statement response thing

first off stop stalking my blog I haven't interacted with you or seen yours in months, if rowans stalking you then you should be mainly criticising him. also I've been in the osc for years I'm just using twitter more because it has funny shit on it

there seems to be a misunderstanding that I think nibbs is completely in the right. He is NOT, he is very in the wrong actually. the only thing I believe is that it wasn't grooming, you're both in some nuanced grey area, and that he didn't deserve to be harassed/sent death (and rape I think I can't remember) threats. On the topic of that im really sorry for harassing you back over that, when drama happens I usually get kind of manic(???) and overconfident, and it was amplified by being there in person at my birthday party. I don't mean this as an excuse but more as reasoning. It was really shitty for me to do that and I'm very sorry, especially if it caused you any mental harm. (ik sometimes ppl don't let it get to them so) You obviously didn't deserve that either, even though parts of me still think that (thank you loathye! /sarc) I've also never seen any proof of any kind for either side so there's that

From my understanding, both nibbs and lindt (?) were jashstalkers. This is disgusting behavior from both of you, and especially nibbs because he should know better being the older one. I probably should have said something when he started joking to me about his love for jash, but i clearly did not see the big picture + I was 14 and like there's not much I can do. Really deplorable behavior I'm very disappointed that neither of you, again especially nibbs, knew that was wrong and I have to be the mature one. Anyway, at the time of this I have no context besides nibbs telling me that he was warned by others to not befriend lindt due to past behavior, and the statement that nibbs added lindt to the server.

the main reason I (and multiple professionals and grooming victims of whom I've spoken to on the matter) don't believe this is  grooming is the lack of isolation, intent, and specific emotional connection. I can't really describe it, but it's saying stuff like "you're the only one who [...]" and similar sentences. The adding to the server was HIGHLY inappropriate, and honestly the server itself should e never existed in the first place because what the fuck ew ew ew ewww. however, I've been told that lindt was a jashtalker before this, and you have to make a conscious desicon to join a server. Not that nibbs shouldn't have done that though he should know better. all of us should've really this is very middle school behavior. If I get proof and/or context I'll change my statement. All in all that sever is disgusting being a jashstalker is disgusting nibbs was being inappropriate all of this was evil but I don't think it was grooming.

Another disgusting thing is the harassment he faced, and how people did not care to read the other side of the story which is disappointing to me. Ever since elementary I've always been told to consult multiple sources, as this is how you get credible information and remove bias. Of course, it's hypocritical for me to say that harassing nibbs was bad when I did the same to lindt. As I said above, I am extremely sorry and that was shitty and immature of me and my system. Im not exactly sure how to make loathye stop being a pro-harassment asshole so if someone would be willing to tell me then that'd be great. Of course, bad people deserve consequences for their actions. Nibbs loosing his platform is the best we, as teenagers online, can do. It is not up to us to deliver punishment. I think everyone should try and get professional counseling if possible to work through this. If you're unable to, there are multiple resources online + internet archive if theres paywalls, and I hope soon you'll be able to get the help you need. Main thing is nobody deserves to be harassed, and remember to read multiple opinions before forming your own. This is how we get old people stuck in their ways because they did not see anything else as a child! Not that that'll happen but you know it's a figure of speech.

I am not saying "ohhhh ik him and he wouldn't do that" because I don't really know him, at the time of the incident(??) I had only known him for a few months. I latched onto him because of my social issues and it was nice to have someone similar. I do not support sexual abuse. I myself was sexually abused (if I have to provide details I will I guess)  multiple times by this one girl, and I know the feeling of wanting harm to come to them. I really do. It sucks to be mature and calm all the time and you really wanna skin everyone alive, but you gotta stay cool you know? As much as it hurts to say, most of the reason she did that to me was because of her autism. (Which, I have too but it's a spectrum) I am only saying what I believe, which happens to defend him partly. I must restate this; he is not in the right. He is very much in the wrong.  But lindt is not completely in the right either, as it also was a jashstalker, encouraged harassment, and continues to stalk those affiliated. I don't even think I'm completely in the right either. This all is a very nuanced and confusing situation.
as a final anecdote (I think I've addressed everything??) I want to reiterate that I do not control Rowan. I can advise him, but he is his own person and I have no right to tell him what to do. He should STOP stalking your twitter (probably also refute his claims from you guys recent argument because oh my god Rowan no), and also apologize/make a statement of his own. Again, this is subject to change if I get any proof or context but this is my statement for now.