Listen-Intention-Speak-Repeat

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# LISR

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# Preface

The Sexually Frustrated Male in Western Society is the biggest and most dangerous social problem we as a society face.

In this book I essentially pulled a theory out of my butt.  It is something that may or may not work for you.  It may not work for anyone.  Yet I feel compelled to write it, because I think there is something there.  I'm really writing this more for me than for anybody else.  However, I am sharing it out of the desire to potentially help the Sexually Frustrated Males out there.  I am also sharing it to see other peoples experience in using it.  Your comments are welcome. [email protected]

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# LISR - Attraction / Charisma

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# Introduction

This document is designed to make you more attractive and charismatic.  This document is short, yet it has enough information, and enough references to outside sources, that it will take the better part of a year to get through.  Then after that year, you will spend the rest of your life honing your skills.

Essentially this is an algorithm for becoming attractive and charismatic to women.  And it's broken up into four components.

## The Four Components

1. Listen
2. Form Intent
3. Speak
4. Rinse and repeat

## The Four Components - A Little Longer

1. Most important listen to what the other people are saying (body language, etc.)
2. Become clear on what my intent is with each of the other people (Friend, romantic, etc.)
3. Watch what I am doing to make sure I am saying what I want to other people
4. Rinse and repeat

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# A Little More Explanation

Here are the four components broken down a little more.

## 1. Listen

There are many books on body language.  Read them.  Paul Ekman for emotions in facial expressions.  Julius Fast. All cool people are GOOD LISTENERS to other people or groups of people.  One thing that people that exude cool are very good listeners. I will go into even more detail later on I'm this document.

## 2. Form Intention

What do you want from the other person?  the only reason to talk to another person is because you want something from them. just chit chatting is not fun.

For guys, look inside yourself.  Get honest with yourself about how you would want others to treat you.  Be specific about how you want them to treat you, and what you want them to do to, and for, you.  While others are talking you will form intentions with them.  (i.e. I want to get with this girl or I want this guy to be my friend or I need this guy to buy from me).

for girls, if your hot send me your number.

## 3. Speak

At this point you are listening with a high degree of accuracy to the other person or group.  You have in your mind a very clear Intention for the other person.  you are in a very good position. in fact, don't kid yourself, you are in a better position than most people walking this Earth.

At this point your speaking will start taking care of itself.  Your intention will be shown in your body language and voice tone.  You won't be wasting time with people that don't interest you.  You will speak with a purpose now, instead of randomly.

there are still more things you can do, and we will cover the later in me detail.

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# A More Complete Explanation of LISR

## Listen

Look them in the face.  Communication FLOWS while we are looking someone in the face, and they are looking in to our faces.  The ideal communication between two people them being face to face.  Between their faces would be nothing but air.  No video conferencing, nothing, but air between the two faces.  They will be close enough to see each others faces, and to see each others bodies.  An unobstructed view of the body and face, for both people.  While they are talking, they are both looking at each others faces and bodies.

Communication will start to falter, and start to cut off, when we turn our faces against another person.  Most relationships (friendships, marriages, fiancés, boyfriend/girlfriend, work) most likely fail due to not looking each other in the faces.  We become ok with someone at least listening to the words we are saying and not looking in our faces.  But too much of that will simply destroy the relationship.

When listening you are trying to find the girls that are interested in meeting you. Look at their faces from across the room. See if they glance over at you. A woman will know in the first ten seconds if she will have sex with you. When a woman keeps glancing at you, etc., approach her and say 'hi'.

It's important, but won't cover all.  Being a good listener alone won't do it.  Some people ONLY have good observational skills, and hardly miss anything.  It's a good start but won't cover all.  If they don't follow the other two steps (form INTENTION, SPEAK) then they will just live in their heads, and become very detached from reality.

Videogames and TV and movies keep us from actual back and forth social interactions, which means we don't learn how to listen.  Listening should lead eventually to Speaking. But you can't Speak to your TV, or to a movie, because there is nobody there to listen to you.  There are only representations of people.  So, watching people interacting on TV may feel like interacting, because it lets us practice on part of this algorithm (Listining). However, this will take us further away from real interaction with a real woman.

To Listen means to see the girl, and use all of your senses to see what it is that she is saying.  You have to see where the girl is coming from.  You have to use all 5 (or ten?) senses to see what the girl is saying.  Sight: Look at the girls body language.  Where are her feet pointing, where is she looking.  Who is she making eye contact with.  These are things that you need to open your eyes to.  Who is she touching.  Is she touching you?  What about her facial expressions.  What emotions is she showing.  Is she flirting.  How is her grooming, her clothing.  In a group who is talking to whome.

Listen also includes sound.  Like her voice tone and the actual words she is using.  Touch is another sense.  Is she touching you, is she allowing you to touch her?  Taste. This may come later on as you become intimate.  Smell.  How does she smell.  Any perfume.

All these things must be listened to continously.  And I mean continously as in every moment that you are interacting with her (or a group of hers).  As you stand there, you must continously look for changes in emotion, changes in attitude.  That doesn't mean that you react to each and every emotion outright.  It means that you are listening enough to read her emotions.  Dorks don't listen to others. Dorks don't get girls.  Dorks tend to ramble on and never look at the other person.  Girls are not attracted to dorks.

When Listening to a girl or goup of girls, look at what intentions each has with the others, and with guys.  Are they in competition, friendship, sex.  What inention to they have with me.  This is different from forming your own intention, it's looking at the intentions of others. By knowing the intentions of others you will be more ready to handle them.

Is the other person honest or lying.  What is there maturity level.  Listen CAREFULLY to everything.

Dr. Paul Dobransky has a theory that we are all one of four different personality types.  Either a King, a Warrior, a Magecian or a Lover.  Kings tend to want to be in charge, warriors tend to want to fight and to protect, Magicians tend to want to be looked at and to be the center of attention.  And Lovers want everyone to get along.  What are the temperaments of the people that you are Listening to?

What is the context that you are in.  Maybe you're talking to a girl and she is at work, and this would change the way the girl will interact with you.  Maybe your at the beach and the girl is wearing a two piece bathing suit and is feeling kind of shy about the whole thing.  Pay attention to what context you find yourself in.

Is the girl listening to you.  And to what extent.  If not, who is she listening to.

See the social situation for what it is RIGHT NOW, not daydreaming as I would like to see it; stop dreaming about the future and stop rehashing the past; like chess, play the board AS IS, not as you want it to be.

How much does the girl VALUE my presence. Would they rather me STAY than go away.

Their levels of Fight, Fuck and Feed.  Is the girl already horny, and if so, for whome.  Is she looking to fight.  Is she currently having trouble with basic necessities.

What does the other person/group think of me (what is the puppet of me in their mind, their imagination of who I really am.  Their puppet of me in their mind is not ME, it's their representation of me. It's something that they control.)  Sometimes when talking with girls they don't listen well.  They are in a fantasy land of pop culture.  They want to be liked, popular, have high social status, etc.  When someone is fantasizing and not Listening, it's you job to notice that.

Woman want either one of two things.  Either 'social status', or to be submissive to a Man.  If there is not man around in her life that she feels that she should submit to, then she will crave and chase social status.  A bitch without instruction is headed for destruction.  But you must show you are socially aware in order to have her let go of her overpowering social status need.  And being able to listen to what is going on is one step to showing you are socially aware.  People will start to realize that you know what is going on in the social situation.

Maintaining eye contact does not mean just staring into someone's eyes and not looking away, drilling into their eyes -- it means to CONTINUE to LISTEN to their face and body.  What are their facial expressions, etc.  Levels of the emotions of Fear, Disgust, Sadness, Anger and Enjoyment and Surprise. Continously monitor.  You must become well versed in emotions, emotions drive attraction.

OBSERVE! - OBSERVE! - OBSERVE!

From Paul Ekman: "Are you really willing to look at a person's face? Do you really want to know how the person actually feels, or would you instead prefer to know only what he wants you to know? Is the person a professional facial deceiver, by vocation or otherwise? Do you know how that person typically looks when he is experiencing the emotion in question and is not controlling his facial expression? (If not, be much more tentative in your judgments.) Are you familiar with the facial morphology, the appearance of each emotion in each of the three areas of the face? (Remember, where to look and what to look for varies with each emotion.) Do you notice the timing of an expression-its onset, duration, and offset? Do you consider the location of the facial expression in the conversational stream? Are you alert to micro-expressions? Do you compare the facial expressions with the person's body movements, posture, voice tone? Are you checking alternative explanations against your knowledge of the social context?"

Ekman: 7 channels of communication coming from the other person. Learn __all__ of these communication areas, and then be much less confused as to what someone is saying, ever, and that includes almost anyone in the world.  A huge puzzle peice to attracting a girl will click into place when you become well versed in all of these channels of communication.

With two channels-the auditory channel and visual channel-transmitting information from seven sources, communication is a barrage.

Three sources in auditory
1. The actual words used
2. The sound of the voice
3. And such things as how rapidly the words are spoken, how many pauses there are, how much the speech is disrupted by words like "aah" or "ummh."

When looking, you gather information from at least four sources in the visual channel
1. The face
2. The tilts of the head
3. The total body posture
4. And the skeletal muscle movements of the arms, hands, legs, and feet.

Every one of these sources in both the auditory and visual channel can tell you something about emotion.

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In a later part of the algorithm we Speak, but we need to know how is the other person/group responding to our speaking. Did anything change. because of what we said or did.  Are they doing your intention, or at least getting closer to doing it.

Their level of mindos levels: Anger<->Anxiety, etc.  This is another Dr. Paul teaching called MindOS.  I will reference these at the end of this section.

Floyd Maywether is a professonial boxer that is known for making lots of money, and never losing a professional fight.  When he is in the ring, he fully concentrates on what the other boxer is doing.  He never flinches away from a punch.  He is always looking at the other boxer.  He doesn't very oftern close his eyes or turn his head when another boxer is throwing a punch.  Take a look at some youtube videos of him fighting.  Look with the same interest and intensity at the girl as Floyd Maywether looking at a punch wizzing by him, with the 'punches' coming mostly from the other person's face.  Don't flinch by looking away.  Remember, The truth is not afraid of any question

Watch out for the social 'curve balls' that individuals or groups will throw you.  Don't ignore them as if they didn't happen.  Look unflinchingly at the girl is doing.

Simple game Aaron Sleazy: What category is the girl in? Green zone: definitely interested Grey zone: somewhat interested Red zone: absolutely not interested

Remember, relationships end when one person stops reading the face of the other.

When first learning, some communications may SEEM subtle and hard to see.  They may be easy to miss in the beginning.  Continue to Listen by observing the other person.  After some time of doing this, these so called subtle communications will start to look BLATENE, and loud as fuck.  What used to be hard to spot will become very easy to see.

You will spend the rest of your life honing this skill.  Start TODAY by reading the rest of this book. Get the reference materials at the end of the book and start working your way through them.

## Form Intention

Learn to fully decide for yourself - many people will try and tell you things and try and throw you off, for their own benefits.  Sometimes when reading a text about behavior modification of humans, there will be a little warning to the reader.  This warning will tell the reader to be sure to use the techniques that they are about to show you in an ethical fashion.  Don't worry about those warnings.  Just start using what you are learning imeedietly.

Form Intent __IMMEDIATELY__ while talking with the other person, don't hide it from yourself.  Form Intention sooner rather than later. The reason for this is that the other person is forming an intention for you. Either consciesly or subconciesly, or genetically, they have an intent for you.  Meaning they may have unconsciesly learned from society some way that they are supposed to want YOU to act and be. Without an intention fomr YOU for THEM to sheild you from this, you become a passive passenger in their life's story.  You must become an active agent of your OWN life's story. To do this form an intention imeedielty for the other person.

Some intentions include: a woman: I want to date her, I want to try a one night stand with her, I want her to become an employee of mind.  a male: I want him to be a friend, I want him to become a close friend, I want him to become an employee of mine, I want to borrow a special skill that they have for my own ends.

A life made-to-order.  Life is a blank peice of paper that only you fill.  Others will try and tell you what you are supposed to do.  Religions, etc.  This will not fit the bill at all.  You must steer your own life, your own thoughts, your own **joie de vivre**.

Bring to mind specific REASONS why picking this intent for the other person.  For a girl, you are physically attracted to her. And your intention may be to have a one night stand with her. Your reasons may be because she is HOT. But, if you are in an area some evening that doesn't have any hot girls, you may be talking to a not so hot girl that happens to be in to you.  You may still want the one night stand, but your reasons may be because she's good looking enough, and the only one available for right now, and no current intention of any thing more than that.  The intentions that you have in your mind will most defeinetely color the way you SPEAK to her, and will color how you handle and stear the interaction.  By having a clear intention with the other person, you are MUCH more likely to get there.

Form a plan of action based on the intention that you have for the other person.  If it's someone that you want to be a business partner with you, form a rough plan of action that you would use to steer them toward that intention.  This will influence what you see and how you speak to them. You will start seeing moments in the interactions with this person where they become somewhat receptive to the idea of partnering with you. Then you can reward that behavior.  By having a plan of action, you will have a much easier time identifying the behaviors that you want the other person to increase. And conversly, when they are becoming interested in their own plans, punish them as much as socially acceptable and what you can get away with, so that they stop thinking about their own plans.  This conditioning can ONLY happen if you have an INTENTION for the other person first.  You must have a direction that you are taking the interaction to, and this is always acheived first by the thought in your mind of where you want them to go.

Take female through the mating process.

How will you befriend someone. Have a plan. This document is my plan.  You can make it your plan too. Whatever you do make some kind of plan.

Can/will change over time for an individual or a group.  There are many examples.  You are interacting with a girl that you know is dating someone.  Your intention with her may be to just chat until something better comes along.  During your interaction she may let loose that she has broken up with her boyfriend.  Now you intention may change entirely.  Now you intention may change to banging her, rebound be damn.  On a dime your intention with the other person changes.  This is one example where intention will change. However, intention must always be adjusted every moment that you are speaking with someone. You may have an employee that your intention is to keep them an employee of yours, then they start to do things that show that maybe they don't want to be there. So you intention is to maybe change their attitude to become someone that is doing their duties. Your intention, according to what you see from them, may change one day to promoting them, or change one day to firing them and replacing them with someone that has better qualities and a better attitude.

Be ready to change every time you listen to them.  Every time you listen to them be ready to change what your intentions are with them. Don't be stuck with one intention. If someone shows themselves not trustworthy then go ahead and change your plan for them.

Does person or group need to change to a new intent?  There can be intentions that are had for whole groups of people.

Say it mentally LOUD!!! You can scream internally forever without taking a breath. Don't whimper/whisper it to yourself.  Be confident first IN YOUR OWN MIND.  Be SURE and CLEAR in your MIND what you want from the other person.  Don't let the interactions, the noise around you, other thoughts, distract you from what you want from the other person.

Don't let your perception of what other people approve of affect the intent of what you form of the other person in your own mind.  Many fears of physical harm are unfounded anyway.  Be COMPLETELEY free with what intent you assign to someone IN YOUR OWN MIND.

You control your mind, therefore you control the intent that you want from the other person.  This is a fact.

Be absolutelet over the top and grandiouse in your intention with other people. Put your intention from others into 'maximum overdrive.'  You might just get it.

The person in charge is the person with the STRONGEST and UNWAVERING intent in their mind.  CONTROL YOUR MIND, DO NOT let anyone else bluff, or bully, or convince, you into changing what you think. Be the person in charge by being the person in charge of their own mind.  This is one of the most important concepts in this book.  Napoleon Hill "Think and Grow Rich"

Be sure that the intent with the other person is clear in your mind, in all senses.  BDSM, smell of leather, the crack of the whip, etc., or whatever it is that you are into.

DO NOT BE ASHAMED about what YOU THINK about what you want with the other person.

Your intent is intensly personal, and need not be revealed expliciteley with any others. "the more personal, the more universal" - David D. It is for you and you alone. The ultimate control of WHAT you think is ALWAYS within your control.  Even if you give it away, you only did so willingly, and you MUST get it back, because, in reality, you always had it.

Even if someone held a gun to your face, you can tell them whatever they want to hear, but you still get to think whatever you chose to think.

N. Hill - "God gave us compplete and utter control over the most important thing - our mind, and what we chose to think" paraphrase

N. Hill - "Greatness is the ability to recognize the power of your own mind, to embrace it and use it."

A little secret - you get to think whatever you want. chose fucking wisely.

How many times when we are away from someone we have intentions for them, but when we are with that person (ie hot girl) we hide that intention from ourselves when we are face to face. By hiding that intention from our conscience mind, we are open to other peoples intentions guiding us, and that's not good.

If you don't have an intention for the other person/group SQUARLY in your mind, then you WILL fall victim ot the intentions of the other person/group (including marketers and salesmen) and who knows where that would lead you to. Better to control you own destiny.

EVERYONE that you meet face to face gets assigned an intention. EVERYONE.

Intention is personal and rarely shared by anyone.

Intention is made deep down inside, in the deepest part of us, that nobody, especially women, are allowed in.  Once a woman is in attraction is lost.

Courage to admit intention with the other person.  Admit intention to yourself.

intention made in fortress of solitude, bluebeards secret room, monte cristo prison.

Don't let anyone tell you what your intentions need to be.

## Speak

Action! - Action! - Action!

With all of your 5 OR 10 senses

Sight

My body language as seen by another

My actions (put a bitch in check, etc.)

When looking, you __give__ information from at least four sources in the visual channel

1. The face
2. The tilts of your head
3. Your total body posture
4. And the skeletal muscle movements of your arms, hands, legs, and feet.


Sound - My voice tone - What I am talking about - Talking about body language

When speaking there are three sources in auditory

1. The actual words you use
2. The sound of your voice
3. And such things as how rapidly your words are spoken, how many pauses there are, how much your speech is disrupted by words like "aah" or "ummh."

It works both ways.  You are looking at other people nonverbal communications.  Yet, you are giving out nonverval communications all of the time too.

Touch - My kino - the mating dance.  We can speak with touch. Many articles talking about getting comfortable touching a girl. When the time is right start out with something innocouse, like brushing the outside of your fingers against their outside shoulder.  The mating dance shows how to take touching from one step to the next.

Taste - Skin - Foods.  How do you taste to the other person, when they kiss you. What tastes do you bring to them, i.e. foods, drinks, etc.

Smell - Cologne - Grooming/hygene. How do you smell to others.  This communicates to them through their senses.

Time - everthing has it's timeing.  Learn timing, and then learn how to make that timing faster and faster.  When reading a book timing is so hard to get. for example, if you were reading a book about passing a basketball on a basketball court, you may see diagrams.  You may read detailed descriptions of how to pass the basketball. But the book you are reading is very static, meaning it stays the same, whereas a basketball pass is very dynamic and now-oreinted.  This means that getting timing from a book, no matter how good the description, would be difficult.  You could watch a youtube video about people doing different basketball passes, and you would then start to understand some about timing.  The only way to learn about timing is to take the knowledge that you learned and saw, and try to do basketball passes yourself.  You would then start to understand timing a basketball pass.

Same with seduction.  Timing is important.  Having the attention of the other party is important first before revealing certian things.

Watch a comedian.  Notice how they have such timing when they move from one word of their joke to the next word.  This timing cannot be described with words in a book. It needs to be practiced and trained.  Timing mistakes will be made, but then learning will occur.

Speaking is ACTION with intention behind it.  Speaking isn't just the flow of words.  It's the flow out of all of your modes of communication to others.  it's an action that you do, not something that is just thought of.  The first two steps are the thinking parts, speaking is the action part.

Genuine/honest/open, i.e. a human being.  If you really want to have sex with a girl, then that is what you want. Try and work that in to the conversation as soon as possible.

Thoughts, Emotions, Facial expressions, body language. Use all of these things to tell the girl what you want from her.

SPEAK and act according to intent.

Woman. If the woman is hot, then your intention is to have sex with her.

Flirt

Put a bitch in check. The most powerful thing that you can say to a woman is NO. Most guys will not want to say NO to a hot girl. If you cannot say NO to a hot girl, she will never respect you, and she will never give you her heart.  Tell her what NOT to do and then tell her what TO do.

By saying No to a woman you are allowing her to bump into your personal boundry (Dr. Paul, MindOS).  I woman MUST feel your personal boundry.  If she doesn't feel your personal boundry then you will cease to have an impact on their lives, you will become worthless to them.

The mating dance. Move from one to the next.  From David DeAngelo.

   1. Eye Contact
   2. Verbal Contact
   3. Bodies side by side
   4. Turn to face each other
   5. Hand to arm or hand to shoulder contact
   6. Hand to hand contact
   7. Arm/Hand around waist
   8. Mouth to mouth contact
   9. Hand to genital contact
   10. mouth to genital
   11. Genital to genital contact

There will be times when you will move very quickly through this dance, landing only briefly on each step.

Make comfortable/safe socially.  A woman values social status until she gets in a relationship with a man.  Then she will value being with a man.

Lead the interaction. This is very important.  Woman need to be lead, they want a man that makes the decisions for them.

Take Control.  Be the guy that makes the decisions.  Make all of the decisions.  Western males don't know how to make a decision, or make progress toward some direction.

Social status. Woman love social status.  For a man to chase social status for the purposes of attracting a woman is bad.  It is a fools errand, it's like chasing fools gold.  Chasing social status is dressing up well for the express purpose of sexually attracting females. It's getting a job only to be able to attract females.  Any number of things can be done simply for social status.  Woman will respond to social status in a male, however it won't hold and build up any type of long term relationship.  Being a man that is leading the relationship between the two of you 100% of the time will keep the attraction 100% of the time.

Body Language. When speaking it's important to notice your body language.  Some situations require a slightly different mode of body language, and adapting is important.  Woman are passive, men are active.

Voice Tone

Words.  Words should be precise and full of direction.

Reward/Punish (BF Skinner, operant conditioning)

REWARD individual/group when they are going toward intent

1. __ADD__ a plesurable thing (Vocal "yes", More open body language, more teaching, Spending more time and money)
2. __TAKE AWAY__ a painful thing.

PUNISH individual/group when they are going __AWAY__ from intent

1. __ADD__ something painful (Frown face, Head shake, Closing body language, vocal "no")
2. __AND TAKE AWAY__ a pleasurable thing.

Are they emiting the behavior you want from them? Reward them. Are they emiting the behavior you don't want? Punish them. This is the most powerful behavioral modification technique out there.  Couple this with your INTENTION and apply it always, and you will start to become very attractive.

For example:

Compliance => (+) "Good Puppy", (- -) Take away fleas (meaning (+) add a good thing and (- -) take away a negative thing)
Defiance => - "No, Bad Puppy", - + Take away toys (meaning (-) add a negative thing and (- +) take away a positive thing)

==> do one of these two sets of behaviors Immediatly after Compliance or Defiance to increase or decrease the behavior from happening.

Most men reward bad behavior from women.

The behavior that you want to Increase or Decrease all come from the Intention that you have assigned to the other person.

negatives for woman = turning your back, "no", put a bitch in check
Positives for woman = attention, affection, direction, "yes"

Your ability to speak comes from your ability to listen, and not the other way around.

We are mostly our subconscience (genes?) talking to and listening to others subconscience (genes?).  Our subconscience is a vast part of our mind. It is mostly out of the way of our conscience mind. The three brains (reptilian, mammilian and human).  Our subconscience mind is influenced by our dominating, emotionalized, thoughts. All of our communications will reflect what we subconsciescly believe.

When verbally talking, or commincating through visual channels, just because someone doesn't respond or doesn't look like they are listening, you can be rest assured that their subconscience is hearing you, and probably even seeing you.  There are visual and auditory channels that others will hear you from.  N. Hill "Every mind a receiving set and a transmiting set."

The subconscience of two people can be talking to each other without either of those two people knowing it that they subconscience are talking with each other

__We speak with our faces and bodies more than we speak with our mouths.__

The best actors know more about controlling their faces than say there lines.  Watch a good movie, with good actors, and then watch a bad movie with bad actors.  Compare and contrast the facial expressions of the actors in the two movies.  You will see that the good actors, the ones that we enjoy watching, show a full range of emotional expressions on their faces.  Hence, a camera close up shot of a good actor won't be jarring, it will be inviting.  Their facial expressions, down to the tiniest detail, will be congruent with each other.  A very close look at their faces in this way will show a face is fully communicating the emotions.

Show that you are socially aware aka get it

Actions and demonstrations that you are socially aware

A “master” communicator who understands these concepts at all levels, who both understands and controls this innate level of body language, is unbelievably attractive to women. -- AIAC DDEANGELO

When speaking, keep an eye on listening to the other person or group.  There is no excuse when speaking that you can't also at the same time be reading other peoples communications.

Be sure to always speak/action in ways that bring the person/group closer to your intention, and stop speaking/acting in ways that bring the person/group further away from your intention

Have fun with it!!!  If you're not having fun you're doing it wrong.

Can't do tricks on a (virtual bike) until you learn to pedal, and until you make all the basic mistakes.  "It's not bragging if you can do the thing." - Evil Kaneval

Work on changing their thoughts about you, their minds. ie "I would like for you to think of me as your part time lover."

If you already know what you intend with someone, and you have all the specific examples of why you did that, then most of the questions of what you speak to that person/group are taken care of as the action keeps unfolding, and as long as you're continuing to go through this algorithm.

You can make it all the way to China if you just ask.

Tell the other person/group what you want/need.  Don't keep them in the dark.  Be as direct as socially possible and socially permitted.  Be direct with what you want, and where you are going, as much as possible.

Use mirror work to break up a fozen face.  Use Paul Ekmans material and do all the facial poses.  Make sure your face can transmit emotion.

Find the social center of balance.  When riding a dirt bike I had trouble.  I remembered how to ride a bike, but hadn't been on one in a long time.  When getting on a dirt bike I had a hard time.  Until I learned how to find the center of balance of the bike.  After that I wasn't fighting the bike anymore.  It was me and the bike working together, instead of me fighting what the bike was doing.

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# Rinse and Repeat

After Speaking be sure to go back again to Listen.  Then check your Intention that you have with the other person.

Do this over and over again
1. Listen
2. Form Intent
3. Speak
4. Repeat

Go 1-2-3-4 Over and Over and Over again

Many times you will do speaking whiile listening at the same time.  When you can effectiveley do this you have arrived.

The Attraction Dance

Can start with 1, 2 OR 3, then just go to the next number

Some mental illness is exacerbated by not listening, not having intent, and not speaking to that.  These behaviors lead to social anxiety.  Essentially, everyone becomes an unknowable stranger.

All of this is done in real time, minute by minute, moment by moment

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When learning and practicing these things you will become more attractive and more powerful. other people in their guts will know this, will realize this. instead of helping you, or being happy for you, or learning from you, most ppl will actively discourage you from getting what you intend.  Don't let them get away with this.

You reap what you sow, sow with the thoughts in your mind.  It's your responsibility to control your own mind.  No one is going to do it for you.

"Leap, and the net will appear" -Zig Zigler.  No one can MAKE you leap, it's a decision that can only come purely within you.  Most people will discourage you from leaping in an attempt to try and protect you.  In some sense, they may be trying to protect you simple because you are asking them to.  Your Intention with the other person may be that you want them to keep you from taking any risks, to keep you small, and to keep you from growing.  You may be wanting them to sabotage your progress.  They may be just doing what it is that you are, stupidly, asking of them.  Change how you want other people to treat you.

Not leaping, not taking the calculated risk to something better, is probably the MOST dangerous thing that you can do.  Because it will ENSURE that you will never grow and never move, and will, eventually, die.  LEAP! - LEAP! - LEAP!

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# Exercise

We need to cover an exercise that needs to be done by you, the reader.  If you don't do this exercise, then you may as well delete this copy of this book and go on with your life.  Without doing this exercise you will never see if what I'm writing is the truth, or if what I'm writing is bullshit.

This is an exercise that you start RIGHT NOW, as you sit there.  This same exact exercise is repeated at the end of this book.

The exercise is as follows.

## Week One

This week, for one whole seven days, Listen.  That means wherever you go, whenever you interact with ANYONE, listen to their body language, voice tone, facial expressions, and even the words that they say.  Just watch and listen.  If you have a bit of body language knowledge use it.  See how people sit with their bodies, how they cross their legs.  Look at who they are looking at, and how they change body language when someone new enters the situation.  Observe, Observe, Observe.  While doing these exercises keep reading this book.

## Week Two

Next week, for a whole seven days, form and Intention when you talk or are around other people.  This means if you see a hot girl, your intention is to get with her.  Make that CLEAR in YOUR mind.  If you see a cool guy, your intention is to hang out with him more.  Do this all in your mind, make sure you are honest with yourself, otherwise this won't work.  Like the old computer adage, "Garbage in, garbage out."

## Week Three

Then, the week after, for a whole seven days, Speak.  Start asking other people for what you want and what you need.  Then KEEP DOING THE ALGORITHM.  Listen to them, then see if your Intention needs to change or stay the same, then speak to them again.  On the speaking you can start out smallish, but make sure you keep control of your mind and CONTINUE to Listen and Form Intention.

What if they say no?  It's not the end of the world.  Win or Learn, there is no lose.

Do this exercise, start it right now because it will take you three weeks to get through.

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# Debrief

Every night debrief yourself.  This is a military style debrief.  This will greatly move your progress forward if you answer these questions truthfully every night.

1. What happened?
2. What went right?
3. What went wrong?
4. Lessons learned.

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# Intro to References

You will spend the rest of you life going through this material AND any material like it that you can find.  This document only showed you a framework, and a few of the details.  What needs to happen now is you need to start going through the reference books and materials below, and continue your action!

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# References

## Listen

References:

Paul Ekman
Dr. Paul - MindOS, Get Your Send On

## Form Intent

References:

Your sex drive

## Speak

References:

Your sex drive

## Rinse and Repeat

References:

Your sex drive