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  1. <q> What is NLP?
  2. <q> 1. NLP is the use of language to program the brain.
  3. <q> 2. NLP looks at the mind as a collection of parts(systems). These parts effect one another through feedback.
  4. <q> 3. NLP uses models to interact with each main part of the mind.
  5. <q> 4. Models are created by reverse-engineering the processes of therapists and communicators.
  6. <diapered11111> Hi all
  7. <q> to get the discussion started here is some basic explanation of NLP
  8. <q> and hi diapered11111
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  10. <SeducingSpirit> please join us sungazer, you know if your eyes were as deep as they are then you would be deep in trance
  11. <diapered11111> How are you <q>
  12. <q> good, you diapered11111 ?
  13. <q> for those of you that are wondering how NLP is related to hypnosis here is some information and points
  14. <q> What does NLP have to do with hypnosis?
  15. <q> 1. NLP has a model that uses a powerful form of Ericksonain hypnosis
  16. <q> 2. NLP provides a framework that is robust enough to work well with a wide variety of subjects.
  17. <q> 3. Four of the NLP models are effective both in and out of trance.
  18. <q> 4. Rapport and framing makes the pre-talk easier, and can make trances more effective.
  19. <subm^> wb sun gazer Discussion just started on NLP
  20. <sungazer> Hiya. Awesome topic ;D
  21. <q> hi hi
  22. <diapered11111> I'm good
  23. <q> glad to hear(or read that is)
  24. <diapered11111> :D
  25. <Arsage> Ah, good. I got back in time.
  26. <q> anyway NLP is used in a wide variety of professions, from therapy to marketing
  27. <q> ah welcome back Arsage
  28. <subm^> q- Have a couple of questions please
  29. <q> sure
  30. <q> ask away :)
  31. <Arsage> Thank you, q. Just grabbed some food in preparation for this.
  32. <subm^> You mentioned Rappot and framing- would you explain what each is please
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  35. <SeducingSpirit> please join us callgirl-tina, let me take your mind and when you slip into trance you may have a nice new one
  36. <q> ah great question subm^
  37. <subm^> hi tina NLP discussion now
  38. <q> rapport is a model in NLP used to gain the trust of the subject faster than we would normally
  39. <q> Rapport usually uses slight non-obvious body language mirroring and active listening to engage and connect with the subject
  40. <q> it helps us validate the subject as a person
  41. <q> and show that we care
  42. <q> Framing is centered around choosing how we say things
  43. <q> people tend to see the world through lenses or filters that change the way they perceive the world around them
  44. <q> if we change the way we say something, or how we depict it, people tend to feel differently: is the glass half full or half empty
  45. <subm^> An example of rapport and one of framing?
  46. <q> an example of rapport would be if I were to listen to a subject talk, or in this case type, and copy their verbal style. Essentially I would validate them as a person and possibly use their name, subm^ .
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  48. <q> an example of framing would be if I were feeling kind of tired on a rainy day
  49. <q> I would not say "I am tired"
  50. <q> I would say "I felt tired earlier today"
  51. <q> in that frame it implies to myself and others that I will have more energy later today and that I am no longer tired
  52. <subm^> Make them feel comfortable with similar language and friendliness?
  53. <q> yep
  54. <q> I would not use big technical words unless talking to a technical computer IT person
  55. <q> if the person likes politics I might discuss some relatively neutral ideas in politics, I would be vague enough to avoid offending
  56. <q> but I would have their interest
  57. <subm^> in framing you change the communication via words carefully saying what you want the person to focuson?
  58. <q> an example of Framing can take place in court: lets say I am in an autoaccident and I don't want the Jury to think I was going really fast. I am not going to ask if the cars smashed together, I would ask the person how fast the cars were moving when they contacted one another.
  59. <q> indeed subm^, framing is changing what angle we want someone to look at something
  60. <subm^> neat rapport seems to gain a person's trust and make the person comfortable
  61. <q> sometimes we can frame something as being less significant, like a phobia, to help someone to put that phobia into proper prospective
  62. <q> yep
  63. <q> its ultra important for hypnosis
  64. <q> after all if a subject does not trust the hypnotist and is not comfortable, how well is that hypnosis session going to go?
  65. <q> probably not well
  66. <subm^> framing gets the person to look at and focus on what you want the person to note
  67. <q> ^^
  68. <q> Reality is huge, and our own personal views of reality almost always only look at one part of something from one angle
  69. <q> thats fine when we look at things positively
  70. <q> but sometimes we want a subject to look at the positive aspects of their life, or look at the other aspects of life when talking about a fear
  71. <q> Framing is even used on the news surprisingly
  72. <q> we tend to focus on a human interest angle of a story, rather than for example the financial aspect
  73. <q> but a financial news branch will tend to only focus mostly on the financial meaning
  74. <subm^> So,you are choosing words to make the person comfortable with you and words to get the person's attention on what you want it on, correct/
  75. <subm^> ?
  76. <q> indeed
  77. <q> very correct
  78. <subm^> neat
  79. <q> :-)
  80. <q> anyway that is rapport and framing in a nutshell
  81. <subm^> It is using words carefully
  82. <q> yes :)
  83. <subm^> Thanks That helps a lot
  84. <q> yep :)
  85. <q> Anchoring is pretty basic, in hypnosis many use anchoring under another name: triggers
  86. <q> Anchoring is when we tie an emotion or desire to an anchor(trigger) by presenting them together
  87. <subm^> Definition of anchors, please?
  88. <q> an anchor is a touch or feeling we can tie to an emotional state or desire
  89. <subm^> You just gave it Thanks
  90. <q> yep :)
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  92. <q> If I rang a bell before a subject was told to imagine a plate of delicious food eventually the subject would salivate without being told to imagine the plate of food.
  93. <q> the same applies to working at home
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  97. <SeducingSpirit> please join us ace_freddie{SQ}, let me take your mind and when you slip into trance you may have a nice new one
  98. <q> if I wear work clothes when working at the computer my brain switches to "work mode"
  99. <subm^> Hi ace_freddie{SQ} we are having the NLP discussion now
  100. <q> because the act of putting on office clothes is an anchor or trigger for that work-state
  101. <q> we see companies use anchoring, they want to anchor feelings of desire to their products
  102. <subm^> You mist really need to think when you use NLP and carefully choose your words
  103. <q> yes, although it gets easier as you practice
  104. <q> NLP can be learned in a week or so, but takes years to master
  105. <subm^> Nice samples, q Helps in understanding key words
  106. <q> yep :)
  107. <q> part of what makes NLP so effective is that it focuses on the subject as a person
  108. <q> it gets you to listen to and validate a person
  109. <q> it gets you to think about how you speak and what you say
  110. <subm^> sure does
  111. <q> NLP also has a model devoted to Ericksonain hypnosis
  112. <q> the NLP version of hypnosis tends to be more flexible
  113. <subm^> I find this fascinating so far and very applicable to hypnosis and real life communication, q
  114. <q> yeah it is fun and very useful :)
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  116. <q> the NLP version of hypnosis looks at people as being "in trance" when they are focused on something, or are redirect their attention inwards
  117. <subm^> Sorry to keep asking questions, but what is Ericksonian hypnosis?
  118. <q> ah yes
  119. <q> Ericksonain hypnosis is indirect hypnosis, instead of commanding a subject in trance or giving subjects directly
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  121. <q> we try to use vague and permissive language to gradually move a subject towards a better objective
  122. <q> we get a subject to imagine, remember, or to direct their focus towards something
  123. <q> when they are focused, or imagining and recalling they are less likely to resist a suggestion
  124. <Arsage> So, in a sense, Ericksonian hypnosis is what most people think of when they hear covert hypnosis. Is that correct?
  125. <q> we can be more easily led with suggestions and small requests, and more easily persuaded to make positive changes in their life.
  126. <q> indeed it is Arsage
  127. <q> it does not require the same level of pre-talk as Elman hypnosis does
  128. <subm^> Isn't the effectiveness of that partially how a person responds to direct communication versus more vague ?
  129. <q> indeed
  130. <q> of course ericksonain hypnosis does make use of a powerful technique called the compliance set
  131. <subm^> I guess with Ericksonian it is a gradual smaller step at a time...
  132. <q> indeed
  133. <q> with a compliance set we start with a small request or commitment
  134. <q> and because people like to be consistent they are more likely to comply with a second larger request
  135. <q> in therapy this means we can build towards meaningful change with a subject
  136. <q> one thing particularly interesting about compliance sets is that they are effective outside of trance also, but inside of trance they are very effective
  137. <subm^> Piece by piece that winds up a larger piece that might be too much to take all at once?
  138. <q> indeed
  139. <q> we could be told to sit in a particular seat or
  140. <q> maybe agree to talk about something
  141. <q> but not many of us would commit to making a lifestyle change on the first question or request
  142. <ace_freddie{SQ}> I can see that - it's like granting something for the sake of argument, is it not, q?
  143. <q> (I know I probably wouldn't)
  144. <ace_freddie{SQ}> and then building on it
  145. <q> yep
  146. <q> so milton model on the surface involves getting the subject's attention or focus
  147. <q> and then using suggestions and compliance sets to get towards an objective
  148. <q> however later in Ericksonain trances we may want to add an embedded suggestion
  149. <subm^> little building blocks to build the house?
  150. <q> indeed
  151. <q> little blocks that can quickly build up towards a great and (hopefully) positive change for the subject
  152. <subm^> Is there much variability as to how small or large the blocks should be....from person to person?
  153. <q> if a person is less likely to trust we should start smaller
  154. <q> if a person is afraid of change, smaller is better
  155. <q> quitting cold turkey works for some people, I could quit things cold turkey every morning(but I would restart using them by lunch)
  156. <q> with some alcoholism and smoking you can slowly over time reduce the amount you consume each week
  157. <q> until you are off of them
  158. <q> easier than you could in one day
  159. * q does his dieting that way
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  161. <SeducingSpirit> welcome shiny_subm, you may feel great pleasure when you donate your mind
  162. <subm^> So if you build up good "rapport" there would be better trust ,one could be more effective in reaching the goal- smoother and perhaps quicker?
  163. <q> indeed
  164. <q> the better the rapport the larger your building blocks can be
  165. <q> the worse the rapport the harder our work is
  166. <subm^> makes sense
  167. <q> indeed
  168. <subm^> hi shiny- NLP discussion going on
  169. <q> in our ericksonian hypnosis we might embed a message or suggestion in a story
  170. <q> like a metaphor so to speak
  171. <q> so in addition to the compliance sets
  172. <q> which are very effective with a majority of people
  173. <shiny_subm> Hi subm^
  174. <q> we can use metaphors for a little more effectiveness
  175. <q> hi shiny_subm welcome
  176. <shiny_subm> Hi q
  177. <q> after we have gotten the subject's focus, compliance, and used some embedded commands, we often repeat some of the suggestions to make sure that the subject remembers them
  178. <q> suggestions (both in and out of trance) are more effective with repetition
  179. <subm^> metaphors so the person gets the feel of what you are trying to say through personal understandings and feelings
  180. <subm^> ?
  181. <q> indeed
  182. <q> and because a story uses the imagination and emotion it bypasses most critical thinking
  183. <subm^> Fascinating, q
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  185. <SeducingSpirit> welcome Karen, try not to think about relaxing into trance and just feeling pleasure or else it will happen
  186. <q> it is very fun to use :)
  187. <q> and I think it helps subjects well also
  188. <subm^> Hi Karen- NLP discussion now
  189. <q> anyway even with a great rapport, good frame, anchoring, and milton model trance, sometimes our subject may retain limiting beliefs
  190. <Karen> Hello :)
  191. <flora> Hello is jello made in hell
  192. <q> or beliefs that are just plain wrong in some cases, unhealthy beliefs can include paranoia for example
  193. <q> hello Karen :)
  194. <subm^> I can see that one needs to understand the concepts, but it must take a lot of experience to excel with all of this
  195. <q> subm^, generally its best to start out with rapport and practice that first
  196. <q> then framing and anchoring
  197. <q> steady practice makes perfect :)
  198. <subm^> rapport must help in all ways
  199. <q> rapport can be the difference between a great relationship and no relationship
  200. <subm^> So true
  201. <q> or in the career example failing a job interview
  202. <q> if we dont have some level of rapport with the interviewer
  203. <q> he is less likely to understand or trust us
  204. <q> and therefore probably less likely to want to hire us
  205. <q> people are warmer towards things they are familiar with
  206. <q> (and this includes people also :)
  207. <q> anyway to remove a limiting belief we could try to use facts and evidence
  208. <subm^> Seems like this has a dual usage- helping in hypnosis, but most importantly- helpful in real life interaction
  209. <q> ^^ indeed
  210. <q> its also useful in parenting
  211. <subm^> for sure
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  213. <SeducingSpirit> welcome Shirla, please decide before leaving whether you are your past or you will be your future
  214. <q> sometimes we want a child to do something, we probably wont toss a list of tasks at them
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  216. <subm^> Hi Shirla- welcome--having a NLP discussion
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  218. <q> we are far more likely to be successful giving our child a choice of when they want to do something or in which order
  219. <q> than just shoving a list at them
  220. <q> similarly children respond better to metaphors than they do direct "commands"
  221. <q> that is why Asop's fables were effective for teaching morals and life messages
  222. <q> also if you are a religious person you might notice that the Bible happened to use stories to communicate memorable messages
  223. <subm^> they could relate throughout their own experiences and understandings.
  224. <q> like it or dislike Bible stories, one has to admit they are memorable
  225. <q> its also why we tend to like video games that have a "story mode"
  226. <q> indeed
  227. <q> people are more likely to embrace a message they can relate to
  228. <subm^> Question please
  229. <q> sure
  230. <Shirla> What’s NLP?
  231. <subm^> Would you tell all of us what NLP stands for and explain it briefly
  232. <q> sure thing
  233. <subm^> We have the same question, Shirla
  234. <q> NeuroLinguisticProgramming means to program the mind using language or communication. Neuro meaning brain or mind. Linguisitc meaning language or communication, and programming.
  235. <q> NLP generally focuses on looking at the minds as a series of parts. Models are created to handle each part, and those models are generally created by reverse-engineering the thinking and methods of therapists.
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  237. <SeducingSpirit> so good of you to come pikachu, try not to gaze at the screen and slip into trance
  238. <q> in example Milton model was created from the ideas and teachings of Milton Erickson
  239. <q> For those of you who like Formatting:
  240. <q> What is NLP?
  241. <q> 1. NLP is the use of language to program the brain.
  242. <q> 2. NLP looks at the mind as a collection of parts(systems). These parts effect one another through feedback.
  243. <q> 3. NLP uses models to interact with each main part of the mind.
  244. <q> 4. Models are created by reverse-engineering the processes of therapists and communicators.
  245. <subm^> What do you mean by reverse-engineering, please?
  246. <q> ah great question
  247. <q> by reverse-engineering I mean to copy their methods and stream line them
  248. <q> in example we might watch a master painter and ask him about his thinking processes
  249. <q> we can reverse engineer that or make a basic version of his skill that can be taught to others
  250. <q> It would be very difficult to teach everyone the entire field of Behavioral Psychology, but we can give them the basic idea of how it works and how to use it practically
  251. <subm^> I would think therapists and communicators would use all you have discussed as core to their therapy/communication, q
  252. <q> Many use parts of it, some use nearly all of it
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  256. <SeducingSpirit> welcome dareon, you may feel great pleasure when you donate your mind
  257. <q> in example Behavioral psychologists will use anchoring and elements of rapport
  258. <q> a CBT therapist may borrow ideas of hypnosis and add them to their therapy session
  259. <q> or a Freudian might decide to use the ideas of Framing from NLP to word things better
  260. <q> Great communicators and persuaders likely use a little bit of every model subm^
  261. <q> especially great therapists and skilled CBT therapists
  262. <subm^> What is a CBT therapist?
  263. <q> Cognitive Behavioral therapist
  264. <q> they share a lot of ideas with NLP but don't usually use hypnosis in their therapy
  265. <pikachu> That was the kind of therapy I did growing up. :)
  266. <q> they look at thinking, behavior, and feelings as being connected
  267. <q> and because of that the coping mechanisms a CBT therapist uses is very effective
  268. <q> glad to hear CBT worked for you pikachu :)
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  270. * pikachu nodnods. :)
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  272. <SeducingSpirit> greetings Katy, please feel free to slip into mindless oblivion at any time
  273. <q> CBT is kind of like the more direct brother of NLP
  274. <subm^> Seems most reasonable, q thinking, behavior, feeling
  275. <q> ^
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  277. <SeducingSpirit> please join us astorix, you may be seduced deeply now or later as you prefer
  278. <astorix> hello all
  279. <q> NLP therapists might also extend that to looking at one's environment
  280. <q> hi hi
  281. <astorix> hi q
  282. <subm^> hi Katy, astorix- NLP discussion
  283. <q> welcome
  284. <astorix> hello subm^:))
  285. <subm^> hi
  286. <q> anyway almost all the models discussed
  287. <q> rapport
  288. <q> framing
  289. <q> anchoring
  290. <q> milton model
  291. <Saundra> hi hi
  292. * Saundra hugs q
  293. <astorix> hello Saundra:) hugs
  294. <q> are all very effective for helping a subject learn better coping skills and making positive change in their lives
  295. <q> hi Saundra
  296. * q hugs Saundra back
  297. <q> there is one model however that we have not quite covered just yet
  298. <q> that model is the Meta Model
  299. <subm^> hi Saundra
  300. <q> The meta model, unlike most the other models, has removing limiting beliefs as its purpose
  301. <q> the meta model uses questions, much like the Socratic method to ask a subject to explain their reasoning and to talk about their belief at length
  302. <Saundra> how does it identify which are limiting?
  303. <q> the Meta Model is used to do the removing, not so much the determining of what is a limiting belief
  304. <Saundra> nods
  305. <q> generally it is accepted that a belief that causes one to hurt themselves or be incapable of functioning in work or relationships is a limiting belief
  306. <Saundra> ok so that is a preliminary judgement
  307. <q> I would hope so, at least that is the standard I would use
  308. <q> Therapists in the past have tried using facts and logic to dislodge a false belief
  309. <q> but that does not work very well
  310. <q> we tend to wrap our identity and life decisions up with our beliefs
  311. <q> so when people attack our beliefs, no matter how flawed, it tends to make us fight stronger for them
  312. <q> so the Meta Model sidesteps this backfire effect by instead repeatedly asking the subject to explain how their reasoning is right, where the belief came form, and how their belief works specifically
  313. <subm^> Then it is simply a belief that causes harm to self or limits one's ability to cope/efficiently and effectively with others?
  314. <sungazer> So it imposes rationality on their thoughts?
  315. <q> basically it makes them question their own thoughts themselves
  316. <Saundra> seems like it forces questioning
  317. <Saundra> nods
  318. <q> yeah
  319. <q> I prefer to use the Meta Model with softeners
  320. <q> so instead of saying "how did you come to this conclusion" all matter of factly
  321. <q> I might say "I am just curious how you came to that conclusion?"
  322. <pikachu> Ah. :)
  323. <Saundra> do you need to offer a replacement?
  324. <q> you would probably after it has been dislodged
  325. <Saundra> seems that removing some beliefs can be a problem
  326. <q> but you want that replacement to be congruent with their personality
  327. <Saundra> nods
  328. <q> something that will work for them
  329. <q> some people cannot handle the full force of unfiltered reality
  330. <sungazer> What if they have an unimpeachable chain of logic that makes their beliefs valid?
  331. <sungazer> Are you assuming they'll always discover holes?
  332. <q> very few people can hold a belief when they are repeatedly questioned
  333. <q> sometimes one may space this out over time
  334. <subm^> I do not know if that is true q.
  335. <q> it seems to be
  336. <q> people usually, in my experience, question their own beliefs over time as people question them
  337. <q> and ask for specifics
  338. <Saundra> some may just get angry and quit?
  339. <pikachu> And I think, subm^, that in order for this to work, you first have to have people who *want* to be honest with themselves. o.o
  340. <q> yeah, that is a neccessary risk in some cases
  341. <subm^> I think many/most people tend to keep within groups of people who tend to share their strongest beliefs, q
  342. <q> indeed
  343. <q> its why the meta model is listed last
  344. <q> after we have done as much positive change work as possible
  345. <q> we then focus on the limiting beliefs if neccessary
  346. <q> if we don't soften our questions, or do it over a longer period of time they may very well walk away
  347. <Saundra> seems some beliefs are more tightly held than others
  348. <q> indeed
  349. <q> when this is done in a much more aggressive and (less ethical manner) it is often called gaslighting
  350. <q> it is effective, but I prefer the more ethical and softer approach
  351. <subm^> The intolerance now of people seems to be because they will not even listen to what an opposing belief is and they dig in more to their belief and intolerance, and stick with those who agree with them. No real open discourse/communication.
  352. <q> that is the backfire effect
  353. <q> if we present evidence and facts they feel like we are attacking their ideas
  354. <q> some of these ideas they base their personality on
  355. <subm^> absolutely
  356. <q> but a question has a certain kind of leverage to it
  357. <q> they feel they must explain it to validate it
  358. <q> but if it is difficult they wonder why they cannot explain it well
  359. <q> it makes them look at it critically, and eventually they will see why the belief may not be perfect
  360. <q> best case scenario they toss away the limiting belief and replace it with a better one
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  362. <q> worse case scenario they walk away
  363. <Saundra> so sorry and upset I missed so much - did you explain gaslighting?
  364. <q> usually they will stop expressing their belief as much and modify it
  365. <q> ah Saundra I did not
  366. <q> mostly because gaslighting is a very aggressive technique where one tries to make another person doubt their own sanity
  367. <q> it is aggressive enough that it is not something that would be useful in therapy
  368. <q> or in fun
  369. <q> (not at least in that form)
  370. <Saundra> nods that sounds like a risk for all belief change
  371. <q> Meta Model is softer, kind, and safer
  372. <q> and much more ethical
  373. <Saundra> nods
  374. <q> gaslighting is very effective ish but can have unintended side effects, as well as being very cruel
  375. <q> anyway
  376. <q> Meta Model appears to be more effective at removing a limiting belief than directly challenging it
  377. <q> however if a person is determined enough not to change a limiting belief then they probably will not
  378. <q> at least not at that time with that therapist
  379. <q> they may not be ready yet
  380. <q> if a person is terrified of trance you may not even use Milton Model, you might just respect their wishes and go with rapport, framing, and anchoring
  381. <Saundra> I assume the therapist makes judgement to change a belief?
  382. <q> only if said change is in line with what you agreed to do
  383. <q> and only is said change will be beneficial
  384. <subm^> gas lighting seems dangerous, insensitive, cruel, and with potential horrendous emotional outcomes, q
  385. <q> indeed
  386. <q> there is a big difference (I think) between Meta Model and Gaslighting
  387. <Saundra> does it make a difference if subject knows the target - belief and change?
  388. <q> it can
  389. <q> sometimes we don't want the subject to neccessarily know
  390. <q> sometimes, like in a hostage negotiation its better for everyone involved to use the Meta Model without alarming them
  391. <Saundra> because it induces resistance?
  392. <q> it can
  393. <q> especially if trust is hard won
  394. <q> same when talking someone down from suicide
  395. <q> they know you are going to try to dissuade them
  396. <q> else they would not have talked to you
  397. <q> but telling them that you are might make them not want to talk to you
  398. <Saundra> nods
  399. <q> I have talked people out of suicide and found that the Meta Model approach with very very soft questions can be better
  400. <Saundra> seems there is an ego component - I dont want to admit you are right?
  401. <q> I would think so
  402. <q> when we put all these models and ideas together we get a very powerful framework
  403. * callgirl-tina has quit (Ping timeout: 241 seconds)
  404. <q> and interestingly enough there is even research that supports nearly every model
  405. <Saundra> very impressive - I will read the log carefully
  406. <q> NLP when applied ethically and with care can help make the subject's life better, and the practitioner's life better
  407. <subm^> seems the Meta Model with softeners is so superior in many ways- more caring, gradual, easier to accept/want change, more effective, and with much less chance of harmful results, q
  408. <q> thats what I would say, from experience, there are people I am sure that prefer the brute force approach
  409. <q> from a helping angle I prefer caring and kind
  410. * pikachu nodnods. :)
  411. <Saundra> any that need reinforcement methods?
  412. <Saundra> meaning repeat sessions?
  413. <q> reinforcement methods? I am not sure of the terminology, but generally subjects are encouraged to have several sessions
  414. <pikachu> (brb)
  415. * pikachu has quit (Quit: )
  416. <q> one on day one
  417. <q> one on day two
  418. <q> then weekly for a bit
  419. <Saundra> so you use same approach each time?
  420. <subm^> caring, kind, sensitive, compassionate, effective...versus brute force and tearing smoke's self esteem and self worth down, q
  421. <q> more or less Saundra, although the rapport and anchoring sessions can be shorter
  422. <subm^> someone, not smoke
  423. <q> yeah trying to rip cigarettes out of someone's hand using brute force might work
  424. <q> sort of
  425. <q> but you will probably notice declines in other areas
  426. * pikachu (~Peter-@spiral-DHJ.4OG.40.67.IP) has joined
  427. <SeducingSpirit> greeting pikachu, I suppose you were wondering whether you were deep in trance before you go deep in trance
  428. <Saundra> wb pikachu
  429. <pikachu> Thanks, Saundra. :)
  430. <q> anyway that roughly concludes the presentation :-)
  431. <Saundra> seems sometimes you need to enforce related beliefs
  432. <Saundra> like you can do this
  433. <q> Saundra, if you like I can send you a pastebin of the backlog
  434. <sungazer> Thanks q, that was informative~
  435. <q> ah
  436. <q> thanks
  437. <pikachu> That was cool, q, thank you. ^_^
  438. <q> you are very right Saundra
  439. <Saundra> I really want to study it q
  440. <Saundra> really excellent
  441. <q> anytime Saundra, I know you are super busy, but I am sure later you will have more time :)
  442. <Saundra> thank you so much
  443. <q> (I myself have been super busy with internships lol)
  444. <gabriel> thank you q that is very interesting subject
  445. <Saundra> than you for making time so mcuh
  446. <q> yw :=)
  447. <subm^> q- that was the most informative, interesting, and fascinating discussion/presentation I recall. Superbly done! :-)
  448. * Saundra hugs
  449. <q> thanks :)
  450. * q hugs back
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