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- I'm really upset
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:33 AM
- why
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:35 AM
- I'm not sure but I feel like I'm trying to convey to you that I need some support and I'm not getting it and its really bothering me
- and I don't wanna start with you over some shit that doesnt have to do w you so ima go to bed
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:36 AM
- lmfao
- you literally just did
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:36 AM
- no I didn't I'm just saying it so you know
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:36 AM
- no you did
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:37 AM
- ok liv well good night
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:37 AM
- no tell me how me asking what’s making you upset isn’t supportive
- are you really gonna sit here and tell me i’m not being supportive over a literal 3 word exchange we just had two minutes ago? honestly nvm don’t even answer that goodnight
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:38 AM
- no its not that
- I told you like an hour ago I was upset
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:39 AM
- and i said
- we did not have to watch the skeleton key if you were upset
- and you said no i’m fine
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:39 AM
- and the last time I was feeling fucked up you hit me with a "well if you need anything let me know"
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:39 AM
- why would i take no i’m fine as a cue to keep pestering you about it
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:40 AM
- right and me leaving and not being able to watch it should have been a clue that maybs I wasnt fine
- Idk youre just a shitty partney emotionally and I dont mind it cause I mostly dont need you for that and have ash but wtf
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:41 AM
- nope
- no
- i’m not participating in this conversation goodnight
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:42 AM
- its true I'm not even being an asshole. thats your your skillset and normally it's fine but tonight it isnt
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:42 AM
- jamal
- i am so serious
- stop
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:44 AM
- im sick of just never having conversations that I need to because you don't have the range. i feel unsupported and I feel like you don't care about my emotional self or connecting in any kind of deep way that go beyond our surface interests. now I can go to bed
- goodnight
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:45 AM
- if i’m a shitty partner emotionally and you “don’t need me for that cause you have ash” then honestly
- whatever
- you do the fucking math on that one
- goodnight
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:45 AM
- its true
- its always bothered me I just don't bother you about it because I get its not your personality
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:46 AM
- leave me alone go away goodbye
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:47 AM
- how the FUCK do you end up mad at me when you're the one who fucked up
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:48 AM
- maybe you should go talk to ashlea about it
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:48 AM
- youre not a sensitive or intuitive person and you dont make me feel safe to open up and I'm laying it all out there because I'm mad af about it. what do I have to do fly a fucking blimp over your head
- I tried shes asleep.
- were best friends I have the time of my life with you, you make me laugh like no one else but I don't feel safe and I don't feel like youre in tuned to me and Im angry with you because of it
- and I'm being mean but I swear its the truth and tonight isnt the first time ive sought out someone else to lay my burden on but wtf. what is the point of a relationship if I cant tell you shit because I don't know if you'll care or understand
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:52 AM
- yeah jamal
- what is the point
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:52 AM
- tell me cause idk
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:53 AM
- i’m not doing this with you, i’m not gonna do the thing where we act like i don’t fucking care about you because you got in your feelings over a movie
- it’s offensive and untrue
- and you know it is
- and i’m not doing it
- jamal - Yesterday at 12:53 AM
- i'm not saying you don't care about me
- i'm saying you're shitty at conveying it in ways i need sometimes
- livvy - Yesterday at 12:55 AM
- ok
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:00 AM
- good talk
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:01 AM
- it wasn’t but i told you i wasn’t doing this conversation and i meant it, i don’t have a single thing to say to you right now that is productive in any way
- two fucking weeks ago you sat in my room and told me how safe you feel and how much we’ve grown and how we trust each other so much more and now i’m a shitty emotional partner??? are you joking?
- leave me alone
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:03 AM
- i trust that you won''t lose your shit and back out of plans or try to break up with me or say wild insensitive shit
- but do i trust you with my own story of my psychotic abusive mom that that stupid ass movie drug up for me
- no
- and that's the problem
- because i should
- and i want to
- but you're on a different fucking planet. the rare moments i do wanna open up to you, you're either dismissive or oblivious
- you don't have that instinct or that ability and i have come to accept it and love you despite it but you let me fucking down sometimes, i can say that w/o you threatening to break up with me over it
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:05 AM
- nobody is threatening anything but idk why you think “you’re a shitty emotional partner compared to ashlea” is cool to say even if you are mad at me
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:06 AM
- you are, and there are things ashlea is shitty at compared to you wtf are you talking about
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:06 AM
- actually no i’m sorry it was you’re a shitty emotional partner but i don’t need you for that
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:06 AM
- we don't have those kinds of conversations, about our trauma, about how to heal from it
- me and ash do
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:06 AM
- imagine lmao if i was like
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:06 AM
- that's all i was saying
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:07 AM
- you know jamal you’re shitty at the fundamentals of this relationship but it’s fine i don’t need you for that
- i just keep you around to fuck and laugh at i guess
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:08 AM
- yeah it'd be fucking hurtful but it wouldn't make it untrue
- and you WOULDN'T say that because i've always been the one thirsty for more emotional connection more emotional conversations more understanding between us
- and you are always have always been WILL ALWAYS BE the one running away from that and shutting it down
- you're not built for it and it's FINE i just never get to release my frustrations about that but tonight i'm tired of just going to bed
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:12 AM
- first of all
- since your mom is the topic at hand every fucking TIME i try to get you to talk about her you don’t want to
- you never want to
- what we’re not gonna do is act like i’m emotionally retarded and unsupportive just because of one time i didn’t fawn all over you when all i fucking do is baby you and worry about you in this relationship
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:13 AM
- when do you try?
- literally when?
- you asked to go visit her with me and i said no but aside from that
- when??
- all you do is baby me???? i'm LMFAO
- is that before or after or between calling me a dummy and telling me to shut up constantly and acting annoyed by me
- you really think your disposition is doting and loving i'm L M F A O
- these aren't even things i dislike about you but get fucking real
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:16 AM
- my favorite part of when we fight is when you point out things i do and pretend we don’t both do them constantly
- i love it
- i can’t get enough of it
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:17 AM
- right which is why i would never fix my mouth to say i always baby you
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:17 AM
- i would actually like 5 more of those please
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:17 AM
- but i have always been the one more emotionally open and available and able
- that i can claim
- you're stunted, which is fine, what's NOT fine is you not accepting that and working on that or even thinking it's something that can be changed before you get all huffy and mad for me being on the other side of that
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:18 AM
- which is fine but again you looked me dead in my face and told me how safe you felt and now all of a sudden i’m miss hostile emotional environment
- so which one is it
- it cannot be both
- are we in a happy and loving relationship or do i make you feel like a prisoner baby
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:19 AM
- it IS both, because relationships are often complicated. i feel safe with you in that i don't think this relationship is going to end abruptly like i used to feel i do think that you're in this for the long haul and you're not one foot out the door like you used to be
- but i DON'T feel like we have a great emotional base, we've never had that and it's something i can live with except for nights like tonight and the other night when i'm struggling with something and you're not there
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:21 AM
- and since we’re talking about what’s not fine
- i keep telling you that the way not to talk to me about things is by comparing me to ashlea
- a n d y e t
- h e r e w e a r e
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:22 AM
- i wasn't trying to compare you i was just telling you the truth
- you obviously didn't know that or you didn't care
- which is it
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:22 AM
- first of all i have always known that you had a closer emotional connection with her and you know that
- what i don’t need is you fucking waving it in my face like a punishment
- which is what you always do
- what you’ve always done
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:23 AM
- i'm not trying to punish you
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:23 AM
- when you wanna hurt or upset me you bring her up when you KNOW
- you fucking know i hate it
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:23 AM
- that''s not even what i was trying to do
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:23 AM
- and then you go
- that’s not the point
- i’m trying to have a rational conversation!
- and you’re fixating on the words!
- when you KNOW
- it hurts my feelings every time
- and you continue to do it
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:24 AM
- olivia i wa sjust telling you a fucking fact about how i cope with your shit
- i wasn't trying to drag ashlea up to wave it in your face or gloat or be a dick
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:25 AM
- but i’m the emotionally retarded one, i’m the one not creating a safe space in the relationship
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:25 AM
- that isn't even what this convo is about
- i could have said key that's about how much it is significant to me
- the point is that i have a routine for moments like these and i'm tired of it
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:28 AM
- so here’s an idea why don’t you try fucking telling me when you’re upset or why you’re upset when i ask
- instead of brushing me off
- and then telling me i don’t show up for you
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:29 AM
- because i don't wanna deal with like, emoting, analyzing said emotion, expressing myself and getting none of that reciprocated
- it's hard enough
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:30 AM
- ok
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:32 AM
- it's painful when we're fighting, imagine adding the vulnerability of sharing something already devastating on top of that? no fucking thanks
- and you're so quick to dispose of it i know it's not something you can do comfortably
- or have an instinct or urge to so i don't bother you
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:33 AM
- but that’s not fair you don’t get to ignore or brush off my efforts and then tell me i don’t make them
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:34 AM
- "well let me know if you need anything" isn't an effort
- your efforts are mostly politeness and it's annoying
- that's why i brush you off
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:35 AM
- jamal i thought you were physically fucking sick and you told me you were gonna sleep it off
- and i still checked on you
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:37 AM
- i wasn't physically sick idk why you would think that
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:38 AM
- all you said was i feel gross and there was literally no context for it wtf
- but okay
- you have the floor
- tell me how you would prefer that i show up for you
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:40 AM
- i don't even care i'm over it
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:40 AM
- no
- you don’t get to do that
- listen
- i’m upfuckingset and that’s not gonna go away for a little bit, it doesn’t have an off button, but i am genuinely asking what it is you feel that i’m not doing
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:43 AM
- if you don't feel a way or that there's nothing wrong then i don't see the point in talking about it
- livvy - Yesterday at 1:44 AM
- jamal
- jesus christ
- fine
- honestly fine whatever goodnight
- jamal - Yesterday at 1:46 AM
- goodnight
- livvy - Yesterday at 10:27 AM
- i’m sorry that i haven’t been an emotionally supportive partner.
- jamal - Yesterday at 10:37 AM
- it's fine
- livvy - Yesterday at 10:37 AM
- it’s not
- i should have been more receptive to your concerns last night and more emotionally available to you in general and i wasn’t and i’m sorry
- jamal - Yesterday at 10:39 AM
- I didn't exactly facilitate a productive convo about the issue so
- I was upset
- livvy - Yesterday at 10:53 AM
- we both were
- jamal - Yesterday at 10:55 AM
- yeah
- livvy - Yesterday at 11:20 AM
- so where do we go from here
- jamal - Yesterday at 11:22 AM
- Idk honestly
- I just chalk it up to the 80/20 rule
- livvy - Yesterday at 11:31 AM
- ok
- jamal - Yesterday at 11:38 AM
- ok
- livvy - Yesterday at 11:39 AM
- good talk i guess
- jamal - Yesterday at 11:40 AM
- not really but what else is new
- livvy - Yesterday at 11:40 AM
- yep
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