PSK Olympics - When a man meets a man Cepek Thomas, 3. B
And again, like last year I got the assignment to regular psychological Olympics, the topic When a man meets a man. This topic sic very open but saying little, gives me the opportunity to talk about how I met my boss and what is behind this happened and what processes and things happened when I got into one unnamed chain store summer job.
First, we think about what the "rats" involves two people. Often these things to realize in retrospect, when we forced them to think, as I do now. So let's think. What is this sight?
I dare figuratively and tell you that it is knowledge and the interaction of two people on the ground joint initiative. Whatever the place, time, interest ...
That's nice, but what we need?
As an analogy, I chose baking a cake.
First and foremost, we need two people, we could bake "souffle sight." So all we need the dough, fruits and some that binder.
Our tests are two people who should know, meet.
Last time I checked, so I'm still human, and even my boss is an infernal creature from the depths of Tartarus, as is customary with superiors.
Okay, so we have two people who can meet.
Now it must be forced to meet in a specific substrate what unites them, it is our bond, what batter connects with fruit. In this case, the onset of the brigade, it is the "glue" that we seek. But first the dough must be mixed with glue! Nowadays, the possibility of sight, if you want interaction, very open. We can meet directly, or indirectly through the achievements and the achievements of modern technology. I am in a situation to start a brigade took advantage of both. Let me explain, and perhaps you will understand how to cook this complicated cake.
When I handled the job at summer presented itself to me the possibility of working in a chain of sports equipment. So I sent an email that I was interested in something a little about yourself, and with not too high expectations, I sent an e-mail. This is the first form of interaction (if you sight), the indirect interaction, because I did not direct my request, "face to face." I went on a boating course which is indirectly necessary for what followed. Because of that I was very far from the place of residence, I had to deal with my request again indirectly. Now it by phone. The first time I was able to draw a conclusion about what my boss as a person I could make a so-called initial impression, which is as inaccurate as a mechanical engineer after flašce Russian vodka. That I did not see how my boss looks at all on the accuracy of my impression not helped. After all, you can not meet a man just by text messaging, word is much better, but not ideal as direct contact.
Thus, a man met a man, or if you like, vote met the voice, which sounds too poetic for my taste. (However, I was not even sure that the boss will not Martian.) From the initial indirect sight but, anyway, I figured a few things. Firstly, the fact that my manager is friendly and fair, and that it will not have to worry about work during electricity. Electric time, that is when You go to work with a resistance at work sitting in tension, and when you touch the management and kicks us! And so I was looking forward to the promised interview. Secondly, the fact that my future boss is at least somewhat willing to listen to my requirements.
But still not any direct interaction. This, I hoped to come early so I could get a more complete picture of my superiors.
Boating Course ran like water, which we were driving, and the next day, but I managed to catch up on sleep caused by spending the night on the course, I went for the promised interview.
Nervous, I got into a small office that occupies my supervisor.
Now I got the last piece of the puzzle, direct contact and therefore initial phase of rats was behind me.
Conclusions from the first, and especially the visual impression is often partially or completely wrong.
You'd be surprised how much can be concluded from the first view. My impressions of telephone contact flew through the window, because what I concluded from telephone contact was broken. Here I was wrong overall, and thank God for that. My boss is bald muscleman, of which just reeks of respect. Sic's leading position in the important, but the initial impression that nothing is working.
Now that we have a cake ready, we put it in the oven and let it bake for several months. I baked mine two summer months.
Over time, and over time, it is important, however, I learned more about my personality boss. Of the persons forming a respected presence turned out to be just the right guy sic hard but not bad. Sic superior, but able to understand why I could not come on time. This process would better understanding likened to bake the dough in the oven. Made of white nowhere to pile up golden and delicious cakes.
Someone would have thought that this man met a man, or even earlier, by the very fact that the other person calling you meet her, and the whole process is terminated. Alas! This process encounters a long-term, even lifelong. Man you meet each other when the arm of hitting the streets, here it comes, as you meet a man like personality. It is more about how the person you know and how that knowledge is mutual. Knowing something as large as a human personality, which is full of tiny nuances, differing life from life, each of the variations affect our understanding that prohibits precise and exact description of the processes and movements of the human personality, which are influenced by a billion variables and many other situations ( therefore, I take psychology as an orientation tool, rather than an exact science, rather than finger ruler.) each person, each person is different but with the same base, it introduces the idea that the human personality can be described and cataloged, which is stupid and crazy. Just as we can not quite accurately describe the chemistry happens between people when they meet. It's too subjective to make it exact. And that's why it's nice to talk about and describe how one person recognizes the other. But because it's so subjective, this is my view, and yours may well be very different.