anger-Blog

In our world we blame someone or the other for being the cause of our
sorrow. The corollary of blame pining leads to anger or dislike for
the individual. When there is anger there is a need to respond to that
anger. The response to anger is what is called revenge. The mind plans
ways and means of giving pain to the person responsible for the
sorrow.If we feel that some person is the cause of irritation in our
lives then we should respond to the situation following the laws of
dharma. Sometimes one may have to keep away from the person. As a boss
one may have to take steps to discipline the workers but this must be
done with understanding devoid of anger. Duryodhanawas following the
path ofadharmaand he had to be stopped from causing further
misery.Bhagawanencouraged Arjun to take action against him but after
removing the anger simmering in his heart. He advised Arjuna to become
an instrument and act.For anger to be eliminated it must be resolved,
otherwise it remains in the subconscious in a dormant form. Anger does
not remain in the conscious mind all the time. We notice that
incidents producing angry reactions against someone, with time are
lost in memory. The memory becomes weaker and we even forget the
incident but unless the anger is resolved it remains. It is somewhat
similar to the toxins of our body. The toxins come out in the form of
disease - a rash on the body, white heads, constipation, sore
throat.Unresolved issues create constipation in the body. When we are
not ready to give up old habits and emotions, it causes constipation.
Mental constipation leads to physical constipation.The feeling of
revenge leads to other emotions as well. Jealousy is also a form of
anger or non forgiveness. Jealousy also expresses as anger and we have
a need to pull down the other person.We can be angry by the results
accruing to the other person. We are angry with the laws governing the
lives of others. Sometimes we are angry with the system. For example,
of the ten people applying for a job only one can get selected. But in
certain cases this is enough cause to make us angry with the
system.Pride is also a type of non-forgiveness. Pride means that we
consider ourselves better than others or to put it another way we
think of others as lower than ourselves. We are not forgiving enough
to think of the other as having made progress. If we delve deeper we
find that non-forgiveness expresses as other negative emotions. At a
deeper level we will find non-forgiveness of ourselves our parents,
God, society, the system of the world or the result of our actions.
All our negative emotions are derivatives of this
non-forgiveness.Greed is also a form of non-forgiveness. When we want
something other than what we have we show our unhappiness with the
world as it is presenting itself to us at the moment. Many people say
they do not like their lives; they hate the way they are. This means
that we are not comfortable with our lives at the present moment or we
are non-forgiving to what is. Indirectly we do not forgive God or the
system. This non-forgiveness expresses itself in various ways in life
and all our negative emotions are its relatives.If we are able to
imbibe this value of forgiveness we will gain release from our
negative emotions and also instantly become peaceful and tranquil.
When we are non-forgiving we blame someone but at the same time hurt
ourselves. Non-forgiveness leads to self hurt. When we are angry or
jealous we can neither eat nor sleep properly. So whom are we hurting
only ourselves. The person towards whom our anger or pride is directed
may not be affected. He or she may be sleeping happily.Whenwe want to
punish others, this negative emotion causes us instant sorrow. Looked
at from another angle, when we think we should hurt someone we are
taking on Gods job or taking the law into our hands. We are prone to
forget the basis of the law of karma, wherein no action positive or
negative goes without a result. We cannot get anything free nor can we
escape the result of even the minutest negative action in this world.
The world works on very stringent laws. So we do not really have to
worry about punishing others. Our job is to convince ourselves that we
do not have to punish the other person. Gods law of karma will take
care of the punishment.