if((*socket_handler = socket(AF_INET, SOCK_STREAM, 0)) == -1) {
    error("socket");
}
struct sockaddr_in socket_address;
socket_address.sin_family = AF_INET;
socket_address.sin_addr.s_addr = INADDR_ANY;
socket_address.sin_port = htons(port);
if(bind(*socket_handler, (struct sockaddr*)&socket_address, sizeof(socket_address)) == -1) {
    error("bind");
}
if(listen(*socket_handler, 5) == -1) {
    error("listen");
}
if (port == port_to_connect) {
    return;
}

// is it ok to connect that way?
socket_address.sin_family = AF_INET;
socket_address.sin_addr.s_addr = INADDR_ANY;
socket_address.sins_port = htons(port_to_connect);
if(connect(*socket_handler, (struct sockaddr*)&socket_address, sizeof(socket_address)) == -1) {
    error("connect");
}    am_i_pointing_to_myself = false;