RED KNIGHT

When shocked, the dogs from groups one and two quickly learned to jump over the partition. Most of the dogs from group three, however, just laid down and whimpered through the shocks as they had in the previous experiment. They had learned that there was nothing they could do to stop the pain.

If you believe you are fundamentally unattractive to women, you will have your story that justifies it. Maybe you’re too short, or too tall. You’re too fat, or too skinny. You’re a ginger, you’re balding. You’re too young, or too old. Your voice sounds funny. You’re too pale, or too dark. You look nothing like the men on the cover of fashion magazines. I could go on and on.
We all have our story. Mine was my hair colour, my skinny body, the sound of my voice and apparent lack of social skills. Yours is whatever yours may be. I felt my story deep in my gut, and I brought it into every interaction I had with beautiful women. And guess what? Like you, I never used to be able to attract women.Here’s the thing, and I want you to read this very carefully. Your story is bullshit. No, really. Your story is bullshit. Just like the dogs in group three of that experiment, you have been brainwashed. You don’t realize that everything you currently know about attraction−everything you hold as self-evident−is entirely false. You think you are unattractive to women because of some flaw, and every rejection is taken as further evidence for the validity of your story. The story we tell ourselves dictates the reality we exist in, and the reality we exist in creates behavior that perpetuates the story. Belief creates behavior, which creates belief, which creates behavior. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.


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