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- Aria01/04/2021
- <sighs very loudly> Can I ask you guys a weird question re: potential problem player to see if it actually is a problem?
- Tehom01/04/2021
- sure, shoot
- Aria01/04/2021
- Sometime in.... I want to say last January, maybe the January before that, a previous player of Calypso was banned because of their OOC issues with another player in House Malvici. I don't know who that player was because she didn't tell me, but assuming you guys keep track of that stuff, is that person still playing their Malvici character?
- (I don't want to know who they are; I just found out some upsetting shit about Irisa that means she was pretty much hiding who she was so I wouldn't lose my shit about being forced to interact with her, and I want to make sure she's not doing the same thing to whoever this girl is.)
- Tehom01/04/2021
- Hm, I can look it up, I didn't think that player was still playing. She was prone to meltdowns and totally flipped out more than once
- Aria01/04/2021
- She was also prone to meltdowns on Irisa and is the player I just posted about on MSB.
- The same person, apparently, who gaslit me into dealing with DownWithOPP when we staffed together ElseMu*.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- as far as I can tell that one Calypso is no longer playing
- Aria01/04/2021
- Hmm. Okay, good. Because at the time, Irisa's player -- who should be the same Irisa -- told me she was Calypso. That Calypso that got banned.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- I mean she could be and using a different account, I guess. If she's crazy as hell then I would think there's a decent chance
- Aria01/04/2021
- I wanted to make sure that when Irisa transitioned to Malvici, she wasn't springing her unwanted presence on whoever it was she banned for bothering like she apparently did to me.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- Some of the situation is coming back to me a little. I think the person who that Calypso clashed with in Malvici is as intensely problematic in their own way to the extent that some staffers refuse to GM for them
- if I remember the situation right
- So while neither were great it was somewhat muddled
- Aria01/04/2021
- Yeah, I never had the full context of it, since I wasn't involved. I only found out because Irisa disappeared for several weeks, came back, and sheepishly explained to me why while going on a very lengthy explanation about how it was all just a misunderstanding between her and just one girl and she convinced Apostate to give her a second chance.
- Which.... whatever. I just wanted to make sure she wasn't slipping back into the House when she quit Riven and joined Malvici as Irisa so she could continue interacting with whoever that person was without their knowledge or consent.
- 'Cause surprise, that's pretty much what she did to me for two years. And if that's the case, it's fucking creepy, because one of my biggest issues with them was gaslighting me into putting up with DownWithOPP when we were on a game together.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- Did she lie about like who he was or something?
- Aria01/04/2021
- Who DownWithOPP was? No. This was when we first identified him. She (actually he) kept insisting that he was just being friendly and I was misreading him when I started reporting his behavior.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- His creepy-ass pregnancy fetish and controlling behavior is just how he tells you he likes you
- Aria01/04/2021
- So tl;dr, someone who defended a creepy asshole who circumvents bans so he can get back onto games and inflict himself on women who want nothing to do with them without their knowledge or consent then turning around and potentially inflicting himself on women who want nothing to do with them without their knowledge or consent (albeit at least not in a pervy fetish sort of way) was setting off many alarm bells.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- Yeah in this case, the issue between previous Calypso and the other Malvici wasn't like that at all. They just didn't like each other
- Aria01/04/2021
- Cool, cool. Looking back at some of her behavior now, I can definitely say she was feeding me stories that didn't make any sense so I wouldn't find out.
- Like, when I offered to invite her to the Discord chat some folks in Riven have, she just could've said no, she wasn't interested, she didn't have Discord, whatever. Instead she told me that she wasn't comfortable using her Discord account in relation to the game because she needed it for work purposes that required it to have her real name on there..... and then a few months later, was telling me about her career on the sales floor at Lowe's.
- I'm pretty sure that Lowe's doesn't mandate employee Discord accounts, weirdo.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- Lowe's controlling the social media footprint of their employees with an iron fist
- Aria01/04/2021
- They also require you to have an outdated World of Warcraft account with your employee ID number as the handle.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- Oh man I hope XXSylvanasFan453XX isn't already taken
- Aria01/04/2021
- That's your employee ID number? You should likely be concerned about the lack of modernization at your employer, Tehom! They seem stuck in the late 90s.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- That's why Zoom has overtaken us, imo
- Aria01/04/2021
- We have MS Teams and I can definitely see how Microsoft's SSO has prevented our department head from leading town halls under her usual handle, blackangel69.
- (What can I say? She's GenX.)
- Tehom01/04/2021
- The hardest-hitting note I recently saw about GenX is we grew up with movies that treated the greatest threat to happiness was having a stable, well-paying job that would make us less authentic and hip
- Aria01/04/2021
- YEP.
- I'm a Millenial myself, but like.... just barely. Literally born on a cusp year depending which generational cutoff date you use.
- Both older Gen Xers and young Millenials are relatable and yet confounding.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- yep yep. on the 'younger GenX boundary' here
- Aria01/04/2021
- I feel like that little five year span of being born between '79-'84 (the latter being me) is particularly fucky and weird. Not just because of the generational markers, but because that little band was all a bunch of people who were at a transitory time in their lives when 9/11 happened and changed everything, and also went out into the job market during one of two big recessions that impacted their finances heavily.
- Like, that was my senior year in high school, so all my friends who joined the army to pay for college got sent to war instead. And then when we all graduated in 2006-2007, it was right into the crash.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- yep yep. 9/11 was such a seismic shift on a degree that feels almost impossible to explain to people who didn't experience it
- Aria01/04/2021
- Bingo. And it happened literally the year that everyone is telling high school seniors that they're about to go out into "the real world", so it became this really specific and traumatic marker of Childhood Is Over Now.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- yeah, it really felt like the entire world changed overnight
- Aria01/04/2021
- <rubs face> I'm sorry to be an asshole and drag the conversation back, but can I possibly put a no contact request in re: Irisa or something? The person who told me who they are last night talked to me again this morning and included a screenshot of them saying they knew perfectly well who I was, knew I didn't want to interact with them, and was hiding it because they were "enjoying the interactions" and knew it would end if I found out.
- I'm not imagining this. They were deliberately deceiving me.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- yeah sounds fine to me to tell them to not contact you in any way
- Aria01/04/2021
- I am super squicked out now.
- Irisa was inactive when I started playing Mia. He may have played Irisa before I joined the game, but he came back to an idle character and then lied to me for over two years.
- Is there anything else you guys can do?
- <IMAGE THAT PASTEBIN CAN'T HANDLE>
- Tehom01/04/2021
- The precedent we have is not banning people for ooc dishonesty but to discourage sharing ooc details on any level. It's kind of dickish but it wasn't to take advantage of you, just to avoid confrontation. I think it's best just to tell them never to contact you again
- Aria01/04/2021
- I would be significantly less bothered if Irisa just really liked the character and wasn't regularly pursuing RP with me, except she was. That is the part that does feel like they were trying to take advantage of me, albeit not sexually.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- idk. The player isn't exactly a prize so telling them to pound sand wouldn't be the worst outcome from my perspective, but they haven't really done anything to warrant it. But I don't really read any sort of negative intentions into it - if they were trying to set you up, or like taking down stuff you told them in confidence to use against you, or anything like that, sure. But it sounds like they just enjoyed RPing with you and didn't want you disliking them to ruin that
- I should note that I am famously bad when it comes to shit like this though so it could well be everyone else would have an entirely different opinion
- Apostate01/04/2021
- It is the current irisa, she has no alts. I temp banned them once because they were hyper controlling and freaked out over stupid shit. They have continued to be hyper controlling over everything they are involved in to a point it really bugs me but hasn't been a problem
- Reading that it looks like they just wanted to avoid old bad blood rather than like, manipulate you. The one case I banned someone for similar is when it was obvious it was done with extreme malice, where he joked about a player's insecurity and hoped he could make her kill herself irl
- and this is not on that level
- Aria01/04/2021
- Nah, I get what you're saying. I do. But a big part of why I don't like this person was because the spent months telling me that DownWithOPP's behavior was "friendly" and that I was "misreading" it. So I see an additional creep factor in a dude who lies about who he is so he can interact with a woman because he thinks that's okay, especially when he's defended someone doing the exact same thing so that they can sexually harass probably a score of women over the years.
- And no, this is definitely not on that level. I wasn't even asking for a ban. I don't know what I was asking for, really.
- Options, I guess?
- I had several people complain to me about Irisa's controlling behavior and meltdowns, too, so I am also admittedly very mad about the time I spent trying to manage and mitigate her bullshit because she kept being so nice and apologetic.... while also lying to my face.
- Apostate01/04/2021
- Like sometimes talking it out is great but I dunno what could even come of it. Like what are they going to say, "I'm sorry I was a shithead to you a while ago but not sorry enough to apologize and come clean originally because I didn't wanna risk losing your rp"
- TBH, my take on them with how controlling they are? They are someone who puts harmony above everything, and that's why they are the kind of person that will be an enabler for every horrible person, because they don't wanna deal with anything not under their control
- (That's someone you never, ever want as part of running a game)
- Tehom01/04/2021
- DownWithOPP is a complete piece of shit but the reason guys like that thrive is that other people are often so permissive of it by giving the benefit of the doubt or not seeing the harm caused. It's definitely a mistake I would have made before Hellfrog made me aware of how wrong I was. He was absolutely 100% wrong to minimize that, but given that it sounds like most people have been on the "oh he's not that bad, just socially awkward" I don't think he'd be unique in that mistake
- Apostate01/04/2021
- Almost every time I've banned a creep at least a few people have come forward to tell me I'm wrong and they aren't really like that
- I mean it's like clockwork
- Aria01/04/2021
- Ohhh, I have no doubt.
- Apostate01/04/2021
- People don't wanna believe that shit about someone they like
- Aria01/04/2021
- And with OPP, he is very good at being active and running things, which staffers always love. So it gets him additional leeway he absolutely intends to abuse, so I get why Irisa was like that at first when dealing with him.
- Tehom01/04/2021
- he's so helpful and positive [when not hounding people for weird-ass pregnancy RP and making sure they can't RP with anyone else]
- Aria01/04/2021
- But as far as options go -- I may be misreading something here -- but I'm pretty sure that Clue 4066 'There's Nothing to Worry About' makes reference to Mia and the White Stewards/Aetheris and that it involves all these groups that are supposed to be working together.
- If that's the case, is there someone who is Not Irisa that I can be shoved at when the time comes?
- I don't want to end up inadvertently hamstringing an entire group because I'm like, "Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck this guy."
- Apostate01/04/2021
- Yeah, I mean there's a dozen things we can do- interaction with an NPC instead, interaction with other white steward characters instead, handwave participation. Like the whole Horned God is going to be the central arc of the game once skal'daja is over so it's pretty much going to be what all stories run into with its 40 million subplots, it's easy to work around that kinda stuff with so much involvement
- Aria01/04/2021
- Okay, that's what I was hoping for. This plot has had huge ups and downs for me over the years but right now, I'm pretty burned out on everything - work, school, gaming. Life. I really didn't want to have to add trying Cirque du Soleil around one person so I'm not accidentally cutting off an entire org or something into the mix. Because that's garbage for everyone.
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