Jeff:

Travis, you ignored me for an entire day, on the worst day of my life. I am going through an insane tragedy right now. This could be the last few months that I have to spend with my dad.

I even explicitly asked you if you saw my messages, and you still ignored me, even though I knew you read all of them.

Two days before that, literally the night before the surgery, you went on a spiel telling me how I'm not communicating.

Just one week before that, the day after I told you about my dad's lung cancer diagnosis and the first day of my vacation, our business got hacked.

You ignored me for a whole day until I begged you to get on the phone with me. I spent two whole days doing damage control, and the rest of my vacation feeling nervous. You pinged me the entire time about work while I was on vacation.

I was way too nice, responding to problems when I was supposed to be signed off.

My life literally turned upside down two weeks ago, and again 2 days ago. How can you be so heartless to your partner, and keep talking to me about work? I truly feel gaslighted and bullied.

I'm not an emotional guy and I try my best to be very patient. But during this time of crisis, I felt it was extremely untactful of you to ignore me. A very basic natural human response would be to say "Thanks, I'll check it out later." I had no idea what you were thinking.

These two times I mentioned are just a small fraction of the total number of times you've ignored me, when I had to raise a problem to you. I can't communicate well with you because you shut me down every time I try to, and just start talking about something else.

When there are issues with AL, you expect me to respond within a few hours. You've been very vocal when I can't respond that fast. I honestly don't even know what to say 3about that. I've responded to issues at this velocity and speed every single day for like 7 months.

On the other hand, Whenever I bring up a hard question, which is basically once every few months, you ignore me for hours or days. This is just not reciprocal and I won't tolerate it anymore.

How do you not feel ashamed asking me a work question, right after you ignored me for a whole day? Right after I told you about the crazy tragedy that just happened? How do you think I felt during a time like that?

Travis, you're a dad now. As pissed as I am, I really hope that if you are ever diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, god forbid, that your son doesn't have to deal with distractions like this.

I literally lost hours on a critical day, right after my dad's surgery, because I was so angry and frustrated at the people I called partners. I couldn't focus on what the doctors were saying, or think about the right questions to ask, because so many thoughts were running through my head.

I couldn't believe how alone I felt during that time. I've never felt that way before. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

Anyway this is the bottom line.

I'm going through a really tough, and important time in my life right now. This is a critical junction for my family and we need to get the right treatment ASAP. How we act in the next few months is going to determine how long my dad can live.

I don't have the energy to tolerate this kind of unnecessary emotional burden right now. Please don't tag me in posts or message me on Front, Facebook, etc. I am not available and won't be responsive on any channel for the next month, at minimum.

I hope you can respect that.


Travis:

Jeff, where is all this coming from?  I did not ignore you...by the time I saw your message I was already on an onboarding call?  And then I responded right after the call and was very nice and tried even help you with some solutions.  Not fair at all...we've had communication problems for awhile now and I dont feel like it's been me.  I understand you are going through a tough time right now, and of course I respect that.  I have been literally handling everything since you've been gone or out.

In addition, I'm 41 years old and have had many friends with the same family issues or trauma or emergencies and a lot of people choose to work through it as a distraction.  How could I have ever known what your coping style was or how you deal with stress?