bpd-resources

If you're questioning whether you have BPD:
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/experiences-of-bpd/


DBT self-help and cheap classes:
https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/ - free
https://dbtselfhelp.com/ - free
https://dbt.tools/index.php - free
https://positivelybpd.wordpress.com/ - free for self-work and very small fee for live classes when they run
https://www.jonesmindfulliving.com/ - Cheap DBT live classes 3x a week + resources
https://video.jonesmindfulliving.com/checkout/subscribe/purchase?code=LIFE33 - This is a link with discount
https://www.ebrightcollaborative.com/ - Free 1 hour skills intro/refresher group every second Tuesday of the month
https://5i6mncsyyl0.typeform.com/to/jVc3Tx8z - Immediate distress tolerance help
https://5i6mncsyyl0.typeform.com/to/wHEqJFqq - Immediate help finding wise mind (a balance of emotion mind and logic mind)
https://www.therahive.com/free-resources - Free DBT resources


Support groups:
https://emotionsmatterbpd.org/peer-support-groups-registration - For BPD
https://www.rethink.org/help-in-your-area/support-groups/beyond-the-borders-bpd-group/ - For BPD (limited space on zoom but unlimited on WhatsApp)
https://www.bpdbc.ca/dbt  - Free via zoom


YouTube channels:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLaZELV1Tbq-Nbv3CRrX9SR-yNZNVTyqgV - Dr Daniel Fox playlist
https://youtube.com/@thebpdbunch - BPD bunch (Awesome discussion playlist)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zzp8IJIW1MQ&list=PL_loxoCVsWqy6j40ipH2yQjcK-4Uf4ri6 Kati Morton BPD playlist
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rfg_J3ixYPk&list=PL_loxoCVsWqzLptVD96E-DOlzWhbXT_H8 Kati Morton C-PTSD playlist
https://www.youtube.com/@paulientimmer-healingthefe9870 Paulien Timmer (for disorganised AKA fearful avoidant attachment)
https://www.youtube.com/@CrappyChildhoodFairy Crappy Childhood Fairy
https://www.youtube.com/@heidipriebe1 Heidi Priebe
https://youtube.com/@timfletcher - Tim fletcher (C-PTSD)
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLzxUabZTQ8WoulrPpCr9BvSh1xGD5sbGV&si=24uZYkA9gvGDBtpc - From Borderline to Beautiful podcast


Attachment Theory:
You may wish to consider your attachment style: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles/ especially anxious or disorganised in the case of a person with BPD (pwBPD).
Another attachment site: https://www.freetoattach.com


Compassion Focused Therapy:
I found CFT good, especially for low self-esteem: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/therapy-types/compassion-focused-therapy and especially the Threat Soothe Drive triangle (as people with trauma often live in Threat mode a lot of the time): https://i0.wp.com/questpsychologyservices.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/CFT-Drive-System.jpg


Mentalization-Based Therapy:
MBT is helpful because it helps you to think about how you assume others are thinking and feeling in regard to you: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/therapy-types/mentalization-based-therapy


Schema Therapy:
I found schema therapy very good and understanding the various schema modes helped me see the different schema modes I’d go in to: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLdFXYiKIH7BGh5f7VKGwJH7Ythe1MhiuE&si=1C9E1hfqEpYC5Ugd - there’s also a questionnaire you can do to figure out your personal early maladaptive (currently unhelpful) schemas: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/53f3d3e1e4b068e9905ada92/t/53f7eda2e4b09b5739f0c306/1408757154284/Workshop_606-12-Wendy+Behary-Schema+Therapy-Basics+.pdf
And the scoring sheet (look at this after doing the test obviously!) https://docs.google.com/document/d/1_6KBs2k2o8HIO1EDUBbOAaC8b6RZvGiPAHadfoGe0a0/edit?usp=sharing   
Also see: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/early-maladaptive-schemas/


Complex-PTSD:
You may wish to look at Complex PTSD, which is often co-morbid with BPD https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd-and-complex-ptsd/complex-ptsd/. This is a good place to start when considering emotional flashbacks, 4F (Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn (technically there’s flop too)) responses to threat, the inner critic and the outer critic (causes mistrust) https://www.pete-walker.com . Also see https://www.outofthestorm.website and
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLpvbEN3KkqoJItM9a3-8kqr9zC73fwJPP (Shame and complex trauma)


Books:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/20556323-complex-ptsd Pete Walker - Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (Simply a must read)
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/20775497-running-on-empty Jonice Webb - Running on Empty (Emotional neglect)
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/18693771 Bessel van der Kolk - The Body Keeps the Score (Effects of trauma)
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/28023686-the-tao-of-fully-feeling Peter Walker - The Tao of fully feeling (Helps with emotional intelligence)
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40890200-the-borderline-personality-disorder-workbook Dr Daniel Fox - BPD workbook
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/369266.The_Dialectical_Behavior_Therapy_Skills_Workbook Various - BPD workbook (Famous)
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/21413263-dbt-skills-training Marsha Linehan - DBT Skills Training: Manual
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23129659-adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents - Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/61865476-codependent-no-more - Attachment style and codependency
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9547888-attached - Attachment in adults
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4451.People_of_the_Lie - Discussion on so called 'evil people' and their effects on others
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/26026054-it-didn-t-start-with-you - Inherited trauma
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/208935812-dbt-for-life - DBT for life

I also have some pdf books if you like, but I can't link them here. If these links helped you, please consider copy/pasting them to the next person.