I got pissed off when I read his texts to his ex and found out the real reason he was emailing a cousin about ancestry crap, she had requested it. He always said he was going to be an asshole and fight his ex if she wouldn't just accept his (extremely generous, enough alimony to not need to work) offer so they could avoid lawyers. But he gave in and gave in on tons of shit just because he wanted it all over with, and now even after the divorce he's still being nice to her and doing random little requests you'd do for a friend or maybe a friendly ex. And it's about more than just I don't think he should be nice to her because she's an ex. He willingly took all the debt (which was mostly accrued by the ex) and is going to have that affecting us for years and years meanwhile she's been a complete bitch about everything he tried to get in the divorce and he's still being nice to her! It was literally two hours from him receiving that text to him emailing and trying to get that done for her. I don't see him acting with that kind of urgency about things I want from him.

We lay around angry for hours and then he up and decided he was leaving, I asked where he was going and he didn't respond and he was leaving too quickly to try to have a conversation about anything. And it's my fucking birthday and I didn't want him leaving me alone in the hotel and taking the only vehicle I have access to. So I grabbed him by his shirt to try to stop him and bring him back in the room so we could talk and he attacked me, I attacked back, and he ended up pushing me to the floor, choking me til I almost passed out, and giving me a big-ass bruise on my arm. But it's all my fault and he isn't abusive, I am for grabbing his shirt.