boner poison 2018-4-22 05:54PM
 dropped Jess and it's important you know why. please read:
content warning: frequent mentions of a thread involving sexual assault, skeevy behavior, a long long story
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boner poison 27 minutes ago Comments disabled because there is a lot to get through. Feel free to talk to me about it in another RP-related or a private plurk. I am C/P'ing from a document written out beforehand over the last hour or so.

boner poison 23 minutes ago - ~january: Jess arrives, kills Kilgrave, puts up network post to warn everyone to avoid him. this develops into an unintentional player plot in which Jess much figure out a way to contain Kilgrave or compel him not to abuse his powers. Supergirl becomes involved as one of his mind-controlled minions. her player and the players of all other involved charact

boner poison 22 minutes ago ers are in regular contact on plurk for plotting, both in public plotting plurks and private group plurks, with every significant move and manipulation by Kilgrave discussed prior and added to a WIP OOC plotting post to keep things straight. I am especially proactive about communication and appearing approachable due to the possible subject matter.

boner poison 21 minutes ago - feb4 ~11am: I consult SP over plurk about initiating an inbox thread in which Jess asks if Kara has been sexually assaulted, due to the sensitive nature of the material, to which she acquiesces and the thread occurs and is concluded that same morning.
- feb4 ~8pm: Unbeknownst to me, Kilgrave sexually assaults Supergirl.

boner poison 19 minutes ago - feb 12: the plotting post goes up after everyone's approved it. The biggest hurdle in it is separating Supergirl from Kilgrave due to her immense power. After that it's just about shutting him up and scaring him straight. Though there are several options, plotting it out with KP degenerates into working things out with a

boner poison 18 minutes ago negotiation which I wasn't happy with (as all options were received as equally possible when initially proposed, only to have objection after objection raised when it came to crunch time), but would have been much more reluctant to accept if I knew about the assault and that a negotiation would essentially make her look like a fool, like KP and SP are

boner poison 17 minutes ago making me out to be at this time. Becaaaause
- feb17 evening: Frank player (FP henceforth) mentions the assault in convo on Discord, to which I go what the hell, and FP goes what the hell because she was given the impression by the Supergirl player (SP henceforth) that I DID.

boner poison 17 minutes ago By this time I was having a hard time with the player plot as only the damaging portions had been plotted but not the resolution, and two other characters had dropped out — one of which, I learned, was also due to the rape and the impression THAT player had that I was aware of it.

boner poison 17 minutes ago I’m outspoken about my struggles on plurk in order to beget patience and understanding, not necessarily sympathy. In the meantime, however, SP was plotting out the H/C and assault fallout with FP for several days, despite never asking FP if she would be interested in that kind of CR, and again, actively cultivating

boner poison 16 minutes ago the misconception that I was aware and condoning of the assault.
- feb18 : I speak to KP who also had this impression. I speak to SP who apologizes for not informing me, claiming Jess and Supergirl’s CR was not significant enough to warrant it and that it was not related to the plot

boner poison 16 minutes ago — despite occurring because Supergirl was mind controlled (the core concept around which the plot revolved), Jess asking her earlier that same day if she had been sexually assaulted, and the majority of their threads clearly indicating Jess’s concern for her and feelings of guilt and responsibility regarding her predicament.

boner poison 16 minutes ago We establish that the rest of Supergirl’s involvement in the player plot, as far as interacting with Jess goes, will be hand waved and that we need a CR break. During this conversation I offer to SP to either retcon the assault entirely or clearly post-date it to after the player plot conclusion, neither of which is explicitly rejected nor accepted.

boner poison 15 minutes ago The whole conversation is strained but respectful and resolves to the satisfaction of us both. Nothing I thought I would have to cap. A private plurk involving everyone in the plot is made to correct any lingering misconceptions. FP drops their CR with SP, as do I

boner poison 15 minutes ago for the time being, but SP is aware that I am open to interaction between them down the line (not related to the assault or the player plot). By the way, losing Supergirl and Jess’s CR does not bother SP much but she is overtly bothered to lose CR with Frank. (unsure)

boner poison 15 minutes ago - feb 18 evening: I still feel really uncomfortable, unsure who has been told what outside of the private plurk. For my own peace of mind, I put up a brief plurk with a clear content warning, and make a brief blanket statement about the incident — in which I named the characters. This caused SP to contact me on Discord, upset that I had,

boner poison 14 minutes ago and I realized she was justified, no matter how I feel about SP or how little I trust her. The plurk consisted of 3 comments, the first of which contained the names, so I deleted them all, edited the names out, recommented, and posted a fourth comment stating that I had done just that, in the interest of transparency.

boner poison 14 minutes ago Between the plurk going up and the edit, it was a max of 30 minutes on a slow night. I go to Discord to tell SP only to be unable to find her in my friends list: She blocked me in the interim. Attempting to PP her on plurk shows me the same thing on that platform. I shrug it off, deciding I don’t owe her any peace of mind after all of this.

boner poison 14 minutes ago This is where I made my biggest mistake, aside from not knowing how Discord chat archiving works and not saving the conversation, in not going directly to the mods as soon as I found out. But stick around and you’ll discover why my deep-seated fears of being brushed aside as inconvenient are realized.

boner poison 13 minutes ago - march: I’m looking to relax, focus on prison stuff. This isn’t related to everything else but is related to my fatigue in this game: Her post about the prison turns into yet another Q&A about Kilgrave, the majority of the characters perceive the prison to belong to Frank Castle when he merely MENTIONS it in his only network post, a character attempts to

boner poison 13 minutes ago god mode the prison into a crater, I speak to that player (who refuses to speak to me alone, placing me in a PP with FP, which is fine, but then she continues to talk over me and only address FP? and ignoring both our offers to merely have the character talk to Jess to straighten out the understandable IC confusion, even when I offer to hand wave it

boner poison 13 minutes ago — and then the player agreeing to go that route, only to continue addressing Frank/FP and ignoring Jess and me) which results in a resolution of “let’s just go our separate ways”, only to then get a PM from the mods about the prison with that player’s exact concerns,

boner poison 13 minutes ago indicating that because she didn’t get what she wanted from me (control of my building and construction plot) she attempted to have the mods wrest it from me instead. So, not really relaxing, but back to the main event.

boner poison 12 minutes ago - april: Still getting by though because I love the setting and the CR I do have! Until it is revealed to me that there has been an attempt on Wankgate to smear me as a player for Jess not preventing the assault, despite SP’s repeated claims that she didn’t tell anyone except the players I now knew about (not that I believed that, hence the plurk)

boner poison 12 minutes ago and her acknowledgment of my terms for keeping the assault canon: Clearly indicate my lack of awareness, involvement and opportunity for involvement OOCly. The WG thread backfires on Supergirl and Kilgrave fairly spectacularly but that it was created in the first place indicates that one of the two truths in the last sentence can’t be so.

boner poison 12 minutes ago I considered the February incident handled: SP and I stayed in our respective IC and OOC lanes, KP and I maintained a functional, colleague-like relationship while I established I required both distance from the player

boner poison 11 minutes ago and character and KP accepted. But as it now reared its ugly head again, targeted at me for some reason (not throwing FP under the bus but to illustrate: Both were equally involved in the player plot and equally “responsible” for protecting Supergirl but Frank is never mentioned once), I decided it merited telling the mods.

boner poison 11 minutes ago They said it was troubling that I wasn’t informed and that they were “sorting it out” with the players. I expected them to want more information from me or to provide me with an update on the resolution since the situation was a stressful one (which I stated). After a week of silence, I PM them for an update, and I’ll break down the rest as quickly as

boner poison 11 minutes ago possible because you can read the full pastebins if you want: Mods talked to the players who stated it was an accident, mods accepted their good intentions and told them not to do it again, and there will be a mod post to remind players to communicate.

boner poison 10 minutes ago (This is a week after they were made aware of the incident and as of my leaving, more than another week after that, there has been no post. Who knows maybe today's the day, don't tell me, I don't care.)

boner poison 10 minutes ago I give them my side of the story, indicating that information was selectively kept from me, not unanimously withheld from the game entirely, while getting loaded onto FP in the prospect of beneficial CR. I track down every cap and conversation I can still view, reiterating several times that KP has me blocked on all platforms

boner poison 10 minutes ago and direct conversations are irretrievable, but among the provided links and caps is evidence of SP outright lying to FP about the state of Jess and Supergirl’s CR (as she had tried to do to me) to justify not informing me of the assault.

boner poison 9 minutes ago I explain that either she or KP must have instigated the WG thread indirectly by not upholding the terms of the retcon agreement they were both present for and aware of. I explain it is manipulative to selectively dispense information for one’s own benefit. This all falls on deaf ears and the mods can’t decide from one PM to the next what they’re looking for

boner poison 9 minutes ago or what they’re looking at and in the end I can’t get them to seriously care about anything, though they confirm that if it were to happen a second time, the players would be banned. So whoever this happens to next, congrats and you’re welcome! God knows I tried!

boner poison 9 minutes ago I don’t have anything to hide so if you want to read through all of that, here are the pastebins in order. All I ask is a small measure of forgiveness for my occasional lack of decorum and spike of paranoia while I dangle at my wit’s end.

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boner poison 9 minutes ago There were a couple more messages but it was clear they had no interest in any meaningful enforcement of their own rule. In fact in the last one they told me they were tired of dealing with this. Yeah, I was tired in March.

boner poison 9 minutes ago Even if they did apply a strike or a ban to one or both players (and I think both players deserve it, don’t get me wrong: keep reading for more on that) I would still be dropping for how inconsistent they are as mods. I know for a fact Saga was banned from reapplying to the game due to

boner poison 8 minutes ago tasteless jokes about sexual assault and pushy behaviour, yet this incurs nothing I hadn’t already done myself to reputation-damaging results. I only wish I knew who they were so I could avoid being in any games with them as players or, god forbid, games they should mod in the future.

boner poison 8 minutes ago For the record I do not absolve KP of her involvement in my ignorance but she is a manipulator of a different sort: Because she knows I will say no to anything I don’t want to do and put my foot down when something is OOCly distasteful, she minimizes OOC interaction with me and, when she doesn’t, she acts differently around me than she does

boner poison 8 minutes ago someone she perceives to be more malleable or permissive. So I have no evidence on her or even claims of skeevy behaviour outside of everything wrapped up in Supergirl and SP’s more deliberately misleading strokes. I’ve made it clear to her that she is no friend of mine, and no longer being caged in a cast or game with her, we mutually defended yesterday.

boner poison 8 minutes ago *defriended, god damn it autocorrect

boner poison 8 minutes ago Because I did not have the motivation to engage the game on any level for the past few weeks, the intended vaccination plot never materialized. Anyone interested in IC immunity I encourage you to handwave getting that from Micro or reinitializing the plot yourself based on the leftovers lying around

boner poison 7 minutes ago — but my actual advice is to simply not engage with KP or SP on any level. For your health.
And now you know. The rest. Of the story.