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- >Long distance fine, Y/N?
- Not like I can get anything in my area.
- //this is talking bad about yourself. Instead of saying 'not like i can get anything' which implies youre undesirable, you could just say youre in a rural place so open to finding otheres outside that area. The way you conveyed it makes it sound like you could be even in a large city but no one likes you. If no one likes you irl, why would anyone here like you?
- >Willing to relocate, Y/N?
- Not really I’m not made of money.
- //this is really pessimistic. You dont have to be 'made of money' to relocate in some situations. With the right connection it would be entirely possible you could relocate with the help of a partner but brushing it off like this makes it seem like youre upset about being poor (which is fine) but just complaining
- >Hobbies/Interests
- Playing games / watching shows / just talking about whatever I feel like
- //none of these are interesting hobbies. We literally all play games, watch shows, and talk. Bring up specific interests you could really bond with someone over. Your preferences can tell a potential match a lot about what kind of person you are.
- >About You
- Work for a small IT related company that underpays me for my role.
- //the about section is a huge opportunity to tell more about yourself as a person but all you care to say is that youre an undervalued worker and continue bitching about your sad life. Theres no reason to mention your financial situation at all or that youre treated poorly at work, almost no one is paid what theyre worth and focusing on that as the only thing you care to say about yourself is just sad.
- >Life goals
- Genuine friendship before my number is called and my time is up.
- //youre looking for genuine friendship but youve listed literally nothing appealing or attractive about yourself. Why would you expect someone interesting to contact you based on what you supplied? If you want to attract an interesting partner you really need to put your best foot forward and give a good impression. Your literal only life goal is a partner? How about personal aspirations such as write a book, travel to a certain place, or get a certain achievement? It makes you seem like you have a sad loney life with nothing to look forward to. Why would someone see that as a desirable partner?
- >Looking for
- Real Biological Female (at least 21+) companionship that I’ve never really managed to have that can get on with me and be there for me and vice versa. I really need some emotional support right now.
- Let’s watch stuff when I feel like it, play some games, talk about things and see where stuff can go from there.
- //saying youve never had any type of companionship is fine when you get to know someone better, but saying 'no one likes me' is a huge red flag. If no one in your whole life likes you, why would you, and it doesnt seem like youre willing to grow or change in any way, what makes you think someone else will just magically be the one that likes you? If no one ever has liked you, its a you problem and you need to build yourself up over time in a way that you, yourself like, and that could be a supportive and meaningful partner to someone else. Saying you want a partner for emotional support seems like all you want is a therapist. Youve listed literally nothing you can provide in a relationship, and all you want is a therapist so far to help you with your pitiful life. Thats not something a healthy, stable, interesting woman would ever look for unless it was to manipulate you for money.
- >Dealbreakers/Not looking for
- Femboys / Trannies / Coomers / terminally political fuckers / druggies / alcoholics / anyone way older than me
- People with weird time zones because it’s hard to arrange anything (sorry, I’ve tried before)
- Don’t use me just because your other friends you’d rather be with aren’t around. Had enough of that for a lifetime. I’m not saying you can’t be around others, just be respectful and communicative.
- Don’t string me along and mess around because this is genuinely going to be my last chance at friendship.
- //'dont use me just because your other friends arent around' this is a really pessimistic attitude again. Telling everyone youre always someones plan B makes you seem really unappealing. again , if no one else likes you, why should they? Conveying this is your 'last chance at friendship' may be true in your mind but it makes you seem unhinged or even suicidal and no one is going to be looking for that kind of attachment. No one wants to be your therapist.
- >Contact
- I’m new to this so please be patient. If it’s not working out, I’ll be honest with you.
- //this is the only good section.
- Summary: youve done aboslutely nothing here to convey youre a person that someone else might want to spend time around. Youve spent the entire post talking about how pitiful you feel about your life, how unappealing you are to others, and how you've been used. You need to make a new post in another thread talking about specific, desirable interests you have that could help you connect with another person. No one wants to be your therapist, they want to connect with another person on mutual interests and passions. You may FEEL lonely and depressed and pitiful but you need to focus on literally anything good about you that you could share with another person. If youre miserable and come off as iff youd make a bad partner or friend, theres no way in hell someone is going to want to be around you.
- Think about the kind of person you want to spend time around. How can you build yourself up over time to be the kind of loving, supportive, caring person someone like that would want in their lives? Im not talking about changing your entire personality, but i imagine youd like a lady who has something interesting about her and who is decently cheerful and supportive, who has a few passions. Nothing youve conveyed here would appeal to someone like that. If youre having serious mental health issues, you need to find a way to address that in a way that is not trying to talk to strangers on 4chan.
- Seriously consider what it is youre looking for in a partner. The way you list nothing personal or intersting about yourself makes it seem like youd accept literally any female ever, which wouldnt make anyone you add feel carefully selected.
- This is the harsh truth about why the post you made will never get any legitimate adds. I suggest going through the people who post, male and female, and looking carefully at any shared interests you may have. Try to connect with someone, anyone, on something shared, and then be a friend to THEM instead of looking for someone just to support yourself. Dont add people from this thread or theyll see your sad post when they see your username and get a bad impression. Dont liimt yoruself to women, because that especially shows you only want a therapist who you can have sex with. If you truly care about genuine connection with others, reach out to other men as well and try to form friendships, and be someone that someone else would want to talk with.
- Its not all about you.
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