AGDQ2019 Public Statement

AGDQ 2019 Public Statement / The Exact Details of What Happened at AGDQ 2019

*for anyone wondering, I’ve already retained a lawyer. There is no concern with me making any sort of public statement, as there’s nothing that I’d state now, or could state, that I wouldn’t state again otherwise within a legal process. Just because I state it now, doesn’t mean that I couldn’t, or wouldn’t already want to restate it again during a time of proper questioning.

**the reason why I take something like this so seriously is, because, I do have high-functioning Autism, and I do believe that it’s very easy for an individual to appear to be functioning at a high level cognitively, due to their vocabulary, language skills, intelligence, etc., (which may have easily been the case in this regard), but function at a much lower level socially than the rest of my peers. Am I in anyway saying it’s an excuse for any action that could have occurred, obviously not, but I do believe that my social state in regards to making these kinds of arrangements need to be taken with great respect, and that I only had the safest intents and interests at heart regarding the formation of this agreement.

i: Opening Statement regarding the Unconventional/Unorthodox Agreement that was made.

	For what has already been openly interpreted by the mass majority, the agreement (whether it be unconventional, unorthodox, or whatever anyone wishes to perceive it as) was an agreement that was made between two overly-consenting adults on a situation that was more – or less – a private matter. Some facts to consider quickly are that Mari and I knew each other for an extended period of time, met in person at SGDQ 2018, and I also did work for her for ~ 9 months to a year. We were in no way what anyone would consider to be strangers to each other. On December 5th, I made a post on Twitter, publicly, stating that I was open to “anyone” who would be willing to go and be a “bedmate” for me.

https://twitter.com/cdgexe/status/1070477639427743744

	It was openly stated in these tweets what I was looking for, regardless of gender, etc., “I have very bad insomnia and just sleeping issues in general, and having a bedmate helps me. It’s just the idea of someone else/pressure being there that just helps, and if someone needs a spot in a bed, I’d be willing to share my bed”…”I know this is probably one of the weirdest posts you could imagine seeing related to rooming situations for AGDQ, but the offer stands for anyone who would like to DM me, as mentioned, the spot would be paid for, so all you’d be doing is just sleeping.”

	In these posts, I explicitly state what my intentions were, even a month before the expected dates of travel. A user/runner who goes by the name of Weather, offered to be my bedmate, but he had stated to me that he had an alternative rooming arrangement that he could have fallen back on if need – be by staying at his “girlfriends’ mom’s house”. Up until a week before the event, roughly around New Years’ time, it was under the knowledgeable-impression that, if this was “Weather’s girlfriends’ mom’s house”, then the option to stay there was openly still available.

	This was when I reached out to Mari, shortly after New Year’s (it was New Year’s day) and that was when we began our exchange of messages. We talked shortly about our ex’s, past relationships, random things about life, and just things that you’d normally talk about with someone if you were just having everyday normal conversations with.

	It was probably 2-3 hours after our big-initial conversation that we had over Discord that I offered her the same explicit deal that was announced on Twitter on December 5th, except it was known that she did not have a way to travel to the event. This is where I offered that I wouldn’t mind paying for the flight, given the unorthodox nature of our agreement, that all I was interested in was having someone to be my bedmate for the week. She was understanding of this, and mentioned several times that one of her main concerns was me being able to get sleep/rest for the duration of the event period. I mentioned to her several times during the exchange of our messages that, if she had someone she was talking to at home, had interests in elsewhere, etc., that I would have not minded laying on a separate layer of the sheets/bedding material so that way we wouldn’t have had any comfort issues between us. Throughout the entirety of our conversation, I was centered upon having someone to sleep next to for the week as comfort, and did not choose to escalate any situation further (in a sexual manner) at any point until that was introduced to me. At every point in our conversation, I mention just how great it would be, and that it was going to be, to just have someone there as company to cuddle with.

https://twitter.com/cdgexe/status/1083687270069268480

	After this, a lot of our conversation went towards a rather adult-centered direction, and was very sexually-explicit, to which I’ve provided us both the mutual respect and removed a lot of what was discussed between us during that time, regardless, the content and context of what was mentioned between us was very sexually-explicit in nature, and should be noted that the topic of sexual interest was introduced to me first, and I was not the one to bring forth that notion. It should also be noted that we did not even discuss anything sexual in nature, in person, at all. From the time that we met at the airport, to the time she was asked to leave the room, we never exchanged, by word of mouth, anything related to any sexual activity together.

ii: The Conditions regarding the Unconventional/Unorthodox Agreement that was made.

	The conditions regarding the unconventional/unorthodox agreement that we made were very simple :

1) You’re purpose is to be there was a bedmate. There was no stress on when to be in the room to go to sleep, there was never any stress put on the terms of being there as a bedmate; it was simply “fall asleep when you fall asleep” and I’d basically just have the benefit of having a bedmate.
2) That was the only condition regarding our rooming/bedding arrangement. It was under my understanding, that regardless of the other content matter that we had discussed, that the only implied condition was that I still needed someone to lay in the bed next to me, and that the someone had to be the person that I had already explicitly made this deal with (ie, helped to attend the event, so in-turn, accepts the offer of being my bedmate).
3) Now, at any time during this exchange, of course she has the right to back out and no longer want to abide/agree to the terms of the unconventional/unorthodox cuddling agreement that had been made between us, but as many people have agreed with me on, there should have been no expectation of financial obligation to have been returned on my part. Given the terms and conditions of our agreement, with that being implied, I no longer wished to help her if she no longer wished to help me.


iii: Timeline Narrative (Timeline of the Events that occurred).

1) Pre-conversation / Before Arriving at the Event

2) “Day 0” (January 5th) : The day we both flew into the event/first (only) night together.

3) “Day 1” (January 6th) : The first active day of the event (the evening we parted ways).

4) “Day 2” (January 7th) : The day/morning after she left the hotel room.

*something to take note of is that everyone has thrown around random times/dates regarding a lot of the information that’s been posted regarding the timeline/structure of the events that occurred, so if anyone is actually interested in the full timeline narrative, or timeline of the events that occurred, then this is that timeline, broken down into very structured detail as I recount the details of the days/conversations that occurred.

**as an aside, there is essentially a profession that is rounded completely around the benefits of cuddling/or people being professionally cuddled. The only argument anyone could have against me is that I technically “underpaid” what would have been the value of a professional cuddler, which is a rate of approximately $80 an hr, which was actually what my “rate” would have been to her “per night” based on the expectation of travel, etc., but that’s completely aside the point.

1) Pre-conversation / Before Arriving at the Event

	Alright, so this is probably the most important part of the pastebin when it comes to what happened during the event, and also what happened during the timeline/exchange of what happened between myself, and Mari.

	To begin, it was January 1st, and both of us had just gotten over New Year’s evenings/nights of both of us being alone, and both of us had just recently gotten out of longer-term relationships. Mari, another runner in the same community as I, was someone that I had already performed work for before (in the controller/adapter market) and was someone that I had previously met at SGDQ 2018. For anyone thinking that we were unacquainted, or didn’t know each other, that is simply a false belief, and we have had countless interactions and contacts before with each other – long before this conversion on January 1st. That evening, we talked about our past relationships, some stuff that had been going on in real life, and just had some generally good conversation that was being exchanged between us.

	After a while, conversation felt like it was going smooth. I knew that AGDQ was coming up within a couple of days, and I was interested in wondering if Mari was able to attend; if she was able to attend, then I would have much preferred the option of her being a bedmate in comparison to someone who I had only ever briefly met/had conversation with (this being Weather). I think it’s fair to say that, with the arrangement that had been discussed between us, it would be objectively viewed from any outside party that I would have been much more comfortable with this kind of arrangement had it been between myself and a female anyways, instead of potentially laying next to a male for the entirety of the week. The only exacerbation that could be taken from this kind of arrangement was that a previous arrangement had been made with Weather, and he was simply being exchanged for someone who I was more comfortable with, and given the information that was given to me by Weather; he would have had an alternative rooming arrangement lined up so this wouldn’t have affected anything in regards to the rooming situation.

2) “Day 0” (January 5th) : The day we both flew into the event/first (only) night together.

After some time, we had platonic and friendly conversation up until we were leaving for the event. At this time, Mari was under the impression that it was only supposed to be me, her, and Cuphat within our room, and that was the expectation that I had as well, until Weather mentioned that he no longer had the option of staying at his “girlfriends’ mother’s house”. After this fact of the rooming matter had been exchanged between me and Mari (at this time, we were actually on the plane from Atlanta to Reagan airport) she mentioned that she wasn’t comfortable with the arrangement that had been made between us regarding cuddling, if he was to be in the room, because she was under the impression that no one would be around that she was closely associated or friends with, which didn’t necessarily bother me, but it does prove as to why she would have posted about the purchase of her flight on Twitter, but wouldn’t have even mentioned that I purchased it, apparently I’m some “random person” who purchased a plane ticket.

https://twitter.com/Mari_mba_/status/1080576288144928776

	After it was talked about between us, we came to an overall conclusion that as long as she was comfortable still laying in the bed next to me, generalized-cuddling, that I wouldn’t have ever had an issue with Weather sleeping on the floor, Cuphat having his bed to himself, and me and Mari sharing the bed like we had already implicitly and explicitly agreed upon. It was under our mutual understanding that as long as we were able to uphold our agreement that was made between us, regardless of the fact that Weather had to be in the room, on the floor, etc. that she and I were going to be able to uphold our ends of our agreement, to which she stated she agreed.

-	The agreement and terms were simple, just lay in the bed next to me as a bedmate, ensure that I’m able to get some hours of sleep every night, and then we’d hang out with our own mutual groups of friends each day and not really interact with each other until it was time to sleep, that was the agreement, full and through, and any other detail added past that was only stuff to further excite communication between us and has no effect on the terms.

-	The agreement ONLY changed to where me and her were going to be able to cuddle, but she had to be okay with the fact that Weather was going to be in the room, to which we both agreed and mentioned that we didn’t mind, because a concern of hers was with Weather being able to have a place to stay at the hotel, so, I was willing to let him stay there if that was a concern of hers, as long as she was willing to uphold her end of the arrangement that we had made, and it seemed we were on the same terms about that.

Given that these were the terms that had been exchanged between us, everything seemed normal and looked like we were on the same page, communicably. When we landed at Reagan, everything was perfectly fine, and normal. We had great conversation for a lot of the time before our friend HarpoonCannon picked us up from the airport, to which when we all got to the hotel, Mari and I dropped our stuff off in the room upstairs. It was at this time that I had an extra room key made for Mari and had I wrote the room number on it in Sharpie so that way she had a way to have access to her stuff for the entirety of the week and would not have to ask anyone to come back to the room to let her in, etc. That evening, we spent some time apart from each other because she was out socializing and connecting/meeting up with the friends that she had there that were already there on Day 0, and I was actually doing the same.

If I had to say anything about Day 0 after we got to the hotel, I would say that it seemed like a more than normal day. We dropped our things off in the room, we parted ways after that and spent time with our own associative groups of friends, and then we eventually met back in the room later that evening to go to bed. She mentioned that she had returned to the room around 1:00 am that night, so if you’re thinking about this from a timeline perspective, she had returned to the room on Day 1 morning at 1:00 am, or Day 0 night transitioning into Day 1 morning. She mentioned to me the morning after she woke up that she had taken a shower and had fallen asleep probably around 1:30 am -2:00 am that night, to which I believed because she seemed to be in pajamas when she was in bed, and I had returned to the room at around 2:45 to 3:00 am that morning because that was when myself and Cuphat were both awake from getting back to the room around the same time. I remember all of this quite clearly because when I returned to the room, Mari was already asleep in the bed, and I had just taken a quick shower to just get all of the travel germs and everything like that off of me. Neither Cuphat or I could sleep because the AC in the room was bothering both of us, it was simply too hot for either of us to get to sleep, and not just that, but there was an issue with the refrigerator in our room constantly vibrating against the shelf that it had been set in. For quite some time that morning, at least until around 3:30, Cuphat and I were up and down constantly trying to get things situated/comfortable in the room. It was shortly after we were able to get the refrigerator to stop vibrating, and the room to begin to cool down, that things “escalated” between me and Mari. The room was hot still, so I naturally went to bed without a shirt on, but still had my gym shorts on from changing into them after quickly taking a shower.

********** SO WHAT HAPPENED **********

When I’ve mentioned in the past things “escalated” – this is where I’ll provide detail exactly of what happened. Naturally, since Mari was already in bed, I got in bed and simply laid next to her. I didn’t want to wake her up, but I also wanted to cuddle next to her as a means of helping myself get to sleep, so I touched my leg to hers to see if there was a reaction that I’d get from her. Quickly, we both reacted to our legs touching and we began to get closer to each other, it was at this time, probably about 3:45, that we both passed out after snuggling/cuddling up next to each other, but as I mentioned before, it was hot in the room, so me and Mari were constantly tossing and turning most of the morning as we were cuddling. It was around 4:30 – 5:00 am now, Mari and I were simply lying next to each other in the bed. At this time, weren’t cuddling, but there were parts of our bodies that were touching each other (such as our legs, and we were lightly pressed against each other) which was perfectly fine with me, as I had mentioned that touch was a huge thing for me and provided a lot of comfort. Half of the bedding material (the blankets, sheets, etc.) had been tossed off of us because it was so hot, but we were not actively cuddling or engaged with each other.
It was during this time, 4:30 am – 5:00 am, that while we were lying next to each other, Mari reached over and grabbed my arm and placed it over her breast-area, while she still had her shirt on. As a male, given a lot of what we had discussed between us before, I’m only able to take this as an invitation for us to engage in something further. Me, being placed in a surprised situation as this, began to simply rub her chest and do what felt natural to me, without going into the most explicit of details, it was being very clearly asked of me to fondle/play with this area of the body. After a few minutes of giving that area of her body attention/detail, she lifted up her shirt (while laying on her back) exposing her bare stomach and breast to me, to which I rubbed her stomach and bare breast for a short amount of time, before she eventually turned over onto her stomach. With her shirt still being lifted after she turned over onto her stomach, I took this as an invitation to just rub her back, since she had not pulled her shirt back down. Shortly after rubbing her back, I “tested” the waters and simply moved my hand further down to rub her butt, to which there was no statement to stop. At this point, I had considered everything to just be a mutual exchange of touch, it was a little flirty, and I had figured that if anything was going to happen, I surely wasn’t going to allow it because Cuphat was right there in the room.
After we had spent this “escalated time” together for about 15-20 minutes in bed, she stated “Alright, no more, it’s time for us to sleep” – to which, I immediately turned away from her, distanced myself from her (meaning, even our legs didn’t touch) and I didn’t want to engage with her any further because no one obviously wants to offend anyone, or proceed further with anything, if someone doesn’t want to, so that was why I made the amicable decision to disengage completely. Moments later after I turned away from her, the ONLY interaction we had after that was she lightly scratched my back (to which, I mentioned to her was something that turned me on), so after she scratched my back, I said to her, “Now you just said we need to stop… that’s not fair” and all I did after the fact was I put my arm back over her stomach, rested my head next to her shoulder near the pillow next to her, and we both passed out and went back to sleep.

That’s it. That is what happened, and that was the extent of what happened between us that evening and the following morning. If anyone wants to try and fabricate more out of that evening than what really happened, then that is on everyone else, but THIS is what happened that evening.

********** THAT’S WHAT HAPPENED **********

3) “Day 1” (January 6th) : The first active day of the event (the evening we parted ways).

	There’s actually not the most detail to go over when talking about this day, but I’ll go ahead and provide a good amount of insight, regardless. The following morning, she actually woke up hours after me, because I had gone to McDonalds and actually picked up both of us a breakfast platter that had everything on it, that’s aside the point, but I even woke up the next morning and went and got us breakfast. When I returned to the hotel room, she was still in bed and didn’t wake up till probably around 10:30 – 11:00 am that morning, during that time she was asleep, all I did was pick blanket that had been tossed to the side because it was so hot, and I tucked her back in bed. After she woke up, she got ready to go out and spend time with her friends that day and she said that “She was sorry” about what had happened that night between us, that “I woke up horny, and I just want to apologize for that”, to which I had said to her that it was more than likely a natural reaction that she had felt that way, I was shirtless at the time and it probably just felt natural for her to have those feelings in that moment. After we had a short discussion based around how apologetic she felt about the situation before, she went out as normal and spent the day with her friends, to which I told her if she needed any help with paying for anything, I wouldn’t mind helping her. The entire point of her being there was that if she needed help with anything that week, I obviously didn’t mind helping her in the case she was helping me with sleep.

	Everything was fine that day, everything seemed normal, and she had gone off and spent time with her friends that day. Today was actually the day of Popesquidwards’ Majora’s Mask Any% run, which was something that she wanted to go see. Even though she was not registered to the event, she wanted to go and see the run. She had mentioned that she had brought her old badge, and that someone was willing to let her borrow their purple badge lanyard so that way she could go into the event space using one of the older badges (it had a very similar color scheme, so if you didn’t look closely, it honestly could have passed pretty quickly), this is where I was already having some moral-shakiness about her being there at the event, BUT I had told her that there was no reason to risk getting banned from the event/future events, AND I let her take my badge to go watch the Majora’s Mask Any% run and to spend a little bit of time with her friends, GIVEN/GRANTED that was the only thing that she had wanted to do that week, considering it was early in the week and it was with her friends, I really didn’t mind letting her go into the event using my badge. The thing was, I didn’t mind… until I found out she was taking pictures inside of the event space, and was covering my badge at the time to make sure that she wasn’t getting caught.

https://twitter.com/helloiamtara/status/1082319214252302337

	We had explicitly talked about there was plenty of things for her to do outside of the event space when she got there, and she mentioned multiple times in our messages that the event was a lower priority to her now than spending time with her friends. If that’s the case, then why couldn’t a picture like this have been taken outside of the event space, without my badge on? There was a complete misuse and misguidance of what was expected of me and my badge. When my attendance, and my badge, was being put in jeopardy because of her inability to not take pictures within the event space, and not be more careful about her meandering through the venue, then it obviously strikes the wrong nerve with me.

	If anyone had anything to say about me in regards to my morality at this point… you’re free to have your own judgement, the only thing that I can say is that I had more heart in regards to letting someone go into the event space, when I knew they weren’t registered, because I knew how much it would have meant for them to go and see the run (when I didn’t even go and see the run myself) – I actually stayed in the hotel room for 4 hours after that because I was waiting for her to get back with my badge after the run. After she got back from the run, she had mentioned that she had gotten a purple lanyard from one of her friends, or whatever that situation was to where she got a purple badge lanyard, and after I got my badge later that evening after Pope’s run, we no longer saw each other for the rest of the evening/day. It was at this time that I went and spent more time with my friends for the rest of the evening, and I could only assume that she was spending time partying with her friends all evening, as I was out doing the same with my friends.

DAY 1 NIGHT / DAY 2 MORNING (THE NIGHT SHE LEAVES, 3:00-4:00 AM)

	So, we’re still on the Day 1 night – Day 2 morning transition timeframe. After we spent our time apart partying that evening, I returned to the room before anyone else did. It was around 2:45 to 3:00 am, and I was taking a shower in the hotel shower, kind of perplexed, because Mari had come back to the room much earlier the night before, so I thought she was going to be in there early again, to this dismay, she was not in the room. I took a 30-45 minute shower, and during the middle of that shower, Mari returned to the hotel room. Now, understand this from the perspective from which I’m coming from when I say that the situation that I had walked into when I got out of the shower, completely blindsided me.

•	I was in the shower when she walked into the room, so we didn’t even talk to each other.
•	It was around 2:45-3:00 when I took my 30-45 minute shower.
•	She returned to the room while I was taking my shower.
•	When I got out of the shower, she already had the blanket from the bed, and was on the floor.
•	She provided me no explanation as to why she wouldn’t want to lay in the bed, other than “It was nothing that you did, it was something about me that changed”.

Well, for it to be nothing that I did, it sure did quickly turn into something that I did. When I got out of the shower, I sat on the bed and realized that she was just lying on the floor and she was watching some show on her iPad. I asked her if she was interested in laying in the bed next to me, to which she stated that she was no longer interested in laying in the bed next to me and that she was comfortable on the floor. I mentioned to her that it deeply offended me, was disrespectful, and that I was no longer comfortable with her staying in the room with me if she felt “so uncomfortable” (whether “it was nothing that you did, it was something about me that changed”) then I didn’t want to open a Pandora’s Box of anything else that could have been taken out of context. It was at that time, that evening, that she was asked to leave the room and that she needed to find other rooming arrangements because if there was already that level of a disconnect, then there was no reason to continue any sort of engagement together, on any level.
There was some aftermath that happened that evening with some friends of ours, issues regarding her needing a place to stay, because she lied to me stating that she had a place to stay, but she didn’t. Regardless of all of that, I have screenshots to prove that she had lied about having a secondary place to stay, because I would have never made her leave the room if she truly didn’t have a place to sleep; she lied and stated there was a friends’ room that she could go to. It was after she lied that I no longer had any interest in helping her with her flight, rooming arrangements, or anything else. If you’re going to be so disingenuous and lie about having another room to go to, but you really don’t, then you’re being too manipulative of a situation to where you don’t deserve to have any help back.

	“Day 2” (January 7th) : The day/morning after she left the hotel room.

	So, the day after she left was a super interesting one. This was the day/morning/afternoon after she had already left my room.

	Now, this is where everyone can say that I’m a dick, an asshole, a scumbag, etc., but at this point, since she had no intention/intent on helping me with the intents that we had talked about with our travel, there was no way in hell that I was going to let her continually sneak in with a badge, given she had told me that she had the plan to sneak in with last year’s badge, and use the current years lanyard to do so. It was at this time that I brought this to the attention of the staff members, and even informed my EX-girlfriend of the matter, that I had every intent on trying to get her banned, and I was mad/upset. I had NO reason to have ever spent as much money as I did on anyone for them to attend/have access to their friends at the event, and then they reneged on our deal, and yet I’m the one who has to constantly see her swindling her way into the event space? Absolutely not. The posts that were made between me and my ex, while they appear to make me look like a scumbag, or an asshole, (to which, I really don’t mind if they make me appear that way) – the posts had been exchanged between us after the fact that I knew that she was no longer going to be, in any way, helping me while I was there at the event, and I knew that she wasn’t supposed to be entering the event space without a badge.

	In terms of all things ethical/morally sound, based off of my and Mari’s previous arrangement; she showed me:
1)	She did not care about helping me for the duration of the event after she had gotten there, there was clearly no level of communicable friendship that I had to uphold anymore.
2)	My decision to report her had nothing to do with a friendship bond/previous arrangement made, that’s only a judgement that people are throwing into the matter because they think it matters.
3)	She should have thought more soundly about trying to swindle her way into an event space.

My posts between myself and my ex make it appear and sound like that I was inviting her out to AGDQ to get her banned from the get go, but I think it’s pretty obvious that if she had not been trying to swindle her way into the event, and if me and her had kept our amicable agreement, then there would have never been any issues regarding either of our attendance that week. When I reached out to my ex and had informed her about me flying Mari out, I was doing so as a means of trying to retain the friendship that I had with her. Me and my ex had always been open about communication (even though, we aren’t friends anymore) so this was a moment of hurt and vulnerability that I was entrusting my ex with. Could my words have been garnished more so in a fashion where they didn’t make me sound like a total asshole? Of course, but all I can say on the matter is that I’m a vengeful person; if you provide me an expectation and don’t follow through, yet you’re going to attempt to socially ostracize me for cancelling/rebuking on my terms of an agreement because you wanted to reneg on your end? That’s fine, but don’t think that I’m not going to act out in some sort of vengeful return because you’re expecting something unquivered of me.

My thing is : my intent for her being there for the week, regardless of her affiliation to the GDQ event, was to be there for me to have someone to accompany me in bed and help me sleep. She was ONLY there to spend time with friends, OUTSIDE of the event space because we knew she wasn't registered. My decision in reporting her, regardless of what we had talked about, has no affiliation in regards to that arrangement. They're completely separate, and if people say "Well, why did you fly her out and then report her", well, that’s because they’re two completely different situations. One thing is based off an agreement made between us in private, while the other is based on the deception of an event, given on the found circumstance that you’re no longer helping me, and you’ve informed me of how you’re going to sneak into the event, it is ONLY ethically and morally right for me to report it after the conventions of our agreement were no longer being upheld. My intent on having someone be there changes REAL fast when they decide to deceive an event, that's just wrong.

iv: Rejection/Understanding of the Harassment Claim made against Me

I don't mind not being able to attend GDQ's anymore, quite frankly. I've got a lot of other things going on that are outside of speedrunning and attending those events, and I've got other travel that I could focus on than that. I'm the one who has chosen to bring my defense to light because people would ask me in the future why I wouldn't attend, and I'm not going to lie to anyone, so why not just bring the justice of my own defense out now and let everyone have their own view now.
Am I an asshole? Yeah, I'm an asshole, but I also did what was morally right, but people think it's ethically wrong because of her being my "friend", like… no, we’ve met before once at a previous event, and I’ve conducted business stuff for her. In my opinion, this was almost exactly like a business transaction. Essentially, it was paying $80 a night to cuddle/accompany me in bed so I can sleep and then go about my day at the event.

I think that it should be made clear that there was never an expectation/exchange for sex. I paid for a flight in exchange for accompaniment and I approached it at the most respectable of levels, stating that I'd even lay on a separate layer of sheets because I knew that the situation was completely out of the blue, unorthodox, and could even be seen as unusual or unconventional, to which my direct messages even said I recognized that.

I never escalated this to a sexual situation, she did when she asked if I was the one who was DTF, meaning she was sexually implicit by even asking that question. It answers itself. I never approached that situation, nor did we even talk about it in person. There was the general fondling/touching, but that was it, and we did nothing more. That's why I don't think this was ever about being reported technically for an "assault" in anyway, because that’s not what happened, nor is that accurate of what happened in the hotel room, rather I think there’s been a misunderstanding of context and everyone’s taken their own view/opinion on what happened and has thrown it a skew.

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My Closing/Final Statement

Never would I have thought that I’d be in the situation, at least like this, to where I’ve felt the need/duress of a situation to bring all of this information to light.

As I mentioned before, at the end of the day, there's a lot I'm willing to accept. Is it fair to say that I've been an asshole? Sure, I can accept that, but I am never going to back down from from being publicly accused to a 3rd party for sexual harassment.

I have retained a lawyer in case anything is to come of fruition of this situation, but for the time being, I've given the public my narrative, and I'm going to let them run with it as they see fit. I can no longer sway anyone's already present views of me, but I can openly share what has happened and let the truth - at least of my "side", be known.


Thank you for everyone who has supported me.
It really doesn't bother me if less people want me to make adapters, that's the least of my concern at this point; I don't want people to at all think that's what I'm worried about. I'm more worried about people thinking all of these negative stigmas of me, and if this post bothers anyone, then it's only because the ever so presence of a revealing truth really bothers those who have dug themselves to deep in a lie.

As I've stated on Twitter, the reactions the human body has to a set of controlled questions (changes in breathing patterns, heart rate, moisture presence in the palms and finger tips) are over 90% accurate. Me taking the test wouldn't be about lie detection, but would be for reactions that are to be examined by the examiner. The credence of taking a test like this would be from the examiner's score, which is separate from that of the test itself. When taking a test like this, I'm personally looking for the examination and results of the polygraph examiner, not the actual physiological results themselves, so that's why I'm ultimately in support of this kind of test/analysis.