> It's just borderline shit, like every fucking other thing she does. I was with one for a couple years, at the tail end of it I joined some support forums, started reading stories about other people who had been in relationships with borderlines (dave foley) and it's like every single borderline is the same person. It's the exact same story, every time.
> The pregnancy thing was both trying to hurt him and a last ditch attempt to get him back.
> The one I was with bought dozens of 99 cent pregnancy tests. I don't know what her trick was, but she could pop out of the bathroom with a positive or negative one on a whim. It got to a point that I took her to a doctor to find out whether or not she was pregnant. On at least one occasion she did get pregnant and induced a miscarriage. I didn't find out she'd killed it until the end of the relationship, at the time she pretended to be in mourning, had us put a cross on our porch, wore all black, would put on gobs of make up and then make herself cry so it would run so she could tell people about her suffering. I was so disgusted when she revealed she induced it herself.
> Anyway, at the very end of the relationship when she'd found a new dick to hop on and she was telling her friends and family we were broken up (while she was still coming over and acting like we were together) she flew into a rage saying I'd knocked her up to "trap" her. Now I'm not going to pretend I was particularly responsible with her, but on the night in question she for some reason wanted to get me absolutely wasted and forcibly prevented me from pulling out -which at the time just turned me on. She claimed to be on the pill, but by that point it's not like I believed anything she was saying.
> When she was screaming angrily about it she basically told me of a combination of foods she could eat (cinnamon, citrus and some third thing) that taken together would induce a miscarriage, and I said "How do you know that would even work?" and she said "It worked last time." After that she assured me if she did have it, she'd never tell me because I didn't deserve to be a father, etc.
> Read the book "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" the title says it all. They lash out and try to chase you away, but are desperately afraid of abandonment so then they try desperately to get you back, offering to atone in some way, but shortly after you give in they do back to devaluation and the crazy starts back up. The pregnancy was likely the only way she could think of that he might take her back.
> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SaC-2lj6HNg
> Honestly, most of what I found on the support forums was just confirmation and an eerie feeling of deja vu. I'd post a story and get a dozen "Mine did the exact same thing!" replies. I'd read someone else's story and think "Holy shit, mine did that too!" Most of the threads tended to fall into one of three categories, someone still dealing with a borderline trying desperately to keep the relationship going, throngs of people trying desperately to convince them a relationship with one was not salvageable and will never work, and people just commiserating over dealing with the fallout.
> I'll link to some forums anyway because it helps to talk that shit out, but by far the best resource I can recommend is this website:
> http://www.sharischreiber.com/articles.html
> Her focus is more on the psychology of the people who get sucked into relationships with borderlines, and articles on dealing with specific issues. For example: http://www.sharischreiber.com/blackmail.html
> That one is specifically on guys blackmailed into fatherhood by borderlines. It's one of their most common tactics. Definitely scroll through her articles on borderlines, they give sound advice on dealing with them, and a lot of information about yourself you maybe haven't dealt with.
> http://www.psychforums.com/borderline-personality/
> http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/
> http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=165447541
> https://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-8612.html
> Honestly, a lot of the places you'll find guys dealing with it are dating forums, PUA sites (I remember some forum called like donjuan or something had a huge forum of people dealing with borderlines) and I remember at the time googling about for info on borderlines was part of how I started running into MRA stuff. I know AVoiceForMen has a ton of articles about borderlines, and the HoneyBadgers have talked about the topic on multiple occasions.
> It's good to have lots of information from multiple sources, but IMO, the best source is still the first site I listed.