --> 01:12:40,463
- I have a lot on my plate.
- 1057
- 01:12:58,546 --> 01:13:02,451
- I mean, I don't mean
- to sound self-aggrandizing,
- 1058
- 01:13:02,483 --> 01:13:07,423
- but why am I alive if not
- to do something like this?
- 1059
- 01:13:07,455 --> 01:13:09,224
- You don't sound
- that way at all.
- 1060
- 01:13:09,258 --> 01:13:15,764
- It is... it is so commendable,
- what you're doing.
- 1061
- 01:13:18,567 --> 01:13:21,938
- I just have to find a way
- to handle it financially.
- 1062
- 01:13:21,970 --> 01:13:25,674
- Well, there's a whole support
- network out there. You know that.
- 1063
- 01:13:25,707 --> 01:13:28,244
- And I'm here to help
- in any way possible.
- 1064
- 01:13:28,277 --> 01:13:30,680
- Thank you, really.
- 1065
- 01:13:30,713 --> 01:13:34,383
- Oh, you know some people,
- they say the soul
- 1066
- 01:13:34,415 --> 01:13:37,719
- is formed at conception.
- 1067
- 01:13:40,289 --> 01:13:42,825
- - Who says that?
- - Hindus.
- 1068
- 01:13:42,857 --> 01:13:45,594
- The Talmud, you know,
- it says it happens at birth.
- 1069
- 01:13:45,628 --> 01:13:49,564
- And Islam says it happens
- somewhere in the middle.
- 1070
- 01:13:49,598 --> 01:13:54,303
- - But it happens.
- - Why are you telling me this?
- 1071
- 01:13:54,335 --> 01:13:57,906
- Oh, I thought you'd
- find it interesting.
- 1072
- 01:13:57,939 --> 01:14:04,880
- I'm just saying I'm so happy,
- I think you're making the right decision.
- 1073
- 01:14:08,549 --> 01:14:14,322
- Um, I... I actually
- have to get going.
- 1074
- 01:14:14,356 --> 01:14:19,594
- Uh... I'm sorry, I...
- I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable.
- 1075
- 01:14:19,628 --> 01:14:23,900
- No, no, I just...
- I have to go to work, so...
- 1076
- 01:14:25,601 --> 01:14:29,938
- I think it's best
- if I take a leave of absence
- 1077
- 01:14:29,972 --> 01:14:32,675
- while I figure this out.
- 1078
- 01:14:32,707 --> 01:14:36,612
- - Okay.
- - But I do wanna come back.
- 1079
- 01:14:36,644 --> 01:14:42,651
- And when I come back, if I were
- to move somewhere out of the city,
- 1080
- 01:14:42,684 --> 01:14:46,755
- do you think I would
- be able to work remotely?
- 1081
- 01:14:49,357 --> 01:14:51,393
- I don't know, Jess.
- 1082
- 01:14:51,427 --> 01:14:55,531
- Let's talk about it
- when you get back.
- 1083
- 01:14:58,366 --> 01:15:01,704
- I'm just... I'm just
- saying I am here for you.
- 1084
- 01:15:01,737 --> 01:15:04,707
- - Okay?
- - Thank you.
- 1085
- 01:15:04,740 --> 01:15:09,879
- And I think that we...
- we can do this.
- 1086
- 01:15:09,911 --> 01:15:13,581
- We can do this here.
- Together.
- 1087
- 01:15:13,615 --> 01:15:15,017
- - No!
- - What?
- 1088
- 01:15:15,049 --> 01:15:17,652
- No! Oh, my God! Nate, no!
- 1089
- 01:15:17,686 --> 01:15:19,487
- I don't...
- I don't even know...
- 1090
- 01:15:19,521 --> 01:15:23,058
- I don't know if I'm
- having this child.
- 1091
- 01:15:23,092 --> 01:15:27,729
- I just... I need space...
- I need space and time,
- 1092
- 01:15:27,763 --> 01:15:29,832
- and that is why
- I'm going to Connecticut.
- 1093
- 01:15:29,865 --> 01:15:31,867
- That's totally fine.
- I don't mind moving there too.
- 1094
- 01:15:31,900 --> 01:15:34,670
- No, I'm not talking about moving!
- Fucking stop! Oh, my God! No!
- 1095
- 01:15:34,702 --> 01:15:39,974
- I'm talking about going there,
- going there for a week.
- 1096
- 01:15:40,008 --> 01:15:42,412
- That's it.
- 1097
- 01:15:46,013 --> 01:15:48,750
- - Hey, hey, hey, I'm sorry.
- - Please don't.
- 1098
- 01:15:48,784 --> 01:15:51,720
- Okay, okay.
- 1099
- 01:16:01,729 --> 01:16:04,666
- Jess! Jess!
- 1100
- 01:16:04,700 --> 01:16:08,403
- - Oh! Mrs. Friedberg, hi!
- - Jess!
- 1101
- 01:16:08,437 --> 01:16:10,139
- - Call me Sarah.
- - Hi.
- 1102
- 01:16:10,171 --> 01:16:15,878
- - How's your mom?
- - She's good. You know, she's busy as usual.
- 1103
- 01:16:15,911 --> 01:16:19,548
- - Um, how's Emily?
- - Great.
- 1104
- 01:16:19,580 --> 01:16:24,419
- She was just appointed executive
- director not-for-profit, Rhizome.
- 1105
- 01:16:24,452 --> 01:16:27,857
- Oh. Oh, tell her
- I said congratulations.
- 1106
- 01:16:27,889 --> 01:16:30,992
- I will, I will.
- How are you?
- 1107
- 01:16:31,026 --> 01:16:35,731
- I'm good. Um...
- you know...
- 1108
- 01:16:35,763 --> 01:16:38,967
- - Yeah, I'm pregnant.
- - Oh, my... oh, my God!
- 1109
- 01:16:39,000 --> 01:16:43,638
- - Oh! Mazel tov!
- - Oh, thank you.
- 1110
- 01:16:43,671 --> 01:16:46,909
- Your mom has not kept me
- properly informed.
- 1111
- 01:16:46,942 --> 01:16:48,944
- When did you get married?
- 1112
- 01:16:48,977 --> 01:16:51,514
- Um, it's actually
- a bit of a unique case.
- 1113
- 01:16:51,546 --> 01:16:55,750
- Yeah, the surrogacy was
- for my two best friends...
- 1114
- 01:16:55,784 --> 01:16:58,487
- - Oh, that's beautiful.
- - Yeah.
- 1115
- 01:16:58,519 --> 01:17:00,990
- They discovered
- the fetus has Down syndrome
- 1116
- 01:17:01,022 --> 01:17:04,793
- and they no longer want her,
- yada yada yada.
- 1117
- 01:17:04,826 --> 01:17:07,963
- Oh, my God. I...
- 1118
- 01:17:07,995 --> 01:17:10,198
- I...
- 1119
- 01:17:10,232 --> 01:17:13,602
- Oh, uh... I'm so sorry.
- 1120
- 01:17:13,634 --> 01:17:17,472
- Um, my heart goes out to you.
- 1121
- 01:17:17,505 --> 01:17:21,075
- Well, there's to be sorry for.
- You know?
- 1122
- 01:17:21,108 --> 01:17:25,780
- There are a lot
- worse things in the world.
- 1123
- 01:17:25,813 --> 01:17:30,718
- Right.
- I didn't mean to imply...
- 1124
- 01:17:30,751 --> 01:17:34,055
- - It's fine.
- - Do you need a ride?
- 1125
- 01:17:34,089 --> 01:17:38,059
- No, uh, my sister
- should be here soon.
- 1126
- 01:18:04,987 --> 01:18:08,791
- Sorry. I didn't wanna knock
- in case you were napping.
- 1127
- 01:18:08,823 --> 01:18:11,026
- No, that's fine.
- 1128
- 01:18:11,058 --> 01:18:13,862
- So Josh and Aaron called me.
- 1129
- 01:18:13,896 --> 01:18:16,732
- - Mm-mm.
- - They wanted to make sure you were okay.
- 1130
- 01:18:16,764 --> 01:18:21,135
- - Said they've been trying.
- - Did you tell them that I'm fine?
- 1131
- 01:18:21,169 --> 01:18:23,037
- They want to talk in person.
- 1132
- 01:18:23,071 --> 01:18:25,573
- There's nothing
- to talk about.
- 1133
- 01:18:25,607 --> 01:18:30,211
- - What does that mean?
- - I've made up my mind.
- 1134
- 01:18:30,245 --> 01:18:33,916
- But don't they deserve
- to know that?
- 1135
- 01:18:49,630 --> 01:18:52,901
- - Do you watch <i>Shark Tank?</i>
- - No.
- 1136
- 01:18:52,934 --> 01:18:55,271
- - Sh.
- - Sorry. No.
- 1137
- 01:18:55,304 --> 01:18:58,040
- We're obsessed with it
- for some reason.
- 1138
- 01:18:58,072 --> 01:19:00,742
- There's a new
- episode on tonight.
- 1139
- 01:19:00,776 --> 01:19:03,077
- - Is he down?
- - Yeah. Yes.
- 1140
- 01:19:03,111 --> 01:19:05,014
- What's wrong?
- 1141
- 01:19:05,046 --> 01:19:10,553
- Our visitors seem to
- be waiting in the driveway.
- 1142
- 01:19:10,585 --> 01:19:12,153
- They're 45 minutes early.
- 1143
- 01:19:12,187 --> 01:19:15,858
- - Was I supposed to make food for them?
- - No.
- 1144
- 01:19:20,262 --> 01:19:23,032
- Just give me a second.
- 1145
- 01:19:32,040 --> 01:19:34,143
- Hey, uh...
- 1146
- 01:19:34,175 --> 01:19:40,348
- Sorry we're so early.
- I thought there would be traffic or...
- 1147
- 01:19:40,381 --> 01:19:43,152
- Um...
- 1148
- 01:19:43,184 --> 01:19:47,222
- Winston is sleeping inside,
- so we should talk out here.
- 1149
- 01:19:48,624 --> 01:19:51,594
- Okay, um...
- 1150
- 01:19:57,832 --> 01:19:59,969
- You guys wanted to talk.
- 1151
- 01:20:00,001 --> 01:20:03,071
- Yeah, we wanted to know
- how you're doing.
- 1152
- 01:20:03,104 --> 01:20:06,207
- - Are you okay?
- - I'm great.
- 1153
- 01:20:14,849 --> 01:20:18,653
- Have you guys
- changed your minds?
- 1154
- 01:20:18,687 --> 01:20:21,256
- Well, we thought about
- the possibility of adoption.
- 1155
- 01:20:21,289 --> 01:20:23,726
- We found this great
- organization of people...
- 1156
- 01:20:23,759 --> 01:20:26,962
- I know about that. It's...
- 1157
- 01:20:26,995 --> 01:20:29,932
- Hm. I don't know.
- 1158
- 01:20:32,233 --> 01:20:36,138
- So I have decided
- to have this kid on my own.
- 1159
- 01:20:37,839 --> 01:20:40,242
- And I don't want you to
- be a part of the child's life.
- 1160
- 01:20:40,275 --> 01:20:42,844
- I'll have my lawyer
- contact your lawyer,
- 1161
- 01:20:42,878 --> 01:20:45,179
- but basically,
- in the state of Connecticut...
- 1162
- 01:20:45,213 --> 01:20:47,116
- Jess, why don't we go inside?
- Or we can come back later
- 1163
- 01:20:47,148 --> 01:20:49,250
- if you don't feel up
- to this right now.
- 1164
- 01:20:49,284 --> 01:20:51,186
- What makes you think
- I don't feel up to this?
- 1165
- 01:20:51,219 --> 01:20:53,722
- Your... your attitude,
- how you're talking to us.
- 1166
- 01:20:53,754 --> 01:20:55,323
- - Okay, all right.
- - We're trying to figure out exactly
- 1167
- 01:20:55,357 --> 01:20:57,259
- what the best way to proceed
- forward with you...
- 1168
- 01:20:57,291 --> 01:20:58,927
- You came
- to my house, so...
- 1169
- 01:20:58,960 --> 01:21:01,063
- - To talk to you, for you.
- - Would you let me finish
- 1170
- 01:21:01,095 --> 01:21:05,066
- - what I have to say? You interrupted me.
- - Please. Please.
- 1171
- 01:21:05,099 --> 01:21:10,004
- Great, so my lawyer
- will contact your lawyer soon.
- 1172
- 01:21:10,037 --> 01:21:14,175
- But basically, in the state of Connecticut,
- you do not need the father's name
- 1173
- 01:21:14,209 --> 01:21:17,979
- to be on the birth certificate,
- you only need the mother's name.
- 1174
- 01:21:18,013 --> 01:21:20,314
- Is that okay with you?
- 1175
- 01:21:20,348 --> 01:21:22,384
- Look, this is what
- you wanted, right?
- 1176
- 01:21:22,416 --> 01:21:27,388
- To pretend the child does not exist?
- So pretend the child does not exist.
- 1177
- 01:21:27,421 --> 01:21:30,793
- Okay, all right. Um...
- 1178
- 01:21:30,826 --> 01:21:35,930
- I just want to say that we support
- whatever decision you make here.
- 1179
- 01:21:35,964 --> 01:21:39,401
- But... but when you say
- no involvement...
- 1180
- 01:21:39,433 --> 01:21:41,969
- That is exactly what I mean.
- 1181
- 01:21:42,003 --> 01:21:44,439
- I think no contact is best.
- 1182
- 01:21:44,473 --> 01:21:46,975
- I just don't think it's
- a good idea for a child
- 1183
- 01:21:47,008 --> 01:21:51,013
- to be around adults who think
- that something is wrong with her,
- 1184
- 01:21:51,045 --> 01:21:53,314
- that she is broken because
- of her chromosomal situation.
- 1185
- 01:21:53,348 --> 01:21:56,085
- - Jess.
- - No, I know, I know you would never say that
- 1186
- 01:21:56,117 --> 01:21:59,187
- in front of her, and obviously
- I would never repeat it.
- 1187
- 01:21:59,220 --> 01:22:01,790
- But children,
- they pick up on energy.
- 1188
- 01:22:07,195 --> 01:22:09,331
- I mean, come on, you can't
- just come here and be like,
- 1189
- 01:22:09,363 --> 01:22:12,433
- "We wanna be her godfathers,"
- as if...
- 1190
- 01:22:12,467 --> 01:22:14,202
- as if everything is hunky-dory.
- 1191
- 01:22:14,236 --> 01:22:15,804
- - We're not trying to come here like that!
- - Jess.
- 1192
- 01:22:15,836 --> 01:22:19,006
- - Okay.
- - I am so not comfortable
- 1193
- 01:22:19,040 --> 01:22:22,745
- with this no contact thing.
- Okay?
- 1194
- 01:22:22,777 --> 01:22:25,880
- And why is that what you want?
- I mean...
- 1195
- 01:22:25,914 --> 01:22:31,420
- Hey, I'm sorry. I know
- this is never going to be...
- 1196
- 01:22:31,452 --> 01:22:35,523
- like it was, but why don't you
- want our support at least?
- 1197
- 01:22:35,557 --> 01:22:37,492
- - Jess.
- - Jess, where are you doing?
- 1198
- 01:22:37,526 --> 01:22:40,162
- There's a child in there
- taking a nap,
- 1199
- 01:22:40,195 --> 01:22:42,997
- and we are being loud.
- 1200
- 01:22:49,271 --> 01:22:52,474
- Look, what I'm proposing is what
- you guys wanted, right?
- 1201
- 01:22:52,506 --> 01:22:55,911
- So why don't you just go back to
- Williamsburg and leave me the fuck alone.
- 1202
- 01:22:55,943 --> 01:23:00,515
- Jess, hey. It's me, Josh.
- 1203
- 01:23:00,549 --> 01:23:06,956
- I've made a decision that you don't
- agree with, but it's still me.
- 1204
- 01:23:10,325 --> 01:23:16,197
- Look, I would be related
- to this kid. Okay?
- 1205
- 01:23:16,231 --> 01:23:20,869
- - It would be ours.
- - And?
- 1206
- 01:23:20,902 --> 01:23:24,072
- Even if you got full custody,
- there may come a day
- 1207
- 01:23:24,104 --> 01:23:28,876
- when the child wants
- to have contact with...
- 1208
- 01:23:28,910 --> 01:23:32,982
- Are you just gonna pretend that
- we don't exist? That's not fair.
- 1209
- 01:23:36,116 --> 01:23:39,187
- Look, whatever happens,
- 1210
- 01:23:39,220 --> 01:23:43,224
- we are gonna be a part of this
- kid's life. We just... we are.
- 1211
- 01:23:52,968 --> 01:23:57,072
- Jess!
- Where are you going?
- 1212
- 01:24:00,909 --> 01:24:02,378
- You're right.
- 1213
- 01:24:04,278 --> 01:24:06,314
- You are absolutely right.
- 1214
- 01:24:08,049 --> 01:24:12,153
- Having this child would
- link me to you forever.
- 1215
- 01:24:34,409 --> 01:24:36,946
- Oh, Jess.
- 1216
- 01:24:40,281 --> 01:24:42,183
- Jess...
- 1217
- 01:26:23,218 --> 01:26:26,988
- - Hey.
- - Hey.
- 1218
- 01:27:18,673 --> 01:27:21,242
- Oh. Thanks.
- 1219
- 01:27:26,481 --> 01:27:30,786
- Oh, that's... that's horrible.
- 1220
- 01:27:38,425 --> 01:27:43,330
- I made an appointment
- for an abortion tomorrow.
- 1221
- 01:27:43,363 --> 01:27:46,334
- - Will you come with me?
- - Mm-hm.
- 1222
- 01:27:48,836 --> 01:27:52,775
- - Are you okay to miss work?
- - Jess.
- 1223
- 01:27:53,842 --> 01:27:55,744
- Thank you.
- 1224
- 01:28:04,251 --> 01:28:07,822
- - Do you want some yogurt?
- - I'm okay.
- 1225
- 01:28:49,897 --> 01:28:53,134
- - Oh!
- - Hey!
- 1226
- 01:29:00,308 --> 01:29:02,677
- - You okay?
- - Yeah. I just...
- 1227
- 01:29:02,710 --> 01:29:06,548
- There's a sliding part
- over here, right?
- 1228
- 01:29:06,580 --> 01:29:10,284
- Oh, God.
- 1229
- 01:29:14,188 --> 01:29:17,392
- Whoo!
- 1230
- 01:29:17,424 --> 01:29:19,660
- - Was it that bad?
- - Yeah, I just said fuck it.
- 1231
- 01:29:19,693 --> 01:29:23,598
- Yeah.
- 1232
- 01:29:25,366 --> 01:29:29,771
- Oh! Oh!
- 1233
- 01:29:32,206 --> 01:29:33,874
- Three, two, one.
- 1234
- 01:29:33,907 --> 01:29:37,278
- Whoo!
- 1235
- 01:29:37,312 --> 01:29:39,481
- - Not too bad.
- - It's not too bad!
- 1236
- 01:29:39,513 --> 01:29:41,682
- - It's good, right?
- - It's a little cold.
- 1237
- 01:29:47,589 --> 01:29:50,392
- Oh yes!
- 1238
- 01:29:50,424 --> 01:29:53,661
- If I don't warm up...
- 1239
- 01:29:53,695 --> 01:29:55,397
- Yeah, I feel like this is
- one of those situations
- 1240
- 01:29:55,429 --> 01:29:56,964
- where I have to be there
- to warm it up.
- 1241
- 01:29:56,997 --> 01:29:59,334
- - So... don't do that.
- - Why?
- 1242
- 01:29:59,366 --> 01:30:01,902
- - Don't do that.
- - This is it. The river!
- 1243
- 01:30:01,936 --> 01:30:03,938
- Go down there.
- 1244
- 01:30:03,972 --> 01:30:05,974
- - You might want... What?
- - Go down there.
- 1245
- 01:30:06,006 --> 01:30:09,411
- - It gets really warm.
- - You're about to feel it
- 1246
- 01:30:09,443 --> 01:30:13,380
- in like three seconds.
- 1247
- 01:30:13,414 --> 01:30:15,384
- Ooh!
- 1248
- 01:30:19,586 --> 01:30:22,256
- It's so pretty out today.
- 1249
- 01:30:48,405 --> 01:30:53,405
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