Me: ......
oldsub has left the chat
Roj has joined the chat
Roj: Hello
Me: Hello
Roj: Is there a reason we aren't friends anymore?
Me: How did you notice?
Roj: I saw you logged in to the room but you weren't on my friends list. Then when I clicked your profile, the add friend option was there again.
Roj: Did I upset you?
Me: How's your week going?
Roj: Not great to be honest.
Me: .Porque?
Roj: Well, someone I thought was a friend unfriended me without warning and avoided the direct question as to why, so that didn't help, to be honest.
Me: Other than that?
Roj: Not been good otherwise either. Yesterday was rough. A pretty bad day.
Roj: And you're still avoiding. Fine.
Roj: I'll just go.
Me: Not necessary.
Me: I'm avoiding because it's silly.
Roj: How is it anything but hurtful?
Me: I'm surprised to hear that you'd be hurt by that.
Roj: I'm equally surprised that you would just suddenly do it.
Me: Does it make much of a difference? You're always welcome in my rooms, and we tend to see each other here when we're both online.
Roj: Just seemed like there was something more to the action. If it makes so little difference, why do it?
Me: I don't want to see when you're online.
Roj: Why not? I rarely am lately.
Me: Last week, I wondered something. I wondered the same thing today, and so... I did it.
Roj: Did what?
Me: If I tell you why, I'm expecting not to hear about it from Eva lol
Roj: Okay.
Roj: What happened?
Me: Well, this was the catalyst....85% of the why, I suppose.
Roj: I'm still confused.
Me: Last week, I wondered if you'd jump on (oldsub) if she offered herself to you. I saw her in here again today, and I wondered the same thing when I saw you online. It's not something I'd expect to wonder about a friend. I was annoyed at myself for wondering, so I thought...unfriend. I'm tired of IMVU weirdness.
Roj: No. I am not interested in (oldsub).
Me: But if you were, you would?
Roj: So because you once had a relationship with someone, that person should be off limits forever to anyone you call "friend"?
Me: There it is. And yes.
Roj: That is a very selfish attitude.
Me: Boundaries.
Me: Lol
Roj: If you don't want to be with someone, what does it matter if anyone else does?
Me: Thanks, Jordan.
Roj: And this is all hypothetical anyway. I am not interested in (oldsub).
Me: The idea that everything and everyone is within one's limits is a somewhat selfish attitude. To fail to see the awkwardness that would ensue, to fail to see that feelings would be hurt....or to see that, and still believe taking what one wants is okay
Me: Is a selfish attitude.
Roj: If you can't see how just because you had a relationship with someone first makes them off limits to everyone else you know or they are betraying you, is beyond selfish. It's arrogant.
Roj: And since you unfriended me based on the imagined possilbility, I think that says a lot right there.
Me: It says that I was right. I knew you'd have such an attitude about it.
Roj: That you are crazy to unfriend me because you are afraid I will "betray" by pursuing a person you no longer care about?
Roj: Yeah. I'm the one with an attitude.
Me: .Lol. I was going to type this: If the next line out of that bubble is going to be yet another defensive insult lacking any empathy, don't.
Roj: A person I am not interested in at all.
Me: But alas, "crazy" came.
Roj: It is literally delusional to unfriend me because you are scared of a possibility. I don't want (oldsub). I shouldn't be punished for actions you fear I might take.
Roj: Great.
[whisper] Me: Crazy, delusional, selfish, arrogant. They're not sticking because they don't apply. Firstly, you are reacting this way because I unfriended you.
[whisper] Me: On a virtual platform
Oldsub: *takes a deep breathe* Ari, Did you originally come in here because you saw me or you had no idea?
[whisper] Me: I didn't unfriend you because of (oldsub). I unfriended you because I wonder.
Roj: I'm just going to go. You two probably have a lot to talk about.
Oldsub: no roger
Me: I came in because I saw you and wondered why you'd visit this room out of the thousands on imvu.
Oldsub: the truth?
Me: Obviously, no one wants lies.
Oldsub: because it was a place you would take me
Oldsub: i sit in here alone usually after you are asleep or before you wakeup
Me: Well, that's not creepy at all lol
Oldsub: yeah
Oldsub: i will keep my distance when you are here
Oldsub: i hope you are doing well
Me: It's awkward either way. I cannot tell you where to go or where not to go, but if a relationship ends, distance is important.
Oldsub: yeah
Oldsub: enjoy the rest of your night
Me: You too.