Rocket
Hey, I looked you up on facebook. I really am sorry. I thought you were one of the troll kids
I didn't think you were in your 30s too.

Gravy
I'm aware that you think all people who could have anything against you must be trolls and/or children.  That attitude never failed to seep through my previous interactions with you.

Rocket
Don't making sweeping generalizations of what I think thanks
All that I can do is guess at intentions.
You must agree that there weren't many people like "Flame spiral does x, and if you do y and z then W"
and the ones  that did make cases had good interactions
Like Mellored and few dozen others
And for sure some were kids like the kid that tried to mess with me outside of the forums was only 14

Gravy
As I know that person in real life, I can say with 100% assuredness he wasn't 14.

Rocket
which one

Gravy
And, last I talked to mellored, his opinion of interactions with you were not something you would want to put on a resume.

Rocket
I tried to bury the hatchet with you many times
why can't you let it go?

Gravy
I didn't kick you, didn't vote to have you kicked.  Not sure what you mean here.

Rocket
I mean that you just keep saying negative things about interactions with me
you don't count any of the positive interactions
and when I try to say hey, I am sorry
you go into brining up negative things

Gravy
You are doing well on the reddit

Rocket
You aren't my judge
I am saying we could be friends
and you are trying to judge me

Gravy
And I am saying I have no interest in being your friend.

Rocket
we have a common interest

Gravy
This is correct

Rocket
why do you hold a grudge against me?
don't you make mistakes?

Gravy
It isn't a grudge against you.  It is a constantly reinforced view that you would not be a good fit in any of my games or communities that I frequent.

Rocket
Yet I fit in with so many others, so why is that?

Gravy
I could only guess.  I've not personally been a part of a community with you where you did 'fit in' with everyone.

Rocket
See it from my side will you. You are new to the 4E forums right
You see this char op thing
you want to participate
you find yourself what you think is a nitch

Gravy
niche*

Rocket
niche
yah
and then people get mad at you because you are new and don't know enough?

Gravy
I get that you believe that is the reason people were mad at you.

Rocket
I did everything

Gravy
That fervent belief is what makes me understand that you are not a troll.

Rocket
I remade the list three times
I moved it out of char op
like nothing satisfied them
I can't even post it linked from google docs to reddit

Gravy
I do understand that you think you are bending over backwards and trying.  Like I said, from your perspective it seems like you are trying everything.  When I put myself in your shoes, those were the times when I tried to reach out the most to bridge the divide.

Rocket
Right now you drive the divide though

Gravy
The fact that you refuse to actually see any of the criticisms makes those attempts basically impossible.

Rocket
The only reason we aren't friends that I know of is that you don't want to be friends.

Gravy
And the fact that you keep doing the things that are causing the problems, means it is unlikely to change.

Rocket
I absolutely didn't know flame spiral was good
and I made a mistake thinking you were a troll
I don't know everything

Gravy
Yes, a good part of the reason we are not friends is that I do not want to be your friend.  Because friendship is not something you can force, it must be mutually agreed upon.

Rocket
I don't understand you
Maybe I never will

Gravy
I don't want to be your friend because of the victim language, because you don't change, because you see criticisms so easily as attacks.

Rocket
Either way, I am happy to be your friend if you want to sometime

Gravy
It isnt that you have a void of good qualities.

Rocket
Look, I don't see criticism as attacks

Gravy
You do genuinely try and if you werent constantly shooting yourself in the foot, those attempts would be so much more fruitful.

Rocket
That is something you project onto me
If someone says "you are bad at math" it is an attack
If someone says "you don't calculate it that way, you do this"
that is a criticism
and instruction

Gravy
I know you want to believe that enough that you make it true from your perspective.
I'm gonna go run my game now, have a great day.

Rocket
I am not making up things.
And there is a log
People didn't delete posts for no reason
Well thanks for your time anyway. I damaged our potential friendship. I get it. Have fun.