DBT

SassyAnnaWarrior: Ok I will.start since this all bc of me
SassyAnnaWarrior: I love u.all  And last night hurt me bad I didn't realize you thought that.of me
SassyAnnaWarrior: am I even here
TarienSoulEverLight: yea.
TarienSoulEverLight: you are here
SassyAnnaWarrior: so.all.I.get.out of that is a.yea ur here
DamonHunterMask: cause we letting you talk
SassyAnnaWarrior: I just said what I wanted to say
SassyAnnaWarrior: I was  crushed last night
TarienSoulEverLight: thought what of you?
SassyAnnaWarrior: the things u said
SassyAnnaWarrior: sounded as I was Terrible
TarienSoulEverLight: i dont get how saying you bite someones head makes me think bad of you it dont
SassyAnnaWarrior: And all those times to say.I.was a good mom.if.you thought all that.u.said.last night.being a good.mom was just a lie
TarienSoulEverLight: how is saying ur a good mum a lie
TarienSoulEverLight: just coz you bite someones head off over things dont make you a bad mum
SassyAnnaWarrior: but u making  sound as though I'm.the only one that does wrong in the family and I'm not in try to deal with mine the best I can
SassyAnnaWarrior: I said way more than that
SassyAnnaWarrior: And I'm.no.better than ur other moms
TarienSoulEverLight: im not making anyone sound as if they the only one doing wring
TarienSoulEverLight: wrong*
SassyAnnaWarrior: we use to be so close
SassyAnnaWarrior: if I what happen
SassyAnnaWarrior: I don't know what happen
TarienSoulEverLight: do you really think if i thought of you the same way as them that i would of tried to get closer to you
TarienSoulEverLight: if i thought of you the same way as them i would not have bothered
SassyAnnaWarrior: no I don't but what happen
SassyAnnaWarrior: am I here
TarienSoulEverLight: yea ur still here
SassyAnnaWarrior: ok
SassyAnnaWarrior: Damon any input
SassyAnnaWarrior: sets holding my knees to my chest crying
DamonHunterMask: i think your being oversensative again and not being patient to other pple explaining how they feel or why they did something and i think the kids arent communicating well with you
SassyAnnaWarrior: but as u see I'm trying to work on it
SassyAnnaWarrior: but......
DamonHunterMask: you all are your just not seeing that they are too
TarienSoulEverLight: serenitys asking me to spin so if im slow replying that is why
SassyAnnaWarrior: where was Luna  so I could explain. I didn't mind her being in pics she was in room but not talking tutu decided to.do.it for her
SassyAnnaWarrior: it was between me and her she should have been there
DamonHunterMask: point is dany told you ALL to fix it not just you and lulu cause the others were involved even if they had no idea wut the hell was goin on
SassyAnnaWarrior: And everyone was away
SassyAnnaWarrior: I tried
SassyAnnaWarrior: everyone that knows me should know I would never exclude her from anything
DamonHunterMask: yea and that why it was such a shock to everyone cause they couldnt reason why you would to begin with cause they didnt know shit of wut your doing
SassyAnnaWarrior: but I had told Emma what I was doing and van
DamonHunterMask: apparently not clear enough cause they were confussed as hell
SassyAnnaWarrior: I would tell you to read my messages to  van but then u would known what it is
TarienSoulEverLight: i asked the both of them if they knew what was going on and they both said they knew bits and peices
SassyAnnaWarrior: hurts to think everyone thought of me
DamonHunterMask: listen just cause you told them you taking pics for my anniversary dont mean they think you was doin it at that moment at her b-day party
SassyAnnaWarrior: them by.assume u didn't want luna in them
DamonHunterMask: all they thought was it was her party and everyone taking pics with her
DamonHunterMask: not with me
DamonHunterMask: they were there for van not for me
DamonHunterMask: and had no idea you was doing them at that moment
SassyAnnaWarrior: I asked  van if we  could since we  was altogether
DamonHunterMask: they thought talking pics with me was a seperate damn thing
DamonHunterMask: asking her to take pics and asking her to take pics for your surprise 2 diff things
SassyAnnaWarrior: van  was fine with it bc we as alltogher
SassyAnnaWarrior: if I crash invite me back
DamonHunterMask: but she didnt think you meant for my surprise
TarienSoulEverLight: ok momma
TarienSoulEverLight: been ages since beeing in here
TarienSoulEverLight: wb momma
SassyAnnaWarrior: go read y ad  van messages
DamonHunterMask: DamonHunterMask : but she didnt think you meant for my surprise
SassyAnnaWarrior: ty
SassyAnnaWarrior: well sorry.I.ducked up as usual
TarienSoulEverLight: i think he went to read
DamonHunterMask: nope
SassyAnnaWarrior: sorry I never be what  I need to be
DamonHunterMask: again your learning we all need to learn not just you
DamonHunterMask: the kids need to learn how to communicate with you better as well
DamonHunterMask: not just on you
SassyAnnaWarrior: well I don't know where this leaves me
DamonHunterMask: example tutu and lulu not forgotten bout the money thing..but they ran into hard times and lulu not got her last pay as she was supposed and it was their fault for not communicating that to you
SassyAnnaWarrior: I feel I lost closeness with all
SassyAnnaWarrior: her last pay?
DamonHunterMask: yea she not working no more
SassyAnnaWarrior: see I didn't know
DamonHunterMask: exactly no one is communicating right round here
DamonHunterMask: as for dany hes so fucking depressed hes shutting down hard core
SassyAnnaWarrior: as daddy's wife as head of family I'm told nothing I get treated as I'm not part of the head
DamonHunterMask: incase anyone noiced danys stopped talking almost altogether these days
DamonHunterMask: he sits silent like a damn tomb
DamonHunterMask: spinning odd songs
DamonHunterMask: the songs he was spinning hes been spinning non stop for 4 -5 days now
SassyAnnaWarrior: I have noticed but what can I do I
DamonHunterMask: but you wouldnt know cause your at work or fall asleep
DamonHunterMask: and that not your fault
SassyAnnaWarrior: ouch
DamonHunterMask: stop it just is..it not your fault
SassyAnnaWarrior: I try my hardest  not too
DamonHunterMask: before you get butt hurt let me damn finish
SassyAnnaWarrior: I feel bad  already
SassyAnnaWarrior: yes sir
DamonHunterMask: the kids see it and you dont...dany only somewut normal when your online
DamonHunterMask: after you poof or pass out he goes deadly silent
DamonHunterMask: he spins his sad songs or wont talk
DamonHunterMask: youre the only reason he tries to smile now
DamonHunterMask: but when your gone he dont
DamonHunterMask: cause he dont want you worrying or upset cause your working so hard and he wants you to not be anymore stressed
SassyAnnaWarrior: but last night I was told different on.that
DamonHunterMask: how so
SassyAnnaWarrior: it do sent matter plz finish
DamonHunterMask: thing is does anyone bother to ask the kids how their dad is when hes not around
DamonHunterMask: or ask how he acts when your not around
SassyAnnaWarrior: what am.I suppose to do
DamonHunterMask: realize one thing it not just bout you
DamonHunterMask: dany been on a spiral shut down for a long as time now
DamonHunterMask: and the only ones slowing that down are you tutu and lulu
SassyAnnaWarrior: I truly so hard  with.it all work cas babysitters our kids  here gma gpa
SassyAnnaWarrior: us
DamonHunterMask: but now it speeding up cause you all are arguing and that hurting him more
DamonHunterMask: yea we know it is
SassyAnnaWarrior: I'm wore thin
DamonHunterMask: why you think dany sparing you?
DamonHunterMask: why you think he paints on his fake smiles
SassyAnnaWarrior: I don't want fakeness
DamonHunterMask: cause he knows your beat..wore out
DamonHunterMask: and he trying to make it less of a burden on you
DamonHunterMask: dany been singing goodbye for a week now to this family
SassyAnnaWarrior: where did tutu go he suppose to be a part of this coverstion
SassyAnnaWarrior: yes ik
DamonHunterMask: hes also entertaining serenity in the other room
SassyAnnaWarrior: see no-one wants.to.talk.of  problems
DamonHunterMask: bs he dont
DamonHunterMask: serenity wants him to spin non stop
DamonHunterMask: she online
DamonHunterMask: she has been
DamonHunterMask: and she just a kid dont know all this drama
DamonHunterMask: and he trying to do both at once
SassyAnnaWarrior: well im trying to. get all this settled work
SassyAnnaWarrior: my.drawer was $35 short yesterday
DamonHunterMask: srry my fucking kid logged on before i woke up and demanded attention from tutu
SassyAnnaWarrior: bc my.mind was Mr.on work
SassyAnnaWarrior: oh wow I.wasn't complaning
DamonHunterMask: srry feels it when hes trying to do 2 things at once and your upset he not fully here
DamonHunterMask: he did warn us he was spinning for her
DamonHunterMask: and i did warn you she was online in a room with us
SassyAnnaWarrior: I get so. highly.thought so much of these days
DamonHunterMask: listen i dont think bad of you but youre not being patient or understanding that we are also with my kid
DamonHunterMask: the only ones with my kid
DamonHunterMask: and she demands fun and entertainment and attention
DamonHunterMask: and there only 2 of us
SassyAnnaWarrior: I didn't want her hearing.this
SassyAnnaWarrior: nd.I was trying to.work.it all.out
DamonHunterMask: nor do we but we both cant just go silent on her in the damn room
DamonHunterMask: that be rude and she get hurt thinking she fucked up
DamonHunterMask: you know how she is
SassyAnnaWarrior: idk when.it be worked out  5_10.
DamonHunterMask: so not only is he having to spin hes also got to read up on all the shit in here to catch up
SassyAnnaWarrior: is.what I work.back in at 7
SassyAnnaWarrior: 7_4
DamonHunterMask: you need to be more patient and understanding
SassyAnnaWarrior: And cas wants to.go play at.park sometime so. I'm trying to fit all.this.in
SassyAnnaWarrior: I'm trying.to be.I.thought
SassyAnnaWarrior: And now I'm.not understanding
DamonHunterMask: yea well hard for me too cause normally i take the girls to the park while your at work but i cant today cause as soon as i woke up i got pulled into this drama
SassyAnnaWarrior: I'm not.then only. one in.this.family that.not understanding
DamonHunterMask: omg did i say you were?
TarienSoulEverLight: im still here i am reading this but im also spinning with serenity coz she likes me spinning and iv been with her all morning part from when imvu crashed me off
SassyAnnaWarrior: I go in at 5
SassyAnnaWarrior: yes d read up u did
DamonHunterMask: fuck it this why dany wont talk cause anything he says gets over anylyzed to fuck and back and then he gets shit for it
TarienSoulEverLight: mhmm iv read up
DamonHunterMask: im going for a damn smoke
TarienSoulEverLight: tyt.
SassyAnnaWarrior: I'm.not giving shit
SassyAnnaWarrior: well I.tried
SassyAnnaWarrior: I.have to get ready for work
TarienSoulEverLight: ur not giving a shit??
SassyAnnaWarrior: no I was answering d
TarienSoulEverLight: i was just asking coz i got lost then
SassyAnnaWarrior: see ppl don't read all the conversations and  miscommunication happens and causes trouble
TarienSoulEverLight: iv read all the convo i was just asking why you was saying im not giving a shit
SassyAnnaWarrior: but u see I wasn't.talking of.u
TarienSoulEverLight: i was not saying you was i was just asking what you meant
SassyAnnaWarrior: nods
SassyAnnaWarrior: am I here
TarienSoulEverLight: im sorry if i ask something or what someones means is coz im having a hard time reading the screen coz my eyes are hurting
TarienSoulEverLight: yea ur here
SassyAnnaWarrior: well I'm.sorry I'm a fuck.up
DamonHunterMask: listen he wont cause you all get butt hurt over wut hes trying to say cause hes having to be inturpretor and middle man in everything and when tries to make you all understand you all dont want to hear what hes saying cause you all dont want to admit to wut he has to say
SassyAnnaWarrior: but there the problem.I do admit.my.faults
DamonHunterMask: its blame blame blame when all hes doing is showing you all were each one of you has failed to understand or communicate
DamonHunterMask: so cause you all get butt hurt over wut he trying to show you hes the one that gets yelled at fussed at and accused
DamonHunterMask: and he tired of it
SassyAnnaWarrior: then should I remove myself.for awhile.I can get bella
SassyAnnaWarrior: no-one but  you is close to bella
DamonHunterMask: no wut you ALL need to do is calm the fuck down and listen and see anothers damn point of view around here instead of your own
SassyAnnaWarrior: kinda.hard.when no-one talks
DamonHunterMask: except for daany cause he the only doing all the damn communicating
SassyAnnaWarrior: bs I'm trying to communcaite
DamonHunterMask: ffs im communicating for him to you all
SassyAnnaWarrior: ok
DamonHunterMask: cause you all bite his head off when he tries communicating between you all
SassyAnnaWarrior: why.does. no-one treat sassy.as.head.with.dany
DamonHunterMask: and dont tell me you dont cause you bit his head off the other night
DamonHunterMask: in your peacock room
DamonHunterMask: and now your biting my head off cause you cant stop and see a diff point of view
SassyAnnaWarrior: I didn't.see.that.I.didn't if.I.did I didn't.mean.too
DamonHunterMask: 'how could you not when he lew up
DamonHunterMask: blew*
SassyAnnaWarrior: no I'm.not biting ur.head off.I.haven't.once
DamonHunterMask: SassyAnnaWarrior Whisper: And now I'm.not understanding
SassyAnnaWarrior: I'm agreeing with everything
SassyAnnaWarrior: that's not.blowing up
DamonHunterMask: sounds it cause the way it phrased..something everyone forgotten in here is a simple fact dany learned long ago
DamonHunterMask: you cant hear emotion in here
SassyAnnaWarrior: And p assume to much
DamonHunterMask: when pple talk things are communicated on diff levels by tones
SassyAnnaWarrior: ppl
DamonHunterMask: and you cant hear tones in here
DamonHunterMask: example i can say fuck you and it can mean many things by tone
DamonHunterMask: fuck you can be a jking around thing
DamonHunterMask: if im laughing
DamonHunterMask: or smilling
SassyAnnaWarrior: do u mind answering.my question
DamonHunterMask: or can be a mean fuck you f im angry or pissed
DamonHunterMask: listen
DamonHunterMask: can you tell how i men it in here if i type fuck you with no voical tone or facial expression
DamonHunterMask: think bout it
SassyAnnaWarrior: like when.sassy.said.bite me.that.one.time Danny took it wrong
DamonHunterMask: exactly
DamonHunterMask: no tone deffinition
DamonHunterMask: no visual to see if it meant in a bad or good way
SassyAnnaWarrior: but ppl  should ask.not assume
DamonHunterMask: why you think dany hates texting so damn much
TarienSoulEverLight: sorry im in shop with serenity now
DamonHunterMask: he prefer you hear him when he talking serious bout issues
DamonHunterMask: so you can hear the emotion in his voice
DamonHunterMask: so you dont misunderstand or take something wrong
SassyAnnaWarrior: nods
DamonHunterMask: and you know you ALL need to start putting yourself in other pples shoes around here
DamonHunterMask: cause if you accually think on it
DamonHunterMask: i mean really think on it and put yourself in their shoes you see and understand it was a natural thing for them to be shocked for a min about lulu not being in the pics with lil understanding of wut the hell was really going on
DamonHunterMask: now dany didnt react..why
DamonHunterMask: cause he stopped and thought wut is going on
DamonHunterMask: and looked at a damn bigger picture to see it was for your pics
DamonHunterMask: but that dany and emma and van arent dany
SassyAnnaWarrior: but asked.van
SassyAnnaWarrior: if it was ok
DamonHunterMask: ik you asked her but dont mean she understood it
SassyAnnaWarrior: And I  whispered  tellingnemma
DamonHunterMask: i think she thought you meant as in for her party not for dany presant
DamonHunterMask: and i dont think they understood you wanted to do it right then and there
DamonHunterMask: nor do i think they understood the dynamics of the pics you wanted
DamonHunterMask: did they understand you wanted seperate ones?
DamonHunterMask: or did they think you wanted family ones
DamonHunterMask: cause to them lulu is family
SassyAnnaWarrior: well.I'm.sorry the miscommunication of them. not hearing.meut
DamonHunterMask: wut should have been said was i want family pics with dany and seperate ones
DamonHunterMask: then they understand more
SassyAnnaWarrior: I thought they knew I wanted us  And kids bc that what no said
DamonHunterMask: but they didnt
DamonHunterMask: cause you seem to have overlooked dany calls lulu his kid to even if she not
SassyAnnaWarrior: bc  I told Emma lulu was letting me get thesebpics
SassyAnnaWarrior: And do u not see I have been.too
DamonHunterMask: in all accuality she more his kid then they are cause she been round him the longest
SassyAnnaWarrior: And  have.I.not been calling.her.a.kid
DamonHunterMask: so you cant say of him and the kids cause to them lulu just as much his kid
SassyAnnaWarrior: cries I.guess.that.has gone unseen
DamonHunterMask: just say seperate pics
DamonHunterMask: see there again your taking wut i said to personally
DamonHunterMask: i never said you not been
DamonHunterMask: im telling you how it appears to them
DamonHunterMask: to them lulu is his kid as well
SassyAnnaWarrior: sighs
DamonHunterMask: so when you say i want pics of him and the kids they thinking lulu in it
TarienSoulEverLight: van see luna as her sister she said that to me yesterday
DamonHunterMask: lulu could never be danys cause that was taken from them from the start
DamonHunterMask: by kimmie claiming her against danys will
SassyAnnaWarrior: I have always Senn lulu that way but seen this.familyndontnlistenn to me bc.I.have saidn
DamonHunterMask: but really she is his
DamonHunterMask: no one saying you havent
SassyAnnaWarrior: many time's in a room
DamonHunterMask: are you not hearing me
SassyAnnaWarrior: I'm.hearing.u.but.others arentnluken
DamonHunterMask: DamonHunterMask: so you cant say of him and the kids cause to them lulu just as much his kid
DamonHunterMask: they did hear you but not the way you think
DamonHunterMask: you said kids they thought it included lulu
DamonHunterMask: cause lulu is in more ways than one danyskid
SassyAnnaWarrior: no I'm talking.of  when  I say she is  a kid
DamonHunterMask: now im lost cause i call them kids never get yelled at for it
SassyAnnaWarrior: nd  I have said it a lot lately but I guess  no-one hears lol old me
SassyAnnaWarrior: huh
DamonHunterMask: listen you saying you call lulu one of the kids
TarienSoulEverLight: sorry serenity is giving me a make over in shop
SassyAnnaWarrior: when  did I yell
DamonHunterMask: think bout wut you said
DamonHunterMask: you said you call lulu one of the kids
DamonHunterMask: now think
DamonHunterMask: they did hear you cause when you said of the kids and dany
DamonHunterMask: they thinking lulu as well
DamonHunterMask: cause even you call her one of the kids
SassyAnnaWarrior: I wanted the. kids we birthed
SassyAnnaWarrior: then her
DamonHunterMask: now really think on that and you will see how confussed emma and van were to wut you meant and wut you said
DamonHunterMask: did you say the kids you birthed or did you say one of dany and the kids
SassyAnnaWarrior: never mind  forget the pics forget the.present in wanted something  special and its.not anymore
SassyAnnaWarrior: Danny.and the.kids
DamonHunterMask: sighs cause you see where the confussion is now
DamonHunterMask: you should just said i want pics of dany with emma tutu and van
DamonHunterMask: been far simpler
SassyAnnaWarrior: but I don't even want any of it no more
SassyAnnaWarrior: it's lost its meaning
SassyAnnaWarrior: I apologize to.everyone for being.a retard
DamonHunterMask: everyone here knows lulu should have been danys kid and not kimmies and knows they are soul father and daughter so yea it confussed them
SassyAnnaWarrior: well.as. i.just  said  I'm. a retard
DamonHunterMask: and he never took lulu as his when she left kimmie cause tarien was already his son and he saw they fell in love so to spare them the accusation of incest he kept it as was
SassyAnnaWarrior: And would never
DamonHunterMask: your not a retard your just refusing to see the bigger picture is all and dany fighting to show you and your just pushing it away
SassyAnnaWarrior: wtf am I pushing away
DamonHunterMask: when dany was trying to explaine why it was natural for them to be shocked by the confussion misunderstanding and lack of communication you bit his head off on it
DamonHunterMask: accusing him of thinking you accually do that
SassyAnnaWarrior: nods
DamonHunterMask: you didnt stop to listen that their shock was exactly cause they thought you saw her as a kid too
DamonHunterMask: and wut you wanted went completely against wut you show
SassyAnnaWarrior: well what.was.suppose to. been  working.out with. tutu has.backfired on me
SassyAnnaWarrior: well I'm sorry for the.miscommuncat ion
DamonHunterMask: no just took a diff course
SassyAnnaWarrior: well. as I said I can't  do it on my.own
DamonHunterMask: as for you n tutu he does love you if he didnt he wouldnt be here trying to help you see it was a misunderstanding
SassyAnnaWarrior: but he not hete
SassyAnnaWarrior: here
DamonHunterMask: and you do inadvertantly bite pples heads off when they try to help you see something
DamonHunterMask: fps
DamonHunterMask: cause as he said serenity pulled him to shop
SassyAnnaWarrior: while I  speak no more
DamonHunterMask: hes not god he trying to do mulitple things
DamonHunterMask: that wont solve nothing
SassyAnnaWarrior: I will let.ppl assume down.me just like rl
DamonHunterMask: wut you need to do is stop and think before reacting and accually hear it out before responding
SassyAnnaWarrior: so should others
DamonHunterMask: everyone should yes but right now your the one that didnt do that
SassyAnnaWarrior: I will be seen not heard
DamonHunterMask: and hows that solving anything?
DamonHunterMask: cause it wont your silence will only hurt them more
TarienSoulEverLight: im sorry im trying to keep serenity happy while being here i dont want to upset her by not talking and ignore her
DamonHunterMask: wut you need to do is before you react on something stop waite it out and listen and think before reacting so quickly
SassyAnnaWarrior: im gon unheard alto so no.itt wont
DamonHunterMask: even dany stops and asks wut tutu or you or lulu means before he reacts to initiative emoions
SassyAnnaWarrior: nods
DamonHunterMask: good example is when you whispered him saying "just you me and the kids" he was shocked confussed and sad for a min but he didnt react he stopped
DamonHunterMask: he thought
DamonHunterMask: wut is going on?
DamonHunterMask: wut is this she wanting?
DamonHunterMask: wut has she been doing with these pics?
DamonHunterMask: and saw
DamonHunterMask: and understood
SassyAnnaWarrior: nods
DamonHunterMask: and knew his emotions was wrong
SassyAnnaWarrior: nods
DamonHunterMask: cause our emotions can lie to us
DamonHunterMask: decieve us
SassyAnnaWarrior: like my r now
DamonHunterMask: and dany no miracle ok
SassyAnnaWarrior: sorry I spoke
DamonHunterMask: ill tell you why he can do that better than you all
DamonHunterMask: cause he took DBT classes for bipolarism
SassyAnnaWarrior: nods
DamonHunterMask: to learn how to recognize and seperate his emotional mind from his logical mind
SassyAnnaWarrior: nods
DamonHunterMask: emotions are quicker than logic
SassyAnnaWarrior: nods
DamonHunterMask: and we react to them cause they are
DamonHunterMask: when logic is needed as well
DamonHunterMask: you cant be in just emotional or just logical
DamonHunterMask: you have to be in a nuetral place
SassyAnnaWarrior: k
DamonHunterMask: that place is the rational mind
SassyAnnaWarrior: k
DamonHunterMask: he took this class 3 times cause of his girls
DamonHunterMask: and being bi-polar
DamonHunterMask: its a skill he constantly using and re-learning
SassyAnnaWarrior: k
SassyAnnaWarrior: phone.dyong
DamonHunterMask: this wut DBT teaches him ok
DamonHunterMask: Mindfulness: the practice of being fully aware and present in this one moment
DamonHunterMask: Distress Tolerance: how to tolerate pain in difficult situations, not change it
DamonHunterMask: Interpersonal Effectiveness: how to ask for what you want and say no while maintaining self-respect and relationships with others
DamonHunterMask: Emotion Regulation: how to change emotions that you want to change
DamonHunterMask: shit
TarienSoulEverLight: sorry not been saying much
DamonHunterMask: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a cognitive behavioral treatment that was originally developed to treat chronically suicidal individuals diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and it is now recognized as the gold standard psychological treatment for this population. In addition, research has shown that it is effective in treating a wide range of other disorders such as substance dependence, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and eating disorders.
DamonHunterMask: The term "dialectical" means a synthesis or integration of opposites. The primary dialectic within DBT is between the seemingly opposite strategies of acceptance and change. For example, DBT therapists accept clients as they are while also acknowledging that they need to change in order to reach their goals. In addition, all of the skills and strategies taught in DBT are balanced in terms of acceptance and change. For example, the four skills modules include two sets of acceptance-oriented skills (mindfulness and distress tolerance) and two sets of change-oriented skills (emotion regulation and interpersonal effectiveness).
DamonHunterMask: Clients who receive DBT typically have multiple problems that require treatment. DBT uses a hierarchy of treatment targets to help the therapist determine the order in which problems should be addressed. The treatment targets in order of priority are:
DamonHunterMask: Life-threatening behaviors: First and foremost, behaviors that could lead to the client's death are targeted, including all forms of suicidal and non-suicidal self-injury, suicidal ideation, suicide communications, and other behaviors engaged in for the purpose of causing bodily harm.
DamonHunterMask: Therapy-interfering behaviors: This includes any behavior that interferes with the client receiving effective treatment. These behaviors can be on the part of the client and/or the therapist, such as coming late to sessions, cancelling appointments, and being non-collaborative in working towards treatment goals.
DamonHunterMask: Quality of life behaviors: This category includes any other type of behavior that interferes with clients having a reasonable quality of life, such as mental disorders, relationship problems, and financial or housing crises.
DamonHunterMask: Skills acquisition: This refers to the need for clients to learn new skillful behaviors to replace ineffective behaviors and help them achieve their goals.
DamonHunterMask: In Stage 1, the client is miserable and their behavior is out of control: they may be trying to kill themselves, self-harming, using drugs and alcohol, and/or engaging in other types of self-destructive behaviors. When clients first start DBT treatment, they often describe their experience of their mental illness as "being in hell." The goal of Stage 1 is for the client to move from being out of control to achieving behavioral control.
DamonHunterMask: In Stage 2, they're living a life of quiet desperation: their behavior is under control but they continue to suffer, often due to past trauma and invalidation. Their emotional experience is inhibited. The goal of Stage 2 is to help the client move from a state of quiet desperation to one of full emotional experiencing. This is the stage in which post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) would be treated.
DamonHunterMask: In Stage 3, the challenge is to learn to live: to define life goals, build self-respect, and find peace and happiness. The goal is that the client leads a life of ordinary happiness and unhappiness.
DamonHunterMask: ]For some people, a fourth stage is needed: finding a deeper meaning through a spiritual existence. Linehan has posited a Stage 4 specifically for those clients for whom a life of ordinary happiness and unhappiness fails to meet a further goal of spiritual fulfillment or a sense of connectedness of a greater whole. In this stage, the goal of treatment is for the client to move from a sense of incompleteness towards a life that involves an ongoing capacity for experiences of joy and freedom.
DamonHunterMask: Research has shown DBT to be effective in reducing suicidal behavior, non-suicidal self-injury, psychiatric hospitalization, treatment dropout, substance use, anger, and depression and improving social and global functioning. For a review of the research on DBT, click here. In this video, DBT Developer and Behavioral Tech founder Dr. Marsha Linehan describes the amazing changes she's seen in people who have received DBT and gotten out of hell.
DamonHunterMask: dany went threw 3 levels of Dbt training..took it 3 times and still wishes he could continue the course for a 4th
DamonHunterMask: brb
TarienSoulEverLight: tyt.
DamonHunterMask: back
TarienSoulEverLight: wb.
DamonHunterMask: now you see why dany is the way he is when comes to problems
TarienSoulEverLight: yea.
TarienSoulEverLight: read the other room dad momma in there
DamonHunterMask: when he started DBT classes he was suicidal
DamonHunterMask: sighs
DamonHunterMask: will no one understand
TarienSoulEverLight: im trying
DamonHunterMask: ik and im trying to explaine it all
TarienSoulEverLight: is it ok to save the script so i can read the things you posted in here
DamonHunterMask: k
TarienSoulEverLight: im having a hard time staying awake coz i never slept again
DamonHunterMask: awws
TarienSoulEverLight: http://gyazo.com/176e961ba93c94ed55d2ca8911034388    https://gyazo.com/d558a15f1144429b11188b9cf48a956e <----thoes are what serenity was doing to me in shop
DamonHunterMask: awws hehe
TarienSoulEverLight: tbh shes good at finding things
DamonHunterMask: hehe
TarienSoulEverLight: that was all her no help from me
DamonHunterMask: awws
DamonHunterMask: well dany diagnosis is borderline personality disorder (BPD), anxiety, rage Bipolar, PTSD, and OCD
DamonHunterMask: and if you know anything of BPD you'll see it dany...highly sexually permiscuous
DamonHunterMask: he binges on it
DamonHunterMask: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zPopjuKuweg