A guide to healthy, sensual, safe anal sex: I'm an anal virgin who is learning about my body's sensitivity. It's scary, I know, but I know it's OK.


I'm a bisexual who's interested in exploring both genders. I'm attracted to women and men, but the gender I'm looking for is someone I feel is safe.


I'm a college student, currently in a four-year program. I'm looking for a relationship where we both enjoy an active sex life.


I'm a college student, currently in a four-year program. I'm looking for a relationship where we both enjoy an active sex life. I'm a new parent and have been in and out of it. My husband and I want to try to have a family, but the issue is money. We're not making enough money to support a family and we want a baby. Any advice on how to deal with this?


I have been a virgin for about a year and a half. I met my husband on an online dating site. We decided we should get married on our first date and go through the whole process, but we just broke up. I'm a new parent. I've always had a lot of sex, but I've never been intimate with my husband. I want to give it up, but I'm afraid that my husband will reject me because he is not ready. I know a lot of men do not care about having sex with their wives before marriage. Am I overreacting? Is there anything else I can do to make my husband more interested in our relationship?


—Too Much Sex, Too Little Marriage

Dear Too Much Sex, Too Little Marriage:

Your husband is a very good guy. He is just a little too forward in his approach to sex, which I think is a sign that he is not ready. It also shows, I think, that he is not sexually experienced and that he needs a little help in the bedroom. If he were more confident and experienced, maybe he wouldn't be so eager to try, but I think he might be waiting to learn some things in the bedroom, like how to relax, how to enjoy it, etc. This is an area that he has been lacking and I think that we can teach him a little about that. If I am honest, I think I could be more open with him about his sexual history, because it is something he is likely to ask about in future relationships, so I should tell him about how well I am doing in bed. He could also ask me some questions about my sexual history, which might also give him a good idea of how I was doing in bed, and could help him figure out how I was feeling sexually and why I had decided to stop my sexual relations with him.

This could go on for months, I'm sure, but it's not a bad place to start. The idea is that if I start to do something that leads to my feelings of sexual desirability, then I should disclose it to him when we have a conversation about sex. This way, he knows that I am willing to try something new.

There's no way of telling what he will do. He could try to kiss you, say he didn't like what you did, try to take it up the ass, or say that he likes other girls. It might even be a mixture of the above. It's possible he might even find out you're single, if he's in the habit of asking out girls he is interested in. If that happens, he might be willing to let it go. But if he keeps pushing you, it's probably a sign that he does not think that you're attractive, and he might stop the kiss and try to convince you to go further.

I think it might be best if you never go out with anyone, ever. If you feel the need to go out, do it only with men, not women, because men will probably treat you differently if you're not in a relationship with them.

Also, as a woman, it is not OK for you to initiate sex with a man. It is OK to take the initiative, but if a man asks you to have sex, then he has to ask you. If he asks you to give him head, then you have to give him head, and if he asks you to give him a blow job, then you have to give him a blow job. If he tries to get you to go down on him, then he has to be prepared to be penetrated by you.

If you don't feel confident enough to take control of your own sex life, then you are not strong enough for him. And don't tell me it doesn't matter what gender you are, just because you are a man. Your feelings about sex do matter.

I think you are wrong.