gfd and rr guide to a new you

Firstly, it should be pretty obvious that a large part of starting any relationship is simply attracting other people in the first place. The point of this paste is to make you as attractive as you can be and attraction is not, as r9k will often try to tell you, height, weight, facial aesthetics etc. This is the mentality of a dating app, where you are reduced to a human on a shelf rather than a person. (You should delete any and all dating apps btw)
Attraction is mostly about how you show up and present yourself. This is what I want to target in this paste.

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Before reading ahead: Please simply read this and accept it and do it for the amount of time stated at least once. Try The Jacket On For Size!! Maybe by the end of it, you will have decided that the jacket fits incredibly and you will never take it off because of how much you love it. Maybe you will love some of it, but this and that didn't agree with you and now you have an awesome body-warmer. Maybe you simply throw it in the bin and never put it on again, even then, you've tried another way of doing things for a bit and got out of your comfort zone. This last part is especially important. Know that if you are doing the same things, you will always get the same results. If you have been looking for a gfd partner but never changed tac once something hasn't worked and simply become more crystallized in your way of doing things, you will never get a different result.
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1. I'm not manly enough


If guilt is the first thing you feel when thinking about the fact that you aspire to have a gfd relationship because it's not traditionally masculine and being a home-maker is not traditionally masculine, that is something that needs to change. You will never find the right person if somewhere in your brain, you are telling yourself that you should feel ashamed for wanting this relationship and that you are not on the right track. This will manifest very badly if you allow it to go unchecked and you will begin to self-sabotage your relationships if you have them or ruin opportunities that come your way while you're looking for the right person.
Yes, first off, it's not traditionally manly to want to be a home-maker, you are going to have to make peace with this fact somehow and the way I like to do it is the following:
There is no interesting person on earth who is simply a grey copy and paste of the next person. This is r9k for gods sake, we all hate the idea of being an NPC. The things that set you out and make you an individual personality are going to be things that break the mold, there is no exception to this. Even if you were to be the very best "NPC" you would have to do extraordinary things that others aren't doing to enjoy your 9-5 the most or make the most money from a corporate job.
Likewise, your aberrations from the crowd and from tradition will be things that you should not hide from or feel ashamed of, but be proud of. When I say proud, don't shove it in people's faces, but simply rather than thinking to yourself: "I'm a freak, no one else is into this shit and I can't relate to other people" you should try something like "I've got a certain standard that I want to be met. I have high standards for the right partner and if it takes time to find that right person, then so be it. The perfect partner is not going to be easy to find and gfd/rr is simply another item on a list that most people have when looking for partners. Whereas some people may have 'Blonde/Sporty/Great legs/Amazing cook and housewife', I have 'Strong-willed/Independent/Breadwinner and wanting a home-maker'"
If you've spent any amount of time in your life up to this point telling yourself that it's going to be difficult to find a partner who's into gfd, trust me, finding the right partner full stop with any qualifying factors is always hard.
>Why don't I just remove any qualifying factors?
Because you're better than settling for anything that comes your way. If you seem desperate and easy, there will be no takers. If you de-select and have standards, you will find the right one. I promise you.


2. You and your body


If there's one thing that sticks out to me in the threads, it's the amount of men who aren't confident in how they look. Many are worried about hair loss (cure for that later and hint: it's not test), many are worried about their body shape, their weight or their body hair. There are a million ways to pick yourself apart and when in less than ideal circumstances your brain will do this and come up with self-deprecating reasons.
I'm going to often refer to books written by billionaires in this paste as they have a wealth of information on how to gear your mind to success and manifest things into your life from your mind. This is the first time I will do this and I hope you will see why.
If you give your brain reasons to focus on the bad things about your body and you, it will feed them back to you repeatedly. This is due to a part of your brain called the Reticular Activation System and you will be aware of how it works. If you have ever bought a car (let's say a red Ford) and driven home in it, lo and behold, there's now 4 or 5 red Fords you see on the road. Were they hiding and they've come out since you've bought one or were they always there? They were always there, you just didn't notice them because your RAS was working.
Your RAS picks up "sameness" and points it out to you. It likes things that are like you and makes you aware of it. If you feed it with the right things, it will start to point it out to you and suddenly you will feel as if there's gfd everywhere. You will notice tons of girls who want a cute home-maker as a boyfriend, who will keep the house immaculate and make them feel taken care of, as if they're working for a gorgeous house and a loving family (courtesy of you).
If that sounds ridiculous because "no way would that ever happen", TRY THE JACKET ON FOR SIZE!
Start to feed your brain with positivity and always focus on the good of any situation, like I alluded to earlier with reframing your "sick fetish" as "one of the standards you deem necessary". If you hang around 4chan too much, you have been giving your brain negativity for far, far too long. Whether it's the war, whether you're a self-described incel, whether you're "blackpilled" the amazing thing is that these are phenomena in your head, that you can tune in or out of your reality to lead a different life.
This may sound a little too /x/ for some of your liking, but what can I say except, again, Try the jacket on for size and do it! If any of you find it weird how upbeat and positive I am in every thread, this is why.

With this in mind, let's go back to you and your body, the title of this section.
A huge amount of the images posted in gfd are of twink/catboy bodies. If you are broad, short and hairy I want you to know and accept that this is not a body type or a style you should try and emulate. You will come off as unconvincing and disturbing. It will be obvious that you're putting on an act and it will turn anyone off. Do not try and be a cute boy if you are not the type of androgynous, lithe and slim figure already.
You need to work with what you are and maximize THAT to its potential. If you are, like I said, broad, muscular and hairy then you should style your hair in a way that works with your face, find an exercise regime that takes advantage of your natural broadness and show off your muscles with pride rather than meekly wear long sweaters and bite your lip shyly. If you want a female example of this, think of the 50-something single women who go out in leather pants and wear leopard print tops in an effort to look like the 19/20 year olds in the club they're attending. They're not convincing or attractive, they're drunk and should not be touched with a ten-foot barge pole. They are trying desperately to be something they're not and can't be. It's unattractive even to the men of their age.
For every girl who wants a catboy or a femboy in a dress, there's multiple women who simply want men who look and act like men.

With that point made, I want you now to go and find a mirror, floor-length if you can and take a long, hard, maybe painful look at yourself. This exercise is not designed to make you feel small or disgusting or to make you upset, but you need to look at yourself with an American Psycho level of detachment. What is your body? Where could you improve it? What are your attributes that you should continue to show off and what are things that need work?
For example, I have good upper-body muscles but do have a soft middle that I'm working on. I grow facial hair easily and look better with it as long as it's neat, so I keep on top of shaving. I have to wear strong glasses so I pick a pair that looks good on me because I look better with glasses than without. I have strong legs from my running and I'm pretty hairy. My jawline could be improved so I chew mastic gum and mew.
Write down a few things like this, be positive but honest in good ways and bad. If you know you have a problem area, are you working on it and if so, how has your commitment to working on it been? Do you need to re-focus on it?

This may initially make you feel as if you're doing harm to your self-esteem but if you are being honest in what you write down, you're describing what others see as well and once it's down on the piece of paper or whatever, you essentially have your list to work on. These are your instructions to being the most capable and high-quality version of you that you can be. What else is that but true freedom and more or less a cheat sheet for maximizing your chances at getting the perfect partner?
Once this is done, you're going t do something you've likely never done before. A vision. You're going to imagine where you are in a year's time, who you're with, what you're wearing, where you work if you work, if you don't work what do you do? etc. Write down these fixes to your body image in here and make it part of the story! It's a year from now and you've ran your first half-marathon! It's a year from now and your hair has grown back because you stuck to a routine and you kicked toxins out of your body! It's a year from now and you've just bought your girlfriend a beautiful car from the business you set up while she worked during the day! You've gained muscle, you've dyed your hair the colour you always wanted, you read 60 books a year. Whatever you want to be in a year's time, write it down and make your relationship and the work you've put into your body part of it!
You now have your destination, so lets build your roadmap and service your car...


3. Common stories


Many of the men in the threads will have similar issues, hair loss is one I see regularly and there's a few conversations about this. First of all, before I tackle these problems individually, you should know this:
"I can't get a girlfriend because I'm too x or I don't have y or z is happening to me" is simply one of the stories you're feeding your RAS from earlier. People tell themselves these things all the time and it holds them back because they refuse to get over themselves. They will say they can't get where they are because they're ugly, they're losing their hair, they're too short, too tall, they're black or white. Take a short look around any social media site and you will find people who are berating THEMSELVES for the fact they're manlets, then you'll find people stating they're too lanky and can't put on muscle, then you'll find people complaining about hair growing in the wrong places, and other people fretting over how much hair they've lost.
The issue here is not that these people have actual problems. It is that they use these "problems" as excuses to not challenge themselves, get out of their comfort zone and get a different result by changing the way they do it. You know this is true every time you see a thread about someone complaining "I hate being too x, having y or going through z" and you'll think to yourself "I wish I had that problem".
Side note on having problems too: Everyone has problems. You will always have problems. You should simply wish for better, different problems, not NO problems. The problems you want to have are deciding between two amazing venues for your wedding, feeling as if you're paying too much tax because your business makes so much money, having a breakdown on a new Mercedes rather than a breakdown down on an old Corolla. Your mind should be looking for problems to solve, not problems to whinge about.

On to the fixes though:

Hair loss-Rub raw eggs into your scalp and wash them out with cold water in the mornings. Make sure the water is cold, or else you will end up with scrambled egg in your hair. Do this for at least a month. http://exo-science.com/eggs.html If you want to look at some of the science behind it and why it's not testosterone levels. As described in the link, hair loss usually results from another toxin in the body. Alcohol is usually the primary cause so cut that out first if you're bud-light scented.

Tiredness-Go to sleep at the same time each day and wake up at the same time each day. Do this for at least a week. Do not use screens 2 hours before bed, read a book. Exercise should help with this too. You should aim for a fairly natural sleep cycle too, i.e. with the rhythm of the sun's rising and setting. If you feel woefully tired when you wake up, sometimes you will simply need to get more sleep, don't feel guilty about it.

Motivation-When you wake up, you need to eat fats and proteins. If you start your day off with cereal, doughnuts or toast, you're giving your body an insulin spike that will make you feel tired and hungry again in just a few hours. Over time this leads to alzheimer's, diabetes and is very bad for your skin. Acne is often a direct result of this kind of routine. Skin tags too but not many people see those as a huge problem. The resultant hunger and tiredness means you're far less likely to exercise and will put on weight much faster (insulin is a hormone and is the most highly correlated hormone to weight gain). You'll find it difficult to motivate yourself because of this. Easily available things like eggs, good-quality bacon, even bone broth are excellent ways to start your day. I start off with coconut oil as it's shown to help lose fats. I don't see a reason why you would ever not do this as you are going to just feel happier and more alive every day by doing this, but I would at least make sure to do it for 2 weeks to start to see the full results of your changes.

Health in general-This is almost an overture to the above but you must avoid processed food. Again, it kills your mood, your libido, your motivation and your skin. Don't eat a lot of grains or breads, try and eat a low-carb diet that's high in fat and protein and make sure your regular meals contain little to none of the following:

Processed/refined sugar - (This has many names, you should look them up)
Seed oils - (Except for coconut and olive oil), seed oils are toxic chemicals that will fog your brain and stay on your body for a long time. "A lifetime on the hips" is almost made for these. They are a major source of inflammation and therefore cancers too.
Alcohol - Kills testosterone, leaving you unmotivated. Drink too much and you'll lose the next day. This might be hard mode for some of you but try to pick just one night in the next month that you can drink. If you make it work, then move onto 2 months etc. I drink once a year at Christmas.

Those are the big three but as a general rule, if you can't pronounce it or imagine yourself getting it in the wild, don't eat it.