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Adrian -
ok, im gnna ask this in the main rather than nsfw bc it doesn't have to do w sex, rather sex repulsion?
so if i hav a friend in here who is sex repulsed, i'd like to get ur opinion on some things bc i have a good pal of mine who may be sex repulsed but they're rly like??? stressed out and they're worried abt societal issues making them feel dirty bc of it.
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
well i used to be
but it probably wasnt the same thing? at least all of it? there was an element of my super orthodox christian upbringing but it was mostly side effect to dysphoria and hating my body to that degree
Adrian -
it might be the same for them too.
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
that sucks
Adrian -
bc they were raised highly baptist.
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
its hard for me to remember those times, cause after the surgery it was like a switch
that stuff feels like it happened to a different person
there was also a kinda like, if i hate myself so much
its repulsive to think about other ppl liking me physically/sexually
theres also a big dimension of shame
abt sex, not being sex repulsed
identifying as asexual for a very long time, it was helpful to me
i dont think being ace or sex repulsed is bad
of course
but some ppl thats just i guess, on the road to being more comfortable understanding themselves
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
what's this about being ace and sex repulsed b/c
poses what's up y'all
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
adrian asked abt help with a friend
i think... i dunno how i changed
i dunno how you can explore or think about if theres underlying stressors, without potentially hurting yourself if you're just
sex repulsed?
yo heads up im also tired lmk if i dont make sense
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
personally i'm like
Adrian -
bc like?
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
i can't read fanfiction that gets sexual without feeling vaguely Gross
so yeah i'm def sex-repulsed
the entire concept just. ugh
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
i think in my case vs other ace/sex repulsed ppl there was just way more personal shame when it came to basically
everything
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
i have 0 understanding of how it appeals or why
Adrian -
friend was raised v baptist, her family went around to underdeveloped areas in middle asia to help w the societies and introduce religion there, so it's v much a factor from her upbringing.
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
and yeah idk i feel Bad when i read anything nsfw
i feel gross and uncomfortable
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
yieks
damn : (
Adrian -
and also she has recent trauma from someone she trusted in having treated her poorly and they used sexual rp to like, coax her into things
so there's also that
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
that sucks
ugh
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
well here is the thing
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
ppl suck
Adrian -
but she's not fully asexual, she has urges and such, but it just feels bad for her bc of that trauma and her upbringing.
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
if she later realizes she's not sex-repulsed, it's okay
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
yeah i remember that feeling/s
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
it hurts no one to id as something and later realize it doesn't fit
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
yeah and realizing that, its a slow realization
and it doesnt mean theres a new set of standards for how to be a brand new sexual person or w/e
Adrian -
yeah
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
it sounded like, correct me if wrong, she feels really bad about that part
that it is affected by other things
Adrian -
Thanks a lot guys, I worry abt my friend a lot they're v important to me.
Shes a good ;;;
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
good ... i hope u got some good intel
and she can feel a bit better
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
if she wants to talk to someone who's sex-repulsed i'd be happy to
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
if its from trauma/upbringing its still valid, even though it sucks to think about it
it doesnt mean she HAS to change
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
yeah
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
i think the important thing is to not be upset about that. or sad
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
like....i had a shitty boyfriend and i think some of my sex repulsion is due to that
but....it's okay
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
yeah its ok to be comfortable with that being part of your life
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
b/c being sex-repulsed isn't bad
and i'm. sorta becoming more comfortable with it? i still have 0 interest but sometimes clark and i will discuss our ocs sex lives and it's not making me feel bad and gross anymore, which is good
Adrian -
!!!!  claps for you.
Cora (ง •̀•́)ง -
i made an innuendo joke and clark was like "babe i'm so proud of u"
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
nice
its good ur friend has ppl who take her seriously too
Adrian -
u 3u
i lov her so much too, like omfg, she's v important to me.
tas (ง •̀•́)ง -
i hope she has a good life !
for real