Dr. Niama Malachi

Aug 10

to me, Aaron
You have the nerve to send me a LinkedIn request! I see filing a restraining order on you was not enough! What you failed to find out about me, with all of your stalking, was that I was raised in the Nation of Islam.  Contact me again, and I will quickly let the FOI know what you have been doing to a woman and a child.  You fucking coward!

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Aaron Gaulding <akgaulding50@gmail.com>

Aug 11

to Niama
Niami let me humble ask you to stop lying on me before I take this to the Internet of Things and expose you for being the Angry Dr. that your Mother told you, you are.  As far as threatening me with N.O.I. I called them yesterday right after you did....And I am waiting for the Sister to get back with about your lies...

But I do thank you for letting me know about the compromise of my system.  Some sent out a mass email blast from one of my email and you happen to be in it...

Now as far as your out right disrespect and name calling...I just returned from Defcon 23 to find my Network down and breach along with your lie and disrespect and I am not going to tolerant it anyone more....I you a pass when you for know reason other than having than being other than having the title Dr....

Sister if you disrespect me one more time I will take this to the Internet and expose you behavior and trust me it will cost you.....

So I humble request you stop before your in Court for Slander my Sister
Aaron Gaulding <akgaulding50@gmail.com>

Aug 12

to Niama
Niama Malachi after having 2 days to reflect on your continued disrespect of your Elder, me...I decided to give you the opportunity to apologies to me in written or I will create a # and put the court papers and emails of any and all communication I have ever had with you.

My concern with you is how many Black-man have you lied on...I know it appears that the title of Dr...should mean that you are in a position to be of service to our Community and not abuse and lie on it(members of the Community)..

By the way it's and insult to me, for you claiming I have stalked you..  Sister your not my flavor nor my type...,FYI I have a Wonderful Queen of 12 years now, that I am so Pleased with....So know some people are important in there own mind...

So be clear young lady you have to the end of business to correct yourself and apologies are I will take this discussion to the Internet of things..
Dr. Niama Malachi

Aug 12

to me
I apologize for however I may have offended you. Again, please refrain from any further contact with me.
Aaron Gaulding <akgaulding50@gmail.com>

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to Niama
Niama Malachi because you was not specific in your apology, plus adding a tracking cookie in your reply email leads me to believe your going to persist in keeping you delusion of me be some type of threat to you...So I will give anyone you go all communication between you and I.  It's sad that a Black-Woman who has work hard to gain the Education Status you have, would be behavior in such a manor...I truly hope someone come along a help to teach some healthy manorsInline image 2Inline image 1

6 Signs of Poor Communication Skills and How to Improve Them

Posted by Dr Margareta Sjölund on May 14, 2015 in Emotional Intelligence |


Why do some people consistently get better results in the workplace? Their projects seem to progress better, their teams work better, they get better promotions and assignments, and their clients and managers love them. While it’s easy to assign much of this success to better technical skills – after all, most people think of companies as meritocracies where talent rises to the top – the answer is probably something less expected: communication skills.

Good communicators can achieve results that far exceed their technical skills and know-how. Poor communicators, on the other hand, constantly feel stymied in everything they do and tend to under perform relative to their potential. So how can you tell if you have poor communication skills, and what can you do about it? Here are 8 simple signs to look out for:
1. One-Way Communication

Poor communicators often feel frustrated that they don’t get feedback – in meetings, emails, project planning, etc. They present their ideas, explain their plan, and wait for questions or comments, but get nothing.

The problem may be talking too much. Being a good communicator requires the ability to sit back and listen, in a way that invites conversation. Be conscious of leaving space and time for input, and don’t present ideas in a final “This is how it is and there are no possible alternatives” manner.
2. “You” Directives

If you find a large portion of your communication with co-workers, managers, and employees begins with the word “You” and a directive (“are”, “should”, “will”, etc. – words that demand an action from whoever you’re communicating with), you may have poor communication skills. Statements like “You should have been here an hour ago” or “You have to do this immediately” make people feel like they are being communicated at rather than communicated to.

Instead of using “you” followed by a directive, consider using “you”-neutral statements – the word “you”, followed by a statement of fact – “I noticed, you were the last person to arrive” or “Last week on Monday, you had agreed to get that report to me by end of day”. The people you are communicating with will feel less defensive, and are more likely to respond positively.
3. Only Negatives

Consider the way you react to ideas presented by others – if your first reaction is to shoot down the idea, you may have poor communication skills. While it’s important to thoroughly explore potential downsides of new projects, initiatives, and other ideas, being known as the “no” guy can seriously hinder your work progress.

Before responding negatively to others’ ideas, take a quick mental inventory and answer these questions:

    Is there a solution to the problem I see?
    Is my solution objectively better or do I just think it is because it’s mine?
    Do I understand the reasoning behind this idea, and can I express that?
    Are there aspects of this idea that can be built upon?

Instead of just saying no, express your understanding of the thought process that got the presenter to their idea, and identify some positive aspects that can be used to find a more optimal solution. Instead of dismissing others’ ideas as bad, present your own ideas as better.
4. Getting Personal

One of the biggest signs of poor communication is focusing on people rather than on problems. Examples would be dismissing a co-worker as stupid or an idiot for presenting a plan that needs improvement, or calling your employees lazy rather than focusing on specific impediments to better productivity. If you identify a problem, and your first thought is to direct a negative personal comment at the person you believe to be the source of the problem, you may need to re-evaluate your communication skills.

Instead of getting angry at or belittling people, make the problem the focus of your communication. Separate the issue from those you feel are responsible, and zero-in on possible solutions instead of apportioning blame. There is NEVER a situation where a negative comment directed at someone personally will get you good results.
5. Disregarding or Invalidating Feelings

Modern corporate culture has evolved to de-prioritize the emotions and feelings of workers, but doing so in your personal communication can lead to big problems. When you invalidate negative feelings (“I don’t care if you’re upset about this”), those feelings tend to become more strongly embedded. On the other hand, when you invalidate positive feelings (“Don’t get excited about that milestone, you’re still behind schedule”), the feelings can go away quickly and be replaced by apathy.

Whenever you are presented with an employee, client, manager, or co-worker who is communicating the way they feel about something, it’s important to validate their feelings, even if you disagree with them. Showing understanding of their emotions can make them more receptive to constructive criticism and make them more likely to make improvements (“I understand you feel frustrated with this project, but we need to change the design slightly …”).
6. Passive-Aggressiveness and Sarcasm

If you find yourself responding with sarcasm or passive-aggression in professional  and personal communications, you may be doing yourself and whoever you’re communicating with a big disservice. Both approaches get in the way of presenting real solutions to problems, and are often interpreted as belittling or condescending.

Instead of replying sarcastically to something that you see as a problem, be earnest about what you believe the issue to be and present straightforward and honest possible solutions. Using sarcasm or passive-aggression is often seen as a personal attack, and can escalate an already tricky conflict-resolution scenario.
Communication Is Key

The good news is that changing the way you communicate is not terribly complicated. It can be difficult, as is changing any behavior, but it is a straightforward process. Even better, there are plenty of tools that can help you both identify if your communication skills need work and help guide you through the process of improving them.

Being a good communicator is more than just about making the people around you feel better and getting your points across. It is essential to creating the kind of workplace where your ideas are really heard, where collaboration is smooth and seamless, and where teamwork isn’t just a buzzword. Poor personal communication, on the other hand, can not only set back your career, it can make work feel like … well, a lot of work.
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