class Person
  include Mongoid::Document
  field :name
  references_many :preferences, :stored_as => :array, :inverse_of => :people
end

class Preference
  include Mongoid::Document
  field :name
  references_many :people, :stored_as => :array, :inverse_of => :preferences
end

ps1 = Person.create(:name => 'John Doe')
pf1 = Preference.create(:name => 'Preference A')

ps1.preferences << pf1
ps1.preferences << pf1