GET IN HER HEAD

The single most important aspect of being good with women, picking up girls, is eye contact.  The concepts you will learn in this book all center around eye contact and the signals women give.  Why is eye contact so important?  It is how we know a woman is interested


Anything and everything you do in interacting with women is directly related to body language and eye contact.  Eye contact with any woman will tell you everything you need to know.



All body language is important, but eye contact and maybe a little smile will tell you what you really want to know.  It tells you, “I’m interested in you and I’m available.”  In the game of pick up that’s all you really need to know.  Now of course, you will use body language to do a variety of things: get her interested in you, create and continue to build sexual chemistry, skew an interaction in your favor to get what you want, all done with body language, but her eyes are what are telling 2

She tells you those things with her eyes, with her legs, with her arms, and with her body movements.  She is sending out signals with her body language.  When you catch a glance from across the room and she holds eye contact she is saying, “I’m attracted to you, I’m available, I want you to talk to me!”


You can reassure that signal by dropping a little smile on her.  If she smiles back she has just told you, "I am interested in you, come over here and talk to me so we can get to know each other.


Ultimately it is up to the guy to make the first move, but in reality a woman will have already given over a dozen signals before most guys make their first move


You start to ask yourself, "Is she really interested, what if I go over there and she ignores me, what if I misread the signs, what if I can’t think of anything to say?"  Yeah, what if?  What if you grew a pair of balls, and instead of asking yourself all of those questions, you wasted no time worrying


Here are some things to look for:

 The Extended Gaze



Anytime you lock eyes with a woman it is a good thing, it shows you are interested.  If she is interested in you she will lock eyes and hold her gaze for a second or two longer than what would be considered a normal glance.  Once you catch her gaze narrow your eyes, and I do mean narrow, not squinting or some other dumb ass eye movement.  Narrow your eyes and hold eye contact.  Holding eye contact or a gaze is different than starring.  You don’t want to find yourself starring at a woman.  If you wait too long to approach her, you can get trapped into starring at a woman the rest of the night.  What happens is you continually try to reinforce the fact that she is interested in you and you make eye contact over and over again.  After three or four times she begins to lose interest until she is no longer interested.  Once you get that initial eye contact approach her.



She is looking for a few things though.  She is going to look at your hands and your feet.  She wants to see that you are well groomed, and other than your clothes, the condition of your hands and fingernails is a good way to judge.  She is also going to look at your choice of shoe for reasons way more in depth I care to discuss.  Bottom line, when she looks you up and down and smiles, it's time to approach her even if the first words out of your mouth are,

“GoFuckAFish!”  She may even think that’s cute.



Dilated Pupils
When we see something we like, the pupils of our eyes dilate and grow larger.  This holds true for both men and women.  This is an uncontrollable physiological response and we have no control over this happen-ing.  You can tell if a woman is attracted to you by observing her pupils.  Studies of photographs have shown that people with dilated pupils are rated more attractive.


Every time she holds eye contact with you, she reaffirms her interest in you.  After the second or third glance, make your move otherwise she will start to lose interest waiting for you.


All body language is important, but eye contact and a little smile will get you far.  It tells you, “I’m interested in you and I’m available.”  Of course, you will use body language to do a variety of other things such as getting her interested in you, creating and building sexual chemistry, and skewing the interaction in your favor.    If  you  want  to  be  good  with  women,  you  need  to know it all starts with your eyes.


Body language is king in the game of pick up and in everyday life.  Remember only ten percent of what you 9

Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bed say comes across in the message, the rest is body language.  What you say is directly tied to your body language.  If you are displaying confident body language, the dialog in your conversation will be coming out in a confident manner.  You won’t be tripping over your words.  The words will be seemingly meaningless.

When I walk, I walk with purpose. I walk with an aire of confidence and a little cockiness.  I walk like I am somebody.  Some would say I walk around like I think I’m better than everyone else.  When I walk into a club or bar, I walk in the same way.  If I enter with girls, I am arm and arm with one of them, with the others close by.

I walk tall with my head up, chest out, and I am smiling, perhaps even laughing.  I am having more fun than anyone there.  I walk in with a purpose, like I own the place.


The Alpha Male ner and you will become a confident person.  If you ex-ude confidence, you will be perceived as a much more interesting person.  This will help you with your career, with your peers, family, everything, not just with girls.

If you’re serious about getting better at interacting and picking up women, you need to make a concerted effort to become a more confident person.


Confident body language will carry you.  If you have poor body language but have a killer opener and you approach a girl, whether she finds you attractive or not, she will shortly become uninterested.  If you have great body language it doesn’t matter what you say, she will be interested.  Now obviously you do not want to open her and be tripping over your words, but if you just say the first genuine thing that pops in your mind and have random conversation, your confidence will carry you.


You want to take up room to portray dominance in your group.  Stand up tall with your shoulders back, and chest out, but in a relaxed fashion.  Do not put your hands in your pockets. That is a sign of nervousness.

Remember, you are going for confident.  Another thing I see people do is hold their beer in front of their chest.

Make sure you do not do this.  It makes you look small and closed off to conversation; you are putting up a barrier.  You want to be taking up a reasonable amount of space and putting out signals that say, “I’m open and inviting.”  Point your toes out slightly as opposed to pi-geon toed.  This may seem like something small with little meaning but it is not.  Women notice these things.


You don’t have to be the greatest looking guy, the biggest guy, in perfect shape, or even the funni-est.  It all comes back to your appearance and the message your body language sends out.  You want to send out a message of sexuality.  You want to scream center of attention, so when women see you they think, “Wow!


“Look at me I’m strong and will protect you!” And other men, “I’m strong so you’d better not get in my way!”  You can exaggerate this move by turning your body at an angle, showing off your chest profile.  Women also do this.  They accentuate their chest to attract you.  Again this isn’t you having to put in hours at the gym to show off your amazing pecs.  It’s standing in a way that taps into the subconscious of women.  It doesn’t matter how big your chest is, but rather that you are standing tall in a way that says you are strong and have the ability to protect her.



Shoulders Back



Pulling the shoulders back sticks the chest out.

Dropping the shoulders is a sign of laziness and poor posture.  Poor posture makes you look weak and pathetic.  Pulling the shoulders back also helps the shorter man appear to




Shoulders Back



Pulling the shoulders back sticks the chest out.

Dropping the shoulders is a sign of laziness and poor posture.  Poor posture makes you look weak and pathetic.  Pulling the shoulders back also helps the shorter man appear to be taller.  It helps the portly man appear to be confident and comfortable in his skin.

 Elbows



The elbows can be used to make us appear larger than we really are.  Just like a male bird will ruffle up his feathers to appear larger, placing your hands on your hips and sticking your elbows out will make you look bigger, and expands the chest; another power display.

 Shoulder Width Stance



Keeping your feet at a shoulder width stance allows you to take up more space, making you appear larger.  It leaves the crotch open for attack. This is a signal that says you are open and approachable, versus closed off.  By doing so it tells the world that you are not afraid 18

Introduction to Body Language: The Alpha Male of any threats.  Closing the legs protects the crotch from attack, showing fear.



Toes Out



Pointing your toes outwards tells the room that you are open for communication.  Again, you are approachable.  Pointing the toes in, signals that you are closed off and feel intimidated by your surroundings.

You never want to appear to be closed off or to have personal barriers.



Becoming Alpha Male: Strength Studies have shown that a woman’s favorite male body part is broken down into three groups, legs, butts, and the combination of the chest and arms.  Surpris-ingly the male butt is top choice with forty percent.

Overall, women are looking for an athletic body shape.

Mix it with strong arms and a tight butt, you can’t go wrong.  Male bodies were built to hunt, chase food, wrestle animals, and kill any potential threat.  Even today women are still attracted to a man who looks like he can provide these basic needs.  We’re not saying you need to be huge but you should be in shape.  If you are not in shape you need to start doing some kind of activity.  For skinny guys, start doing some sort of weight training.  Even if it is minor you will see major results.

If you are a round guy, start doing some kind of running or walking.  Again, even if it’s only two times a week for ten to twenty minutes it will help.  Do what you can.

 Broad Shoulders



Broad Shoulders taper down to a narrow waist, creating a V-Taper.  This creates the most athletic look.

Men who appear to be physically fit are rated more at-



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Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bed tractive by women.  Don’t stress out if this does not describe you.  What we are talking about is using what you yourself have, and making the most of it; putting yourself in the most attractive position possible.



Muscular Arms

Muscular arms show women that he is strong and able to carry their kill over long distances.  It also gives them something to hold on to when walking around the bar.  Big, not huge, arms make a woman feel safe.  If you have big arms, wear something to show them off.  If you have bean pole arms, don’t wear large baggy shirts.  This will make your arms appear even smaller.  A tighter fitting shirt will actually make small arms look bigger.  You could also opt for a long sleeve button down.



Tight Butt

A nice butt is a favorite of women everywhere.

You ask any woman at a football game what her favorite part of the game was and ninety percent will say the uniforms.  The reason women find it so attractive is because a tight, muscular rear is needed to make the thrusting motion in sex.  A strong thrusting motion will provide greater success of sperm transfer.  Wear pants that are flattering to your particular body type.

 Muscular Legs

Muscular legs are symbols of masculine power and endurance.  They allowed our ancestors to run quickly over long distances to chase and hunt game.

Chin Up



Keeping the chin up keeps the eyes from looking down.  Looking down is a sign of submission.  Holding your chin high allows your facial profile to be seen more easily by women.  The Alpha Male doesn’t hide what he has, he proudly displays what he has got.  By sticking out your chin you are making yourself vulnerable to attack while at the same time signaling all comers, “Take your best shot, you can’t knock me out!”  Holding you head high also helps you to stand tall and keep your shoulders back.



Shaking Hands



A simple handshake determines who is dominant.  When reaching out for a handshake, you can extend your hand one of three ways.  You can extend the hand with the palm up, showing submission.  You can extend with the hand straight up and down, displaying that you consider the other person your equal, or you can you show your dominance by extending your hand with the palm facing down.  If another male tries to show his dominance when shaking your hand, you can counteract this by stepping forward with your left foot when reaching for his hand.  This will cause him to pull 22

Introduction to Body Language: The Alpha Male his hand back to make room for your advance, turning his palm vertically.  This will bring you to a handshake of mutual respect.  But we are the Alpha male, we want to show dominance.  Place your left hand, palm down, on top of the handshake, or take your left hand and grab their elbow.  Both are displays of dominance over the other.

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