User 'jk' is me

[19:23] jk: How can I make new good friends?(edited)
[19:24] iso: hmm.. it's hard but i think mostly it's a matter of talking to people and putting yourself out there
[19:24] iso: try to go to some social events nearby
[19:24] jk: I don't have a car
[19:24] jk: I don't have money
[19:25] iso: you might have to work on those first before going places then
[19:26] iso: idk about your specific location but it is really difficult to do things without a car unfortunately
[19:26] iso: some amount of money as well to some extent, tho there are a lot of cheap or free fun things
[19:26] iso: but not having transportation is very difficult
[19:26] iso: cant make friends easily without like, being around them/going places
[19:27] iso: i think you're younger too right jk? one place some people make friends is university as well
[19:27] iso: outside of school having some kind of transportation is sort of important :/
[19:27] jk: I don't go to school
[19:27] jk: I'm not qualified for financial aid.
[19:28] jk: My biological parents abandoned me but I have food/shelter
[19:29] jk: I live with generous and nice people
[19:29] jk: They're mostly working
[19:30] jk: B.Parents abandoned me like 3 months ago(edited)
[19:30] iso: sorry to hear about your biological parents :sadd: hmm maybe you can prioritize trying to get either some form of government aid or a job/income?
[19:30] jk: Idk
[19:31] iso: sometimes breaking up a complex goal into small steps is helpful
[19:31] jk: I have so much social anxiety
[19:33] iso: hmm, maybe you can try to get disability money or something along those lines, and see a therapist for your social anxiety?
[19:33] jk: I feel anxious around therapists too
[19:34] jk: I've seen some professional therapists from Kaiser Permanente
[19:34] jk: One KP hospital stopped scheduling appointments with me for at least a year
[19:35] jk: Last therapist I met was marriage and family therapist because they probably thought I didn't need anxiety/depression therapy(edited)
[19:35] jk: because I'm young and spoke ok(edited)
[19:35] jk: in front of them
[19:36] jk: The marriage and family therapist probably lied to me about the reason for the therapist/branch change
[19:37] jk: I could tell he made up the reason for the change from scratch, not much explanation/detail went into it
[19:38] jk: I refused to take medication because my environment was prone to a lot of change(edited)
[19:38] jk: Mother tried to bring me back by whatever means necessary to save money(edited)
[19:38] jk: I tried not to go back by whatever means necessary
[19:39] jk: because I felt stressed at their home, e.g. Family bothered me often while I'm focused in my room, Father hit/threathen me, Mother stonewall me because she thinks I'm so similar to father(edited)
[19:40] jk: I've been in this place for about 3 years.(edited)
[19:42] jk: I met mother/father shortly at mcdonalds before parents cut off all support(edited)
[19:42] jk: Meeting didn't go well.
[19:43] jk: Father didn't listen to anything I said, never on topic, always interrupting, and was on the verge of going full-on anger(edited)
[19:43] jk: My landlord was there, so he kept that in check
[19:43] jk: He's just that kind of guy, a hopeless alcoholic
[19:45] jk: Mother earns most of the money and used to fight each other everyday and not talk with each other, and yet they still live together(edited)
[19:45] jk: My family prefers to have the facade of family well-being. They have no integrity
[19:47] jk: My older brother gets along with them somehow, or seems te. He's the glue that keeps them together.(edited)
[19:48] jk: They would have split if brother wasn't here, brother doesn't like father and loves mother, even though it seems to father that brother likes him(edited)
[19:49] jk: Tried family therapy with mother several times few years ago. It didn't work. We didn't get anywhere(edited)
[19:56] jk: Did I reveal too much about my history or self?(edited)
[19:57] jk: :smiley:
[19:59] iso: nono, it's fine, i just don't have any great advice ;_; it sounds like you had a rough time jk
[20:05] jk: I did.
[20:08] jk: I'm grateful that you can at least understand that.
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