- "i carefully explain to the other side what the problem is, and then let them own up or fuck off. i'm easy either way." the fact that you wrote this whole letter attacking me and my community proves otherwise. i tried to fuck off but now i have to defend myself and correct your, at best, mistakes, at worst, lies
- you said i stood by "the most verbally abusive message you've ever received", but i specifically said that i stood by the last part of that dm, which was actually quite nice and genuine (get help, let things go, learn that you can't control everyone) and i continue to stand by it
- you say you had to disarm my hostility at the beginning of that conversation, but as you openly admit, you opened the conversation saying "are you willing to talk or am i cancelled?" i see that as a thinly veiled attempt to buy pity from me, either that or it was hostility in the form of accusing me of cancelling you. either way it set a tone for the conversation i wasn't going to leave unaddressed
- not sure why you expected me to reach out to you knowing you had patched things up, i was never involved beyond banning you from the discord and i didn't plan on changing that decision
- i advised them not to make up with you because it was clear they didn't want to and your constant refusal to accept it was wearing heavily on them mentally. if you think i was lying to manipulate them into hating you or whatever then i won't change your mind but that isn't what i was doing
- the trusted channel replaced the mods channel when i demodded everyone from my stream and server. i still wanted my close friends' input on how to run the server, i just thought modding people creates an unnecessary power hierarchy. we didn't use it for gossip and your name didn't come up in there until after i made the decision to ban you (this was after you left of your own volition)
- "so the negative undercurrents are ignored and scatter never spoken to, because people want to preserve their friendships." not sure why you assume this isn't the case, but i have been spoken to about my behavior by friends before, a handful of times. in each case, the situation resolved itself nicely. i realize this could be spun as a lose-lose situation for me ("they're stuck dealing with scatter's hostility because they don't want to ruin their friendships!" vs "scatter is so hostile they have to talk to them about it all the time!"). view it however you want, i don't care. just don't assume things that aren't true
- i didn't ban you because you were new, or because i liked you less, or because you're not as good of a friend to me as the other person. all of those things are true, but if i really believed your conflict would resolve and you two would go back to being friends as if nothing happened, i wouldn't have seen it as necessary. but based on my conversations with them, i believed, and continue to believe, that they were basically resolving it as a favor to you, and had zero interest in continuing to be your friend or restoring whatever was lost. if you hadn't been writing the essay, or threatened to post all their wrongdoings publicly, or insisted that you have a conversation to work it out, if in fact you were "easy" like you claim to be, it would have been left there
- "scatter questioned why P's and my mutual friend was trying to help us resolve our conflict, saying his selflessness was being abused and we should keep him out of it, not realising both P and i would do exactly the same thing if it fell to us" that isn't relevant in the slightest. what you would do in the situation doesn't matter, you aren't the other person. from knowing the other person for years i know that, like i said, they're selfless to a fault and will run themselves ragged, mentally, if they think there's a chance their presence can solve a conflict. maybe you could do it without stressing yourself out, but again, not relevant
- i just find it really funny that you cite me telling off some random guy who clips women standing up to jerk off to the clips he makes as an example of my overwhelming hostility that needs to be stopped