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 AITA for locking my door and not letting my family in on a weekend when I said not to come?


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 I (33F) work from home and really need my quiet time, especially on weekends when I’m trying to recharge (plus sometimes work piles up). I’ve mentioned this to my family a bunch of times, but they still treat unannounced drop-ins as a way to show love.

Last Saturday, I had an urgent presentation that couldn’t be moved. The day before, I texted my mom, dad, and my cousin (who lives abroad) saying I’d be totally unavailable from Saturday morning through Monday. I was clear that I needed to focus and wasn’t up for any surprises. Seems reasonable, right?

So early Saturday morning, while I was deep in a Zoom call, my phone started blowing up with missed calls and texts. No one even asked if I was busy—they just assumed I’d drop everything to see them. I glanced at my door, panicked, and decided I wasn’t about to let them disturb my work, so I locked up and kept my headphones on.

After my meeting, I saw a string of angry texts calling me cold-hearted, ungrateful, and “disrespectful” even though I had warned them. They mentioned how they “sacrificed their Saturday” by coming over, fed my neighbor while they waited, and even walked my dog. I felt awful reading the messages, but I honestly believe that if you tell someone you’re busy and they show up anyway, it’s fair to protect your boundaries.

I love my family and usually try to accommodate them, but sometimes they need to understand that my time and space aren’t up for negotiation—especially when I clearly communicate my plans.

So, AITA for locking my door and not letting them in when I was completely clear about being unavailable?
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AITA for sticking to my no unannounced visitors rule with my best friend?


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I'm a 29F who lives alone and usually works from home, so my space and schedule are super important to me. My best friend Sarah (29F) and I have been close for over a decade, but recently something's been off. I've always needed a heads-up before someone shows up at my door—even a close friend. I've mentioned it a few times before, explaining that with my unpredictable work hours and constant deadlines or video calls, I just can’t switch gears on a dime.

Last week, during an important work call on a deadline day, Sarah showed up at my door without calling first. I barely had time to hide what I was doing before I had to step out and tell her that wasn’t a good time and that she really needed to text or call beforehand. I know it might come off as harsh, but I’ve been clear about my boundaries for a long time. Instead of apologizing, Sarah got upset and said I was being cold and unwelcoming, even accusing me of changing from the very supportive friend she used to have.

Now I feel terrible because I love her and value our friendship, but I also can’t ignore my work and personal boundaries. Some mutual friends have even mentioned that her surprise visits throw off my day too. So, AITA for sticking to my rule and expecting a heads-up even from someone I care about?
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 AITA for Not Letting My Cousin Use My Home Office Even Though Family's Pressuring Me?


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 I'm a 29-year-old freelance graphic designer who works from home full-time, and over the years I've put together a small but super efficient home office that's become my sanctuary and productivity zone. I take my work seriously and have a hectic client schedule, so I really need that space to myself.

A couple weeks ago, my cousin Julian (32) reached out asking if he could use my office for about three weeks to help him get his new small business off the ground. Just to give some context, Julian has a history of leaning on family favors. In the past he's borrowed money with no clear plan to pay it back, overstayed his welcome at family gatherings, and left a mess wherever he went. Whenever I've tried to help him before, he hasn't been considerate about my time or space.

I told him I understood his situation, but right now I'm up against some serious deadlines and my studio is the only place where I can really focus. I even mentioned that there are plenty of affordable coworking spots in the area that might work for him temporarily. Instead of understanding, he got defensive and insisted that as family I should help him, even accusing me of "putting business over blood." Then his parents got involved and called me selfish and cold-hearted.

I feel really frustrated and stuck in the middle. I care about my family, but at the same time I have to protect my mental space and my livelihood. I’m not willing to sacrifice a workspace that I've worked hard to set up just for someone who hasn't exactly been responsible in the past.

So, AITA for firmly saying no and putting my work and boundaries first, even though it upsets the family?
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AITA for Saying "No" to My Best Friend's Last-Minute Babysitting Demand for the Hundredth Time?


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I've been best friends with Sarah since college, and over the years I've happily babysat her little boy when we had plans in advance. Lately, though, things have been rough for her—her husband lost his job, and she's stretched pretty thin both emotionally and financially. That’s led to her calling me at really awful times, begging me to watch her son on super short notice.

Last Friday was the straw that broke the camel’s back. My partner and I had a rare, long-awaited date night planned (something that’s hard to come by with work and everything else), and around 7 PM I get a panicked call from Sarah asking if I can watch her son that very evening because her babysitter canceled. I explained I’d already committed to plans and even rearranged my work schedule earlier in the week just to salvage some personal time. I told her straight up, "I really can't do this on such short notice." Instead of understanding, she broke down on the phone, calling me heartless and saying our friendship meant I should drop everything for her.

For context, I've always been there when I got a heads-up. But over time, these emergency, last-minute requests have become the norm. I've had to cancel family plans and even miss important calls with my partner because of her sudden emergencies. I tried to explain that I have my own life, responsibilities, and rare chances to recharge, and that these spontaneous crises shouldn’t be expected as the norm.

I really love Sarah and want to support her, but I also need to take care of myself. Some mutual friends say maybe I should be more available because friends are supposed to help one another, but I believe boundaries are essential for any healthy relationship.

So, AITA for finally putting my foot down and saying no when my own schedule and self-care were on the line?
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AITA for Locking My Door Against My Parents’ Constant Unannounced Visits?


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I'm 29F and I've always valued my independence and privacy, but my parents just don't seem to get that. For as long as I can remember, they've taken "family is family" to mean that I’m supposed to drop everything for them—no matter what my schedule is like.

I've been working remotely for the past three years. While working from home has its perks, it also means I need serious uninterrupted time. I've politely explained several times that I have important work calls and deadlines, and I even set up a dedicated workspace with clear "do not disturb" hours, which I mentioned during their last visit.

Last weekend, things hit a breaking point. Right in the middle of a critical Zoom presentation, my mom showed up at my apartment door. I could hear her calling out in the hall, totally unaware that I was live on a client call. I mumbled an apology into my headset and rushed to the door. I opened it just a crack and said, "Mom, I really can't talk right now—I'm in the middle of something important. Please come back later."

She looked shocked and upset, saying things like, "Why can’t you just make time for your own mother?" My dad wasn't there that day, but later he texted me angry messages, accusing me of being an ungrateful daughter and choosing work over family.

After that, I ended up locking the door for the rest of the day once my call finished. I explained (again) that while I love them and want to see them, I need a heads up so I can rearrange things if needed. They disagree though, insisting that family should always show up unannounced because we’re "always here for each other."

Since then, my parents have been calling constantly, saying I’m "pushing them away" and no longer acting like I care about our family traditions. Meanwhile, my mental health and job performance have suffered because I’m constantly on edge, never knowing when the doorbell will ring and ruin a moment of focus.

So, AITA for locking my door and enforcing a no-unannounced-visits rule with my parents?
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 AITA for enforcing a no unannounced visits policy during work hours?


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 I’ve been working from home full-time for the past couple of years, and while I love the flexibility, it's turning into a battleground with my family. They act like our house is a free-for-all living room, even when I have important calls or meetings.

I've always been clear: no drop-by visits during work hours unless you call or text first. I even put up a "Work Mode: Call/Text Before Visiting" sign on my door. I know my relatives miss me and want to see me, but I also have a demanding job that pays the bills and lets me work on projects I'm passionate about.

This past Tuesday, I was in the middle of a crucial video conference—presenting to clients—when my aunt and her husband showed up at my door. I was live on a call and couldn’t exactly open the door without disrupting the meeting or looking unprofessional. I texted them to let them know I was busy, and after waiting for almost 20 minutes outside, they finally left without saying anything. Later, my aunt called my sister and said I was "ungrateful" and "rude" for not letting them in, claiming I was shutting family out.

I get where they're coming from emotionally, but shouldn’t a working day have its boundaries? I'm not trying to ignore my family at all—I just need them to respect that when I’m on the clock, I simply can’t be interrupted. I try to plan visits on weekends, and I even compromise by scheduling one or two in advance. But it seems like most drop-ins only happen during my busy work hours, leaving me stressed.

So, AITA for sticking to my no unannounced visits rule during work hours and not answering the door when my family shows up unexpectedly?
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AITA for saying "no" when my brother asked to house his ex in our home?


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I (32F) recently moved into a modest home with my partner (34M) after years of renting. We spent a lot of time creating a calm, low-traffic space where we could build our own routines and enjoy some peace. About two months after we settled in, my brother (30M) reached out in a panic. His long-term girlfriend had just dumped him, and he said that, somehow, she wanted to try and make amends by moving in with him temporarily. Obviously, he didn’t have anywhere else to go.

He asked if she could stay with us for a few months while she got her life together. I explained that while I care about him, our home is a personal space we worked hard to create as a refuge. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with someone I barely know (and honestly, someone with a sketchy history of respecting boundaries) moving in with us.

He got really angry, insisting that family should help out in times of need and calling me cold-hearted and selfish. I even got a few texts from his ex, calling me "uncaring" for not stepping in to accommodate her, even though there wasn’t much evidence that she’d be willing to follow our rules or treat our home well.

For context, I’m usually the type to help out when needed but I also have strict personal boundaries, especially when it comes to my living space. I’m frustrated because my brother’s request feels more like him offloading his problems onto me (and my partner) than actually asking for genuine help. We’re happy to offer emotional support or help him find other solutions, but having someone with a history of drama live with us crossed the line in my mind.

So, AITA for refusing to let my brother’s ex move in with us even though I know he’s feeling abandoned in a tough moment?
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AITA for giving my roommate an ultimatum on quiet hours and sending him packing?


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So I (30F) moved into a modest leased apartment with a roommate (29M) about two months ago. I work from home as a freelancer and, with several high-stakes deadlines lately, I made it clear from the start that I needed a calm, predictable environment—especially on weeknights when I have early conference calls and need to work without interruptions. I even mentioned that I’m not much for late nights in general.

For the first few weeks everything was cool. But then out of nowhere, he started hosting unscheduled “get-togethers.” One night I came out of a Zoom call only to find our living room filled with loud people, music blaring, and even a makeshift dance floor in our tiny kitchen. I was pretty upset—not only did I lose sleep, but I had to cancel an important work call the next morning.

I talked to him the next day and reminded him that I had clearly stated I needed quiet after 9pm. He just brushed me off, saying I was “too uptight” and that since we were sharing the place he should be able to enjoy his time too. I even suggested that he give me a heads-up when he planned to have people over, but nothing changed. Over the next few weeks, the late-night parties became a regular thing even on weeknights, and it seriously affected my sleep, focus, and overall well-being.

After another party ended at 3am last Friday, I finally told him that I couldn’t keep compromising my mental health or work. I laid out an ultimatum: either he seriously respects quiet hours (and gives me notice of guests) or he needed to find a new place. I made it clear I’d been upfront about my needs from the start. He got defensive and said I should just “learn to live with adults” and that I was blowing things out of proportion. I stuck to my guns, and by the next day he had moved out.

Some of my friends say I overreacted—“maybe you should have just adapted a little?” they say—but I feel like I did everything right by setting my boundaries clearly. The constant noise and chaos weren’t just a minor inconvenience—they were seriously messing with my work and well-being.

Am I the asshole for sticking to my needs and making him leave when he kept ignoring everything we’d talked about?
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AITA for Not Letting My In-Laws Crash My Solo Retreat?


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I'm 32F and have been working a high-pressure job non-stop this past year. I've been dealing with anxiety and burnout, so when I finally saved enough money, I booked a weekend getaway all for myself—a quiet cabin in the woods to just recharge and clear my head.

My partner (34M) totally supports my need for some mental health space, so imagine my shock when, just one day before I was set to leave, his parents called saying they wanted to join me on my retreat. They started going off about "family bonding" and "making memories together," like my cabin was suddenly a group vacation spot. I explained that this trip was all about being alone and decompressing, but they didn’t take it well. They accused me of being selfish and ungrateful, saying I was ruining family time and ignoring their feelings.

My partner is stuck in the middle trying to smooth things over, but I feel like my boundaries are being completely ignored. I worked really hard to plan this much-needed break, and their last-minute push feels like an attack on that. So, AITA for standing my ground and insisting that this retreat is just for me?
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 AITA for saying no to my sister's last-minute wedding demands?


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 Hey everyone, I'm 29F and I might be in a tough spot here. I've always been the go-to person in the family—especially for my older sister, 33F, who’s always leaned on me. But two weeks ago everything fell apart when she suddenly announced she was getting married, like out of nowhere. Within hours, she calls me up in a full-on panic expecting me to drop everything and handle everything from guest lists to coordinating vendors, and even pulling off a bridal shower she decided on the fly.

I'm already swamped with a high-pressure job and taking care of my dad who's been really sick lately. So when she asked for help with all these last-minute details, I had to be upfront and say I just couldn’t add any more stress right now. I even suggested a few professional organizers and offered to help prep right before her wedding week, but that really didn’t cut it for her.

Instead, she completely flipped on me—called me selfish and unsupportive, saying I abandoned her in what she claims was her biggest moment ever. Our parents quickly took her side too, saying I’ve always put everyone else first and that I should’ve known better than to say no. I’ve spent years being there for her—helping her move, celebrating her milestones, even covering unexpected costs—but this time I had to set a firm boundary for my own well-being.

I’m really hurt and frustrated, and I feel like my needs are constantly being ignored. So, AITA for not bending over backwards for her last-minute wedding plans while I'm dealing with my own stuff?
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AITA for locking my door when my family kept barging in during my work hours?


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I'm 29F and have been working from home full-time as a graphic designer for almost two years now. I love my family but lately I've been overwhelmed with how often they drop by unannounced during work. I've been really clear from the beginning that I work from 9 to 5 and need a quiet space for calls, creative work, and deadlines.

Last Tuesday was the last straw. I was in the middle of an important video call with a client when my mom and sister showed up at my door. They thought it was just a "quick visit," but every time they do that I have to scramble to mute my call, apologize, and try to catch up on what I missed. My clients can tell I'm not 100%, and it's really frustrating.

I've texted them several times asking to call or text before stopping by, but nothing seems to stick. After several interruptions over the past few weeks, I finally set up a lock on my office door that only opens with a code. When my mom needed to borrow a cup this morning and popped by, I didn't feel comfortable letting them in because I was mid-call.

Later, my mom called me screaming for me to "open the door – you're being so ungrateful!" I calmly reminded her that I'd asked them repeatedly to text or call before visiting. I needed uninterrupted time for work and wasn't in the mood for random family news. My sister even chimed in on our group chat saying I was "wishing I was too busy for my own family."

I really love my family, and they know my door is wide open when I'm not working. So, AITA for locking my door on them when they constantly ignore my work boundaries?
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AITA for finally telling my best friend I'm not her free babysitter?


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I've always been Jade's go-to ever since college. When she had her son Milo a couple years ago, I was more than happy to help out—holding him so she could run errands, babysitting when she had late shifts, and stuff like that. I really love Milo and would never say no in an emergency.

But over the past six months, things have gotten out of hand. Jade just assumes I'm always down to watch Milo at a moment's notice. I've had weekends planned with my partner and friends, and even my usual chill time during the week gets cancelled because Jade suddenly "needs help" without even checking if it works for me. Last weekend was the breaking point.

I had organized a small birthday get-together for myself that I'd been looking forward to for months. I even arranged a professional sitter, put in long hours at work, and was really excited for a relaxing night. Out of nowhere around 2 PM, I get this frantic call from Jade because her sitter bailed and she needed someone to watch Milo that night. I told her, as calmly as I could manage, that I already had plans and couldn’t drop everything.

She immediately flipped, saying I "should be more flexible" because "friends don't leave friends stranded," and accused me of being selfish and unsupportive. I tried explaining that while I value our friendship, I also have a life and responsibilities so I can’t be expected to cover every time she has a hiccup. I reminded her that I've been helping out whenever I could, and that I’m not her free babysitting service. Instead of apologizing or trying to understand, she said I was "choosing my precious plans over her and Milo's needs."

Since then our texts have been nothing but back-and-forth where she paints me as some heartless jerk. I genuinely feel torn—I love Jade and I love Milo, but I've been stretched so thin that I'm missing out on my own life. So, AITA for finally setting a boundary and telling her I'm not her free babysitter?
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AITA for Refusing to Swap My Babysitting Weekend Even Though We're Family?


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I (36F) have an informal babysitting rotation with my sister (34F) that’s been working pretty well for about a year now. Every other weekend, we take turns watching our kids—my 7-year-old daughter Ava and her 4-year-old daughter Lily—so we both get a little break to catch up on our own lives. We set up this system when I was juggling a hectic work schedule and family demands, and it’s honestly been a lifesaver for both of us.

Last Friday, my sister called me in a bit of a panic. She had just been offered an out-of-town conference she’s been excited about for months as a chance to network and treat herself, and she asked if I could swap our scheduled babysitting weekend. Her share was in a couple of days, but she needed the time off to attend the event. I totally understood her excitement, but I’d already booked a long-planned family reunion for that weekend. Our extended family wouldn’t have it any other way, and canceling wasn’t really an option since it had been on the calendar for weeks.

I told her that while I get that she needed the break, our rotation was what we agreed upon. I couldn’t just drop my commitment at the last minute—especially when nothing was being rescheduled for me. I even offered to help her think of alternatives, like asking a friend or maybe shifting noncritical responsibilities, but she ended up getting really upset. Soon enough, she was calling me unsupportive and selfish for not bending the rules, saying that “we’re family and should help each other out no matter what.”

Now our mom’s even getting involved, saying I should be more flexible. I feel pretty frustrated since our system was mutually agreed upon and has worked really well so far. I’m not denying her the need for a break, but I also can’t let my own plans get derailed on short notice.

So, AITA for sticking to our babysitting agreement and refusing the swap?
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AITA for enforcing a strict "no drop-ins" rule during my work-from-home hours?


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I'm 29M and have been working from home full time for almost two years now. Things have gotten a bit complicated with my mom showing up unannounced. Growing up, my mom was always popping by anytime, which I loved. But since I moved into my own apartment and set up a dedicated office space, my work needs quiet and focus during specific hours.

Last week, I had a really important video meeting with my boss and some high-profile clients. I texted my mom earlier that day asking her to please call or text before coming over because I'd be in deep work mode. She ignored my message, and right in the middle of the meeting I heard her car pull up outside. A few minutes later, her friend (who she said was "just in the neighborhood") walked in through my slightly open door without knocking. I didn't have time to send them away properly, and the interruption knocked me off my train of thought. My boss even mentioned later that the disruption ruined the professional vibe of the room.

After the meeting, I sat down with my mom and calmly explained, "I really need you to call or text before coming over, especially during work hours. This is my home office now, and even a small interruption can seriously affect my work." She got really upset and called me cold, saying that family should always be welcome anytime. I tried to explain that while I love her, my work depends on having a quiet space and I can't risk my job over random visits.

Some friends have told me to "loosen up" just because it's family, but they don't understand the pressure and consequences I face when a crucial work moment gets ruined. So, AITA for sticking to a strict no unannounced visits rule in my own home?
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AITA for banning my sister in law from crashing at our place after she turned our home into a dump?


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I'm 29F and live with my husband, 31M, in our little two-bedroom home that we've slowly turned into our safe space. My sister in law (27F) has always been a bit unpredictable, but over the last year her stays here went from the occasional visit to full-blown, unannounced extended trips where she just treats our place like her own personal storage unit.

At first, I tried to cut her some slack. I knew she was going through a rough patch, and I figured a few days here and there wouldn’t hurt. But what started as a temporary thing quickly became a regular pattern. Every time she was here, she’d leave clothes all over the living room, pile up takeout boxes in the sink, and her friends would drop by without even asking (I love hanging out and having company, but not at the cost of our home being taken over).

I brought up our house rules several times—like cleaning up after herself and giving us a heads-up if her guests were coming—but every time I got a quick “sorry, I’ll do better” and nothing changed. Last month, after a super long, stressful day at work, my husband and I got home to find the kitchen in complete chaos. We were both totally exhausted at the thought of cleaning up someone else’s mess yet again.

I sat her down and explained that while we care about her, our home isn’t a free-for-all space where she can crash and throw impromptu parties. I made it clear that from now on, she could only come over for short, planned visits if she could respect our space. Needless to say, she got really angry. She accused me of being controlling and unsupportive, basically saying I was telling her she wasn’t welcome at all.

Now, several family members—including my husband’s parents—are calling me cold and unloving. They say that family should stick together through tough times, even if that means dealing with a little mess. But they don’t get how much stress and frustration her constant disregard for our home has caused.

So, AITA for setting a firm boundary with my sister in law and refusing to let her treat our home like her personal dump?
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 AITA for Saying "No" to My Friend's Money Requests?


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 I (30F) have known my friend Lena since college and have helped her out financially more times than I can count, even when I wasn’t rolling in cash. Over the past three years I’ve lent her over $2,000 because I believed in supporting her when she needed it. But things finally hit a point with her latest request.

About a month ago, Lena called me in tears because she “accidentally” overspent on an emergency surgery for her cat and now she needed $500 for rent and bills. I felt bad for her at first, but then I remembered that I’ve bailed her out on nearly every crisis she’s had. I told her calmly that while I care about her, I couldn’t keep acting as her personal bank. I even asked if she’d consider a plan to pay me back or work on managing her money better. Instead of understanding my point, she accused me of not being a true friend and said I’d “turned cold” on her.

I tried explaining that setting boundaries doesn’t mean I don’t care—it just means I’m not willing to sacrifice my own financial goals. I’m saving up for a down payment on a house and have already cut back on nights out and even delayed some necessary expenses just to help her out. I ended up saying, “Enough is enough, Lena. I’m not your ATM.” Now she’s refusing to talk to me, and she even blocked me on social media. Some mutual friends say I’m being selfish.

So, AITA for finally standing up for myself instead of letting our long friendship be an excuse for her to borrow money whenever she’s in a bind?
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AITA for keeping a laptop my cousin left behind three years ago?


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A few years back, my cousin Liam moved out of our family home in a hurry when he relocated to another state for a new job. In all the rush, he left behind an old laptop he’d been using since college. At the time, nobody really mentioned it. I asked him a few times over text about it, but he kept saying, "Oh, don’t worry about it—I have a new one now," so I figured he had abandoned it.

Over the years, I dusted it off and even got it repaired. Yeah, it was a bit battered, but after some tinkering it worked perfectly. I ended up customizing it with stickers and little mods that turned it into my "project laptop." It became one of my favorite gadgets, and in a way it felt cool to take something forgotten and make it uniquely mine.

Then last week, out of the blue, Liam called me sounding really upset. He told me he’s been missing the laptop because it holds a lot of memories from his college days and even from our family gatherings (he’d sometimes let the younger cousins watch movies on it during holidays). He said he wishes it hadn’t been "lost" and demanded I return it, saying that family should take care of each other’s stuff.

I tried explaining that after three years and putting so much work into restoring it, I’ve grown pretty attached to it. I even mentioned that it’s basically abandoned property since he never cared to follow up after his move. Liam got really mad, calling me selfish and ungrateful for keeping it, and even accusing me of “stealing his memories.”

I do get that the laptop means a lot to him sentimentally, but I can’t help feeling that making it functional again and personal means it’s more than just old junk. I really thought he would’ve let it go by now. So, AITA for refusing to give back something he clearly abandoned?
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AITA for enforcing strict boundaries with my partner's mom even though she's family?


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 Hey everyone, I'm 32F and have been living with my partner (35M) for about 18 months now. Most things are great, but his mom has been a real problem. I like her in theory, but she's got this habit of showing up at our place without any notice. At first I thought it was just her way of being affectionate and keeping family ties, but it's gotten out of hand.

I work from home full time and need to focus because of client calls and tight deadlines. Over the past six months, she's interrupted my important video calls several times. I've texted my partner and even talked to her calmly about calling ahead before dropping by since my work needs a quiet space. But last week, right in the middle of a crucial client meeting that I was counting on to seal a new project, she just walked in chatting casually. I had to cut the call short and later end up apologizing to my client—all because she ignored my boundaries.

When I brought it up with my partner, he apologized but said stuff like, "She's family; she loves you and wants to see you. Why make such a fuss?" I understand where he's coming from, but I explained that a friendly hello doesn't need to turn into an unannounced visit that derails my workday. So I set a clear rule: during my work hours (and even busy weekends), if she doesn't call or text first, she isn't allowed in our home. Since then, she's tried to stick to my off hours—but honestly, that's all I'll compromise on.

Now my partner says I'm being unreasonable and acting like I'm superior to his mom, and that I'm ruining family harmony. I really believe that setting boundaries is about respecting everyone's space and responsibilities. So, AITA for sticking to my rules about unannounced visits even if it upsets his mom?
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AITA for sticking to my boundaries and not being on call during my best friend's wedding crisis?


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I'm a 29F and I've always prided myself on being a loyal friend to my longtime bestie Lena. Over the years, I've helped her plan big events, handled logistics, and been there during stressful times. So when she asked me to be on her wedding planning team, I was thrilled and totally committed to making her day perfect.

Everything was going fine until two days before the wedding. Lena went into full panic mode when her caterer bailed on her because of a scheduling error. At 3AM on the night before the wedding, she texted me in a panic, asking if I could drop everything and drive into town to help find a new caterer. I’ve been working extra hours lately since my boss piled on more projects, and honestly, I really needed some sleep. I texted back that I couldn’t swing it because I have an early shift the next morning.

She shot back saying I knew exactly what I signed up for when I joined her team and that I was abandoning her in a crisis. I explained that I’d done my part during the planning and now I couldn’t risk my own wellbeing or hurt my work quality over a last-minute crisis that she hadn't given any heads-up about. I get that wedding planning is crazy stressful, and I totally feel for her, but I believe we should all have clear boundaries and proper warning when committing to something this important.

On the wedding day, a few things went off track (food delays and a rushed reception schedule), and later on, Lena called me out publicly on social media as “irresponsible” and “disloyal,” despite the fact that I was upfront about my limits and had offered help earlier when things were under control.

I feel really hurt that after all this time, Lena would ignore the boundaries we agreed on. I needed to look after my health and my job – something she knew meant a lot to me. I'm not upset that the wedding wasn't picture-perfect; I'm upset that my dedication as a friend got boiled down to being available at every hour, no matter what.

So, AITA for sticking to my boundaries and not risking my own health during her wedding crisis, even if it meant letting my best friend down on what she considers the biggest day of her life?
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AITA for not sharing my late uncle's vintage guitars?


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My late uncle loved his guitars, and in his will he left his prized collection to me. I've always been into music, and these guitars aren't just old instruments—they're a piece of family history. After the funeral, I spent months restoring and tuning each one, and I even put together a small benefit gig using the restored guitars to raise money for a local music charity that my uncle supported.

About a month ago, things started getting weird when my cousin, who never really cared about these "treasures" when Uncle was around, began calling me nonstop. His tone changed from just reminiscing to actually demanding "his share" of the collection, even though the will clearly names me as the sole beneficiary. I tried to explain that aside from the sentimental value, I’ve put a lot of time and effort into restoring them, and I’m not comfortable handing them over (or even lending them).

Then he showed up at my door out of the blue, accusing me of hoarding our family history and being selfish. This isn’t a one-time thing either; his behavior has become a pattern. Our side of the family is pretty split—some think I should share since it’s all family history, while others understand that even with all the sentiment, an inheritance is still my call to make.

I’m frustrated because I’m not trying to shut anyone out. I’m just setting clear boundaries here, honoring both the legal documents and my own commitment to preserving something so important to me. I honestly don’t think I’m in the wrong for wanting to stick to my uncle’s wishes and protecting a project that means a lot to me. So, AITA for refusing to let my cousin (and by extension, everyone else) have a turn with these guitars?
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