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- Guys, I'm about to take a giant ship.
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- Thank you so much!
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- Thank you.
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- Thank you so much...
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- for being here. So...
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- first up on the agenda is...
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- I got engaged.
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- Thank you.
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- I appreciate that enthusiasm.
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- I appreciate the applause
- because I live in Los Angeles
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- and when you tell people in L.A. that
- you got engaged, they don't applaud.
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- You tell people in L.A. you got engaged,
- they're, like, "Good for you.
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- Good for..."
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- So you tell people you got engaged,
- next obligatory thing out of their mouth
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- 00:01:27,921 --> 00:01:29,798
- is, like, "How did you guys meet?
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- How did you meet?"
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- I don't like to tell people
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- how we met.
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- I don't like to tell people how we met.
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- It's not bad. It's not embarrassing.
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- It's just not cool.
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- Like, we met on a dating app.
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- Right, like all of you. Yeah.
- 24
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- We met on a dating app, which is...
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- less of a product of my lack of creativity
- and more a result of my generation.
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- I'm a millennial.
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- That's how we meet each other, okay?
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- Yeah.
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- A dating app, at a bar,
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- or it's, like, "I got her pregnant. Well,
- Skylar will make a good mom." That's it.
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- Some of you were so quiet when I said
- I was a millennial. Fuck you, okay?
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- I am... 35.
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- Which means I was born in 1983,
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- which means I am...
- 35
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- right at the cutoff.
- 36
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- Okay, so I am a millennial,
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- but I am an elder!
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- Elder millennial!
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- Wizened.
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- Sage.
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- Yes, gather 'round the Snapchat, children.
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- I'll tell you the tale...
- 43
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- of the landline.
- 44
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- Hello, goodbye.
- 45
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- When I was a young girl...
- 46
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- I once sent a text message
- from a Sidekick.
- 47
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- I remember when Skechers were invented.
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- They were ugly then.
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- And they're ugly now.
- 50
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- In high school...
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- we danced to a band called Sugar Ray.
- 52
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- How did you guys meet?
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- 00:03:49,813 --> 00:03:52,315
- You ask a girl, "How did you guys meet?"
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- We want to tell you.
- We want to tell you...
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- everything.
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- We want to give you personal information,
- background story,
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- ancillary information,
- anything information.
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- Just say, "How did you meet?"
- 59
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- Are you sitting down? Chapter One.
- In seventh grade,
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- I showed an aptitude for the clarinet.
- We take it... back!
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- We want you to know so much.
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- You ask a guy, "How did you guys meet?"
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- Men don't volunteer personal information
- as readily.
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- Seldom will you meet a guy where
- you're, like, "How did you guys meet?"
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- And he's, like,
- "So, I'm a Pisces, so I love faces."
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- A man's objective is often to let you know
- not so much how they met,
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- but to let you know that, like,
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- "I could still fuck if I wanted to.
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- 'Cause I'm a fuck man.
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- That's how I do.
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- I'm not gonna fuck you,
- cause I'm fucking her, but...
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- I come from a long line of fuck men,
- all right?
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- My daddy was a fuck man,
- my granddaddy was a fuck man.
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- I fuck.
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- I pack up this dick, on to the next town.
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- Yeah.
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- Fire in the hole.
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- Fuck Man Terry, that's what they call me."
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- Down at the Walgreens, whatever.
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- How did you guys meet?
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- I say this next part as a woman
- that champions other women,
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- as a woman who chose to be single
- for a very long time.
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- I always feel, when single women ask me,
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- "So, how did you guys meet?"
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- It's less about a genuine personal inquiry
- for me,
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- and it's more like
- they're looking for clues, like,
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- "Where did you find a suitor?
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- Tell us your ways."
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- Like, you walk in...
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- to a Trader Joe's on a Sunday night.
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- That's when hot girls
- go grocery shopping.
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- Like, I'm buying flowers for me, right?
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- You walk into a Trader Joe's with a ring
- on your left hand,
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- single women can feel
- the vibrations of the ring.
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- Like, "The ring! It mocks us!" And they...
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- They come out
- of the frozen yogurt aisle...
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- Lululemon, highlighted hair, like,
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- "Tell us your ways,
- we wish to be betrothed as well.
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- Secrets.
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- Tell us. Be a girl's girl."
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- There's no secret, just so we're clear.
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- Don't buy the books. Don't buy the hype.
- Don't listen...
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- There's no secret, okay?
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- I'm going to be 35 when I get married.
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- And if there was a secret,
- I would have fucking used it.
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- There's no... secret.
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- There's no special magic to it.
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- I'm never going to be, like,
- "Gather round, ladies.
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- Off the 405 lies a toadhole...
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- You must go to it."
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- No secret. Plus, chances are,
- if you are single
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- and you are not enjoying that time
- in your life,
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- you're probably doing everything
- in your power to not be single.
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- I don't know a single girl out there
- that's, like, "I hate being single.
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- I don't get it. I wash
- with ham and cat hair. Where is he?
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- Where is he?"
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- Women have no problem letting people know
- that they are looking for a relationship.
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- We shout it from the mountaintops.
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- We take a seminar.
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- We take a class, we ask around.
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- Are you single? Does your brother
- have a brother? Do you have a sister?
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- I will take anything at this point.
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- We let people know...
- We get license plates made
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- like "LOOKIN4U." Like, we let you know.
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- I feel like men are more laissez-faire
- when it comes to relationships.
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- I guess I fell into her,
- now we got four kids. It's kind of...
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- It's less deliberate.
- Women are, like, "This way."
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- "I guess I'll just go that way."
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- It just becomes.
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- Their stories are less deliberate.
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- I've asked a lot of guys,
- "How did you meet your girl?"
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- I've noticed that about 80%
- of the stories sound very similar.
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- 80% of the time it's, like,
- "How did we meet? All right, well...
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- I was out with my buddies.
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- And you know me,
- I wasn't looking for anybody.
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- And then I saw her."
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- 00:08:12,826 --> 00:08:15,412
- And that <i>lie</i> becomes...
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- A big part of our narrative as women,
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- this hope that we will go out
- and a man is going to see us,
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- save us, rescue us.
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- It's this hope that we're going to be
- seen and that's going to happen for us.
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- And we all have this sort of shared
- fantasy where you walk into a...
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- a club or a bar with five of your
- girlfriends who look exactly like you.
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- And you walk in
- and a man picks you out of the crowd,
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- sees you for the beautiful soul
- that you are, like, decides...
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- like, there's some DJ up there
- and he looks out and he's, like...
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- "Her."
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- 00:08:52,157 --> 00:08:53,825
- And you're, like, "Me?"
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- 00:08:57,829 --> 00:08:59,789
- And then your life begins, right?
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- This is not our fault for expecting this
- or thinking this will happen.
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- We have been taught this message
- since we were little girls.
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- Princesses get saved.
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- 00:09:09,966 --> 00:09:12,385
- Snow White got saved by the prince.
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- It was really the seven dwarves
- and she was, like, lost in a forest.
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- But, like...
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- seven men.
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- Who is she? Right.
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- Sleeping Beauty was saved when the prince
- kissed her while she was sleeping.
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- Terrible moral.
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- What do we take away from that?
- Generations of men, like,
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- "No, you kiss 'em when they're sleeping,
- they're forever grateful.
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- Officer."
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- 00:09:45,418 --> 00:09:48,755
- So naturally we go out
- hoping to be discovered.
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- There's this weird thing
- where a lot of girls, when we're single,
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- we don't want to admit that we're
- going out hoping a man notices us.
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- Of course you are,
- but we don't want to seem desperate.
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- I'm just going out with my girlfriends,
- in full makeup, with padded everything.
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- 00:10:02,018 --> 00:10:03,895
- This is just for fun. I'm just going out.
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- 00:10:04,020 --> 00:10:08,525
- It's normal to want to be noticed
- by someone that you find attractive.
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- 00:10:08,608 --> 00:10:09,859
- That's the caveat, okay?
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- 00:10:09,943 --> 00:10:11,236
- It's normal...
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- 00:10:12,529 --> 00:10:16,699
- to want attention. Even in a relationship,
- you still have a beating heart.
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- 00:10:16,783 --> 00:10:19,410
- You still want people to let you know
- you're attractive.
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- 00:10:19,494 --> 00:10:22,956
- If you're with your guy, you're holding
- his hand and you're walking,
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- 00:10:23,039 --> 00:10:26,751
- and you see some hot guy, like, "You like
- that?" He's like, "I like that." Okay.
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- 00:10:29,295 --> 00:10:30,296
- No harm, no foul.
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- 00:10:33,133 --> 00:10:35,093
- We all try this bullshit, like,
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- "I'm not even trying." Really? Then put
- a feed bag over your head. Carry an onion.
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- You're trying, okay?
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- 00:10:41,015 --> 00:10:44,102
- You don't have to try that hard, but
- you're going out. It's nice to be noticed.
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- 00:10:44,185 --> 00:10:45,854
- So we all do it. Put on the makeup.
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- 00:10:45,937 --> 00:10:48,148
- Force our chub into some pants.
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- You shove your coyote paws
- into some heels and we go out.
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- 00:10:57,031 --> 00:10:57,991
- You don't even hunt.
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- 00:10:58,074 --> 00:11:01,411
- What do you do, girls? You just stand
- in a pack of six other women.
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- 00:11:02,036 --> 00:11:02,996
- Six other coyotes.
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- 00:11:10,336 --> 00:11:12,297
- Getting annoyed
- that no guy's hitting on you?
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- 00:11:12,380 --> 00:11:13,882
- Yeah, there's six of you.
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- 00:11:13,965 --> 00:11:14,799
- He's terrified.
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- 00:11:17,886 --> 00:11:21,055
- We get annoyed so quickly when a guy
- doesn't notice all the effort.
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- 00:11:21,139 --> 00:11:23,808
- So what do you say?
- Like, "This sucks, let's take a lap."
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- 00:11:23,892 --> 00:11:25,018
- So you just move...
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- 00:11:25,935 --> 00:11:28,646
- in a perfume cloud
- around the perimeter of the bar.
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- 00:11:29,564 --> 00:11:31,649
- Maybe they're more progressive
- ten feet from here.
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- 00:11:33,026 --> 00:11:34,819
- So this begs the question, as women,
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- as feminists...
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- 00:11:36,446 --> 00:11:39,991
- Maybe some... one or two lazy guys
- might pause at the question.
- 198
- 00:11:40,283 --> 00:11:42,410
- "How come the guy's got to hit
- on the girl?
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- 00:11:42,702 --> 00:11:43,953
- You're an independent woman.
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- 00:11:44,037 --> 00:11:45,663
- Why can't a girl hit on a guy?
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- 00:11:45,747 --> 00:11:47,624
- Why can't the girl hit on the guy?"
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- 00:11:47,916 --> 00:11:50,126
- God's honest answer?
- 'Cause we did all this.
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- You fucking do something, Scott.
- That's the answer.
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- It's a lot.
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- Okay.
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- 00:12:00,845 --> 00:12:03,389
- A lot. I haven't had bread in five months.
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- 00:12:03,473 --> 00:12:04,599
- It's a lot, okay?
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- 00:12:05,808 --> 00:12:08,269
- A big part of the reason
- women don't hit on men
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- 00:12:08,353 --> 00:12:10,438
- is that women aren't seen as equal to men.
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- 00:12:10,521 --> 00:12:13,524
- Therefore, when we step out
- of a traditional feminine role,
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- 00:12:13,608 --> 00:12:17,195
- and do something alpha and hit on a guy
- and he rejects us,
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- 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:19,405
- it hurts that much more.
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- 00:12:19,489 --> 00:12:21,866
- And on a biological level,
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- 00:12:21,950 --> 00:12:26,496
- you know, at your core, he's not rejecting
- you based on your shoes or your outfit.
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- 00:12:26,579 --> 00:12:27,747
- He's rejecting...
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- 00:12:27,830 --> 00:12:28,831
- your eggs.
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- 00:12:32,126 --> 00:12:36,756
- You get up nerve to talk to a guy, like,
- "Excuse me, would you like my eggs?"
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- 00:12:38,466 --> 00:12:39,801
- "I don't want those fucking eggs."
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- 00:12:39,884 --> 00:12:41,719
- Please! I only have but a few.
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- 00:12:45,098 --> 00:12:46,724
- Women aren't seen as equal to men,
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- 00:12:46,808 --> 00:12:48,601
- so it's uncomfortable to hit on men.
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- There's a lot more at risk for us.
- Maybe one day...
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- in a utopia where men and women
- are considered equal,
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- maybe one day we can hit on men
- unencumbered by self-esteem issues.
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- But as it stands now,
- that's not something we can do.
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- Our grandmothers didn't hit on men.
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- Our mothers didn't hit on men.
- Maybe one day.
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- Maybe my generation changes it.
- It's too late. But...
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- maybe my generation,
- with the hashtags and the tweets,
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- maybe we'll change it
- so that our great-granddaughters
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- can hit on men. Yes, that's the dream,
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- that we do the work now
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- so that our great-granddaughters
- will know the thrill
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- of hitting on a half-in-the-bag Guido
- outside a taco truck
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- at 2 a.m.
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- 00:13:34,522 --> 00:13:35,857
- 'Tis but a dream.
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- 00:13:37,525 --> 00:13:41,112
- Another big part of the reason
- that women don't hit on men is that
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- men are better at dealing with rejection.
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- Sexually.
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- Women are not used to dealing...
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- with rejection... when it comes to sex.
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- 00:13:49,412 --> 00:13:52,707
- We're used to dealing with rejection when
- it comes to... governing our own bodies,
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- having our own thoughts, getting paid
- the same as a man, but...
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- when it comes...
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- 00:14:01,174 --> 00:14:02,675
- When it comes to sexual rejection,
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- men deal with it more than women
- because they have more at bats.
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- 00:14:07,096 --> 00:14:08,473
- They hit on women more.
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- 00:14:08,556 --> 00:14:11,768
- Ask the guy next to you, "When was the
- last time you were sexually rejected?"
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- 00:14:11,851 --> 00:14:15,521
- He'll be, like, "You mean in the Uber
- on the way here? At the box office?
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- 00:14:16,439 --> 00:14:19,400
- Like, behind that plane while you were
- in the bathroom? Be specific."
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- 00:14:21,944 --> 00:14:23,279
- 'Cause every guy knows...
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- 00:14:23,738 --> 00:14:25,281
- it's about the at bats.
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- 00:14:25,365 --> 00:14:27,450
- It's about how many times
- can you hit on a girl.
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- 00:14:27,533 --> 00:14:29,869
- 'Cause you know
- eventually one's going to say yes.
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- 00:14:29,994 --> 00:14:33,581
- When men first start going out,
- it's about quantity over quality,
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- 00:14:33,664 --> 00:14:36,334
- like, "Hey, sweetheart!
- You're ugly anyway. How about you?"
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- 00:14:36,417 --> 00:14:37,710
- You keep going through it.
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- 00:14:38,211 --> 00:14:41,422
- Every guy knows you got to kiss a lot
- of frogs if you're gonna what, guys?
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- 00:14:41,506 --> 00:14:43,591
- Fuck a frog, that's right. So...
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- 00:14:45,510 --> 00:14:48,346
- 'Cause he knows. They're not going
- to admit it to you, every guy knows
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- 00:14:48,429 --> 00:14:50,556
- If he hits on, like, 20 women in a night,
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- 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:52,517
- one's gotta say yes.
- 263
- 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:54,644
- Like, one gross-out's gotta be, like...
- 264
- 00:14:54,727 --> 00:14:56,521
- "Yeah, all right."
- 265
- 00:14:56,604 --> 00:15:00,233
- 2 a.m. It's his Hail Mary,
- at the buzzer pass,
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- 00:15:00,316 --> 00:15:04,487
- the lights are coming on, he's like,
- "How about you?"
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- 00:15:04,570 --> 00:15:07,782
- Some girl will turn around and be, like,
- "Okay.
- 268
- 00:15:08,699 --> 00:15:11,327
- Can we wash my hump before we make love?
- 269
- 00:15:12,745 --> 00:15:14,664
- Just kidding. It's an egg.
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- 00:15:14,747 --> 00:15:15,623
- So...
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- 00:15:20,211 --> 00:15:23,047
- By that same token, men aren't allowed
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- 00:15:23,131 --> 00:15:25,550
- to have feelings in our society,
- which isn't fair.
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- 00:15:25,633 --> 00:15:28,719
- You're expected to move past it,
- work through it. Get over it.
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- Women don't get over...
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- 00:15:31,848 --> 00:15:32,807
- anything.
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- 00:15:34,934 --> 00:15:36,519
- No, we don't get over it.
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- 00:15:36,602 --> 00:15:39,063
- Instead, we hold onto it.
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- We hold onto that rejection.
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- 00:15:42,150 --> 00:15:43,025
- We hold onto it.
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- 00:15:43,109 --> 00:15:47,363
- We pluck it out of space-time
- and we examine it from hindsight.
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- 00:15:47,447 --> 00:15:48,948
- We put it in different scenarios.
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- 00:15:49,031 --> 00:15:51,617
- We bring in experts, like,
- "Stacy, get over here!
- 283
- 00:15:54,245 --> 00:15:56,539
- Remember that guy,
- took me to Coachella, never called again?
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- 00:15:56,622 --> 00:15:57,748
- Shall we drive to his house?"
- 285
- 00:16:00,585 --> 00:16:04,672
- And sometimes... we hold onto the pain
- of our rejection
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- 00:16:04,755 --> 00:16:06,257
- so tight...
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- 00:16:06,799 --> 00:16:08,217
- that they become part...
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- 00:16:08,759 --> 00:16:11,262
- of the makeup of our personalities.
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- 00:16:11,804 --> 00:16:15,892
- And then we get to use the pain
- of that past rejection, ladies,
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- 00:16:15,975 --> 00:16:22,482
- as an excuse for why we are the weird
- brand of fucked-up that we are, now!
- 291
- 00:16:30,948 --> 00:16:32,783
- 'Cause he broke up with me over breakfast,
- 292
- 00:16:32,867 --> 00:16:36,412
- so now I don't drink milk, and I'm
- annoying. Like, it's always... something.
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- 00:16:37,955 --> 00:16:41,501
- Every girl in here remembers
- almost every time she was rejected.
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- 00:16:41,584 --> 00:16:43,836
- For women, it doesn't happen as much
- as for men.
- 295
- 00:16:43,920 --> 00:16:47,924
- And every human remembers the first
- time they were rejected. I'll go first.
- 296
- 00:16:48,007 --> 00:16:49,342
- Fourth grade. So...
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- 00:16:50,718 --> 00:16:53,471
- We were going to sit down for circle time.
- 298
- 00:16:55,056 --> 00:16:57,892
- I went and sat by a boy
- that I thought was cute.
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- 00:16:57,975 --> 00:16:59,477
- And he told me to go away.
- 300
- 00:17:00,853 --> 00:17:02,730
- Now, he's dead.
- 301
- 00:17:05,316 --> 00:17:07,443
- Now I don't sit in circles any more.
- 302
- 00:17:09,987 --> 00:17:11,739
- But we cherish our rejections.
- 303
- 00:17:11,822 --> 00:17:13,908
- They give us texture, personality.
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- 00:17:13,991 --> 00:17:15,993
- We take each one and we label it.
- 305
- 00:17:16,077 --> 00:17:19,830
- We label each issue, each past grievance,
- in its own Mason jar.
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- 00:17:19,914 --> 00:17:21,749
- It's very rustic. Pin it. And we put it...
- 307
- 00:17:22,667 --> 00:17:26,128
- into our sack of emotional baggage.
- Each one.
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- 00:17:26,212 --> 00:17:28,631
- He broke up with me
- because I slept with his brother.
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- 00:17:28,714 --> 00:17:31,467
- They're twins. They should have worn
- different color hats or something.
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- 00:17:32,718 --> 00:17:34,345
- I was set up. And we put it...
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- 00:17:34,428 --> 00:17:37,640
- into our baggage, and we throw
- that baggage over our shoulder
- 312
- 00:17:37,723 --> 00:17:39,392
- and what do we do, girls?
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- 00:17:39,475 --> 00:17:44,397
- We then walk it into the <i>new </i>relationship.
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- 00:17:44,814 --> 00:17:48,985
- Yes. And the best part is,
- the new boyfriend...
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- 00:17:50,027 --> 00:17:51,070
- has no idea...
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- 00:17:54,365 --> 00:17:56,242
- what you're hauling.
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- 00:17:56,325 --> 00:17:59,787
- And he welcomes you.
- Yes, he welcomes you
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- 00:17:59,870 --> 00:18:01,038
- to the new union.
- 319
- 00:18:01,122 --> 00:18:04,417
- Come on in. You seem pretty cool
- and well-adjusted.
- 320
- 00:18:04,500 --> 00:18:07,628
- And you're, like, "Oh, I am!
- 321
- 00:18:10,131 --> 00:18:14,302
- Yes, this seems like a safe place
- for me to...
- 322
- 00:18:14,844 --> 00:18:17,555
- unpack my shit!"
- 323
- 00:18:26,522 --> 00:18:28,983
- Another big reason
- women don't hit on men
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- 00:18:29,066 --> 00:18:33,946
- is because men... typically don't find
- strong women attractive.
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- 00:18:34,655 --> 00:18:37,658
- They don't. Your date's going
- to look at you, like, "No way, babe.
- 326
- 00:18:37,742 --> 00:18:40,745
- I love a strong woman."
- Bullshit, Chad, okay?
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- 00:18:42,705 --> 00:18:44,999
- They love vulnerability.
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- 00:18:45,082 --> 00:18:47,835
- It's very attractive
- when a woman is vulnerable.
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- 00:18:47,918 --> 00:18:48,794
- Why is that?
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- 00:18:48,878 --> 00:18:50,588
- Men are very physical creatures.
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- 00:18:50,671 --> 00:18:52,798
- Women are very verbal.
- Men are very physical.
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- 00:18:52,882 --> 00:18:55,926
- When a woman is vulnerable,
- hypothetically, it would mean...
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- 00:18:56,010 --> 00:18:57,720
- that she needs physical help.
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- 00:18:57,803 --> 00:19:00,473
- When a man feels he can be of help,
- physically,
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- 00:19:00,556 --> 00:19:03,726
- then he feels needed, and that makes
- him feel good and attractive.
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- 00:19:03,809 --> 00:19:06,771
- When a man feels he can insert himself.
- No pun intended.
- 337
- 00:19:06,854 --> 00:19:10,066
- Fuck it. We're making a comedy show.
- Pun intended, okay?
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- 00:19:11,317 --> 00:19:13,194
- You got to give him something to do.
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- 00:19:13,277 --> 00:19:15,613
- We, as women, a lot of times fault men
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- 00:19:15,696 --> 00:19:17,823
- for not communicating the way we do.
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- 00:19:17,907 --> 00:19:20,242
- Women speak more words on average
- than men.
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- 00:19:20,326 --> 00:19:23,996
- It's not that one's better or dumber
- than the other, it's the way we are.
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- 00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:27,291
- We talk <i>at </i>you. "I wanna be communicative
- about being communicative.
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- 00:19:27,375 --> 00:19:30,294
- You're not saying anything. Why?
- You're being uncommunicative.
- 345
- 00:19:30,378 --> 00:19:34,423
- And I want to talk about how much I hate
- Stacy. When you meet her, you're gonna."
- 346
- 00:19:34,507 --> 00:19:35,466
- We have to have...
- 347
- 00:19:35,966 --> 00:19:39,136
- He's just sitting there, like,
- "Mongo, no." Like, it's scary.
- 348
- 00:19:41,806 --> 00:19:43,849
- If you have any doubt a guy likes you,
- 349
- 00:19:43,933 --> 00:19:46,560
- don't always look for the words,
- look for the actions.
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- 00:19:46,644 --> 00:19:47,770
- They will show you.
- 351
- 00:19:48,020 --> 00:19:50,564
- I wish someone had told this to me
- when I was in my 20s.
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- 00:19:50,648 --> 00:19:53,859
- When you're younger, you're, like,
- "He's not texting back. He's busy.
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- 00:19:53,943 --> 00:19:55,361
- He's at work. His family died."
- 354
- 00:19:55,444 --> 00:19:56,946
- There's no bullshit like that.
- 355
- 00:19:57,947 --> 00:19:59,990
- When a guy likes you, he shows up.
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- 00:20:00,449 --> 00:20:02,743
- If you have any doubt the guy likes you,
- 357
- 00:20:02,827 --> 00:20:04,453
- give him something to do.
- 358
- 00:20:04,537 --> 00:20:06,205
- If a guy likes you, he'll do anything.
- 359
- 00:20:06,288 --> 00:20:08,541
- Will you carry this glittery brick
- of cat shit?
- 360
- 00:20:08,624 --> 00:20:09,750
- He's, like, "No problem."
- 361
- 00:20:15,798 --> 00:20:18,759
- When a guy likes you,
- carrying your purse isn't an issue.
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- 00:20:18,843 --> 00:20:20,553
- They'll carry your bags if they're heavy.
- 363
- 00:20:20,636 --> 00:20:23,264
- They'll put gas in the car
- if you don't want to deal.
- 364
- 00:20:23,347 --> 00:20:25,182
- They'll check under the hood for the...
- 365
- 00:20:25,683 --> 00:20:26,726
- thing, I don't know.
- 366
- 00:20:26,809 --> 00:20:27,852
- But they'll do that.
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- 00:20:30,146 --> 00:20:33,649
- It's very attractive when a woman
- is vulnerable and needs help.
- 368
- 00:20:33,733 --> 00:20:35,985
- And that's historically
- always been that way.
- 369
- 00:20:36,068 --> 00:20:38,362
- I didn't make that up.
- That's why the term is...
- 370
- 00:20:38,446 --> 00:20:39,905
- <i>"damsel</i> in distress".
- 371
- 00:20:39,989 --> 00:20:43,200
- Not "overly opinionated dyke
- who needs a fucking hand, man!"
- 372
- 00:20:43,284 --> 00:20:44,118
- That's why.
- 373
- 00:20:48,706 --> 00:20:52,168
- If a woman can do it herself,
- it's not as attractive. Put it this way.
- 374
- 00:20:52,251 --> 00:20:53,878
- If we're all animals, okay?
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- 00:20:53,961 --> 00:20:55,254
- And men are...
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- 00:20:55,337 --> 00:20:56,213
- lions.
- 377
- 00:20:56,297 --> 00:20:59,425
- And women are, like, gazelles.
- 378
- 00:20:59,508 --> 00:21:02,636
- What's a lion, if he's hungry,
- more likely to go after?
- 379
- 00:21:02,928 --> 00:21:05,181
- The gazelle, running at 90,
- 380
- 00:21:05,264 --> 00:21:07,349
- unencumbered by a self-esteem issue?
- 381
- 00:21:07,433 --> 00:21:09,769
- Like, I own my home and have a Ph.D.
- 382
- 00:21:24,742 --> 00:21:27,703
- I enjoy witty banter,
- I just put a down payment on a boat,
- 383
- 00:21:27,787 --> 00:21:30,080
- and I don't hate my daddy. Onward!
- 384
- 00:21:35,669 --> 00:21:36,504
- Or...
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- 00:21:38,047 --> 00:21:40,216
- remember he's hungry. Or...
- 386
- 00:21:40,549 --> 00:21:44,303
- the gazelle with the broken hoof, like,
- "Help, how does basketball work?"
- 387
- 00:21:44,386 --> 00:21:45,221
- Like, what?
- 388
- 00:21:49,683 --> 00:21:50,810
- An easier meal.
- 389
- 00:21:54,688 --> 00:21:55,564
- Side note.
- 390
- 00:21:55,648 --> 00:21:59,193
- I am aware that it's the lioness
- not the lion that does the hunting.
- 391
- 00:21:59,276 --> 00:22:03,155
- Let's pretend that lion was a bachelor
- and hadn't met his wife yet. Okay, so...
- 392
- 00:22:03,906 --> 00:22:05,908
- We got the zoologist questions
- out of the way.
- 393
- 00:22:07,409 --> 00:22:08,285
- So...
- 394
- 00:22:09,078 --> 00:22:10,371
- I will stand up here,
- 395
- 00:22:10,454 --> 00:22:13,958
- and perhaps women in your life you
- consider strong will stand before you
- 396
- 00:22:14,041 --> 00:22:17,169
- and tell you,
- "Be strong, do it your way, be tough."
- 397
- 00:22:17,670 --> 00:22:20,464
- It's one thing to say that,
- and for a lot of women
- 398
- 00:22:20,548 --> 00:22:22,424
- it's very difficult to live that
- 399
- 00:22:22,508 --> 00:22:25,511
- when everything that we're taught
- tells us the opposite.
- 400
- 00:22:25,594 --> 00:22:28,264
- Every movie we've seen
- since we were little girls
- 401
- 00:22:28,347 --> 00:22:29,765
- has an opposite message.
- 402
- 00:22:29,849 --> 00:22:32,184
- In movies, it's not the strong girl,
- 403
- 00:22:32,309 --> 00:22:34,603
- the funny girl, the brave girl,
- 404
- 00:22:34,687 --> 00:22:38,983
- the smart girl, the loud girl,
- the opinionated girl who gets the hot guy.
- 405
- 00:22:39,066 --> 00:22:43,320
- No, girls like me get, like, fucking Steve
- Zahn and Jonah Hill. Like, that's what...
- 406
- 00:22:44,572 --> 00:22:48,534
- She <i>is </i>funny, he <i>looks </i>funny, then they'll
- fuck funny and appreciate each other.
- 407
- 00:22:48,617 --> 00:22:50,119
- And it's always...
- 408
- 00:22:52,121 --> 00:22:53,747
- it's always the quiet girl.
- 409
- 00:22:53,831 --> 00:22:56,125
- Right, the new girl that gets, like,
- Channing Tatum.
- 410
- 00:22:56,208 --> 00:22:59,879
- It's always the girl that doesn't realize
- how beautiful she is.
- 411
- 00:22:59,962 --> 00:23:02,506
- The girl that isn't funny,
- isn't opinionated.
- 412
- 00:23:02,590 --> 00:23:06,010
- The subtext of that message is,
- "That's right. That's right, girls.
- 413
- 00:23:06,093 --> 00:23:09,638
- Men don't like a lippy woman,
- so zip it, honey."
- 414
- 00:23:11,307 --> 00:23:13,893
- It's always the girl
- that doesn't know she's hot.
- 415
- 00:23:13,976 --> 00:23:16,937
- Which, by the way,
- that Hollywood archetype? Bullshit.
- 416
- 00:23:17,021 --> 00:23:19,398
- Okay? It's bullshit.
- 417
- 00:23:21,859 --> 00:23:23,944
- Because you fucking know when you're hot.
- 418
- 00:23:25,112 --> 00:23:26,614
- No one's walking around, like,
- 419
- 00:23:26,697 --> 00:23:29,408
- "What do I do with these giant tits
- and thin legs?"
- 420
- 00:23:34,413 --> 00:23:38,417
- How did I get on this Victoria's Secret
- catwalk? I'm choking on my silky hair."
- 421
- 00:23:38,500 --> 00:23:39,960
- Like, you know.
- 422
- 00:23:43,505 --> 00:23:46,050
- We keep seeing the same story
- over and over.
- 423
- 00:23:46,133 --> 00:23:48,636
- It's about the girl
- that's unsure of herself,
- 424
- 00:23:48,719 --> 00:23:50,304
- and a guy sees through it,
- 425
- 00:23:50,387 --> 00:23:53,515
- and she realizes how beautiful she is
- when she takes off her glasses...
- 426
- 00:23:53,599 --> 00:23:54,975
- it's the same thing.
- 427
- 00:23:55,601 --> 00:23:58,395
- Always the girl, like,
- "I don't know if I should go out."
- 428
- 00:23:58,479 --> 00:24:01,148
- The girls that are outgoing that maybe
- enjoy their bodies,
- 429
- 00:24:01,231 --> 00:24:02,942
- are confident, like, "Let's go out!"
- 430
- 00:24:03,025 --> 00:24:06,779
- "I don't know. I should stay home.
- I've never left the house before."
- 431
- 00:24:09,406 --> 00:24:11,742
- We're taking you out. Let's go drink,
- let's go dance...
- 432
- 00:24:11,825 --> 00:24:13,619
- I should stay in. Stay in and study.
- 433
- 00:24:13,702 --> 00:24:17,039
- We're 35. What are you
- fucking talking about? Let's go!
- 434
- 00:24:20,709 --> 00:24:22,252
- Walk into the nightclub,
- 435
- 00:24:22,336 --> 00:24:25,047
- all the girls that are confident
- are dancing, they're having fun.
- 436
- 00:24:25,130 --> 00:24:29,051
- Like, "Hey, Channing Tatum!"
- He's, like, "Later, hookers. I want her!"
- 437
- 00:24:29,677 --> 00:24:30,511
- All the girls...
- 438
- 00:24:30,594 --> 00:24:32,262
- "Uh-uh. Her."
- 439
- 00:24:32,346 --> 00:24:35,599
- Cut to our hero, she's just sitting there
- in a corner, just...
- 440
- 00:24:35,683 --> 00:24:39,395
- maybe she wore, like, board shorts
- to the club. She has no idea.
- 441
- 00:24:39,728 --> 00:24:41,313
- She's reading a book.
- 442
- 00:24:42,272 --> 00:24:44,566
- Maybe she has brown hair. Whatever.
- 443
- 00:24:48,070 --> 00:24:49,488
- Before you get all offended at that,
- 444
- 00:24:49,571 --> 00:24:52,282
- look at all of our eyebrows.
- We all have brown hair, okay.
- 445
- 00:24:54,076 --> 00:24:55,494
- Maybe not you, I don't know.
- 446
- 00:24:56,787 --> 00:24:59,081
- I don't see any
- pure Norwegians here, okay?
- 447
- 00:25:00,499 --> 00:25:04,920
- This joke isn't about
- shaming that type of woman.
- 448
- 00:25:05,254 --> 00:25:07,047
- This joke is not about that.
- 449
- 00:25:07,506 --> 00:25:09,049
- Whatever kind of woman you are,
- 450
- 00:25:09,133 --> 00:25:11,677
- quiet, fat, small, big or tall,
- 451
- 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:13,721
- loud, you don't know much,
- you got a gill,
- 452
- 00:25:13,804 --> 00:25:15,472
- whatever kind of woman you are...
- 453
- 00:25:16,849 --> 00:25:18,267
- you are right.
- 454
- 00:25:19,059 --> 00:25:19,893
- That's it.
- 455
- 00:25:20,269 --> 00:25:22,271
- Whatever you've chosen to be...
- 456
- 00:25:23,814 --> 00:25:25,190
- whatever you want to be...
- 457
- 00:25:27,484 --> 00:25:30,612
- you are correct in being that
- as long as you're happy.
- 458
- 00:25:30,696 --> 00:25:34,324
- My point to you, is if you are
- the shy type,
- 459
- 00:25:34,408 --> 00:25:36,410
- if you are the wallflower,
- 460
- 00:25:36,493 --> 00:25:38,328
- if you are the shrinking violet,
- 461
- 00:25:38,537 --> 00:25:41,957
- if you are another... floral metaphor
- that has to do...
- 462
- 00:25:42,875 --> 00:25:45,210
- with being an introvert,
- my point to you
- 463
- 00:25:45,294 --> 00:25:50,632
- is that you don't want the guy who wants
- you because of that energy.
- 464
- 00:25:50,841 --> 00:25:53,969
- A man who wants a woman
- because she looks scared...
- 465
- 00:25:54,595 --> 00:25:56,055
- is a sexual predator.
- 466
- 00:25:58,724 --> 00:25:59,558
- Okay?
- 467
- 00:26:02,728 --> 00:26:04,855
- All these girls that he could hit on,
- 468
- 00:26:04,938 --> 00:26:07,941
- he picks the one that's shivering
- like a wet chihuahua.
- 469
- 00:26:08,984 --> 00:26:12,488
- Like a nervous street urchin
- just in a corner
- 470
- 00:26:12,571 --> 00:26:14,448
- putting out all kinds of "no" vibes.
- 471
- 00:26:14,531 --> 00:26:17,451
- You don't want the guy that walks up,
- like, "Excuse me.
- 472
- 00:26:17,534 --> 00:26:19,953
- I couldn't help but notice
- you look terrified.
- 473
- 00:26:23,832 --> 00:26:25,709
- Wanna see my dick?" So...
- 474
- 00:26:30,380 --> 00:26:31,757
- "I was out with my buddies.
- 475
- 00:26:32,841 --> 00:26:34,384
- I wasn't looking for anyone.
- 476
- 00:26:35,969 --> 00:26:37,596
- And I saw her."
- 477
- 00:26:38,806 --> 00:26:40,390
- The idea...
- 478
- 00:26:41,016 --> 00:26:43,143
- that in a nightlife setting...
- 479
- 00:26:43,644 --> 00:26:46,313
- that the man would ever see the woman...
- 480
- 00:26:46,980 --> 00:26:49,942
- before the woman saw the man.
- 481
- 00:26:56,198 --> 00:26:57,032
- No.
- 482
- 00:26:58,283 --> 00:27:02,704
- Women are astute, but moreover, women
- are the ones with the biological clocks.
- 483
- 00:27:02,788 --> 00:27:06,291
- Women are the ones with
- the socially predetermined shelf life.
- 484
- 00:27:06,375 --> 00:27:09,711
- Women are the ones who are cantilevered
- off the edge of high heels.
- 485
- 00:27:09,795 --> 00:27:11,755
- We've got five hours
- before we take them off
- 486
- 00:27:11,839 --> 00:27:13,632
- and walk through a lobby flat-foot, okay.
- 487
- 00:27:13,715 --> 00:27:17,344
- Women are the ones whose skin
- and foundation is dehydrating
- 488
- 00:27:17,427 --> 00:27:19,346
- with every alcoholic beverage imbibed.
- 489
- 00:27:19,888 --> 00:27:23,517
- We are the ones on a time crunch,
- on a schedule, okay?
- 490
- 00:27:23,684 --> 00:27:25,102
- You saw me first?
- 491
- 00:27:25,185 --> 00:27:26,603
- Bullshit, motherfucker.
- 492
- 00:27:26,687 --> 00:27:27,604
- I clocked you!
- 493
- 00:27:36,613 --> 00:27:39,074
- Like, the second you walked in.
- 494
- 00:27:39,158 --> 00:27:43,245
- Dudes walk in in a pack, unaware, like,
- "I'd better fill out this bracket,
- 495
- 00:27:43,328 --> 00:27:46,165
- or I'll turn into a pumpkin at midnight."
- You're not even...
- 496
- 00:27:46,874 --> 00:27:50,043
- You walked in, I was already hunting
- with five other women.
- 497
- 00:27:50,627 --> 00:27:52,713
- He walked in and I was, like, "Hold!"
- 498
- 00:27:52,796 --> 00:27:54,798
- And then we stalked around you.
- 499
- 00:27:57,676 --> 00:28:00,971
- Encircled you, sussed you out,
- like a German shepherd
- 500
- 00:28:01,054 --> 00:28:05,017
- sniffing out an IED in the sand,
- motherfucker. Like, we...
- 501
- 00:28:06,852 --> 00:28:11,398
- A lot of times, men pride themselves
- on being very observant, right?
- 502
- 00:28:11,607 --> 00:28:13,442
- Ever date a guy that,
- you go to a restaurant,
- 503
- 00:28:13,525 --> 00:28:15,861
- can't sit with his back to the door?
- 504
- 00:28:16,653 --> 00:28:20,532
- "I gotta sit with my back to the wall
- so I can assess all entrance
- 505
- 00:28:20,616 --> 00:28:23,285
- and exit points. I gotta make sure that..."
- 506
- 00:28:23,368 --> 00:28:25,996
- Okay, while you're checking out
- the people eating at Denny's,
- 507
- 00:28:26,079 --> 00:28:28,415
- I checked your fucking credit score, okay?
- 508
- 00:28:30,584 --> 00:28:32,711
- While you were doing counter-surveillance,
- 509
- 00:28:32,794 --> 00:28:36,256
- I looked you up and down,
- I gave you a pre-cancer mole check.
- 510
- 00:28:36,340 --> 00:28:38,592
- It's benign, move on.
- I looked at everything.
- 511
- 00:28:41,094 --> 00:28:42,971
- "I'm an alpha. I gotta look at the door."
- 512
- 00:28:43,138 --> 00:28:46,391
- If you ever date a man that says
- he's an alpha...
- 513
- 00:28:46,934 --> 00:28:47,976
- he's a beta. So...
- 514
- 00:28:50,187 --> 00:28:51,980
- A lion doesn't tell you he's a lion.
- 515
- 00:28:53,106 --> 00:28:55,192
- He just lets the girl hunt for him.
- Okay, so...
- 516
- 00:28:56,693 --> 00:28:59,905
- So, we look at everything.
- You think men judge women harshly?
- 517
- 00:28:59,988 --> 00:29:03,742
- They do. But, gentlemen, you have no idea
- what we're looking at.
- 518
- 00:29:04,618 --> 00:29:06,662
- We're judging your hair, your shoes,
- 519
- 00:29:06,745 --> 00:29:09,122
- we scan you, like Predator.
- 520
- 00:29:10,916 --> 00:29:15,170
- Every atom, every molecule of your DNA,
- we go through it like...
- 521
- 00:29:15,837 --> 00:29:18,590
- "Scanning for physical abnormalities.
- 522
- 00:29:22,469 --> 00:29:25,847
- Is he balding? Okay, but is it in
- a weird way?
- 523
- 00:29:35,232 --> 00:29:37,693
- Is that a goatee? What's happening there?
- 524
- 00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:46,827
- Is his shirt unbuttoned too low
- for his ethnicity?
- 525
- 00:29:55,043 --> 00:29:57,004
- Is he wearing embroidered jeans?
- 526
- 00:29:57,087 --> 00:30:01,341
- If so, is he a European male
- or just someone from Arizona?"
- 527
- 00:30:01,425 --> 00:30:02,718
- Like, we go through it.
- 528
- 00:30:05,887 --> 00:30:07,222
- We go through it.
- 529
- 00:30:12,019 --> 00:30:15,772
- We aren't looking to see
- if you're the hottest guy ever. Nay.
- 530
- 00:30:15,856 --> 00:30:20,360
- We are merely assessing
- if you're 50% attractive enough
- 531
- 00:30:20,444 --> 00:30:24,489
- that we want to put the effort
- into putting ourselves in your orbit.
- 532
- 00:30:24,573 --> 00:30:29,578
- So that, in an hour, after a drink or two,
- you, gentlemen, have the luxury
- 533
- 00:30:29,661 --> 00:30:33,582
- of turning around and being, like, "Oh,
- excuse me, I couldn't help but notice."
- 534
- 00:30:33,665 --> 00:30:35,167
- Then we turn around, like...
- 535
- 00:30:35,250 --> 00:30:36,585
- Really?
- 536
- 00:30:39,296 --> 00:30:41,965
- That's it.
- Just set it up for you to knock it down.
- 537
- 00:30:43,592 --> 00:30:48,138
- A lot of times it's not that easy.
- We see a guy we think is cute...
- 538
- 00:30:48,805 --> 00:30:52,601
- and he doesn't notice us,
- so we have to <i>make</i> you... notice us.
- 539
- 00:30:53,477 --> 00:30:56,396
- A lot of times, we get our girlfriend
- to help us. Every girl's done this.
- 540
- 00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:59,149
- There's a boy over there you think
- is cute, you're, like, "Come here.
- 541
- 00:31:00,901 --> 00:31:02,235
- Do you see that guy, over there?
- 542
- 00:31:04,613 --> 00:31:05,489
- Over there.
- 543
- 00:31:06,865 --> 00:31:07,699
- Over there.
- 544
- 00:31:08,492 --> 00:31:10,827
- Do you see him? Do you see that guy?
- Are you looking?
- 545
- 00:31:10,911 --> 00:31:12,829
- Don't look!
- Do you see him? Are you looking?
- 546
- 00:31:13,538 --> 00:31:16,083
- Is he looking? He's looking? He's looking?
- Start dancing.
- 547
- 00:31:23,131 --> 00:31:26,676
- Come here, keep talking. Say something
- funny so I don't look like a loser."
- 548
- 00:31:31,515 --> 00:31:33,016
- You're trying to put out...
- 549
- 00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:35,727
- this vibe that you're so carefree.
- 550
- 00:31:35,811 --> 00:31:39,689
- 'Cause you, and don't lie about this,
- you want him to look over and be, like,
- 551
- 00:31:39,773 --> 00:31:43,527
- "There will never be another, there
- has never been another. She is the one."
- 552
- 00:31:43,610 --> 00:31:45,779
- You want him to be so taken.
- 553
- 00:31:45,862 --> 00:31:48,365
- "She looks like she doesn't need a man,
- so carefree."
- 554
- 00:31:48,448 --> 00:31:50,325
- I'm so carefree, I don't use condoms!
- 555
- 00:31:54,246 --> 00:31:55,080
- So effortless.
- 556
- 00:31:58,291 --> 00:32:02,295
- If he was close, he wouldn't be hearing
- it. From afar, you want him to hear...
- 557
- 00:32:02,379 --> 00:32:03,547
- Sports.
- 558
- 00:32:03,630 --> 00:32:06,383
- If he were close,
- what he'd actually hear is your...
- 559
- 00:32:06,466 --> 00:32:08,343
- Like, you're trying so hard.
- 560
- 00:32:08,718 --> 00:32:09,553
- Please!
- 561
- 00:32:12,055 --> 00:32:14,766
- He's going to find you,
- he'll see you at some point.
- 562
- 00:32:14,850 --> 00:32:18,437
- There's only so many places in a bar,
- a club, that your eyes can fall.
- 563
- 00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:21,690
- He's going to see you.
- This is the important part girls, okay?
- 564
- 00:32:21,773 --> 00:32:24,151
- You're out there,
- it's a competitive situation.
- 565
- 00:32:24,234 --> 00:32:26,486
- There's a lot of girls,
- there's a lot of bars.
- 566
- 00:32:26,570 --> 00:32:29,406
- He's gonna look at you,
- that's your chance, okay?
- 567
- 00:32:29,573 --> 00:32:31,408
- That's your chance.
- You've only got one shot.
- 568
- 00:32:32,325 --> 00:32:34,327
- It's like <i>8 Mile,</i> but with flirting.
- 569
- 00:32:36,496 --> 00:32:38,498
- Hopefully there's no vomit on your shirt.
- 570
- 00:32:39,875 --> 00:32:43,086
- Maybe it's a good thing. He'd be, like,
- "She parties!" I don't know.
- 571
- 00:32:44,045 --> 00:32:47,424
- He's going to look over, the lights
- are going to reflect and refract,
- 572
- 00:32:47,507 --> 00:32:49,509
- and they'll hit you both and
- he's gonna see you,
- 573
- 00:32:49,593 --> 00:32:51,219
- and that's your chance, ladies,
- 574
- 00:32:51,303 --> 00:32:52,929
- to fucking stick it, and pose,
- 575
- 00:32:53,013 --> 00:32:55,140
- like a peacock in heat that you are.
- Just...
- 576
- 00:33:10,864 --> 00:33:12,240
- Don't dance like that.
- 577
- 00:33:14,242 --> 00:33:16,411
- Little bit of insight to stand-up comedy,
- 578
- 00:33:16,495 --> 00:33:19,080
- and the risk and reward
- with choosing certain jokes.
- 579
- 00:33:19,164 --> 00:33:21,458
- That joke is a risk because I realize
- 580
- 00:33:21,541 --> 00:33:24,419
- not every one here knows...
- what a peacock sounds like.
- 581
- 00:33:26,713 --> 00:33:29,174
- But for, like, the 12 of you that knew,
- 582
- 00:33:29,508 --> 00:33:31,259
- it was so worth it for me.
- 583
- 00:33:38,433 --> 00:33:40,143
- And for the rest of you,
- 584
- 00:33:40,227 --> 00:33:42,896
- the good news is
- you don't ever have to hear a peacock,
- 585
- 00:33:42,979 --> 00:33:46,775
- 'cause that was, like, top ten peacock
- impressions you're going to hear...
- 586
- 00:33:47,275 --> 00:33:48,151
- tonight.
- 587
- 00:33:52,030 --> 00:33:55,575
- I hate it. I hate the noise.
- I'm allowed to make fun of peacocks,
- 588
- 00:33:55,659 --> 00:33:57,035
- 'cause I grew up with them.
- 589
- 00:33:58,537 --> 00:34:01,623
- What I find so unsettling,
- if I might divert from the stand-up
- 590
- 00:34:01,706 --> 00:34:04,668
- to a TED Talk about ornithology
- for two seconds, the...
- 591
- 00:34:04,918 --> 00:34:07,712
- it's the dip in the mating call
- that gives me...
- 592
- 00:34:09,714 --> 00:34:10,715
- It's just not...
- 593
- 00:34:12,300 --> 00:34:16,221
- We, as avian enthusiasts, which is
- why you've come to my comedy show...
- 594
- 00:34:17,847 --> 00:34:20,559
- enjoy consistency in a mating call.
- 595
- 00:34:20,642 --> 00:34:22,894
- Like, a crow or a raven is like...
- 596
- 00:34:22,978 --> 00:34:24,938
- It just goes. Right?
- 597
- 00:34:25,855 --> 00:34:30,610
- And a dove and its low-rent cousin,
- the pigeon, that's just...
- 598
- 00:34:33,196 --> 00:34:34,030
- Right?
- 599
- 00:34:37,033 --> 00:34:39,327
- The dove and the bird it
- loans money to, just...
- 600
- 00:34:41,746 --> 00:34:44,624
- Right? And we all know a warbler
- goes like...
- 601
- 00:34:45,792 --> 00:34:47,419
- "I'm a warbler." I don't know. And then...
- 602
- 00:34:49,379 --> 00:34:50,880
- and the bald eagle is, like,
- 603
- 00:34:50,964 --> 00:34:53,133
- "Fucking freedom!" Okay, so...
- 604
- 00:34:54,092 --> 00:34:54,926
- we know.
- 605
- 00:34:57,220 --> 00:35:00,724
- To me, the peacock sounds
- like a tired hooker.
- 606
- 00:35:02,017 --> 00:35:05,937
- Like he's just standing on the corner,
- like, "You want a fuck or what?
- 607
- 00:35:15,322 --> 00:35:17,365
- I already paid for the room."
- 608
- 00:35:19,242 --> 00:35:22,579
- Another side note,
- I realize the peacock is the male.
- 609
- 00:35:22,662 --> 00:35:24,414
- They're the ones with the plumage.
- 610
- 00:35:24,497 --> 00:35:27,500
- The female peacock is a peahen.
- Their colors are muted.
- 611
- 00:35:27,584 --> 00:35:30,837
- So really it's a feminist joke
- 'cause it's about a male prostitute.
- 612
- 00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:32,422
- Mmm, okay, so...
- 613
- 00:35:37,802 --> 00:35:41,723
- So you peacock and he sees you, and he
- walks up. "I couldn't help but notice..."
- 614
- 00:35:41,806 --> 00:35:44,809
- And you start talking,
- maybe you have some drinks,
- 615
- 00:35:44,893 --> 00:35:48,396
- maybe you dance, maybe you exchange
- numbers, maybe you start to date.
- 616
- 00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:53,026
- Now, I happen to think the very beginning
- of a new relationship
- 617
- 00:35:53,109 --> 00:35:55,695
- is the most exciting part
- of the relationship.
- 618
- 00:35:55,779 --> 00:35:57,447
- Granted, I'm not married yet,
- 619
- 00:35:57,530 --> 00:36:00,533
- so, technically, I've only had beginnings
- of relationships.
- 620
- 00:36:01,618 --> 00:36:05,705
- I don't know. I can't say empirically
- how fun being married is.
- 621
- 00:36:05,789 --> 00:36:09,084
- I'll tell you on the next comedy special
- what that's all about.
- 622
- 00:36:10,043 --> 00:36:11,127
- But I don't know.
- 623
- 00:36:13,630 --> 00:36:17,300
- The beginning of a relationship
- is exciting because it's brand new.
- 624
- 00:36:17,384 --> 00:36:19,094
- You're both on your best behavior,
- 625
- 00:36:19,177 --> 00:36:20,553
- it's still electric,
- 626
- 00:36:20,637 --> 00:36:24,933
- you're not totally sure about the history
- of mental illness in each family.
- 627
- 00:36:25,016 --> 00:36:25,850
- It's fun.
- 628
- 00:36:25,934 --> 00:36:28,937
- And the most nerve-wracking part
- of a new relationship
- 629
- 00:36:29,020 --> 00:36:30,105
- when you're younger,
- 630
- 00:36:30,188 --> 00:36:33,400
- is the first time a boy comes over
- to your apartment.
- 631
- 00:36:33,775 --> 00:36:37,278
- 'Cause it's ostensibly like
- your girlfriend audition time.
- 632
- 00:36:37,362 --> 00:36:41,741
- You want him to come in and be, like,
- "It's so homey. I'd like to stay forever."
- 633
- 00:36:41,825 --> 00:36:43,993
- Yes, come closer.
- Like, that's what you want.
- 634
- 00:36:44,494 --> 00:36:46,788
- You try so hard in your 20s, right?
- 635
- 00:36:46,871 --> 00:36:50,083
- Because you're young, and it's fun.
- That's your 20s. In your 30s...
- 636
- 00:36:52,252 --> 00:36:54,838
- In your 30s,
- homeboy knocks on the door, you open it,
- 637
- 00:36:54,921 --> 00:36:58,258
- you're in combat boots, nothing else,
- and a garbage can on fire, you're, like,
- 638
- 00:36:58,341 --> 00:37:00,051
- "Welcome to Fuckdome, Scott."
- 639
- 00:37:06,558 --> 00:37:07,851
- Ticket? Okay, so...
- 640
- 00:37:11,020 --> 00:37:14,190
- But it's interesting, in your 20s,
- it's a weird mental game.
- 641
- 00:37:14,274 --> 00:37:17,652
- Boy's coming over for the first time,
- you're trying to reconcile
- 642
- 00:37:17,944 --> 00:37:21,906
- the beautiful home that your mother kept
- that you lived in growing up,
- 643
- 00:37:21,990 --> 00:37:26,828
- with the beautiful home that, like,
- Pinterest says you're supposed to have.
- 644
- 00:37:27,078 --> 00:37:30,206
- And the fact that you have
- no fucking money, so...
- 645
- 00:37:30,874 --> 00:37:33,668
- Should I buy a rug or eat dinner?
- I don't know.
- 646
- 00:37:33,752 --> 00:37:34,711
- It's so hard.
- 647
- 00:37:35,170 --> 00:37:37,672
- Boy's coming over, you are cleaning
- 648
- 00:37:37,756 --> 00:37:40,717
- like you've never cleaned before,
- and it's hard
- 649
- 00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:44,179
- because women secretly are... filthy.
- 650
- 00:37:45,388 --> 00:37:47,974
- No one wants to laugh about it. "Not me!"
- 651
- 00:37:48,057 --> 00:37:51,519
- And no guy wants to imagine, like,
- "No way, my girlfriend's so hot."
- 652
- 00:37:51,603 --> 00:37:55,732
- Yeah? You think you have a hot girlfriend?
- Check the center console of her car.
- 653
- 00:38:01,154 --> 00:38:02,864
- She's owned that car for a decade.
- 654
- 00:38:02,947 --> 00:38:05,283
- Every year, the shit just piles up.
- 655
- 00:38:05,366 --> 00:38:08,995
- You open it, like, "I didn't know an Acura
- came with a time capsule!" You shut it.
- 656
- 00:38:10,497 --> 00:38:11,539
- You open it again.
- 657
- 00:38:11,623 --> 00:38:14,125
- You just hear, "Help!"
- There's something in there.
- 658
- 00:38:14,709 --> 00:38:17,545
- It's our little filthy secret stockpile,
- right?
- 659
- 00:38:17,629 --> 00:38:21,549
- It's a <i>Now That's What I Call Music </i>CD.
- "In case they come back!" Yeah.
- 660
- 00:38:21,633 --> 00:38:26,095
- It's one of those cables that plugs
- from the tape player into the CD player.
- 661
- 00:38:26,179 --> 00:38:29,182
- It's spilled nail polish,
- it's a little bit of weed dust.
- 662
- 00:38:29,265 --> 00:38:33,770
- It's a... Calgon body spray, 'cause you'd
- rather smell like a stripper than weed.
- 663
- 00:38:34,854 --> 00:38:38,233
- It's that...
- It's a Lip Smacker, Dr Pepper flavor,
- 664
- 00:38:38,316 --> 00:38:41,402
- that's just... lying there with a gash
- in the wax neck,
- 665
- 00:38:41,486 --> 00:38:44,364
- like, "Tell my children I died well."
- Like it's...
- 666
- 00:38:45,740 --> 00:38:47,575
- it's an iPhone 4 charger.
- 667
- 00:38:49,619 --> 00:38:51,162
- It's some McDonald's napkins.
- 668
- 00:38:52,205 --> 00:38:53,540
- It's a French fry.
- 669
- 00:38:55,750 --> 00:38:58,878
- Times that center console by a million...
- 670
- 00:38:58,962 --> 00:39:00,463
- in her apartment.
- 671
- 00:39:00,547 --> 00:39:04,217
- You are just cleaning
- with Swiffer and Brawny.
- 672
- 00:39:04,300 --> 00:39:06,719
- It's like a winter wonderland
- of paper towels.
- 673
- 00:39:06,803 --> 00:39:09,222
- You're just shoving shit under the rugs.
- 674
- 00:39:09,305 --> 00:39:11,474
- You didn't build a shelf,
- I dunno how that fucking works.
- 675
- 00:39:11,558 --> 00:39:14,102
- You're just moving everything,
- you take everything...
- 676
- 00:39:14,185 --> 00:39:17,689
- You put your coats in the oven.
- Burn 'em! I live in L.A. Take everything.
- 677
- 00:39:18,189 --> 00:39:22,485
- Put your cat in a hamper for now, Marbles.
- We don't know how he feels about cats.
- 678
- 00:39:23,069 --> 00:39:27,365
- Taking everything, you're cleaning. You're
- discovering new rooms in your apartment.
- 679
- 00:39:27,448 --> 00:39:30,159
- How come the water heater
- gets its own closet? Fuck it!
- 680
- 00:39:31,369 --> 00:39:35,164
- You beg your gross-out roommate,
- "Please, just stay in your room.
- 681
- 00:39:35,248 --> 00:39:36,666
- You're so fucking disgusting."
- 682
- 00:39:36,749 --> 00:39:40,211
- She's there, on a throne
- of Wendy's wrappers, like, "Okay!
- 683
- 00:39:42,213 --> 00:39:45,341
- You text me dick pics."
- Hello. Shut the door.
- 684
- 00:39:45,884 --> 00:39:50,096
- Cleaning. Lighting Glade candles
- like it's a fucking Catholic mass.
- 685
- 00:39:50,179 --> 00:39:53,224
- Smells like ham in here!
- You're just trying to make it nice.
- 686
- 00:39:53,308 --> 00:39:56,394
- He opens the door. You're, like, "Hi!"
- He walks in. He's, like,
- 687
- 00:39:56,769 --> 00:39:58,730
- "Oh, place is cool."
- You're, like, "Fuck you."
- 688
- 00:40:12,619 --> 00:40:14,203
- And there's an art, by the way,
- 689
- 00:40:14,287 --> 00:40:18,374
- to the outfit you wear the first time
- a boy comes over to your place at night.
- 690
- 00:40:19,250 --> 00:40:22,754
- You don't want to wear...
- what you wore during the day.
- 691
- 00:40:22,837 --> 00:40:26,716
- Don't want work clothes. You don't want
- to wear your daytime clothes, 'cause...
- 692
- 00:40:27,467 --> 00:40:28,635
- 'cause it's nighttime.
- 693
- 00:40:29,469 --> 00:40:31,304
- What if that was the end of my show?
- 694
- 00:40:32,639 --> 00:40:33,723
- I hit my head.
- 695
- 00:40:35,266 --> 00:40:38,102
- You don't want to wear
- your civilian clothes, okay.
- 696
- 00:40:38,186 --> 00:40:40,939
- 'Cause you had a whole day. Maybe you
- sweat in them, they're gross.
- 697
- 00:40:41,022 --> 00:40:43,900
- However, at the other end
- of the sartorial spectrum,
- 698
- 00:40:43,983 --> 00:40:49,614
- you don't want to go, like, super hardcore
- sexy the first time a guy's coming over.
- 699
- 00:40:49,697 --> 00:40:52,575
- Just relax. You don't want to wear
- nipple tassels. Now...
- 700
- 00:40:54,077 --> 00:40:55,912
- some women are, like, "Wait a minute."
- 701
- 00:40:57,497 --> 00:41:00,708
- I am the woman that has stood here before
- 702
- 00:41:00,792 --> 00:41:03,044
- and will stand here before you again
- and let you know
- 703
- 00:41:03,127 --> 00:41:04,796
- you can wear whatever you want.
- 704
- 00:41:04,879 --> 00:41:08,716
- It doesn't give a man the right to put
- his hands on you. No always means no.
- 705
- 00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:10,969
- That's like a boiler-plated given.
- 706
- 00:41:16,307 --> 00:41:18,226
- No means no. Kindergarteners get it.
- 707
- 00:41:18,309 --> 00:41:21,479
- I don't know why we forget that
- as adult males, but...
- 708
- 00:41:22,021 --> 00:41:24,732
- no means no. This is less about that,
- 709
- 00:41:24,816 --> 00:41:28,569
- and more about just being mentally kind
- to the other person.
- 710
- 00:41:28,653 --> 00:41:31,030
- You show up in that,
- he'll be, like, "Oh, my god!"
- 711
- 00:41:31,114 --> 00:41:34,033
- The blood's gonna go from here
- to his dick, he's gonna impale himself,
- 712
- 00:41:34,117 --> 00:41:36,577
- he's gonna sue you,
- and you ain't got no money. So...
- 713
- 00:41:38,496 --> 00:41:40,790
- just be kind,
- because, mentally, it's like,
- 714
- 00:41:40,873 --> 00:41:44,127
- "Maybe she wants me. I don't know.
- Oh, my god." It's frustrating.
- 715
- 00:41:44,210 --> 00:41:47,130
- You know, girls, it'd be like
- if you have the worst day,
- 716
- 00:41:47,213 --> 00:41:49,257
- you came home to your boyfriend, like...
- 717
- 00:41:50,133 --> 00:41:51,217
- "I had the worst day.
- 718
- 00:41:51,300 --> 00:41:52,385
- I got fired, and...
- 719
- 00:41:52,885 --> 00:41:54,887
- I cried in front of everyone
- 720
- 00:41:54,971 --> 00:41:56,973
- and... I ate that French fry from my car.
- 721
- 00:41:59,517 --> 00:42:01,144
- It was just such a hard day."
- 722
- 00:42:01,227 --> 00:42:05,023
- Your boyfriend's like, "Aw, babe. You want
- to talk about it?" You're, like, "Yeah."
- 723
- 00:42:05,106 --> 00:42:08,026
- He's, like, "Just kidding. Psych."
- That's what it would be like.
- 724
- 00:42:09,944 --> 00:42:13,406
- So the question is, if I can't wear work
- clothes, I can't wear nipple tassels,
- 725
- 00:42:13,489 --> 00:42:14,907
- what's a girl to do?
- 726
- 00:42:15,783 --> 00:42:19,287
- There's an entire, sort of intermediary,
- 727
- 00:42:19,370 --> 00:42:23,041
- post-dinner, pre-bedtime apparel world.
- 728
- 00:42:23,124 --> 00:42:25,126
- There's a whole category of clothing
- 729
- 00:42:25,209 --> 00:42:28,337
- that you, as women, have mastered
- without even realizing it.
- 730
- 00:42:28,421 --> 00:42:30,089
- The category is called
- 731
- 00:42:30,173 --> 00:42:31,340
- athleisure wear.
- 732
- 00:42:35,219 --> 00:42:37,764
- This is an entire clothing category.
- 733
- 00:42:37,847 --> 00:42:41,267
- It's a multi-billion-dollar
- clothing category
- 734
- 00:42:41,350 --> 00:42:43,436
- predicated on the idea that, as a woman,
- 735
- 00:42:43,519 --> 00:42:45,605
- sometimes you don't have time to change
- 736
- 00:42:45,688 --> 00:42:48,941
- when you're going from the boardroom
- to Pilates. There's no fucking way.
- 737
- 00:42:49,025 --> 00:42:50,151
- You gotta be ready.
- 738
- 00:42:50,485 --> 00:42:53,279
- Sometimes you're going right from spin
- to open-heart surgery,
- 739
- 00:42:53,362 --> 00:42:55,281
- and you've got to look good.
- That's...
- 740
- 00:42:55,364 --> 00:42:57,950
- Spin to open-heart surgery?
- How about my bed to my couch?
- 741
- 00:42:58,034 --> 00:42:59,577
- What are you fucking talking about?
- 742
- 00:43:00,661 --> 00:43:05,083
- So what is athleisure wear? It's athletic
- apparel you wouldn't really work out in.
- 743
- 00:43:05,166 --> 00:43:08,377
- Right? So it's... yoga pants
- with, like, a racing stripe.
- 744
- 00:43:08,461 --> 00:43:10,088
- You just... race to your snacks.
- 745
- 00:43:13,257 --> 00:43:15,802
- Sometimes it's like
- a complicated tank top.
- 746
- 00:43:17,178 --> 00:43:19,180
- It's, like, not quite supportive.
- 747
- 00:43:19,263 --> 00:43:20,932
- They're, like, "It's backless."
- 748
- 00:43:21,015 --> 00:43:23,142
- What do you do?
- "You don't wear a bra."
- 749
- 00:43:23,226 --> 00:43:25,061
- I'm sorry, what the fuck did you just say?
- 750
- 00:43:27,522 --> 00:43:28,523
- I don't wear a bra?
- 751
- 00:43:28,606 --> 00:43:32,401
- So if the athletic part comes into play,
- and I have to run, it's gonna be...
- 752
- 00:43:32,485 --> 00:43:33,945
- No!
- 753
- 00:43:36,489 --> 00:43:39,492
- My whole life...
- they've been pitching to me,
- 754
- 00:43:39,575 --> 00:43:41,953
- "It's a tank top,
- there's a shelf built in."
- 755
- 00:43:42,870 --> 00:43:44,747
- It's a... Go fuck your <i>shelf, </i>okay?
- 756
- 00:43:44,831 --> 00:43:45,665
- I want a bra.
- 757
- 00:43:46,749 --> 00:43:47,708
- I want a bra!
- 758
- 00:43:53,339 --> 00:43:56,467
- We do that. Sometimes we'll do, like,
- a push-up bra under the tank.
- 759
- 00:43:56,551 --> 00:43:59,679
- Show the strap off.
- It's got to be a cute strap. Not beige.
- 760
- 00:43:59,762 --> 00:44:01,264
- No one goes, "Ooh, beige."
- 761
- 00:44:03,349 --> 00:44:05,810
- Like magenta.
- 'Cause that's not as sexy as red.
- 762
- 00:44:05,893 --> 00:44:08,896
- Magenta's like, "Maybe we'll fuck."
- Red's like, "We're gonna fuck!"
- 763
- 00:44:09,897 --> 00:44:12,608
- Push-up bra.
- That's what we do for you, gentlemen.
- 764
- 00:44:12,692 --> 00:44:14,652
- You have no idea... of the sacrifices.
- 765
- 00:44:16,154 --> 00:44:20,366
- Not a woman here wears a push-up bra
- when she's at home with the flu.
- 766
- 00:44:22,118 --> 00:44:25,872
- No one walking around, like, "I just like
- it when my nipples are near my tongue."
- 767
- 00:44:27,832 --> 00:44:29,333
- It's just safer that way.
- 768
- 00:44:31,377 --> 00:44:32,879
- He gets to be comfortable.
- 769
- 00:44:33,212 --> 00:44:36,382
- You're all bundled up, sitting there
- in a push-up bra on your couch,
- 770
- 00:44:36,465 --> 00:44:39,010
- drinking with this dude
- you're having a date with.
- 771
- 00:44:39,093 --> 00:44:40,928
- He's got his shoes off, shirt off.
- 772
- 00:44:41,012 --> 00:44:44,182
- You're suffocating under your own tits,
- watching <i>House Hunters.</i>
- 773
- 00:44:45,266 --> 00:44:46,267
- Crown molding.
- 774
- 00:44:51,898 --> 00:44:55,484
- You're all dressed up, have a nice night.
- Maybe sleep together, maybe you don't.
- 775
- 00:44:55,568 --> 00:44:59,655
- That's not what I'm interested in. What I
- want to talk about is the next morning,
- 776
- 00:44:59,739 --> 00:45:01,449
- when he goes to leave.
- 777
- 00:45:01,824 --> 00:45:04,410
- What I've always found so endearing
- about men...
- 778
- 00:45:04,493 --> 00:45:06,454
- I find many things endearing about you.
- 779
- 00:45:06,996 --> 00:45:07,872
- But...
- 780
- 00:45:09,415 --> 00:45:12,084
- you think... we stay...
- 781
- 00:45:12,168 --> 00:45:13,836
- that put-together...
- 782
- 00:45:14,712 --> 00:45:15,880
- once you're gone.
- 783
- 00:45:18,049 --> 00:45:19,175
- You have no idea.
- 784
- 00:45:20,301 --> 00:45:22,553
- They have no idea... what lies beneath.
- 785
- 00:45:22,637 --> 00:45:27,516
- You have no idea... that under the hair,
- and the make-up, and the lashes,
- 786
- 00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:29,602
- and the shelf, and the bras...
- 787
- 00:45:30,102 --> 00:45:31,312
- for every woman,
- 788
- 00:45:31,395 --> 00:45:32,939
- lies the beating heart
- 789
- 00:45:33,022 --> 00:45:34,357
- of a hungry...
- 790
- 00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:35,691
- exhausted...
- 791
- 00:45:35,775 --> 00:45:36,984
- annoyed...
- 792
- 00:45:37,068 --> 00:45:39,195
- she-dragon!
- 793
- 00:45:46,494 --> 00:45:49,956
- And she is waiting to come out.
- She comes out every couple hours.
- 794
- 00:45:50,039 --> 00:45:54,168
- Like opinions, sweat, urine. Hopefully you
- pee more than every couple hours, still.
- 795
- 00:45:54,252 --> 00:45:56,963
- She's got to. You gotta let her out,
- and she's waiting.
- 796
- 00:45:57,046 --> 00:45:59,966
- And homeboy is taking forever to leave,
- he's, like,
- 797
- 00:46:00,049 --> 00:46:02,385
- "All right, I guess
- I'll give you a call later."
- 798
- 00:46:02,468 --> 00:46:03,886
- Your dragon's, like, "Get out!
- 799
- 00:46:05,263 --> 00:46:07,265
- Get out. I got to take a shit. Get out!
- 800
- 00:46:12,770 --> 00:46:16,357
- Get rid of him. I gotta go in that
- bathroom I share with another grown woman
- 801
- 00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:19,068
- and take a Jurassic thunderdump,
- mostly in the bowl,
- 802
- 00:46:19,151 --> 00:46:21,445
- then send him a picture
- like I'm doing something hot."
- 803
- 00:46:21,529 --> 00:46:22,446
- Hey. "Get out!"
- 804
- 00:46:25,741 --> 00:46:28,035
- I feel like the boys here
- don't believe me.
- 805
- 00:46:29,704 --> 00:46:32,581
- That breaks my heart. I want you
- to trust me, okay?
- 806
- 00:46:32,665 --> 00:46:35,835
- You don't believe me that there's a dragon
- inside every woman.
- 807
- 00:46:35,918 --> 00:46:37,837
- I will prove it to you. Are you ready?
- 808
- 00:46:38,629 --> 00:46:39,880
- There's no zipper, okay.
- 809
- 00:46:41,340 --> 00:46:44,468
- I'll let you prove it to yourselves.
- Tomorrow, when you leave your girl,
- 810
- 00:46:44,552 --> 00:46:46,887
- okay, and you're saying goodbye
- at the door...
- 811
- 00:46:47,638 --> 00:46:48,973
- here's what you want to do.
- 812
- 00:46:49,890 --> 00:46:51,309
- Look deep in her eyes.
- 813
- 00:46:52,018 --> 00:46:55,855
- This is great, because, she'll be, like,
- "Oh, my god, he's mesmerized by me.
- 814
- 00:46:55,938 --> 00:46:57,815
- This is amazing. I'm doing amazing."
- 815
- 00:46:57,898 --> 00:46:59,066
- Great, let her think that.
- 816
- 00:46:59,150 --> 00:47:02,778
- It buys you time, gentlemen. Because
- what you're looking for in her eyes
- 817
- 00:47:02,862 --> 00:47:05,364
- is like a nictitating membrane, okay.
- 818
- 00:47:07,158 --> 00:47:10,911
- For those who don't know, it's the lid
- under the lid that keeps the sand out.
- 819
- 00:47:12,371 --> 00:47:14,790
- You need more <i>Planet Earth</i> from Netflix
- in your lives, okay.
- 820
- 00:47:14,874 --> 00:47:16,208
- That's what you're looking for.
- 821
- 00:47:16,292 --> 00:47:19,503
- If you want to see...
- the dragon come out on its own,
- 822
- 00:47:19,587 --> 00:47:22,506
- just prolong your goodbye,
- 'cause that dragon's coming out.
- 823
- 00:47:22,590 --> 00:47:25,134
- Nothing you can do about it.
- Just take a little longer.
- 824
- 00:47:25,217 --> 00:47:28,387
- All right, well, I have your number,
- right? Lemme make sure.
- 825
- 00:47:28,471 --> 00:47:30,473
- Okay, great, you have my number. Bye!
- 826
- 00:47:38,981 --> 00:47:41,567
- You're just flying round
- your own studio apartment.
- 827
- 00:47:42,735 --> 00:47:45,237
- You can't go outside.
- You will get shot down.
- 828
- 00:47:45,946 --> 00:47:48,240
- Like, this isn't fucking King's Landing.
- Like, you can't...
- 829
- 00:47:50,159 --> 00:47:51,994
- you're just doing it for the cardio.
- 830
- 00:47:52,995 --> 00:47:55,664
- Tiny pulses, ladies.
- We're toning, we're firming.
- 831
- 00:47:57,500 --> 00:47:59,335
- You fly into your kitchen.
- 832
- 00:47:59,627 --> 00:48:00,920
- You land on your counter.
- 833
- 00:48:03,005 --> 00:48:05,466
- You're hungry, right?
- So you take out a talon.
- 834
- 00:48:08,010 --> 00:48:10,388
- You skewer an entire sleeve of Oreos.
- 835
- 00:48:17,103 --> 00:48:18,104
- You toast it.
- 836
- 00:48:26,570 --> 00:48:28,906
- Your dragon body and your farts
- 837
- 00:48:28,989 --> 00:48:32,410
- aren't the only thing
- you've been holding in all night.
- 838
- 00:48:32,493 --> 00:48:35,287
- You've also been holding in...
- your intentions.
- 839
- 00:48:35,955 --> 00:48:39,041
- We have this really nasty habit
- in our society
- 840
- 00:48:39,125 --> 00:48:43,045
- of labeling women very cruel
- and unfair things
- 841
- 00:48:43,129 --> 00:48:46,465
- when they express their desire
- for very normal things.
- 842
- 00:48:46,549 --> 00:48:49,593
- Monogamy, exclusivity, a relationship,
- 843
- 00:48:49,677 --> 00:48:51,679
- a family, babies. Right?
- 844
- 00:48:51,762 --> 00:48:55,266
- We like to call them desperate,
- sad, psychos, baby crazy.
- 845
- 00:48:55,349 --> 00:48:56,809
- "We've been married for six years.
- 846
- 00:48:56,892 --> 00:49:00,020
- She already wants a kid! I'm a fuck man!
- They can't get me."
- 847
- 00:49:02,064 --> 00:49:04,275
- It's very normal to want these things.
- 848
- 00:49:04,358 --> 00:49:06,527
- And we like to chastise women for this.
- 849
- 00:49:06,610 --> 00:49:09,738
- And so, as women,
- sometimes we don't speak our truth.
- 850
- 00:49:09,822 --> 00:49:13,409
- You go on a first date, and a guy says,
- "Do you want to have kids?"
- 851
- 00:49:13,492 --> 00:49:14,743
- And you say no.
- 852
- 00:49:14,827 --> 00:49:16,162
- Or I don't know.
- 853
- 00:49:16,245 --> 00:49:18,831
- When you do know.
- Because you don't want to what?
- 854
- 00:49:20,082 --> 00:49:21,000
- Scare them off.
- 855
- 00:49:22,543 --> 00:49:23,627
- By the way...
- 856
- 00:49:24,670 --> 00:49:27,923
- if you're the kind of woman that doesn't
- want kids, you're still a woman.
- 857
- 00:49:28,007 --> 00:49:30,426
- This joke's not about you.
- Wait your turn, okay.
- 858
- 00:49:34,472 --> 00:49:35,764
- Another "by the way."
- 859
- 00:49:36,515 --> 00:49:37,349
- Gentlemen...
- 860
- 00:49:37,766 --> 00:49:41,187
- you ask a girl if she wants to have kids,
- and she says yes...
- 861
- 00:49:41,854 --> 00:49:43,856
- it doesn't necessarily mean with you.
- 862
- 00:49:52,615 --> 00:49:53,782
- And it's interesting...
- 863
- 00:49:53,866 --> 00:49:57,578
- because your views about relationships
- or marriage or children
- 864
- 00:49:57,661 --> 00:49:59,121
- do change the older you get.
- 865
- 00:49:59,205 --> 00:50:01,373
- Some girls are in the crowd, in your 20s,
- 866
- 00:50:01,457 --> 00:50:04,251
- you're, like, "Whatever, elder millennial.
- I don't care.
- 867
- 00:50:04,752 --> 00:50:08,047
- I'm 20. I'm going to be a gypsy
- and make jewelry out of cat noses.
- 868
- 00:50:08,130 --> 00:50:09,256
- Yeah. I don't care."
- 869
- 00:50:10,758 --> 00:50:13,761
- I get it. That's totally fair.
- I was like that at one point.
- 870
- 00:50:13,844 --> 00:50:17,848
- Society tells you over and over,
- they say, "How old are you?" "I'm 23."
- 871
- 00:50:17,932 --> 00:50:19,808
- "Oh, my god, you have so much time."
- 872
- 00:50:19,892 --> 00:50:20,726
- And you do.
- 873
- 00:50:20,809 --> 00:50:21,977
- But not much.
- 874
- 00:50:22,436 --> 00:50:23,395
- So...
- 875
- 00:50:25,356 --> 00:50:28,400
- It's not about deciding now,
- it's about not writing it off totally.
- 876
- 00:50:28,484 --> 00:50:30,653
- Because I never thought about it,
- God's honest truth.
- 877
- 00:50:30,736 --> 00:50:34,448
- I wasn't anti or for. I figured
- you get a boyfriend, life goes on.
- 878
- 00:50:34,532 --> 00:50:39,078
- When I was in my 20s, I loved... still do...
- stand-up, traveling, working.
- 879
- 00:50:39,161 --> 00:50:41,664
- And I figured, when you turn 30,
- the government issues you
- 880
- 00:50:41,747 --> 00:50:44,959
- a house, an okay-looking husband,
- a baby, a plant, you're done!
- 881
- 00:50:46,126 --> 00:50:47,461
- I never thought about it.
- 882
- 00:50:48,128 --> 00:50:51,006
- And it's interesting,
- because my reaction to children,
- 883
- 00:50:51,090 --> 00:50:53,092
- and I don't know how many kids I want.
- 884
- 00:50:53,175 --> 00:50:55,970
- I don't want like a Duggar situation,
- but maybe one.
- 885
- 00:50:56,595 --> 00:50:58,222
- One cool baby. I don't know.
- 886
- 00:50:58,806 --> 00:51:01,725
- I'd be in the airport in my 20s
- and I'd hear a baby cry.
- 887
- 00:51:01,809 --> 00:51:04,228
- All the women would be, like,
- "Oh, my god, it's a child."
- 888
- 00:51:04,311 --> 00:51:08,232
- I'd be, "Oh, my god, don't sit by me.
- Like, that's all. Get it away."
- 889
- 00:51:08,857 --> 00:51:11,068
- It's interesting,
- 'cause I never thought about it.
- 890
- 00:51:11,151 --> 00:51:14,780
- It changes slightly, the chemistry,
- the way you think about it.
- 891
- 00:51:14,989 --> 00:51:16,574
- I was in the airport the other day.
- 892
- 00:51:16,949 --> 00:51:18,200
- There was a baby there.
- 893
- 00:51:18,409 --> 00:51:20,286
- And the baby made a big mistake.
- 894
- 00:51:21,412 --> 00:51:22,705
- 'Cause that baby...
- 895
- 00:51:23,581 --> 00:51:25,457
- let a chubby baby leg...
- 896
- 00:51:26,333 --> 00:51:27,918
- hang from his blankie.
- 897
- 00:51:30,921 --> 00:51:31,922
- I had to squeeze it.
- 898
- 00:51:35,092 --> 00:51:38,846
- I was, like, "What is this feel..."
- I found myself moving toward the mother.
- 899
- 00:51:40,264 --> 00:51:42,975
- And I knew... intrinsically, I knew...
- 900
- 00:51:43,058 --> 00:51:44,977
- she would let me squeeze his leg.
- 901
- 00:51:46,145 --> 00:51:49,064
- Because women don't fear other women.
- 902
- 00:51:49,273 --> 00:51:53,110
- When it comes to children, not like
- the corporate ladder or dating, but...
- 903
- 00:51:53,944 --> 00:51:57,573
- she knows I'm not creepy
- and I mean that baby no harm.
- 904
- 00:51:57,656 --> 00:51:59,950
- That's something we can trade on as women.
- 905
- 00:52:00,034 --> 00:52:01,785
- Women aren't scary.
- 906
- 00:52:01,869 --> 00:52:06,832
- Late at night, if a woman's walking toward
- you, you don't cross to the other side.
- 907
- 00:52:06,915 --> 00:52:09,043
- I mean, you do if she's, like,
- "Purple hippo!"
- 908
- 00:52:12,338 --> 00:52:15,090
- When you're in an elevator
- and a woman gets on,
- 909
- 00:52:15,174 --> 00:52:17,635
- you don't clutch your purse
- and back up a little.
- 910
- 00:52:17,718 --> 00:52:20,346
- Women aren't scary
- and women aren't creepy.
- 911
- 00:52:20,429 --> 00:52:22,389
- That's an important thing to remember.
- 912
- 00:52:22,473 --> 00:52:25,893
- No matter what we get faulted for,
- and we'll get faulted for a lot,
- 913
- 00:52:25,976 --> 00:52:28,812
- things like aging,
- things you can totally control.
- 914
- 00:52:30,189 --> 00:52:33,150
- No matter how much weight you gain,
- how many wrinkles you get,
- 915
- 00:52:33,233 --> 00:52:37,446
- no matter how opinionated you are,
- no matter what you become as a woman,
- 916
- 00:52:37,696 --> 00:52:42,076
- women are welcome around public parks
- and children's birthday parties.
- 917
- 00:52:43,869 --> 00:52:48,165
- Always. I could go to
- an elementary school right now
- 918
- 00:52:48,248 --> 00:52:51,669
- in a hospital gown,
- with a raccoon on a leash...
- 919
- 00:52:53,712 --> 00:52:56,840
- and the children would be, like,
- "You have a weird dog."
- 920
- 00:53:07,017 --> 00:53:10,688
- Because of that inherent fact
- that women are not creepy.
- 921
- 00:53:11,980 --> 00:53:12,815
- Men.
- 922
- 00:53:15,401 --> 00:53:17,695
- All you've got to do
- is part your hair wrong.
- 923
- 00:53:19,947 --> 00:53:23,784
- So I get up near this baby,
- I wipe the sweat from my brow,
- 924
- 00:53:23,867 --> 00:53:26,745
- I calm myself and say to the woman,
- "Excuse me, hi.
- 925
- 00:53:30,791 --> 00:53:32,626
- I need to squeeze your baby's leg."
- 926
- 00:53:34,169 --> 00:53:37,881
- She was, like,
- "Absolutely! Get in there! Get in there!
- 927
- 00:53:37,965 --> 00:53:42,261
- His name is Charlie." She gave me his
- blood type, his social security number...
- 928
- 00:53:42,678 --> 00:53:46,348
- There's an art to squeezing a baby leg.
- You're not actually squeezing.
- 929
- 00:53:46,432 --> 00:53:48,225
- You're taking your pincher fingers,
- 930
- 00:53:48,308 --> 00:53:51,603
- and you're putting it like this,
- and lightly oscillating...
- 931
- 00:53:53,605 --> 00:53:55,983
- allowing the fat to rapidly undulate...
- 932
- 00:53:56,525 --> 00:53:59,153
- so fast it looks like a fluid motion,
- 933
- 00:53:59,236 --> 00:54:02,281
- not unlike the flapping
- of a hummingbird's wings, okay.
- 934
- 00:54:04,658 --> 00:54:06,243
- This is how I give a hand job.
- 935
- 00:54:07,995 --> 00:54:09,997
- Baby leg!
- 936
- 00:54:13,417 --> 00:54:17,588
- Any pressure you would apply to said
- leg, you divert up to your back molar,
- 937
- 00:54:17,671 --> 00:54:18,964
- and you grind it.
- 938
- 00:54:21,425 --> 00:54:24,678
- When you feel enamel starting
- to break down, that's how you know
- 939
- 00:54:24,762 --> 00:54:26,638
- you gotta get out of there, okay.
- 940
- 00:54:26,722 --> 00:54:29,641
- You know you're at maximum capacity
- for cuteness
- 941
- 00:54:29,725 --> 00:54:33,103
- when you start making
- thinly veiled threats to the child.
- 942
- 00:54:34,730 --> 00:54:35,731
- I'm going to eat that leg.
- 943
- 00:54:37,524 --> 00:54:38,734
- I'm gonna bite that nose!
- 944
- 00:54:38,817 --> 00:54:41,361
- The mom was into it!
- She was, like, "Eat his fucking leg!"
- 945
- 00:54:42,279 --> 00:54:45,449
- I'm gonna eat that leg. "Bite his fucking
- nose!" I'm gonna eat that nose!
- 946
- 00:54:46,617 --> 00:54:49,661
- Everyone's into it, except the kid
- who's being the adult. He's, like,
- 947
- 00:54:49,745 --> 00:54:50,704
- "What the fuck is this?"
- 948
- 00:54:58,170 --> 00:54:59,087
- Baby leg.
- 949
- 00:55:01,089 --> 00:55:05,803
- So... back to our original narrative.
- You're a dragon in your kitchen.
- 950
- 00:55:09,014 --> 00:55:12,559
- And those maternal, we don't have to
- restrict it to just women.
- 951
- 00:55:12,643 --> 00:55:16,647
- Paternal, parental. Those maternal urges
- start to bubble up.
- 952
- 00:55:16,730 --> 00:55:19,858
- Because they're unrealized. You did not
- verbalize last night on your date
- 953
- 00:55:19,942 --> 00:55:23,028
- that you might, one day, possibly,
- with the right person, want kids.
- 954
- 00:55:23,111 --> 00:55:26,532
- It's bubbling up, you're sitting there,
- eating your Oreos, like...
- 955
- 00:55:27,032 --> 00:55:27,866
- Baby.
- 956
- 00:55:29,827 --> 00:55:30,911
- I want a child.
- 957
- 00:55:32,329 --> 00:55:33,163
- Family.
- 958
- 00:55:33,831 --> 00:55:34,665
- Baby.
- 959
- 00:55:34,748 --> 00:55:36,583
- Who's the baby?
- 960
- 00:55:36,667 --> 00:55:41,129
- You look over and who do 100%
- of us take out our parental urges on?
- 961
- 00:55:41,213 --> 00:55:42,756
- Our pets.
- 962
- 00:55:43,674 --> 00:55:46,301
- Who's the baby?
- 963
- 00:55:49,721 --> 00:55:51,348
- Your dog is sitting there, like,
- 964
- 00:55:51,765 --> 00:55:53,433
- "Oh, fuck, it's me!"
- 965
- 00:55:56,228 --> 00:55:59,773
- And you, scoop him up,
- you don't give him a chance to run.
- 966
- 00:55:59,857 --> 00:56:02,442
- You sweep all four legs,
- Daniel-san, just...
- 967
- 00:56:03,277 --> 00:56:06,822
- And you throw him on his back!
- The dog's, like, "This is not natural!"
- 968
- 00:56:06,905 --> 00:56:09,992
- And then you start to rock it.
- Now you're a psychopath.
- 969
- 00:56:10,993 --> 00:56:14,079
- Who's the baby? And the dog's, like,
- "Please, I'm nauseous!"
- 970
- 00:56:14,162 --> 00:56:16,999
- You're an angel. Who wants kisses,
- who wants kisses?
- 971
- 00:56:17,666 --> 00:56:19,293
- The dog doesn't know they're kisses.
- 972
- 00:56:19,376 --> 00:56:23,088
- All the dog sees are your canine incisors
- coming at his face.
- 973
- 00:56:23,922 --> 00:56:27,885
- This tooth right here is what lets him
- know that you're a fucking carnivore.
- 974
- 00:56:29,219 --> 00:56:32,598
- Human beings don't get this close
- to other human beings' faces
- 975
- 00:56:32,681 --> 00:56:34,641
- unless it's like a UFC weigh-in, like,
- 976
- 00:56:34,725 --> 00:56:37,060
- "I'm gonna eat you, motherfucker!"
- That's exactly...
- 977
- 00:56:37,144 --> 00:56:39,730
- Who's the baby?
- The dog's, like, "Please put me down!"
- 978
- 00:56:39,813 --> 00:56:41,940
- Who wants belly kisses?
- 979
- 00:56:42,024 --> 00:56:43,317
- "Please don't bite my dick!"
- 980
- 00:56:46,737 --> 00:56:49,573
- It doesn't even occur to you
- that he might be terrified.
- 981
- 00:56:49,656 --> 00:56:51,575
- You're, like, "Oh, he loves his mama."
- 982
- 00:56:51,658 --> 00:56:52,826
- He loves... He loves you?
- 983
- 00:56:53,410 --> 00:56:58,624
- Next time, notice the Cirque du Soleil
- stunt your dog is willing to pull...
- 984
- 00:56:58,707 --> 00:57:01,251
- to get away from your love. He's, like,
- 985
- 00:57:01,335 --> 00:57:02,878
- "I died well!"
- 986
- 00:57:10,510 --> 00:57:12,095
- Dog looks up at you.
- 987
- 00:57:12,888 --> 00:57:14,222
- Closes his blouse.
- 988
- 00:57:16,516 --> 00:57:20,020
- Goes and hides under something
- he deems impenetrable,
- 989
- 00:57:20,103 --> 00:57:21,813
- like a kitchen chair.
- 990
- 00:57:26,318 --> 00:57:29,154
- "Yes, from behind these four legs,
- I will lead the war."
- 991
- 00:57:32,199 --> 00:57:33,742
- What's really fucked-up...
- 992
- 00:57:35,410 --> 00:57:36,828
- is that ten minutes later...
- 993
- 00:57:38,080 --> 00:57:39,498
- the dog has forgotten.
- 994
- 00:57:41,833 --> 00:57:43,877
- He's forgotten the broad strokes...
- 995
- 00:57:44,628 --> 00:57:46,380
- of the abuse. Here's what he knows.
- 996
- 00:57:47,714 --> 00:57:50,217
- He knows something bad... happened.
- 997
- 00:57:51,885 --> 00:57:55,138
- He knows...
- something bad will happen again.
- 998
- 00:57:56,848 --> 00:57:58,308
- And again, and again.
- 999
- 00:57:59,476 --> 00:58:02,104
- He also knows... that he loves you.
- 1000
- 00:58:03,230 --> 00:58:04,648
- But he's conflicted.
- 1001
- 00:58:05,732 --> 00:58:08,110
- Because he knows
- that the person he loves...
- 1002
- 00:58:08,735 --> 00:58:11,196
- is the one who's going to make
- the bad thing happen.
- 1003
- 00:58:13,824 --> 00:58:16,410
- It's like Stockholm syndrome
- meets <i>Groundhog Day.</i>
- 1004
- 00:58:19,287 --> 00:58:20,998
- Here's what's even more fucked-up.
- 1005
- 00:58:21,581 --> 00:58:22,874
- Ten minutes later...
- 1006
- 00:58:23,667 --> 00:58:25,043
- you need another hit.
- 1007
- 00:58:26,670 --> 00:58:29,047
- You're just coming down off your high,
- 1008
- 00:58:29,131 --> 00:58:32,467
- you're, like, "I gotta go to
- the grocery store. I've got a callback..."
- 1009
- 00:58:32,551 --> 00:58:34,845
- Who's the baby?
- 1010
- 00:58:35,804 --> 00:58:38,682
- This time he doesn't remember.
- He's, like, "I don't know!
- 1011
- 00:58:39,725 --> 00:58:41,810
- I don't know. Why don't I remember?"
- 1012
- 00:58:41,893 --> 00:58:44,146
- You're getting closer. Who's the baby?
- 1013
- 00:58:45,063 --> 00:58:46,148
- "I don't know."
- 1014
- 00:58:46,231 --> 00:58:50,569
- The dog's having very blurry flashbacks
- of teeth, and kisses, and belly rubs.
- 1015
- 00:58:50,652 --> 00:58:52,279
- It's like <i>Westworld </i>for dogs.
- 1016
- 00:58:54,489 --> 00:58:55,782
- Who's the baby?
- 1017
- 00:58:55,866 --> 00:58:59,578
- "I don't know! Leave me alone!"
- Who's the baby?
- 1018
- 00:58:59,661 --> 00:59:01,621
- "I don't know! I don't know who the..."
- 1019
- 00:59:01,705 --> 00:59:04,875
- He looks down at his arm
- and there's a tattoo that just says...
- 1020
- 00:59:05,000 --> 00:59:07,544
- "You're the baby."
- 1021
- 00:59:09,713 --> 00:59:10,797
- You're the baby.
- 1022
- 00:59:19,931 --> 00:59:21,183
- So, I'm getting married.
- 1023
- 00:59:22,726 --> 00:59:26,021
- One of the lovely things
- about the man that I'm marrying is that
- 1024
- 00:59:26,104 --> 00:59:29,733
- he has never asked me to change
- anything about myself.
- 1025
- 00:59:29,816 --> 00:59:31,693
- This is a very weird job.
- 1026
- 00:59:31,777 --> 00:59:33,070
- We're on a ship.
- 1027
- 00:59:33,153 --> 00:59:35,739
- I'm telling jokes.
- Those things don't go together.
- 1028
- 00:59:36,990 --> 00:59:41,161
- He's always been respectful of my job,
- he's never asked that I not go,
- 1029
- 00:59:41,244 --> 00:59:43,663
- not go to work, that I not take a gig.
- 1030
- 00:59:44,164 --> 00:59:47,167
- The only thing he's ever asked
- that I not do
- 1031
- 00:59:47,250 --> 00:59:50,087
- was a couple of weeks ago,
- we were getting ready for bed,
- 1032
- 00:59:50,170 --> 00:59:52,798
- and I came out, dressed,
- and he looked at me and went,
- 1033
- 00:59:52,881 --> 00:59:53,840
- "Babe.
- 1034
- 00:59:54,633 --> 00:59:55,467
- Love you.
- 1035
- 00:59:58,345 --> 01:00:01,431
- Can you <i>not</i> wear men's basketball shorts
- to bed?"
- 1036
- 01:00:04,893 --> 01:00:07,437
- And I was, like,
- "Interesting request. Proceed."
- 1037
- 01:00:09,731 --> 01:00:10,899
- He goes, "Uh...
- 1038
- 01:00:11,525 --> 01:00:13,235
- Love you. Think you're beautiful.
- 1039
- 01:00:15,028 --> 01:00:18,615
- It's just that...
- I'm not as attracted to you
- 1040
- 01:00:18,949 --> 01:00:21,493
- and I don't really want
- to have sex with you...
- 1041
- 01:00:21,576 --> 01:00:24,329
- when you're in men's basketball shorts."
- 1042
- 01:00:25,205 --> 01:00:26,456
- I was, like, "Oh...
- 1043
- 01:00:26,790 --> 01:00:27,999
- that's the idea!
- 1044
- 01:00:28,083 --> 01:00:29,626
- Thanks for the ring, fucker!"
- 1045
- 01:00:47,394 --> 01:00:49,729
- He's sitting in the back, like,
- "We fuck. I mean..."
- 1046
- 01:00:53,817 --> 01:00:56,319
- My dad's also here
- so that was a weird take, so...
- 1047
- 01:00:59,239 --> 01:01:03,869
- A big part of getting married
- is you have to buy a wedding dress.
- 1048
- 01:01:03,952 --> 01:01:07,747
- And this is just one more milestone
- in our lives as women
- 1049
- 01:01:07,831 --> 01:01:10,625
- where other women don't clue us in
- 1050
- 01:01:10,709 --> 01:01:13,670
- on how terrible it actually is.
- 1051
- 01:01:13,753 --> 01:01:17,924
- We say we're girls' girls and feminists,
- but none of us, like, give the truth
- 1052
- 01:01:18,008 --> 01:01:19,259
- about girl things.
- 1053
- 01:01:19,342 --> 01:01:23,305
- We act like it's sugar and spice, I keep
- my cereals in canisters like a psycho,
- 1054
- 01:01:23,388 --> 01:01:25,223
- I'm doing it, yoga. Okay.
- 1055
- 01:01:26,099 --> 01:01:28,185
- Everything, every big thing in
- a woman's life.
- 1056
- 01:01:28,268 --> 01:01:31,021
- Oh, you had your period?
- Welcome to being a woman.
- 1057
- 01:01:31,104 --> 01:01:34,399
- There's no homegirl, like,
- "You're gonna wanna rip out your ovaries,
- 1058
- 01:01:34,482 --> 01:01:36,735
- and hate your body,
- and you're gonna cry.
- 1059
- 01:01:36,818 --> 01:01:40,322
- You're gonna want a lot of chocolate.
- Probably not even go to school.
- 1060
- 01:01:40,405 --> 01:01:43,116
- Your skin's gonna break out. Welcome
- to womanhood. Get in the game."
- 1061
- 01:01:43,200 --> 01:01:44,618
- They don't say that, okay?
- 1062
- 01:01:45,911 --> 01:01:48,496
- You're having a baby?
- Oh, it's so beautiful.
- 1063
- 01:01:48,580 --> 01:01:50,248
- "Come here. You're gonna shit yourself.
- 1064
- 01:01:52,626 --> 01:01:55,962
- Then society's gonna judge you 'cause
- you didn't get your body back like that."
- 1065
- 01:01:59,424 --> 01:02:01,801
- "You're getting a wedding dress?
- Oh, it's so magical.
- 1066
- 01:02:02,469 --> 01:02:04,554
- So magical. You show up.
- 1067
- 01:02:04,971 --> 01:02:06,514
- It's so magical. You show up.
- 1068
- 01:02:06,598 --> 01:02:09,309
- Your mother is there.
- She doesn't tell you you look tired.
- 1069
- 01:02:10,936 --> 01:02:14,773
- You've lost so much weight,
- every dress just cascades off of you.
- 1070
- 01:02:14,856 --> 01:02:18,568
- A modeling coach walks by and says,
- 'She's too beautiful for the runway.'
- 1071
- 01:02:18,652 --> 01:02:21,613
- You stand there.
- Your best friends are there, and they...
- 1072
- 01:02:21,696 --> 01:02:23,323
- And none of them are jealous.
- 1073
- 01:02:23,406 --> 01:02:27,202
- And a dove brings you
- the perfect silken... and it just..."
- 1074
- 01:02:27,285 --> 01:02:30,956
- No. It's you standing there
- at a dress shop in West Hollywood
- 1075
- 01:02:31,039 --> 01:02:33,583
- with your mom on FaceTime asking you
- how FaceTime works.
- 1076
- 01:02:33,667 --> 01:02:36,127
- Just use the button!
- Ask somebody near you!
- 1077
- 01:02:36,211 --> 01:02:38,797
- There's some Russian seamstress
- at the bottom, like,
- 1078
- 01:02:38,922 --> 01:02:41,424
- "Your hips are too wide for this cut.
- You should not try it on."
- 1079
- 01:02:42,467 --> 01:02:45,637
- Then you go eat Chick-fil-A.
- Like, that's buying a wedding dress.
- 1080
- 01:02:46,638 --> 01:02:49,140
- So, I was trying on wedding dresses,
- and I figured
- 1081
- 01:02:49,224 --> 01:02:51,226
- I should go with a big princess dress,
- 1082
- 01:02:51,309 --> 01:02:55,230
- because that's the chance to wear it,
- so I put it on, and I come out...
- 1083
- 01:02:56,606 --> 01:02:59,317
- and I realize, if that's the kind of dress
- you wear,
- 1084
- 01:02:59,401 --> 01:03:03,238
- if you extrapolate your wedding dress
- from the actual day...
- 1085
- 01:03:03,863 --> 01:03:05,573
- you're dressed like a lunatic.
- 1086
- 01:03:07,492 --> 01:03:11,329
- For, like, deeply disturbing
- psychological reasons.
- 1087
- 01:03:11,413 --> 01:03:13,456
- You're, like, "I'm a pretty princess.
- 1088
- 01:03:15,458 --> 01:03:19,546
- I'm a pr... "No, you're Gaby,
- and you work in HR. You are not a pr...
- 1089
- 01:03:19,629 --> 01:03:21,840
- "No, I'm a pretty princess."
- 1090
- 01:03:21,923 --> 01:03:26,219
- And all of your maids have to agree
- with you, like, "Yes, fairest of all."
- 1091
- 01:03:27,512 --> 01:03:31,433
- "I'm a pr... I'm a ballerina princess!
- 'Cause I've got Arena shoes.
- 1092
- 01:03:31,516 --> 01:03:34,144
- 'Cause I'm Daddy's ballerina.
- I'm a pretty princess.
- 1093
- 01:03:34,227 --> 01:03:36,354
- Bring me Snow White's heart on a platter."
- 1094
- 01:03:44,487 --> 01:03:48,908
- So I'm trying all different dresses, and
- there's this weird phenomenon with women,
- 1095
- 01:03:48,992 --> 01:03:51,494
- when you try on more than three articles
- of clothing.
- 1096
- 01:03:51,578 --> 01:03:53,872
- There is no fourth. You just start crying.
- 1097
- 01:03:54,622 --> 01:03:57,667
- There's something about incandescent
- lighting hitting your fat cells
- 1098
- 01:03:57,751 --> 01:04:00,378
- that actually makes them multiply
- on the spot.
- 1099
- 01:04:00,462 --> 01:04:04,299
- You get angry. Do you ever do this move
- where you hit your fat, hoping to pop it?
- 1100
- 01:04:04,382 --> 01:04:07,510
- It doesn't. It just leaves a bruise,
- then you can't wear shorts. So...
- 1101
- 01:04:08,386 --> 01:04:12,223
- I started to get upset
- and I did the mistake that all women do.
- 1102
- 01:04:12,307 --> 01:04:15,268
- I started to get angry about something
- on my body I couldn't control.
- 1103
- 01:04:15,352 --> 01:04:16,895
- Every girl's got a thing
- 1104
- 01:04:16,978 --> 01:04:19,856
- that she hates about herself
- that's impossible to change.
- 1105
- 01:04:19,939 --> 01:04:21,941
- For me, I don't like how tall I am.
- 1106
- 01:04:22,567 --> 01:04:25,153
- That makes it sound like I'm tall.
- I wish I were taller.
- 1107
- 01:04:26,404 --> 01:04:30,700
- So tall. To you, like, "She's so tall."
- 'Cause I'm this big on your TV.
- 1108
- 01:04:30,784 --> 01:04:32,869
- But I am 5'5".
- 1109
- 01:04:32,952 --> 01:04:34,496
- And it kills me.
- 1110
- 01:04:35,330 --> 01:04:39,834
- It's not short enough that... "Do you shop
- at Gap Kids? You're so petite!"
- 1111
- 01:04:39,918 --> 01:04:40,794
- No.
- 1112
- 01:04:40,877 --> 01:04:44,798
- And it's not tall enough that
- people assume I'm a natural athlete.
- 1113
- 01:04:44,881 --> 01:04:46,508
- I'm just this average...
- 1114
- 01:04:46,591 --> 01:04:47,717
- 5'5"...
- 1115
- 01:04:47,801 --> 01:04:51,763
- member of the proletariat
- marching to pick a size 7 shoe.
- 1116
- 01:04:51,846 --> 01:04:52,764
- Like, it's just...
- 1117
- 01:04:54,766 --> 01:04:57,394
- Anytime you tell another woman what you
- don't like about yourself,
- 1118
- 01:04:57,477 --> 01:04:58,937
- they never let you say it.
- 1119
- 01:04:59,020 --> 01:05:00,772
- Oh, I'd kill to have your hair.
- 1120
- 01:05:00,855 --> 01:05:03,691
- I'd kill to have your beak,
- I love your feathers. It's like...
- 1121
- 01:05:06,653 --> 01:05:11,533
- So, I'm sitting there, getting ready
- to pick out a dress for my wedding,
- 1122
- 01:05:11,616 --> 01:05:12,617
- and I was angry.
- 1123
- 01:05:12,700 --> 01:05:15,954
- That's not an emotion you want
- to attach... to your wedding.
- 1124
- 01:05:16,037 --> 01:05:19,791
- I started to feel sad, and, for me,
- when I get upset about something,
- 1125
- 01:05:19,874 --> 01:05:22,961
- I attach it to literally everything else
- in my life.
- 1126
- 01:05:23,044 --> 01:05:24,129
- And it spirals.
- 1127
- 01:05:24,212 --> 01:05:27,424
- It's not about the dress,
- it's about how I feel about the dress,
- 1128
- 01:05:27,507 --> 01:05:31,136
- it's how I feel about me, I'll marry
- my dog, we'll live in the woods!
- 1129
- 01:05:31,219 --> 01:05:33,221
- Like, it just goes, like that.
- 1130
- 01:05:34,180 --> 01:05:37,016
- Started to get real angry about my body
- 'cause it wasn't fitting perfectly
- 1131
- 01:05:37,100 --> 01:05:38,893
- into the right dress that I wanted.
- 1132
- 01:05:38,977 --> 01:05:41,688
- I stopped and was, like,
- "If I'm feeling this way right now,
- 1133
- 01:05:41,771 --> 01:05:43,940
- there's gotta be other women
- who feel this way."
- 1134
- 01:05:44,023 --> 01:05:48,153
- So I'm going to say this 'cause I wish
- I'd given myself this pep talk that day.
- 1135
- 01:05:48,445 --> 01:05:49,279
- Here's the truth.
- 1136
- 01:05:49,362 --> 01:05:51,906
- Girls, your bodies are perfect...
- 1137
- 01:05:52,323 --> 01:05:53,158
- and normal...
- 1138
- 01:05:53,575 --> 01:05:55,952
- and functional... and beautiful.
- 1139
- 01:05:56,494 --> 01:05:59,414
- There's always one girl in back
- with a horn. "What about me?"
- 1140
- 01:05:59,497 --> 01:06:00,582
- No.
- 1141
- 01:06:01,499 --> 01:06:02,417
- Not you!
- 1142
- 01:06:03,501 --> 01:06:04,377
- Shave it.
- 1143
- 01:06:05,879 --> 01:06:06,880
- Quit following me.
- 1144
- 01:06:09,549 --> 01:06:13,720
- But we've been brainwashed into trying
- to live up to this Instagram Photoshop
- 1145
- 01:06:13,803 --> 01:06:15,388
- example of what beauty is.
- 1146
- 01:06:15,472 --> 01:06:17,724
- And some girls do look like that.
- Fuck them.
- 1147
- 01:06:17,807 --> 01:06:21,394
- No, some girls do. There's always
- something you don't like.
- 1148
- 01:06:21,478 --> 01:06:23,271
- We have to stop faulting ourselves
- 1149
- 01:06:23,354 --> 01:06:25,148
- for things that are very normal.
- 1150
- 01:06:25,231 --> 01:06:28,443
- "I've got cellulite. What if he doesn't
- want to have sex with me
- 1151
- 01:06:28,526 --> 01:06:30,153
- 'cause I have cellulite?"
- 1152
- 01:06:30,236 --> 01:06:33,656
- Well, 100% of women
- have some form of cellulite.
- 1153
- 01:06:33,740 --> 01:06:36,367
- If he doesn't want to fuck you
- 'cause you got cellulite,
- 1154
- 01:06:36,493 --> 01:06:38,411
- he'd better start fucking dudes, 'cause...
- 1155
- 01:06:40,079 --> 01:06:42,499
- there's no other option till the robots
- take over.
- 1156
- 01:06:44,250 --> 01:06:47,212
- Moreover, he doesn't want
- to have that conversation.
- 1157
- 01:06:47,629 --> 01:06:49,380
- A guy doesn't find it attractive
- 1158
- 01:06:49,464 --> 01:06:52,467
- when you verbalize over and over
- how much you hate something.
- 1159
- 01:06:52,550 --> 01:06:54,344
- "But my cellulite? I showed it to you."
- 1160
- 01:06:54,427 --> 01:06:57,430
- Look at that. I'll make a face out of it."
- He doesn't...
- 1161
- 01:06:57,514 --> 01:06:59,807
- The conversation he wants to have
- is the following.
- 1162
- 01:06:59,891 --> 01:07:00,975
- "Let me ask you a question.
- 1163
- 01:07:01,684 --> 01:07:04,812
- Are you going to continue to breathe
- during intercourse?"
- 1164
- 01:07:06,022 --> 01:07:08,274
- You're, like, "Yeah, I was planning
- on it."
- 1165
- 01:07:08,358 --> 01:07:09,859
- He's, like, "Then we're cool.
- 1166
- 01:07:12,362 --> 01:07:13,780
- That holds up in court...
- 1167
- 01:07:16,241 --> 01:07:17,158
- I found out."
- 1168
- 01:07:18,826 --> 01:07:21,454
- But I've got this, and chub,
- and I don't like my arms.
- 1169
- 01:07:21,538 --> 01:07:24,624
- And I have stretch marks,
- from growing from an infant!
- 1170
- 01:07:27,001 --> 01:07:31,130
- And I don't want to be this hand-holding,
- like, "Every woman is perfect."
- 1171
- 01:07:31,214 --> 01:07:34,050
- Look, you might not be perfect, okay.
- 1172
- 01:07:34,133 --> 01:07:36,928
- I'm not here to judge that,
- if you're not, if you are.
- 1173
- 01:07:37,011 --> 01:07:40,557
- What I say is it's up to you to decide
- how much you love your body.
- 1174
- 01:07:40,640 --> 01:07:43,685
- Fuck everybody else. Don't fuck them...
- Not literally. But...
- 1175
- 01:07:44,394 --> 01:07:46,563
- if it makes you feel good!
- It probably won't.
- 1176
- 01:07:47,814 --> 01:07:51,317
- It's up for you to decide, because
- we get so upset, and you know what?
- 1177
- 01:07:51,901 --> 01:07:55,405
- The guy you like probably isn't even
- going to notice the thing you hate.
- 1178
- 01:07:55,488 --> 01:07:56,781
- Most people won't.
- 1179
- 01:07:56,864 --> 01:07:57,740
- Men won't.
- 1180
- 01:07:57,824 --> 01:08:01,953
- Most of the things, a guy is not going
- to notice. They're not that observant.
- 1181
- 01:08:03,496 --> 01:08:05,790
- 40% of men
- can only see three colors.
- 1182
- 01:08:08,793 --> 01:08:11,546
- 40% of the men here
- don't know that that's red.
- 1183
- 01:08:13,339 --> 01:08:14,966
- Notice it's a hollow laugh.
- 1184
- 01:08:16,718 --> 01:08:19,178
- 40% of the men are, like,
- "Hah! Oh, fuck.
- 1185
- 01:08:23,099 --> 01:08:24,517
- Siri, what is red?"
- 1186
- 01:08:28,104 --> 01:08:32,483
- And, again, you might have a perfect body.
- You might not have a great body.
- 1187
- 01:08:32,567 --> 01:08:34,736
- I don't know what you got
- under that tarp.
- 1188
- 01:08:34,819 --> 01:08:38,990
- You could have... blown out the whole
- region with a bad wax strip, I don't know.
- 1189
- 01:08:40,116 --> 01:08:43,161
- But I do know is this.
- Whatever you have as a woman,
- 1190
- 01:08:43,244 --> 01:08:45,455
- whatever your body looks like, girls.
- 1191
- 01:08:45,830 --> 01:08:47,665
- However bad you think it is
- 1192
- 01:08:47,749 --> 01:08:50,710
- pales in comparison to the look
- 1193
- 01:08:50,793 --> 01:08:53,630
- of 100% of...
- 1194
- 01:08:54,339 --> 01:08:55,256
- scrotums!
- 1195
- 01:08:56,716 --> 01:08:57,842
- What is that?
- 1196
- 01:08:58,593 --> 01:09:00,386
- What the fuck is that?
- 1197
- 01:09:02,639 --> 01:09:05,975
- Why is this not the topic
- of every State of the Union address?
- 1198
- 01:09:06,726 --> 01:09:09,937
- Why is this... how come...
- my thighs can't touch,
- 1199
- 01:09:10,021 --> 01:09:14,150
- but you have two dead baby birds,
- hanging.
- 1200
- 01:09:16,277 --> 01:09:18,321
- Sir, bat-like. Hanging.
- 1201
- 01:09:19,614 --> 01:09:23,076
- Sometimes so low,
- they're in the toilet water.
- 1202
- 01:09:24,202 --> 01:09:25,078
- Hanging.
- 1203
- 01:09:27,038 --> 01:09:30,958
- Every guy here is laughing, smiling,
- or not making eye contact with me.
- 1204
- 01:09:33,378 --> 01:09:37,256
- Because it's never occurred to men
- to question their bodies.
- 1205
- 01:09:37,340 --> 01:09:40,968
- Every guy is, like, "Why wouldn't you want
- this on your face for free?"
- 1206
- 01:09:43,262 --> 01:09:45,848
- If we are to move forward as women,
- as feminists,
- 1207
- 01:09:45,932 --> 01:09:51,020
- we need to decide we won't be shamed
- for what our bodies look naturally either.
- 1208
- 01:09:51,104 --> 01:09:54,732
- And just so you know, gentlemen.
- It's something that we tolerate.
- 1209
- 01:09:54,816 --> 01:09:57,318
- But it's not something
- that we fantasize about.
- 1210
- 01:09:58,319 --> 01:10:01,322
- It's just the way it is,
- so we never really question it.
- 1211
- 01:10:01,406 --> 01:10:04,784
- But no woman growing up was, like,
- "This is my Backstreet Boys poster.
- 1212
- 01:10:04,867 --> 01:10:05,827
- This is NSYNC.
- 1213
- 01:10:05,910 --> 01:10:08,079
- And this is a nut sack!" Like, none of us!
- 1214
- 01:10:11,249 --> 01:10:14,377
- It's hideous and, I'll tell you something
- else, it's a little traumatizing.
- 1215
- 01:10:15,211 --> 01:10:17,130
- 'Cause we put effort into the way we look.
- 1216
- 01:10:17,213 --> 01:10:19,799
- And we're sitting in bed,
- waiting for you to come out,
- 1217
- 01:10:19,882 --> 01:10:23,052
- just like you have every night,
- and you come out the bathroom naked.
- 1218
- 01:10:23,136 --> 01:10:26,389
- You look at us, and we look at you,
- like, "Oh, god, there it is."
- 1219
- 01:10:27,682 --> 01:10:30,518
- Who's the baby?
- 1220
- 01:10:30,977 --> 01:10:34,772
- Thank you so much for coming out tonight
- to have a good time. Thank you.
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