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- Today marks the 200th day I moved out. Its an odd mix of emotions.
- I've been thinking about the relationship you and I have had. We were able to talk about everything and anything like jobs, jokes, friends, and frustrations in a way I haven't had with hardly anybody else. We stuck by each other through some tough shit, including poverty, mental illness, and faith changes. We built a life together; we had cars, a dog, had favorite tv shows together, and goals in life. Earlier this year we ran into troubles with poverty and mental illness at an unexpected time, and it put a strain on both of us and our relationship suffered because of it. I made the hasty decision to move out.
- There are many things from the last 200 days that I wish I could do over.
- I wish I had talked to you about moving out before just doing it. I now realize that was unfair to you emotionally. It should have been a joint decision that we made after we had taken the time to make sure we were both on the same page.
- I wish that I had given the separation more time before saying "we make better friends than partners". The time between when I moved out and said that was about 50 days. I had hoped that things could be fixed in that short amount of time. I had hoped that there would be a grand event that swept in and fixed everything, which was naive of me. This deserved time to process. I mistook you needing time to process everything as being uninterested in even trying, which was unfair of me because 50 days was not enough time to process anything.
- During the first 50 days of our separation I listened to Blink-182's "Always" (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qg8c-nbZvzw) quite a bit thinking of you, and felt like it was inevitable that we would get back together. I now realize that its not inevitable that we will get back together, and that relationships require time and effort that I wasn't properly putting into ours.
- I wish that we were on better terms. I miss being able to send you funny memes. I miss smoking with you. I miss working on projects like ApotheCawley. I miss hearing about what's going on at the daycare. I miss hearing you parody songs like a fucking champ. I miss watching The Office/Battlestar/Parks and Rec with you. I miss being able to talk to you or even see you without this weird tension. I wish that we could do these even if we didn't stay together.
- At the Halloween party Emily and Michelle asked what happened between us and why we weren't talking anymore. I knew it was because it was all like a big ball of tangled emotions. We were both angry, hurt, and unsure of a lot of things. I had no idea how to untangle it or if you even wanted it to be untangled.
- We have realistically talked about divorce for the last 150 days, but neither of us has actually taken the time to fill out the paperwork to get the ball rolling. I don't know why you haven't, but in the back of my mind I had hoped that time would heal the wounds enough to where we could possibly think about restarting our relationship.
- I've been afraid to ask if this is a possibility because the answer could be "no". I want to know even if this is a possibility even if the answer is no. If I went through the divorce and never said anything, I would regret it forever.
- Is there any way we could meet for coffee or something to talk?
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